He is a Virgo

Nicelooking,softy spoken mate of mine...knew each other since 06. Before I met my aries.
He asked me out b4 and I met him once in 06 for a coffee on our lunch break. We were both single.......he was too much of a nice guy and he seemed too much in awe of me. Which turned me right off. Needless to say we still kept in touch via text but I wasnt keen on a 2nd,3rd,4th date.
He went travelling for 1yr and we lost touch. We bump into each other again in 2010 and I got a facebook friend request from him. I added him and he would occassionally inbox me. I change my profile pic several times(us girls tend to) other guy mates of mine would comment on the pics....so everyone could see what they wrote but he would always inbox me.
It wasnt anything overboard just stuff like you're looking great/love the new pic etc.
I once wrote "thou shall not cheat" as my status update, and he inbox me saying "thats a shame,you think that way".
I read the msg but didnt reply. I just thought he was been a guy and messing around.
He proposed to his gf on valentines day.....I was abit surprised because I saw him the wk b4 valentines....I was on my lunch break,bumped into him and he followed me around the shops. Even ask me,what am getting upto over valentines but not once mentioned he was gonna propose.
On seeing his changed relationship status I wrote congrats on his wall. He inbox me saying thanks I got tired of waiting around for you and after I found out you got engaged,I thought what the heck.
Again I didnt read much into it,I just thought that was his sense of humour.
So at the beginning of the week,he asked if he could meet me for coffee,he wants to run some wedding stuff by me. I was like ok we will meet at a cafe for 1pm. I got to the cafe and he was waiting outside,he asked if I can follow him to his apartment around the corner....he forgot a work folder and he needs it for an interview in the afternoon.
At first I replied,no you go ahead,ill get the coffee in. He was like come on,you will finally get to see where i lived.
I agreed and went with him....got to his place and it was filled with congrats ur engaged cards. So i said to him your house mates must be pissed off with all your cards. He didnt reply. So I was looking around his lounge and I asked him how many ppl does he share with...he replied,it just me and zara(fiance). I was like oh i assumed you stilled share an apt. Well he did back in 06 but we havent been in touch for awhile,so things changed.
Well

He joined me in the lounge and suggest why dont we have coffee there....at first I was like no,but his argument made sense.
He had all the ingredients etc and there wasnt a queue....so he made us both coffee and we sat in his lounge. I was flicking through his fiance wedding mags. Then I remembered he wanted to ask me something. I said what did you want to ask me? He replied its about getting some insurance for the engagement ring and upgrading my account. I touch base with what cover my firm offer but told him he will need to call into the office for a more indepth conversation.
During our convo I said to him,you and zara should come to my wedding reception. Get a few ideas,he commented...I dont think that will be a good idea.
Finished our drink and left...he walked me back to work.
I later got an email from him saying that lunch hr was torture... So i responded UGH? He replied seeing you in your work clothes,your long legs,the way you pinned your hair up,your smile. Everything about you drive me insane.

WTF—? I have not responded.
I never looked at virgo men but are they known cheaters?
For christ sake,thats the apartment he shares with his fiance!
And he only got engaged on valentines day.
Now I feel,I cant be his friend anymore.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Don't respond or look back.

Oh my days....I normally tell my aries everything. He was up to date with the libra but this I dont feel I can say.
I feel like a clown going to his apartment.😢
Bloody nice guys....they are the worse.

Am like did he just try to pull the wool over my eyes...to get me to go to his place!!

He's a friend....really nice guy. At first i thought this was all spontaneous. Now am not so sure.

Virgo or not, ....He just sounds like he is trying to TAP DAT ASS before he consumate his marriage......he wants to make sure he is doing the right thing by getting married......It seems like he is almost testing his own WILL around you

Posted by oldskoolflavor
my question:
how long before he decides to join that - @#|&!??% femmescorpion - darts club ?

UGH? What are you saying handsome...break it down.🙂
PM on its way.

Posted by Spartaculous
Virgo or not, ....He just sounds like he is trying to TAP DAT ASS before he consumate his marriage......he wants to make sure he is doing the right thing by getting married......It seems like he is almost testing his own WILL around you

Yeah I get what your saying...
*It seems like he is almost testing his own WILL around you* ....not following this bit.

Once Aries finds out how much focus you put on other men so you can have fun living with the drama .... he's gonna rip you a new asshole before dumping you in the garbage yard.

Posted by 25thDecan
Listen to sparctaculous, she speaks truth and listen to epithet. Him being a virgo isn't the problem. I would add that you being a scorpion chick means that somehow, someway he'd have been better off running tha fuck away from you the very first time he met you but oh well. Lmao

The worst thing a "nice guy" can do is allow himself to be thought of as a nice guy and remain friends with a woman who wouldn't simply be his friend but would accept a date and THEN make him a collateral ego trip later(friend).
Whew.....life....

Are you the dude with scorpio women issue? Whats wrong with been a nice guy? My aries is a nice guy...the libra was a bit bad/nawty. However he couldnt give me what I wanted. So the aries won. Nothing wrong with been a nice guy. They are marriage material!!🙂

Damn this virgo reckon he has game.tu tu tu
He might be a little player wannabe.cheater in the making.
Curiousity kills the cat...so decided to browse his pics on fB....the fiance is in his graduation pics of 06.
So we met after his graduation in 06...he asked me out...had 1b coffee date...was not impress...he still wanted to get to know me. But had a gf in the wings.
Oh man...someone need to go on the nawty step pronto.

Posted by FemmeScorpion

Posted by Spartaculous
Virgo or not, ....He just sounds like he is trying to TAP DAT ASS before he consumate his marriage......he wants to make sure he is doing the right thing by getting married......It seems like he is almost testing his own WILL around you

Yeah I get what your saying...
*It seems like he is almost testing his own WILL around you* ....not following this bit.

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Maybe he wants to see if he can keep himself composed around you.....If he could keep himself composed (without feeling tortured and/or aroused around you), then that means he doesn't have that strong of feelings for you. But If he can barely keep himself composed around you (got to muster-up enough energy to keep an unemotional straight face), then he still likes you.