Scorpio looking for an affair!

Ignore him completely!

What a bastard. If he's so unhappy that he's considered cheating, he should get a divorce. That's horribly unfair on his wife...And this is EXACTLY the reason I am in no hurry to get into another relationship. People can't keep their friggin pants on these days, it's like the word "monogamous" is a pretty little word that doesn't actually bear any meaning. *shakes head*

Personally, i'd probably -bluntly- tell him exactly how much of a lowlife i thought he was and the many reasons why he should be ashamed of himself.

Then again, I can be pretty harsh when someone pisses me off lol 🙂 The could shoulder tactic usually works pretty well with virgo's, coz you can pretty much guarantee he'll analyze it to death.

*cold

"What more can I do to back him off?"



Don't respond.

Eventhough your responses to him take a tone to suggest either a casual friendship, or ones defying his advances ... they are STILL responses, which indicates to him that you aren't offended by his game, nor do you want him to stop .. because if you were/did, then you would blow him off completely. He knows he has piqued your interest, even if it's in the form of a defense.

He plays ..... you respond .. the game is on.

You want it off?

Then don't play, at all.

People absolutely amaze me .. it's always the other person who has forced you to be foolish, or participate in something.


To hold your head high and walk away has always been your choice. A person cannot be an ass to you if you are no longer standing there.



Him, and however he is treating his woman is irrelevant .... that is only your business if you make it your business by reacting to him accordingly

Lol irish ~ your "threaten to call the wife" comment!!

Yeah I read that thread of yours, but I didn't reply as I felt my response would probably be biased haha. I am loving being single, i'm very giving in a relationship and i am absolutely lapping up being a little selfish for a change! I get to spend my time and money as i please, I don't have to consider anyone else before doing anything, or feel like i've gotta share a certain amount of my spare time...I really can do whatever I want, whenever I want - The list goes on! I love it hehe 🙂 Although I think I am grinding my teeth in my sleep haha, it's been 3 months *insert embarassed smiley here*

PA, she only just found out that he was married...As i'm sure you've noticed from her recent threads on the virgo board 😐 I'd feel ripped off if it was me too! Although on the positive, atleast she found out now, before anything physical actually happened between them.

No, I didn't see that ... I only read the Opening Post on the Virgo board and it was referencing a Virgo man at work that she might be into .. whereas this thread is talking about a Scorpio man.

How many men are there at work that have gotten her attention?

Fucking where you work is always a mistake.

Holy crap, I just assumed it was the same guy...Now i'm confused lol! I thought those comments were a bit odd on his behalf. Look who's a bit of a duh-brain tonight haha :p *points to self*

In any event ... it's always been about choice, and it always will be.


It's irrelevant as to WHEN she found out he's a cad .. what is relevant is that she's still relating, in any form, once she found out that he will betray.

What's a cad?
Cadaver junkie lol?

Echoes of Latina are shining through here .... there appears to be no comprehension that to carry-on with this man, and keep him on a back burner by remaining polite to him, is essentially participating in his game. And to further it by making the suggestion that marriage proposals might be in the works with people who offer attention.

This oblivion to game playing, while perpetuating the attention with a backwards suggestion of not liking it (though encouraging it) has Latina written all over it.

"is a Scorpio guy and he works in a different department but same building so we only get to see each other coming in or leaving work."


So, you only see each other for a few minutes each day .. he somehow got your email address though, and the only contact other than a few minutes each day is by mail, so there's no REAL emotional involvement that has been invested ...

yet ...


"This guy has now messed up my trust issues with other men"



If you're not Latina .. then I'm Jesus Christ.

Cannemma, she is suspecting you of being a former user that posted here by the name of latinaindia.

PAngel, I have many men who would ask me out if I accepted today but I'm not that cheap to date just about ANYTHING that walks!🙂

I'm very picky and I want to be with a really 'good' guy and not some checking-me-out-virgo-coworker or a cheap-cheating-bas***d!! For all I care such men (and women) can go to hell! I'm not interested one bit!

The reason I wrote this post is to not actually get answers coz I know what to do with this jerk, but at the same time to share and tell people that some men indeed ABUSE the trust given them by their wives and that's exactly what he's doing! And for you kind information I don't need a married-jerk as a "BACK BURNER"! I can have plenty of single men for that purpose If I was that type, sweet!

Ok, PAngel, You are Jesus Christ then, I admit!!😉

By trust issues with other men, I meant I thought of being in his wife's shoes and not knowing what my hubby is doing at work is very hurting! I would hate my bf or hubby or whateva, going behind my back doing all this and I won't even have a clue!!

I don't want that for any other female let alone for myself! 😢

We don't have any proof of that yet aqua lol, and I say give her a chance before we all go accusing...Considering as the first time I posted here, caprigirlwithvirgo accused me of being an older male that was pretending to be someone else lol!! I just remember thinking she was a bit crazy haha (because obviously, I was wrongfully accused).

There's no way you are male, oddball 😉 .. Men don't express like females do.

Psychologically speaking ... these two women have the exact same characteristics as it pertains to regarding men, coupled with regarding the role the self plays while interacting with these said men. Then add to the mix ... attentions seeking, denials, game-playing, self-exaltation .. it all adds up.

Coincidence?

You're right, there is no way i'm male haha...And I did post my myspace link in that thread on here a few weeks ago. If anyone wasn't convinced by that, they never will be unless they meet me in the flesh lol!

Yes I can see your similarities, but I "get" this chic alot more than I understood LI...Then again, she has been pretty quiet since we made it clear what you were getting at. I dunno, you've been here alot longer than me so you would know LI alot better. But I still think this chic "speaks a different language" to what LI did. If it is her, she's pretty clever.

Yeah I hear ya aqua, and I refrained from responding to that thread coz it was not only too long to read, but when I read her initial post I just thought "you slut" haha! And that's not a constructive thing to say...So I kept it to myself.

...Atleast until now, lol

Scorpio women are sluts, Virgo women are sluts, Pisces women are sluts, Aries women are sluts, Cancer women are sluts, Gemini women are sluts ..... aaaawwwweeee, we're all sluts 😕

"she has been pretty quiet since we made it clear what you were getting at."


Isn't that odd ...... wouldn't it seem normal for a person to defend theirselves against such an accusation, if it were false?

I don't need to defend myself, PAngel coz whatever you guys say doesn't make me that Latina crap now, does it? I don't give a rat's $ $ $ about what you guys are thinking I am!😉

I don't want to insult Scorpios here coz I am one, but I can't stand cheating men, no matter what sign they are born under! And the same goes for women! I abhor slutty women and they can be any sign!

I think in life things aren't smooth all the time and hence I had these weird men play bizzare roles on the stage of life...How the heck am I supposed to know that a virgo guy would check me out at work or a married scorp guy would try his luck cheating his wife with me?!! Plus it isn't my fault if all these things happened at the same time even though I didn't invite any of it!

Me personally have just come out of a 2 year old relationship with a Taurus guy (5 months since we broke up) and am quiet happy with my singleness at present! I don't think I was inviting trash into my life after all that🙂

Now u go ahead and think whateva u like about me...It won't change a thing about who I really am, would it?!! 😉

😢

if you return or send him one more email, you want him. fact.
come on scorpio don't lie to yourself, we know what we're doing.

Tell him to leave you alone and if he keeps doing it report him for harrassing you.

garrr to many responses to read. if i was you i would talk to your human resources office where you work. they will take care of it.

The problem is that there is a backwards encouragement on her part to allow him to continue ... she has maintained that she will won't be rude to him, and will remain polite.

In so doing ... this encourages him to continue because she has no desire to be forceful in stopping it.

If someone assaults you, or offends you, or abuses you in any way .. and you just smile politely and say you don't want to be rude .. then in essence, you are asking for it to continue because you lacked any conviction to make a stand ... or, perhaps, you enjoy the attention and this is why you want it to continue.

If you go to HR, then you've screwed yourself .. because this man can just present all the emails she shot back to him everytime he made any questionable comments to her .. which is an indicator that she was encouraging him by means of NOT putting a foot down to stop it.

People aren't that dumb (except a few in here, won't mention any names) ... her game would be visible to HR. So, it's doubtful that she would turn him in, for if she did ...

.. he might have to stop, and she doesn't want that, for if she did, then she would have stopped it already.



Dah ......

If you go read her story on the Virgo board, she mentions several times (as well as in here) that Virgo man is not for her ... yet, she continues to contact him via email to get him to keep responding to her.

If a person isn't really interested in another, but, continues to goad them into responding to you .... then what you seek is attentions of this other person.



***** wonders how many other men at work she is playing attention games with, while verbally saying in here she isn't really interested, nor even likes the guy ******