Busted. Now how to deal?

Hi All. New user here, Been looking around at some posts for a while. Noticed some good feedback people give back. Had a question and hope someone can give some advice? How does one handle a scorpio man if he got caught in a lie (not big but still a lie) tried to approach him in a diplomatic way but didn't really matter...His reaction wasn't too pleasing. How would i go about this situation?

Don't lie. Problem solved.

That goes for both parties scorpio_chic, wasn't singling her out in the lie itself. I can read. 🙂

But it doesn't have too Scorpius. It may just be me, what I do, but I don't lie. Start one, must start another to cover the first. Keep track of all the espionage and BS you've put out there. It's simply not worth it.

sometimes we do not tell the whole truth, because it is NO ONE's business to know EVERY damn thing about us!


He probably has had a bad experience in the past when he told the truth about is 'bottom dwelling' situation. He probably thought, if a person is to care for his BELONGINGS, then best he doesn't care at all.

He probably wanted to see how things would work out, *IF* he was in a fabulously attractive situation, such as having a great job, great life, whatever...

SO he got busted in his little lie. I am sure he feels already miserable for being in a miserable situation. If you are going to make it more miserable for him, that won't help your relationship. Besides... this doesn't prove that he is lying about EVERYTHING.


What to do?

Try being sympathetic, but courageous. That will break his shell. Don't run away from being confronted with his DEFENSIVE behaviour.

First, I give a Blitz Krieg question (ask directly like a lightning attack). *What happened that made you do or say this?*

First he will get defensive, but you will also have caught him in a weak moment, when he wasn't expecting.

Then Start with YOURSELF. For example... say... you know... that's what happened to me in the past, and I responded like You...

Show your vulnerability first.

If might get defensive again, but a bit less guarded because you told him your pet peeve.

If he says, he doesn't want to talk about it, then drop it for a while.

Then again confront him... as if you are not convinced believing him. But you care for him regardless... you will be there for him, no matter what.

When he decides to open up to you, DO NOT react to or judge his story. Stay silent. He doesn't need your opinion unless he asks, then you can be diplomatic about it. And don't start acting strange after you find out about the truth. Continue being consistent with SCORPIO man. You don't want his insecurity to kick in.


Come ON people!! Don't act as if you have never lied yourself... or DXP God may turn this place into *The Saints Discussion Board*... 😛

sorry i didn't edit my text. hope you don't mind filling the gaps... 😢

NO...

am talking in general.

There are those who we feel will never get close enough to us... no matter how hard they try.

I'm sorry, Tasha, ... as much as Scorp man may want to like you... you seriously are not ready to take a journey to the core of a Scorpio. Maybe that is why we appear *mean* to you.

Try using your heart instead of being self-protective all the time...

if you get there... try again with same scorpio man. A task that may require being humble...

hugs.

My point:

Be HONEST with YOURSELF first! No matter how hard it may be....

ha hahahaaa... You DONE with ME—

lol...

bit of funny a statement, don't you think?


You need to grow up, Tasha! Your Scorp might be wrong, but your understanding is no where close to understanding a scorpio.

your best choice would be some other sign... perhaps start with Cancer! ... lol

ok.. I admit.. you seem to bring out the evil in scorpio, honey... me for sure...

just relax, OK?... start with step one. You are very likeable... and if your scorp guy is an ass.. then forget about him.. there are so many of us, who will be happy to date a cancer. I was married to one for 15 years. Touhh road I tell ya... he was a bit of a devil's advocate... and sometimes shooting on his own foot!

Hope I never have to deal with a cancer man again.

Posted by * Tasha *
"Try using your heart instead of being self-protective all the time..."

-- you're an idiot. honestly.

Tasha...

let me tell you this kindly


YOU are the idiot here!!

good bye, moron!

Posted by * Tasha *
and i honestly do think u are missing my point

i can't see how u can try and tell me about 3 men that u have never met...ha? one of which i personally dated. as i stated before, i was speaking on these particular evil individuals because this is how they acted first hand.

and yes, sadly they did take pride in knowing they hurt others. if my Scorp ever wants to give me a real apology, and mean it, i am happy to accept it. my phone is always on. but he hasn't, so i've moved on, and he can keep smiling knowing that he did me wrong if that's what makes him feel better about himself.

Tasha, she didnt miss your point, but it is hard sometimes to understand Scorps. I didnt understand Scorps for a long time and they are well known for being the most misunderstood sign in the zodiac. They dont take pride in hurting others, but they refuse to lose and if someone gets hurt in the process then oh well. It sounds like you really liked your Scorp, but the worst of them will never apologize they way you want IF they apologize at all. Its one of those things where you will never rule them by trying to be forceful or demanding even if they are in the wrong. If you want to walk out the door, they will let you go, no matter how badly they want you to stay.

I find that Cancers can be very demanding also when they are hurt and they try to manipulate people with their emotions. But the good thing about Scorps and Cancers relationships, is Cancer can be that soft place for the Scorps to come to. Im a Virgo and I love Cancers because they love like no other. Scorps present a certain image to the world, but they need someone who they can trust enought to be open with. Someone who is not judgemental towards them when they do wrong. The feelings they have run deep, but they dont trust 99.9% of the world to show them. If you can be that person you will be privileged to a part of them that no when ever sees.

But it takes a strong one, to go that path and journey to the unknown. A woman who is constantly looking for acknowlegement for this or that with this man wont make it. A woman who is secure enough to weather a Scorp man will have earned herself a protector, a provider, and a lover for life.

And I am sure you will correct me if I am wrong, but what I think happened to you is you told your friends what he did. And you guys had a big chic discus

discussion about it. If you did then you are now going to forsake this relationship because other people know. You want to come out on top smelling like roses. But really you want this guy back. If you didnt you wouldnt be on these boards looking for answers, you cover by chopping people up who offend you instead, but its because you are hurt. And because you dont like the advice Fum gave to you. And please dont misintepret anything I say by thinking Im saying be a doormat to this man. Im saying that you can get what you want with this guy, it just depends on how you go about it. And he will change not because you demand it, but because you are strong enough to confront him, but yet kind and understanding. It's a very slow process, and you cant fight it because you will not win.

When you stop being upset just call the man and see how he is doing. You know you want to. 🙂 Dont bring up that he owes you an apology!