Do scorpios ever come back?

My now ex-boyfriend is a Scorpio and he just broke up with me after icing me out for a while. I figured he was just playing hot and cold but when he broke up with me he told me he had been icing me out because he was too afraid of hurting me.

We had gotten in an argument before the lack of communication began. I was being kind of demanding a lot of attention from him (I'm a Cancer), but he was refusing to provide me with it. We were both really drunk when we got in this argument but what I can recall from memory was that he was telling me he was sick of pouring his heart out to me and devoting so much to me and it was too painful for him. He said he was tired of not being able to make me happy. I had never seen him this emotional and I was trying to comfort him and reassure him, but things got really weird after that. He said he wanted to go inside because he "didn't feel safe." The next day things seemed good. It was long distance so I left to go back home and it was like as soon as I left a switched turned off. He wouldn't respond to my texts, he wouldn't acknowledge there was something wrong.

He ignored me for several weeks but would randomly text me saying things like "I'm sorry, I've been such an **** lately. I've just been really busy." At one point he even told me that he loved me and wanted to work on our relationship. But then he would go directly back to the same behavior he was apologizing for.

Eventually I confronted him and told him to figure out what he wanted. He finally sent me a message breaking up with me. In the message he basically blamed the entire thing on me, he said I'm too immature for the relationship we had. He said we are not in the right place for relationships right now. He said that I need to be able to make myself happy before I can be in a relationship. He said he really thought we were going to make it. He told me he still loved me in the message, too.

So here's what I don't get... he is still icing me out. But I thought that Scorpios were black or white/love or hate type people. If that is the case why is he icing me out and telling me he still loves me at the same time. He is claiming to not want to hurt me but hurting me by icing me out. It makes no sense to me.

Will I ever hear from him again? Is it over for good?

He is probably confused.

I think with a scorpio alot of the time it's " going to be your fault "

Sometimes it is but sometimes it isn't.


I don't know if they ever come back, he sounds really conflicted. I saw my ex the other day he let me visit with the cat. He said he missed my friendship but after than he stopped talking to me.

I don't know, if they don't feel safe I think it's like that.

Ok a lot of stuff! I just want to point out that with a Scorpio; emotions run very deep and when they choose you to be a mate for them they want you entirely and nothing is half assed with them! When they love they really love passionately and loyally because it is the love and that you being part of them which feeds them and nurtures there water fixed souls! From what I read; I'm getting off that there was an imbalance of his needs being met (not just physical) but on the emotional and spiritual level. Mentally you did not discuss much to read from but with the emotional and spiritual side he feels that being with you is a hazard to that balance.

With Scorpios you have to be at some level of maturity to receive and gracefully accept the vast amounts and deep intense passion that they bestow on you. For some signs, it's too much to handle and trying to grasp with what to do with all the emotion and intensity can overwhelm and maybe cause them to be in unfamiliar areas. Of there emotional and spiritual selves they have never gone too before; that is up until they been deeply emotionally involved with Scorpio that takes them there. Scorpios need to be reassured and that is key to keeping that emotional balance with them which also goes for other water signs.

Spiritually you must communicate your feelings to him even if it's lying next to each other saying nothing but looking into his eyes deeply and holding him quietly. Things don't have to be talked out or said each time, but you opening yourself for his energies to flow in and around you makes that balance. Again, it feeds his water fixed soul and when all is balanced he is at his heighten self being with because you help him get there with your love and your understanding of his needs and differences aside from yours. In return he will ensure that yours are met because he wants to keep you happy.

Your reality now is that he is gravely hurt and from the sounds of it deeply scared emotionally and mentally because he is trying to make sense of the relationship, his feelings and what logically would be best. Most importantly though to cease what is draining him and it is you. Look at it this way, your love is poison to his soul and the more he takes it the more he will get sick off it and eventually be broken if he stays. He obviously is very conflicted because he still has deep emotions for you but he is fighting it. My advice leave him be and give yourself time away if he doesn't come back just

move on without looking back because once he has made up his mind not to be with you no more he will not return. I myself have done this being a Scorpio. If and when I do make up my mind about a person I don't want no more, I push them out and they stay there and things from past doesn't matter because my life doesn't have them in it and yes Scorpios can be that heartless and thoughtless. That is why it is best to understand that you cannot take them for granted and take their passion for you lightly.

Although, if he should return you need to reflect as to what you want from his love and what you want from him on all levels emotionally, spiritually, mentally and physically. Get to know what his needs are and what can put the balance in the relationship. But you need to be sincere by all means to him and don't say sorry because they do not like superficial bullshit when it comes to emotions. Just hold him close and deeply kiss him looking into his eyes and tell him you don't want to loose him and you want his love and keep it and protect it. That is where he will be at his utmost vulnerable to allow you back in.

Hope this helps good luck!

I knew something was wrong and I made a point of telling him that I knew I was behaving like an idiot and that it was something I needed to work on. I also made a point of telling him how much he meant to me (this is before he broke up with me). I would do anything for him. I miss him. It just sucks because I stood there and fought for our relationship and he gave up without trying.

Hmmmm see without some details it's hard to determine where you fought and where he gave up easily on?

Well we got in an argument and that's what led to it, it's kind of hard to explain. But he had cut me off as soon as I left for home, and I kept trying to reassure him that he could feel safe with me.

Did you ever hear back from that scorpio boyfriend? i was just researching the web and found this, i am going exactly throught the same thing: we were good, have a distance conversatio that started with "I want to be with you i miss you etc" me saying how happy it made me to hear that and someohow we get into a fight he acusing me of bieng needy. blows out of proportion i get on a plane to see him he doenst even want to see me super cold and then does but only to break up talking as if there was only bad (when in fact we had a really goo strong relationship and everything had been good for ages) and feels like he forgot everything and as well causing me of everything and all about needy and imature. i think he is in a bad place himself and i thing someone else would realise this and come back but i fear he wont coz he is a scorpio. Then i saw this and seamed so similar. Wondered what happened?