treatherbetter89
@treatherbetter89
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Does my Scorpio want me back?!!! or is he playing mind games
Not a Scorpio, but first off Most scorpios are secretive and mysterious. Just part of their traits, samething with Cancers being Moody, Aquarians being independent.
I hope some real scorpios reply but I suggest asking him to meet you somewhere, face to face, and ask him what does he want? Do you yourself want him back? 8 years is a long time. That would be hard for anyone to get over. I think he's testing to see if you still have deep feelings for him. For him to express his love to you, I think is a good sign, but I think he's trying to see how far you'll go for him. That's my guess
I hope some real scorpios reply but I suggest asking him to meet you somewhere, face to face, and ask him what does he want? Do you yourself want him back? 8 years is a long time. That would be hard for anyone to get over. I think he's testing to see if you still have deep feelings for him. For him to express his love to you, I think is a good sign, but I think he's trying to see how far you'll go for him. That's my guess
To answer your first question, yes I believe i do want him back. The fact that he actually contacted me sparked my feelings i was trying to get over. As I said previously when he never called me back the first time i broke NC i assumed it was done and started my healing process moving on. Well i reached out to him already telling him where my heart was but he acted as if he didnt know what he wanted and i haven't heard from him since. To be honest being a aquarian im not about to chase anyone. If i already expressed that i want to try again and you obviously are showing you still have feelings and we both were in the wrong at different points why go through the mind game. I havent contacted him because i wanted to give him space to figure out what he wants. if i dont hear from him i will move on , idc how much i love him. Its annoying the mind game. I really need some scorpio's input because i have no clue what how to honestly go about this. do you think im wrong for thinking this way?
@GetMisted I found text messages of him talking to other women(women he worked with and ones i have no idea who they are).. Out of the whole relationship i trusted him and respected him enough not to go in to his phone. IT wasn't until he started being very rude, cold and non intimate with me that i became obsessed and wondering what was really going on and why he was so distant
Posted by EvoxxxscorpioWhat was your longest relationship? 8 days, freak?
sorry to break it down you but if i do all those things to someone I'm not taking that person seriously and my main focus is on someone else.
if you found that he was talking to other girls, and I'm assuming it wasn't just normal friendly talk. I would let it be. Move on, Evoxxxscorpio gave me some good advice on my post the other day. Take the advice.
He could be seeing "if he's still got it" with you. Sorry you're going through this.
He could be seeing "if he's still got it" with you. Sorry you're going through this.
Posted by Cancer2448One question. Let's say he saw that he got it with her. Then what?
if you found that he was talking to other girls, and I'm assuming it wasn't just normal friendly talk. I would let it be. Move on, Evoxxxscorpio gave me some good advice on my post the other day. Take the advice.
He could be seeing "if he's still got it" with you. Sorry you're going through this.
Posted by EvoxxxscorpioI gave you too much credit! ??Posted by Gemitati7days lolPosted by EvoxxxscorpioWhat was your longest relationship? 8 days, freak?
sorry to break it down you but if i do all those things to someone I'm not taking that person seriously and my main focus is on someone else.click to expand
Posted by EvoxxxscorpioYou owe me 1!Posted by Gemitatilol thanks ?Posted by EvoxxxscorpioI gave you too much credit! ??Posted by Gemitati7days lolPosted by EvoxxxscorpioWhat was your longest relationship? 8 days, freak?
sorry to break it down you but if i do all those things to someone I'm not taking that person seriously and my main focus is on someone else.click to expand
Posted by EvoxxxscorpioWhere?Posted by Gemitati?TherePosted by EvoxxxscorpioYou owe me 1!Posted by Gemitatilol thanks ?Posted by EvoxxxscorpioI gave you too much credit! ??Posted by Gemitati7days lolPosted by EvoxxxscorpioWhat was your longest relationship? 8 days, freak?
sorry to break it down you but if i do all those things to someone I'm not taking that person seriously and my main focus is on someone else.
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Posted by EnochtheWisePosted by treatherbetter89You started off with this discovery as the first/primary reason for the breakup. So what exactly was he saying to these other women? Some are co-workers. Are there valid reasons he would need to talk to them? Have you asked him about the others? Are work-related friendships with females ok according to whatever ground-rules you've set? Have you set any? Many Aqua females I know want that freedom to retain their important male friendships, even with ex lovers. Are you sure you didn't over-react in a bout of jealousy?
@GetMisted I found text messages of him talking to other women(women he worked with and ones i have no idea who they are).. Out of the whole relationship i trusted him and respected him enough not to go in to his phone. IT wasn't until he started being very rude, cold and non intimate with me that i became obsessed and wondering what was really going on and why he was so distant
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@Enochthewise Okay so what angered me about the text messages was that he set these boundaries that my male aquatainces and male friends ( non threatening to the relationship) made him feel uncomfortable and although i fought against this, i found it unreasonable and not fair because they weren't disrespectful friendships... but overtime i stopped those friendships for him out of respect to make him feel comfortable and it got to a point he was my only male friend. so i think what set it off for me is that other than how disturbing it got that he was so disconnected from me physically,emotionally and spiritually I run across flirty text messages where he's chatting about going to visit one of them to hangout (keep in mind i don't have ANY male friends because of his boundaries, only him!). The other conversation was pretty innocent flirting but back n forth with a girl chatting about the movie him and i were watching while I'm sitting there trying to get him to talk to me.. So i found out he was flirting with another girl as I'm sitting there trying to get him to talk to me!! 😢..
Honestly i felt like a straight fool... like you are completely disengaged with me and I'm giving my all to get your attention, love and affection and you're mentally else where.. Straight double standard and thats when i had it at the time!
If it was just about the harmless flirting i would've let it go over a week or so maybe but onto of you being so disconnected, no sex and i see you entertaining other females but i can't have male friends oh hell no!
If i just kept my male friends and had my own life outside of us ( not meaning to cheat or anything like that) i wouldn't be so pissed but the fact that i thought as he said from the beginning he doesn't have female friends outside our relationship and I'm his best friend i wanted to live up to that on my end of the stick.. This is when i lost it and decided to end it because it became too much.. like what else were you not holding up on your end of the stick? like is this the reason you aren't attentive to me anymore? because some else is taking your attention?
Your ex appears so manipulative OP.... tbh if I saw him call I'd straight press "Decline". He may want you back, but on his terms. He may be trying to train you to be submissive; only to be irritated once you do return because you're no longer a challenge. What outcome do you want? What's the end result you'd like to see? If you know it's compromise and a situation where both involved are sewing into the relationship... Then move on. From your description, it sounds like he thrives on an unbalanced relationship where one partner, whether it be you or him, has the upper hand. I've been there with a Scorp guy in my past. I'm Aqua too. When I got fed up with his bs... wouldn't call or text, barely answered, when I did talk to him I was short.... he chased me lord did he chase me!!!!! One day he showed up to my job unannounced! So I said, surely this man cares if he's hunting me down... let me give him a try. Once I finally engaged with him and try to like him back... he disappears?....I don't chase, so I move on and then months later he pops back up!!! He only wanted 1. The chase 2. An ego boost. Honestly this could be any man of any sign who's immature.
Posted by Wineaux15Wow ? that's crazy... I wish I never entertained the idea of working things out with him again. It's like once I opened the door and told him where my heart was he disappeared.. haven't spoken to him in a week! I agree with you on not chasing..that's not in my blood at all because if I open the door and you don't walk in I don't force you to walk in, I just reclose it as a aqua. Doesn't matter how my heart feels.. I just know once I get over the side effects of this brief but disappointing interaction I'm closing this chapter forever with him.. I don't want a friendship or anything. Tired of the power struggle and manipulating.. I fucking hate this so much.. it's like feeling the pain of leaving the first time of the breakup again smh.. why are scorpios like this!? A aqua give you everything from the loyalty to the love to the devotion,al we ask is for our space to be able to be ourselves outside of the union of the "we" they want at times! It's suffocating and it kills the person they fell in love with.. it's like trying to transform you in to another them but honestly deep down that's not what they want they just want full control over you..
Your ex appears so manipulative OP.... tbh if I saw him call I'd straight press "Decline". He may want you back, but on his terms. He may be trying to train you to be submissive; only to be irritated once you do return because you're no longer a challenge. What outcome do you want? What's the end result you'd like to see? If you know it's compromise and a situation where both involved are sewing into the relationship... Then move on. From your description, it sounds like he thrives on an unbalanced relationship where one partner, whether it be you or him, has the upper hand. I've been there with a Scorp guy in my past. I'm Aqua too. When I got fed up with his bs... wouldn't call or text, barely answered, when I did talk to him I was short.... he chased me lord did he chase me!!!!! One day he showed up to my job unannounced! So I said, surely this man cares if he's hunting me down... let me give him a try. Once I finally engaged with him and try to like him back... he disappears?....I don't chase, so I move on and then months later he pops back up!!! He only wanted 1. The chase 2. An ego boost. Honestly this could be any man of any sign who's immature.
Hey. He just wants to see yiu dead. He needs make sure u cintinue havung no male friends even when he is.gone entorely from ur life. 50 shades of grey i havent seen it just parts is a fav film for many scoprs as they (males) want domination not love really and the only ones they love are the ones who domante them. But he will alwasy wirk on deatroying u becsur only a real domnatrix can rule his heart. No matter what they say. They are psycjopaths . May be m13 is not but i just assume he fooled me which they are great at
Posted by treatherbetter89Posted by EnochtheWisePosted by treatherbetter89
@GetMisted I found text messages of him talking to other women(women he worked with and ones i have no idea who they are).. Out of the whole relationship i trusted him and respected him enough not to go in to his phone. IT wasn't until he started being very rude, cold and non intimate with me that i became obsessed and wondering what was really going on and why he was so distant
You started off with this discovery as the first/primary reason for the breakup. So what exactly was he saying to these other women? Some are co-workers. Are there valid reasons he would need to talk to them? Have you asked him about the others? Are work-related friendships with females ok according to whatever ground-rules you've set? Have you set any? Many Aqua females I know want that freedom to retain their important male friendships, even with ex lovers. Are you sure you didn't over-react in a bout of jealousy?
@Enochthewise Okay so what angered me about the text messages was that he set these boundaries that my male aquatainces and male friends ( non threatening to the relationship) made him feel uncomfortable and although i fought against this, i found it unreasonable and not fair because they weren't disrespectful friendships... but overtime i stopped those friendships for him out of respect to make him feel comfortable and it got to a point he was my only male friend. so i think what set it off for me is that other than how disturbing it got that he was so disconnected from me physically,emotionally and spiritually I run across flirty text messages where he's chatting about going to visit one of them to hangout (keep in mind i don't have ANY male friends because of his boundaries, only him!). The other conversation was pretty innocent flirting but back n forth with a girl chatting about the movie him and i were watching while I'm sitting there trying to get him to talk to me.. So i found out he was flirting with another girl as I'm sitting there trying to get him to talk to me!! 😢..
Honestly i felt like a straight fool... like you are completely disengaged with me and I'm giving my all to get your attention, love and affection and you're mentally else where.. Straight double standard and thats when i had it at the time!
If it was just about the harmless flirting i would've let it go over a week or so maybe but onto of you being so disconnected, no sex and i see you entertaining other females but i can't have male friends oh hell no!
If i just kept my male friends and had my own life outside of us ( not meaning to cheat or anything like that) i wouldn't be so pissed but the fact that i thought as he said from the beginning he doesn't have female friends outside our relationship and I'm his best friend i wanted to live up to that on my end of the stick.. This is when i lost it and decided to end it because it became too much.. like what else were you not holding up on your end of the stick? like is this the reason you aren't attentive to me anymore? because some else is taking your attention?click to expand
Idk if it’s my gemini sun or my scorpio moon but I would go fucking nuts at this bastard for fucking doing that to me while we are spending time together. He would need to leave the house and never return back again. What a fool.
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