Fuck you too.

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*frustration* *beats head against a wall*


WHY? There are SO many guys who would LOVE to get with me. I'm NOT trying to be egocentric. Its NOT something I necessarily even LIKE. Flattering, dont' get me wrong, but I know what I am, so I don't need flattery to tell me. Not counting all the ones on dating sites that message me several times a day, there are at least 5 guys I know personally who have been transparent about it. Who knows how many are hiding it. And the ONE that I like? "Doesn't want a girlfriend" "Doesn't have TIME" and... whatever other bull shit excuse he can come up with. He is scared. I can understand that. But to not take a chance DESPITE being scared... THAT I don't get.


/end rant.

What is this, the gods saying fuck you? Well fuck you too.

Well regardless of the others..
Just spend a lot of time with the guy you like. Maybe he'll come around. But if he doesn't like you then he doesn't. There are always plents of fish in the sea.
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You're a scorpio, right?

ZC, I'm a Scorsagian. Which I personally think is probably the best sign a woman can be. Half scorpio = sexy, gorgeous eyes, seductive, (obviously theres also the down side: sensitive, black and white, stubborn, vengeful) and Half Sagg = playful, flirtatious, adventurous (and also blunt, foot in mouth disease, naive)

😛

Yeah theres a problem with spending time with him, he's not even willing to do THAT much, like he's afraid hes going to lead me on or sommat. We don't hang out in the same places... :?

I have been in your situation, and also with a taurus guy which I have seen you mention on here and the taurus board. When I was in your situation about 3 years back and I wanted this taurus guy really bad I mean he showed interest in me as well but he begin pulling back also saying he didn't want a relationship he was in the entertainment business so he wanted to travel and start his career but whenever he was in town he wanted me to be there and waiting (I Think Not).

The chemistry between us was crazy so yes I did keep an ongoing physical relationship with him then I realize he was never going to change so I just cut him off like that, and after that I begin just dating those men that truly like me just to go out and have fun and not to harpe on the disappointment of that relationship with him. After that guess what he wanted me, he would see me in the mall and almost follow me around not thinking I seen him, he would be on my social site looking at those but I just had to move on. Even though you are not interested in those others guys I would still just maybe go out on some date to open your mind to what it feels like when a guy genuinely likes you and not giving you bullshit of why he can't date you.

I know us scorps get hung up when we really like someone and he we can't focus on anything else or anybody else until our hearts and mind are clear but you need to explore other options while your are going through that process.

Why when a man says he doesn't wanna be with a woman, she assumes its bc he's afraid?

He said no. End of story. Continuing to chase him will only make you look pathetic.

Bluebetty, thanks for the insight.. and normally I'd agree with you. But I would really have to be dense to think he's not interested. Hell, *I* was the one not interested in being in a relationship to begin with. Then his best friend finally convinced me (after weeks) to go out with him, at least once. And I've never had so much fun on a date. Haven't had that much fun or laughed that hard since I don't remember when- and it was 100% mutual. I did ask him out that time because supposedly he is insanely shy. But he asked me to come out two days later. So I went- clubbing, got a bit tipsy and asked him to dance. We spent the rest of the night in each other's arms. Staring into each others eyes while we were dancing. He had that sort of half awake, about to drool on me type of look. But I'm still getting this BS line "I don't have time" "I want to be single".

And I'm not really chasing after him. I talked to him a couple days later and said that I'd appreciate him giving this a chance and not just writing it off before we have a chance to see what it is. When he still said no, I told him- this is the last time I'm going to reach out to you. And he said 'so the next move is mine.' It is quite well defined. Thing is, I said 'we don't hang out in the same places, we're not likely to run into each other randomly' and he said 'well but you're on facebook and I have your number and you have mine' and I said 'yes but I won't be calling you.' and he said 'will you answer'?

...omfg. You don't ASK that unless you're hoping the answer is yes. If he REALLY meant no he'd be like "Okay cool see you. Have a nice life".

concieted ... so much so that there's no way her ego will let her believe anything that even resembles reality

Epithet, I wasn't focusing on any of them before. Just being friendly. I'm the first to make sure that nobody is led on by my behavior, even if I'm not interested in anyone. I'll make sure they know I'm not interested in them either.

Oh and Bluebetty, not sure if this even matters, I didn't feel it was necessary to say before, but I'll say it now and see if you still think I'm reading too much into it. He told me straight out "I have a crush on you" and also "I'm scared". Both of these he practically whispered.. like he was afraid to say them out loud. He looked like he was about to cry. *smh*. When he said the "I want to be single" part his voice was stronger, yk? Like he's paying it lip service?

Someone broke your heart just 3 months ago and you dont have feelings of bitterness? That would be odd. I would. Just saying I have read your posts around here last 2 days and you come off negative, which now it makes sense because you are sad...nothing wrong with admitting that.

lmfao.

this thread went somewhere..

Little update. So when we went out the first time he was talking about this place he loves to take his dog/go fishing, Patagonia. I drove through there yesterday. Figured what the hell, I'll send him a text.. not asking a question, not really expecting an answer. Especially since he basically never answers anyone on text, no matter what. So I texted him- "I can see why you love Patagonia. It is beautiful." And surprise surprise.. he texted me back... "Not as beautiful as you."

Awwwwww

Oh yeah believe me I know. It was just sweet. I'm waiting to see if theres anything behind it. And.. I wasn't expecting any kind of answer, so even if it was cheezy it was more than I expected.

I really don't appreciate being called self obsessed. It is not the truth, it is a persona / outward appearance. Get to know me before you make snap judgements. The base truth is that it is the lies that I tell myself in order to try and convince myself that some small part of it is the truth.

I suppose I am doomed to be single forever then, because the guys I like are never the ones who "chase" me. TBH, that is a very big turn off. Trying to impress me = looking like an idiot. I've also tried the whole "be friends and if it happens it will happen organically" and well, one of them quit talking to me and there's still ice between us almost 10 years later, and the other one is marrying another friend of mine. I'm apparently.. "too much like their sister".

Tried dating people I meet in reality. Either they're too forward and its a huge turn off, or I am. Fails.
Tried dating people I met online. They all seem to have *issues*. There was the one who was in love with his best friend.. the psycho DV stalker, and the one allergic to sunlight who liked me at first and then "didn't have time". Fails.
Tried making friends and letting things occur in their own eventuality. I become their sister. Fails.

wtf? Go play with my horses again? FML.

Well he was a very very good friend for four years. One of my best friends. I miss him.

You need to put yourself forward more.

Huh?? I get told I'm "tooo" forward with the ones I DO like.

Orrrr do you mean I should like.. put myself as my own priority? Tell that to my libra venus. I try, I really do.