Going from aquaintance to friend

Hm. So I thought I was good at this, but this PART of it isn't easy for me. I have a bunch of really new friends, a bit more than aquaintances, but not quite to where I can feel comfortable calling them up and just hanging out with them. I'm bored lol. I know they'd be ok with it, a bunch of them gave me their phone #s and said they'd love to hang out some time. So here I am staring at my ceiling wondering how to call them and ask if they want to do anything. Might help if I had some money and could actually go out and do things. But hey, hanging out and playing wii or watching movies can be fun too, and that's free. Just not sure how to go about this.

Oh I forgot to say, this has always been easy before, because mostly everyone I've known has been through school. "Lets get together and work on this" is very easy, and then it ends with 'we should hang out some time and not do homework'. Everyone I know NOW is either through work, or through my religious group.

Except these are FRIENDS, not potential lovers. 😛 And most of them are straight women. I don't have YOUR phone #.

Oh don't you hate this part?! The part where you realize how socially awkward it is to reach out to damn near complete strangers to ask them for company in the same way you would people you actually knew very well?! Ugh!

If I were you, I'd play it safe by trying to take 1 step at a time. The good thing though is that you & all these "acquaintances" already have ONE thing in common, whether it's that you all work together at the same job, or attend the same church. That puts you at an advantage.

True, they gave you their numbers for a reason. Sure, it might seem a little creepy for you to call them up all of the sudden and/or start acting as if these associates were your best friends, but hey you've got to start somewhere!

Next time you're at work or at church (or whereever you meet for spiritual gratification), spark up a conversation. Find out what these people like to do in their spare time. For all you know, they may be couch potatoes just like you =)

The more you have in common with them, the more likely your conversations with them won't feel so awkward or random. And the more the conversations flow naturally, the less creepy it'll feel when you initiate hanging out with them.

Just try it once. Figure out the 1 person that you most likely have the most in common with & go for it. Don't suggest anything to over the top (i.e. asking your co-worker to go to the movies with ya =P ). But instead start subtly. If you like playing video games at home, find out who enjoys doing the same at their own homes. Once again, it all comes back to finding ways to "click" with those who have a lot in common with ya

Posted by THEKingofLibra
Thats very easy.. snap a picture of you in a bra and text them. I double dare you

Hey kitty *waving at KOL cat*

Sky, I think you can find something in common (besides work and/or church) to talk about. Let's say, going to the gym together, going bike riding together, going to a picnic in a park or beach, join a marathon together and train for the marathon together, etc. You know something where you can find out more about the individual. - it would also help you open up to them slowly but surely.

Well, I texted the Virgo chick. We went and got some coffee and talked for an hour or so. Was really fun ^.^ Planning to go ride when it gets warmer. Maybe tomorrow I'll find out if one of the others is around.. Id love to hang out with the Taurus but she has kids so she's probably really busy.