Help please!

Thanks in advance for reading. I've been 5 months with my October Scorpio. We live in different countries, he came for a weekend back in November and I just got home from a 3 month visit. I stayed at his house and everything went great with a few minor bad moments. All of the sudden he got really mad yesterday night when I called to let him know I was home! He said things like: why you leave? Let me breathe!" I don't know what I did wrong and he won't answer his phone. What should I do? Help!

he's probably not even sure of the source of his own anger right now.....specially if he's saying such contradictory things.....don't contact him for a while and let him mull over his behaviour. let him be the one who explains to you wtf his problem is.

Thanks for your answer! He said I smothered him with my messages and he needed to breathe. I ask him if he still wants to be with me and he did not answer...he was silent for a moment and just said:"why did you leave? I 'm lonely" I love him and I don't want to lose him! I feel that if I stop calling or texting him he will forget about me...I'm so sad right now...

Posted by Gemini85
Thanks for your answer! He said I smothered him with my messages and he needed to breathe. I ask him if he still wants to be with me and he did not answer...he was silent for a moment and just said:"why did you leave? I 'm lonely" I love him and I don't want to lose him! I feel that if I stop calling or texting him he will forget about me...I'm so sad right now...

He may have been hurt because you did not rearrange your life to be with him, and you left— Scorps can do that kind of shit for love, and we forget other peoples' love doesn't go to such EXTREMES

I said to him that since the beginning we planned for me to stay 3 months and that I had to come see my family. At the airport I promised him to be back as soon as possible...I really don't understand why he doesn't pick up the phone, it's driving me crazy! I texted him:"miss you, good night" but no answer.

Were the "minor moments" usually about you leaving?

Because if they were, then thats the problem.
Emotional responses to not care about being logical. He may know that you had to leave. But he may feel devastated. Scorps are a water, emotional sign. He may need time to collect his feelings before he can become rational again

And when I'm devastated, I want to be alone until I work it out. I tend to lash out at the person who devastated me even when I KNOW that it wasn't really their fault but circumstances beyond their control. I do not want to do that, so I don't interact until I work through it

He usually gets mad if I ask about his feelings...he says they're "private". Once he told me:"why are you so good to me?" And said I love you do I know he cares but I don't get why he just ignores me now...I will try not to call him but I feel devastated.

Posted by Gemini85
He usually gets mad if I ask about his feelings...he says they're "private". Once he told me:"why are you so good to me?" And said I love you do I know he cares but I don't get why he just ignores me now...I will try not to call him but I feel devastated.

Yeah, it must suck to be an air sign and have to deal with all the emo of a water sign. Yes, he probably has very raw emotions right now, Anytime you see a scorp acting that irrational, its because they are trying to reign in a bunch of emotions. And no, we don't really want the other person to know because we know that the feelings are illogical. Scorps usually have an analytical mind as well, and we usually want our logical side to prevail when engaging another person, not our emo side. The emotional side can be like trying to put up a Kracken on the loose, and we don't want to hurt someone we love with it, so we seek solicitude or a distraction til we put it up. It usually hurts the other person anyway 😢

It will probably be ok soon

He said things like: why you leave? Let me breathe!"

He said I smothered him with my messages and he needed to breathe. I ask him if he still wants to be with me and he did not answer...he was silent for a moment and just said:"why did you leave? I 'm lonely"

Sounds like borderline personality disorder.

Yeah, I have kind of thought that unevolved scorps do display behavior like BPD. That black and white thinking, all or nothing attitude, valuing then suddenly devaluing a person, obsessiveness, etc

Yes, he said that maybe I was calling him because I was suspicious he was going something wrong...I answered that I just miss him terribly. He also said:"you're with your family and I'm alone" I felt he was accusing me of being happy while he was suffering but he doesn't tell me upfront. I ask him directly if he wanted me back soon but had no answer. I'm dying to call him.

I was supposed to go back in a few weeks but I don't know if he still wants me there! I'm dying. Should I just wait? Scorpions take the initiative when they're ready? I was even thinking of just take the next flight there! Thanks for all you replies I really appreciate your help!

I did ask him last time we spoke but he didn't answer...I'm going crazy! I haven't call but I'm about to give up...

Posted by Gemini85

We live in different countries ....

What should I do?

Find a local partner. To like him equals nothing in value if this like makes you not like any paths along the road.

Whether you did anything wrong or not, whether he's being a dick or not, whether you're being a doormat or not ... none of that matters ... the only thing that matters is that you are here, emotionally not happy.

And it doesn't get any better. He is who he is, you are who you are - niether will change, nor are you suppose to.

What you are suppose to do is be with a person that is good for your life - not fight to keep a crappy relationship that is long distance because all LDR's are crappy due to the fact that this person isn't there when needed.


Or, you can just continue being unhappy and call it love ... why not? That's what every other woman does when she's fucking miserable. She calls it love and then sticks her head further into the sand, then comes in here and blames it on the guy, so she doesn't have admit she gave her all to guy she never really knew.

Thanks for your reply.

I've been thinking over and over about everything and I feel worse every minute that passes. I just want to talk to him and let him know that I'm here for him, that I love him and that no matter how far we are I'm not going anywhere. I'm sorry to post non stop but its the only way I can express how I feel.

Update: He finally took mi call. He said that he just needed space...he didn't say much and I didn't ask a lot because I don't want to go back to silence. For now I feel ok...at least we are communicating again. I hope he speaks more in the next days so I can understand him better. Thank you all for your help and support.

He is mad at you because according to him you left him lonely.

When mad at someone, scorpio's tend not to speak to that person for a while and sulk by themselves.It serves a dual purpose-
Part a)Gives them alone time to reflect on what is going on in the relationship
Part b)Giving the partner a taste of his/her own medicine-you left me lonely so i will do the same for a while just so you know what longing someone and not having that person feels like.

Part b is a mini punishment of sorts,the scorpio's way of 'getting even'🙂.

I suggest you don't call him for now,text periodically to say hello,don't expect a reply and leave it at that.

Let him know you are there for him without smothering him.

Give him time to process his super complicated tangled up feelings.

When he is ready,he will come back.

Have patience.

Good luck.

Posted by Gemini85

.... I feel worse every minute that passes.

I just want to talk to him and let him know that I'm here for him, that I love him and that no matter how far we are I'm not going anywhere.

Just as I have stated, just as I have stated in dxp and in RL over and again ..... you will commmit yourself to misery and call it love.

so, you've decided to take the road in which leads you to lay down on the ground in front of him and gladly let him walk over you, solely at his discretion ..... so you can hope like hell that he bestows you with value so you can feel good about yourself.


And you obviously believe with all your heart that this is love.



sobeit .... suffer as you wish