has this gone on long enough?

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A few years ago i posted in the Scorpio forums. At that time I had never known or been in relationship with a scorp. You all were incredibly helpful with controlling my libran crazy and advising me not to blurt out an emotional hellfire and proposing marriage after a month (haha-exagerate). I went along with letting things progress naturally, and have been having a wonderful time. He no longer withdraws, we see or talk to each other everyday. We make plans for future trips and he's met my family and I his. But...... its been 2 years and he hasn't told me he loves me. I need him to verbalize his feelings. I feel I can't really get into the depth of relationship with him till he says it. Scorpio thing or damaged dude thing? Help a leeb out ๐Ÿ™‚
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Just find a nice, quiet moment and ask him directly (NOT during sex and not while he's drinking). If he says yes without hesitation, then he just wasn't the type to verbalize things.

If there's any other answer, beating around the bush, or a forced sounding yes, then you're wasting your youth on this guy, because if it hasn't happened now, it's unlikely it ever will.
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Posted by Damnata
I have this theory they say "I love you" to their pets all the time.

To their partners? Twice.

1. The day they marry her.
2. The day their first child is born. If they have more than one, well you heard it the first time.

I would've said there'd be a third time, on your death bed but you'd die before they managed to utter the full sentence.



lol you are always so good at this. so in awe. It makes me think you've been involved with one in a deep relationship. ๐Ÿ˜†

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Posted by Damnata
I have this theory they say "I love you" to their pets all the time.

To their partners? Twice.

1. The day they marry her.
2. The day their first child is born. If they have more than one, well you heard it the first time.

I would've said there'd be a third time, on your death bed but you'd die before they managed to utter the full sentence.



lol you are always so good at this. so in awe. It makes me think you've been involved with one in a deep relationship. ๐Ÿ˜†

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Probably in another life?

I have a lot of water friends ๐Ÿ™‚
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Thanks so much for the replies all

Our "love language" is very different
If the question is "Do I think he loves me?"- The answer would be yes

However...I would like him to trust me enough to be vulnerable and utter those 3 little words

It wasn't easy for me. He gets a big grin on his face when I say it and bear hugs me.
Hmpfh
Not enough

How can I make a scorp secure enough to hear those words I want to hear??
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Posted by Delaneia
A few years ago i posted in the Scorpio forums. At that time I had never known or been in relationship with a scorp. You all were incredibly helpful with controlling my libran crazy and advising me not to blurt out an emotional hellfire and proposing marriage after a month (haha-exagerate). I went along with letting things progress naturally, and have been having a wonderful time. He no longer withdraws, we see or talk to each other everyday. We make plans for future trips and he's met my family and I his. But...... its been 2 years and he hasn't told me he loves me. I need him to verbalize his feelings. I feel I can't really get into the depth of relationship with him till he says it. Scorpio thing or damaged dude thing? Help a leeb out ๐Ÿ™‚



I've been dating a Libra girl for about a year now. I tell her I love her every day. Repeatedly. I don't have to think about it, I just do. I told her I loved her the 3rd time we ever hung out. It just kinda... slipped out. That had never happened to me before.
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Posted by Delaneia
A few years ago i posted in the Scorpio forums. At that time I had never known or been in relationship with a scorp. You all were incredibly helpful with controlling my libran crazy and advising me not to blurt out an emotional hellfire and proposing marriage after a month (haha-exagerate). I went along with letting things progress naturally, and have been having a wonderful time. He no longer withdraws, we see or talk to each other everyday. We make plans for future trips and he's met my family and I his. But...... its been 2 years and he hasn't told me he loves me. I need him to verbalize his feelings. I feel I can't really get into the depth of relationship with him till he says it. Scorpio thing or damaged dude thing? Help a leeb out ๐Ÿ™‚



I guess you could say she's the, "only Chi for me."

See what I did there? ๐Ÿ™‚
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Posted by Delaneia
A few years ago i posted in the Scorpio forums. At that time I had never known or been in relationship with a scorp. You all were incredibly helpful with controlling my libran crazy and advising me not to blurt out an emotional hellfire and proposing marriage after a month (haha-exagerate). I went along with letting things progress naturally, and have been having a wonderful time. He no longer withdraws, we see or talk to each other everyday. We make plans for future trips and he's met my family and I his. But...... its been 2 years and he hasn't told me he loves me. I need him to verbalize his feelings. I feel I can't really get into the depth of relationship with him till he says it. Scorpio thing or damaged dude thing? Help a leeb out ๐Ÿ™‚



I've been dating a Libra girl for about a year now. I tell her I love her every day. Repeatedly. I don't have to think about it, I just do. I told her I loved her the 3rd time we ever hung out. It just kinda... slipped out. That had never happened to me before.
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awwww....adorable and kudos it means you had confidence in your self and no insecurities...I heard those 3 little words one time and than I turned around got in my car and sped off not sure of if what I heard was real? omg!
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A few years ago i posted in the Scorpio forums. At that time I had never known or been in relationship with a scorp. You all were incredibly helpful with controlling my libran crazy and advising me not to blurt out an emotional hellfire and proposing marriage after a month (haha-exagerate). I went along with letting things progress naturally, and have been having a wonderful time. He no longer withdraws, we see or talk to each other everyday. We make plans for future trips and he's met my family and I his. But...... its been 2 years and he hasn't told me he loves me. I need him to verbalize his feelings. I feel I can't really get into the depth of relationship with him till he says it. Scorpio thing or damaged dude thing? Help a leeb out ๐Ÿ™‚



I've been dating a Libra girl for about a year now. I tell her I love her every day. Repeatedly. I don't have to think about it, I just do. I told her I loved her the 3rd time we ever hung out. It just kinda... slipped out. That had never happened to me before.
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awwww....adorable and kudos it means you had confidence in your self and no insecurities...I heard those 3 little words one time and than I turned around got in my car and sped off not sure of if what I heard was real? omg!

He said he loved you and you just left?
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Posted by Delaneia
A few years ago i posted in the Scorpio forums. At that time I had never known or been in relationship with a scorp. You all were incredibly helpful with controlling my libran crazy and advising me not to blurt out an emotional hellfire and proposing marriage after a month (haha-exagerate). I went along with letting things progress naturally, and have been having a wonderful time. He no longer withdraws, we see or talk to each other everyday. We make plans for future trips and he's met my family and I his. But...... its been 2 years and he hasn't told me he loves me. I need him to verbalize his feelings. I feel I can't really get into the depth of relationship with him till he says it. Scorpio thing or damaged dude thing? Help a leeb out ๐Ÿ™‚



I've been dating a Libra girl for about a year now. I tell her I love her every day. Repeatedly. I don't have to think about it, I just do. I told her I loved her the 3rd time we ever hung out. It just kinda... slipped out. That had never happened to me before.




awwww....adorable and kudos it means you had confidence in your self and no insecurities...I heard those 3 little words one time and than I turned around got in my car and sped off not sure of if what I heard was real? omg!

He said he loved you and you just left?
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well I didn't just leave, I gave him a kiss on the cheek, said "me too" and got in my car sped off like I was in the freaking fast and the furious and left...so yeah... I freaked out man!!
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Awww
*sob*

If I give you my scorps # will you tell him its ok to love a leeb? Lol



Just hit him. He'll come around.



I wonder his reaction if she just goes up to him says " I love you" and than smacks him...would he spit it out thanโ€” lol


He'd probs get Randy and try to jump me
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LOL...or he will probably be so shocked at the fact that you smacked him that he will for one second forget about the whole loosing his composure thing and blurt out "ouch, dam I do love you!" Well, a girl can dream! LOL...I don't know sweetie, everyone on here knows that I am the wrong person to give advice on how to get a scorpio to say I love you..but at least I can try to make you smile๐Ÿ˜‰
Ask your self this: How is he around you? Does he seem eager to do things for you without you even asking? Does he help you do things even though he knows you can do them yourself? Do you ever feel like you are being watched and when you turn around you get hit with the fire of his passionate gaze? Are his kisses soft and touch is gentle? Is he over protective of you? If you answered yes to these questions: He loves you. Now I know you need to hear it some times for validation but ask yourself now that things are going good, if you already know he loves you, is hearing it worth any complications, stresses, or worries? Could you simply just go with knowing he loves you and just continue being patient for him to say it? Thing is he is not verbally saying it but take a look, they say "actions speak louder than words"

I wish I knew all of this a few months ago...lol...I had to learn the hard way
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Awww
*sob*

If I give you my scorps # will you tell him its ok to love a leeb? Lol



Just hit him. He'll come around.



I wonder his reaction if she just goes up to him says " I love you" and than smacks him...would he spit it out thanโ€” lol


He'd probs get Randy and try to jump me
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That's true love
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Posted by Delaneia
I feel like I need that to continue in this relationship as pathetic as that sounds
He's a good man and I adore him, but I just can't get past the "beginner" stage without hearing an affirmation of how he feels
Especially since I've been telling him almost everyday for the last year or so. It's just starting to feel silly to me lol



pathethic? ๐Ÿ˜

it isn't a beginner stage if you really FEEL he loves you.
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I can imagine a great many things
Even that someone I love loves me

I can imagine whole relationships with the hot guy on the bus and I don't even know his name, This is the curse of a libra methinks.
So the fact that I feel he loves me isn't surprising, as I can't be relied on for such important things.
So if the general consensus is that scorpios confess their love freely, and here I am in an established relationship with one who hasn't uttered more than a "I care about you a lot too"
That's what I find pathetic....
I'm used to earth and air signs
This is my first experience with a dip in scorp waters