Cancer gurl infatuated with two Scorprio men....

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flirtycancer
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I need advise about my polar opposite scorpio men. Scorp #1- We met through our best friends who just got married. In the beginning, we talked on the phone and exchanged text msgs and we lost contact. We see each other a few months later and the spark is still in the air. He chased me for awhile and then we eventually hung out together. The first night we ended up having sex (it was the shyt!!) and he chased even more. He would call/ text every chance he got and this cancer gurl loved every second of it. Within a month he stop calling/ texting as frequently and I began to pick up the slack. Eventually, I asked what he wanted with me and he said that he wasn't sure what he wanted but didn't want to hurt me. Fast forward, the situation was getting old. As a cancer, I have tons of patience but if you're not trying to fit me into your life, I gotta step away. Well, during the wedding weekend of our best friends(we hadn't seen each other in about a month and some change); he sent text msgs saying it was nice seeing me and some other b.s. to pull me back in. At the wedding reception i was a little tipsy and kinda flirting with another groomsman (not obvious)and having a good ol' time (my scorp wasnt paying me any attention). At the end of the night, he pulled me aside a said that i was being disrespectful to him by flirting with the other guy (I had no idea he was paying attention). I secretly loved it but had I let him know that he cannot claim me b/c we're not together. He seemed fustrated but who knows.....we were both a little drunk at that point. We argued and discussed the situation (drunk talk and I hardly remember)and had the best make out session in the universe!!!! We both like each other but I think having mutual friends that we both spend a good amount of time with makes it to close for comfort....

Now, we talk here and there but scorpio #2 had entered the picture......

Scorpio #2.......this is a easy one....he adores me, treats me wonderful, makes me the a top priority and we match up perfectly mentally and spiritually! Here's the problem, I am not as physically and sexually attracted to him and I saw his package down below and dont know if i could be satisfied with it in the long term.

My question is do get I over myself and go for Scorp #2/ be patient and see if Scorp #1 figures out what he wants....truthfully neither of them are going anywhere...I am soooo confused!!!
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OMG!!! that is HILARIOUS!!! what are you like woman? the first one is a nightmare and only ok to make out with when you're shit-faced and the second is great but has a disappointing PACKAGE—?? HAHAHHAHAHHAHHAHAHHAHHAHAHHAHA!!!!

it's a shame you can't do what they call in the dodgy motor trade in england a 'cut and shut'. it's when they take half a decent chassis of a particular model of car and just attach it to another decent half chassis, thus creating one car out of two write-offs.

LOL! i don't think you like either of them to be honest.
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The polar opposite of scorpio is taurus. Haha, trust me just because a guy is well equipped doesn't mean he knows how to use it. And just because a guy is more "average" down below doesn't mean he can't blow your mind. And if he knows he's a little lackin, he'll be sure to make up for it in other areas 😉

I'd go for number 2...If you bond so well mentally & spiritually, you're more likely to develop something really strong and in time it will be smouldering 🙂 I get the impression that with number 1 it's more of an instantaneous physical thing. But the question is would it last? Number 1 isn't even willing to commit to you, and he sounds a bit possessive - I can't believe he had the nerve to pull you aside and "chat" you about your behaviour! I'd tell him to take a hike...Just my 2cents 🙂
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i dunno. i suspect there is much game-playing on both sides though. she said she's infatuated with both of them, so infatuation has a way of making itself evident doesn't it 🙂

newbie: you know i didn't even see that! although having said that i don't think cancer/scorp is all that good for romantic partnerships. they suit pisceans more from the waterworld imo.
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flirtycancer
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Okay...when i said polar opposties i meant they're totally different types of scorpios....I know my astrology!!! I am a cancer, pisces moon, cancer venus, and sag rising!!! I wish that I could have Scopr #1 with Scorp #2 personality...

Scorp #1 and I have our claws in each other an cannot let go...we both have tried.
Scorp #2 is too easy, I need a challange! He's all about pleasing me but I need the full package if you know what I mean!!!

YES... There is a lot of gaming playing with Scorp #1, we both play mind games and manipulate each other, its keeps the fire going (I am crazy and dramatic like that).

There is a Taurus in the picture but its just the beginnig, i will see how that one goes!!!

I will say there is something intense about the cancer/ scorpio connection that i've never had with any other sign.
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The hotter one (#1) is an asshole, I know what I truly need to do but its hard to let go. I want Scorp #1 to wake up and a decide for us to the damn thing.

Do scorpio men usually say one thing and do another? Scorp #1 says he cares or he wouldn't call or be around. He's always there when I need him, he's kinda my rock. I feel more secure with him.

I've been told that you have to be patient with scorpios and show loyalty, is that true?
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"Newbie...I guess I want what I cannot have and wonder if I keep being patient he'll come around. I truly like Scorp #1 and wish one day we would become exclusive. Ive never dealt with scorpios before and its hard their hard to figure out...one minute is hot and the next its ice cold...."

Ok....hon, he's the deal straight up. You're not gonna get either one of them. Why? Cuz they know you're not loyal. They'll enjoy being around you but let's face it...you've got cancer sun, pisces moon, cancer venus...what you're doing right now is channeling your sag rising when in actual fact you're an extremely emotional caring being.

You're portraying an "I dont care" image when deep inside you really do. They can see through it. It's easy to get a scorp into bed. NOT easy to get him into a relationship.

For a relationship...it will take at least a year or more...and I mean a year for him to think of settling with you cuz he'll be going back and forth all that time trying to figure you out.

It's a lost cause. You're not gonna get what you want, unless you use that patience you say you have...but if scorp #1 has already seen you running around with other guys...he's not gonna trust you enough to let his heart get caught in this. He'll care...he just wont fall in love...unless your patience extends another 5 years or so...hehe
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Newbie...."You're portraying an "I dont care" image when deep inside you really do. They can see through it. It's easy to get a scorp into bed. NOT easy to get him into a relationship."
Scorp #1 knows that I care and wants more. Ive told him that I like him and he I know he can tell how sensitive I am. He mentioned that he knows where I am at on the weekends (cause usually with my gurl at his boys house). I guess, his boy would call and text him when I was there. I wasnt seeing anyone else until about a month ago.

Scorp #2 told me that i should still date other people (we havent had sex).

As you know i am not a player at all. I like just having one guy. My Sag rising is what keeps the wall up with an i dont give a damn attitude.

You're right, I am going to fall back on the Scorps!!!
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In all seriousness flirtycancer...I'm not sure you know the sign you're dealing with here. You're a cancer, hon and your chart doesnt seem to have a lot of powerful signs in it. All I can tell you is dont fall in love with any of these guys cuz you're gonna get thrashed...especially with that pisces moon.

You may think you enjoy mind games, but you havent seen anything yet...this is a game you're simply not gonna win against a scorpio...once they get past your sag rising and into your core...and especially when they're out for revenge.

Tread very carefully...or you're gonna end up traumatised.
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umm..what are you talking about and im not falling in love with anyone. I am so not a player. Just to put you in your place real fast. Ive known Scorp 1 since october. We didnt even hang out until March and we barley see each other, I was not dating anyone at the time. Scorp 2 and I just started hanging out the beginning of last month. I spend all my free time with Scorp 2. The wedding weekend was the first time i seen 1 since early May.

I cannot be mad at you judging me b/c I put my situation out there but its not that serious.

The key word in my title is infatuation not love...here's a defenition....Infatuation is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoned passion or love; addictive love. Infatuation usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship. It is characterized by urgency, intensity, desire, and/or anxiety, in which there is an extreme absorption in another. It is traditionally associated with youth.

I see that your almost 50 and you might not understand dating different people while you may hold one person to higher regard. Dang, my mother knows my situation and she's a bit conservative and she told me I am not married so enjoy being courted....plus I dont sleep around.
Thanks and have a wonderful day! Smooches