cornflower2
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How do you deal with long distance relationships?
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I had a long distance relationship once and it was hard! We skyped a lot, played video games every day, and at the time, Xbox had Netflix parties so we could watch the same tv show together. But even all of that got boring after awhile, especially when you'd rather go out somewhere special together.
If you're planning on moving, do it sooner than later!
If you're planning on moving, do it sooner than later!
Well, we agreed on spending one week vacation together, starting in 2 weeks. So that instead of seeing each other only every 2-3 weeks over the weekend, we can spend more time together and get to know each other...
I was really looking forward to this and I love this feeling of sweet anticipation. But again, he acts confusing for me. So far he hasn't even asked his boss for this time off, telling me, he just forgot due to a lot of work...
It makes me wary again...
I was really looking forward to this and I love this feeling of sweet anticipation. But again, he acts confusing for me. So far he hasn't even asked his boss for this time off, telling me, he just forgot due to a lot of work...
It makes me wary again...
@tiziani That is exactly what I wish for and I even asked him to make such plans with me.
But he never does. He waits until I get all worked up again, feeling depressed, wanting to end things because I haven't seen him for 2-3 weeks.... Then he tells me thursday, that he'll visit me the next day.
How can I get him to be more committed, making plans with me?
Also he is the one that send texts a lot. I hate texting! And he always wants to hear sweet love confessions from me, but once I give them to him, he gets bored or at least acts like it. WTF—?
But he never does. He waits until I get all worked up again, feeling depressed, wanting to end things because I haven't seen him for 2-3 weeks.... Then he tells me thursday, that he'll visit me the next day.
How can I get him to be more committed, making plans with me?
Also he is the one that send texts a lot. I hate texting! And he always wants to hear sweet love confessions from me, but once I give them to him, he gets bored or at least acts like it. WTF—?
@Ellycakes.
I met him in April this year, while I was on vacation close to the eastern sea. So things are still new between us, but already very rocky... Met him via an online site.
I told me he loves me very early on. That made me suspicious, because he says this love you stuff alot, that I'm his dream woman and so on. But he never makes concrete plans to meet or to take things further...
He says I'm his girlfriend, but is still in contact with his ex. Them, just being friends (his words...)
I met him in April this year, while I was on vacation close to the eastern sea. So things are still new between us, but already very rocky... Met him via an online site.
I told me he loves me very early on. That made me suspicious, because he says this love you stuff alot, that I'm his dream woman and so on. But he never makes concrete plans to meet or to take things further...
He says I'm his girlfriend, but is still in contact with his ex. Them, just being friends (his words...)
@Vixen2 Unfortunately he hates routine, he hates it when I want to make plans or set times for talking on the the phone. We do not skype, just phone and text, although I hate texting so much...
When we're together we have so much in common and he treats me really nice. But once he's gone longer than 3 days, he's like a stranger to me. He only talks about him and his job or his friends or platonic girlfriends on the phone, never asks about me or how my day was. Very strange....and it drains me...
When we're together we have so much in common and he treats me really nice. But once he's gone longer than 3 days, he's like a stranger to me. He only talks about him and his job or his friends or platonic girlfriends on the phone, never asks about me or how my day was. Very strange....and it drains me...
Posted by HiHiSame for me, I would travel everywhere for true love, even move to a different city for the right guy.
If it's really love distance shouldn't matter. I'll travel anywhere
But right now I'm not sure if he's good for me. Love should make you stronger and not eat you up, making you feel alone...
Posted by HiHiThanks :-) I'll try to be more patient. Not all peaple love the same way... I guess I'll give him some space over the next days, and see if he'll confirm our planned vacation. Then decide from there...Posted by cornflower2I know but it's like you want it to work. Just have faith I guess. That's all I can sayPosted by HiHiSame for me, I would travel everywhere for true love, even move to a different city for the right guy.
If it's really love distance shouldn't matter. I'll travel anywhere
But right now I'm not sure if he's good for me. Love should make you stronger and not eat you up, making you feel alone...click to expand
Posted by KoniuchaaIn the beginning he always where I wanted to live, since I currently look for a new job and want to move as well. He said, when I want to come and live near him that's okay, but if I want to stay in my city, he'd look for a job there, to be with me... But that was in the first 4 weeks of our dating. Now he rarely speaks of this...And I have to agree with you, I do not feel like he puts a lot of effort into the relationships
Are you planning on eventually living close to each other?
Sorry, but after reading what you wrote, it doesn't sound good to me. I wouldn't be ok with him being in contact with an ex, unless they have a child together. Just doesn't sound like he is putting in much effort.
His Ex was also a Scorpio, he was obsessed with her, they were together 6 months only, seeing each other every 2 weeks. He told me he had to get psychological help after the breake-up with her (that was this February)
He has some Pisces in the chart?
Hmmm.. Anyway - really sounds he is not ready what you're looking for.
No matter how busy someone's life is, they'll find a way to be involved with their loved ones. Everybody will agree with that.
If this cold-hot swinging last months and months, you should probably move on.
You know, if you one day VERY resolutely tell him you are done because .... .... and ...., he might finally understand what he is loosing. But don't give in right after that.. Let him live without you for a while 😉
Hmmm.. Anyway - really sounds he is not ready what you're looking for.
No matter how busy someone's life is, they'll find a way to be involved with their loved ones. Everybody will agree with that.
If this cold-hot swinging last months and months, you should probably move on.
You know, if you one day VERY resolutely tell him you are done because .... .... and ...., he might finally understand what he is loosing. But don't give in right after that.. Let him live without you for a while 😉
Tch.. I've never been in any relationship, but just thinking about LDR makes me depressed ☹
OP, do you meet once in a while?
OP, do you meet once in a while?
Posted by kaseke9Yes, he is a Pisces and according to cafe astrology we're no good match at all. But I wanted to meet him for the person he is, not getting distracted by his astrology chart. Unfortunately astrology seems to be right...
He has some Pisces in the chart?
Hmmm.. Anyway - really sounds he is not ready what you're looking for.
No matter how busy someone's life is, they'll find a way to be involved with their loved ones. Everybody will agree with that.
If this cold-hot swinging last months and months, you should probably move on.
You know, if you one day VERY resolutely tell him you are done because .... .... and ...., he might finally understand what he is loosing. But don't give in right after that.. Let him live without you for a while 😉
Here are our charts:
Him: Pisces Sun, Moon Virgo, Venus Aquarius, Mars Capricorn, Asc. Aquarius
Me: Scorpio Sun, Moon Aries, Venus Libra, Mars Scorpio, asc. Capricorn
Maybe someone can give me more insight about our constellation or how this guy ticks? Truly appreciated :-)
Posted by ElleDuMondeYes, that's him. I broke up with him even more than once, cause of his hot and cold behaviour. But he faught for me and I made the mistake in believing his words. So last weekend we saw each other again, everything was fine, but now he is back to being cold and distant again and I feel like a fool...
didn't you break up with him about a month ago?
I guess trying to find true love is hard, sometimes I think it's best to stay single 😢
UPDATE: I tried to be patient and not ask about our planned vacation, starting August 1st. But yesterday he told me on the phone that from 08/07-08/17/16 two girls (friends of him) are coming to stay with him, and he hopes this is okay with me. Furthermore he will visit his Mom this weekend. No words about our plans or spending time together. I just thought WTF—
So I couldn’t hold my tongue any longer and confronted him, asked him what he wants from our so called relationship and what about our vacation...
He became wishy washy again, saying he can’t confirm at the moment, due to stress with a new project at work. His last weeks excuse was, that his boss wasn’t there to sign his vacation request, now it’s a new project… When I tell him that I need us to make plans and know when we’re gonna spend time together, he says “I could see you every weekend”. But he never does, nor does he ask me for a specific date or weekend. Instead he tells me about his plans to meet his mum or other people. And when I try to discuss my feelings with him, he always makes me feel like I’m the one complaining all the time, when he is the good guy texting me everyday that he loves me. But this whole thing feels so weird and so wrong to me. I believe in actions not words. Right now I feel so sad…I know I probably need to move on, but I’m kind of stuck in this toxic situation.
@tiziani, @Koniuchaa, @LeDominoes, @Ellycakes and all the others: I would love some helpful advice from you guys :-)
So I couldn’t hold my tongue any longer and confronted him, asked him what he wants from our so called relationship and what about our vacation...
He became wishy washy again, saying he can’t confirm at the moment, due to stress with a new project at work. His last weeks excuse was, that his boss wasn’t there to sign his vacation request, now it’s a new project… When I tell him that I need us to make plans and know when we’re gonna spend time together, he says “I could see you every weekend”. But he never does, nor does he ask me for a specific date or weekend. Instead he tells me about his plans to meet his mum or other people. And when I try to discuss my feelings with him, he always makes me feel like I’m the one complaining all the time, when he is the good guy texting me everyday that he loves me. But this whole thing feels so weird and so wrong to me. I believe in actions not words. Right now I feel so sad…I know I probably need to move on, but I’m kind of stuck in this toxic situation.
@tiziani, @Koniuchaa, @LeDominoes, @Ellycakes and all the others: I would love some helpful advice from you guys :-)
@tiziani Yes, I tried several times to explain to him nicely, that I have feelings for him and that it's really important to me that we both try to build a relationship, I told him I'm a person that needs closeness and being together, so that we can eventually get to know each other better and feel the other person. He just listened, than he said" I know what you're saying, I want the same" But after these talks he's always back to making no plans at all...
My gut tells me he's stringing me along and that I'm just a convienient distraction. It still hurtst that people play with our hearts and emotions so carelessly...
I'll try to become my old strong Scorpio me again.
I'll try to become my old strong Scorpio me again.
Posted by leowwwThanx for your kind support, that really helps me today while I feel so down :-)Posted by cornflower2*hugs* thats because you know you deserve better, stay strong scorpio!!
My gut tells me he's stringing me along and that I'm just a convienient distraction. It still hurtst that people play with our hearts and emotions so carelessly...
I'll try to become my old strong Scorpio me again.
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@starlover I agree with you. Waiting for something that might never happen is wrong.
Right now he is texting me, like these arguments we had yesterday never happened, but no words about meeting up with me. That makes me feel even more foolish and my Scorpio soul whsipers to me: 'Let him go!'
Right now he is texting me, like these arguments we had yesterday never happened, but no words about meeting up with me. That makes me feel even more foolish and my Scorpio soul whsipers to me: 'Let him go!'
Posted by starloverI agree, it doesn't get easier...to end relationships.Posted by cornflower2Yes you know what you have to do < 3
@starlover I agree with you. Waiting for something that might never happen is wrong.
Right now he is texting me, like these arguments we had yesterday never happened, but no words about meeting up with me. That makes me feel even more foolish and my Scorpio soul whsipers to me: 'Let him go!'
I did it five times....it doesn't get easier but we do learn .... eventually
You know you deserve more and you do know that Scorpio women attract aloof men? I believe they come to us for a slice of the passion...click to expand
All I want is to attract a strong man with a reliable, warm personality. But I mostly attract these elusive or aloof characters, like you stated. Do you know why we Scorpios almost never get the strong, good guys? Are we too strong and independent for them?
Posted by starloverI don't even attract those venuses,
This could help you make up your mind.....
~ (does this sound like a love style that Scorp women would like....*may not like to commit*) ~
Men: Venus in Aquarius
May prefer unorthodox partners or unconventional friends and relationships May have a lot of weird relationships that appear out of the blue and go to really unexpected places. May prefer really cool but nerdy girls like someone who is really sexy but knows a lot about science. May not like to commit, may prefer open or non-traditional relationships. May love to invent things. May be really into science and technology. May relax by doing something weird or unorthodox, may have really weird interests and hobbies
maybe it's because of OP's mars and moon? and her houses?
Demi Moore always attracted and married not only Aqua venus men but stelliums there too. I wondered why, and I saw her venus scorpio in the 8th house along with a stellium.
http://www.astrotheme.com/astrology/Demi_Moore
but it could be the combination of her Leo Mars (leo is attracted to the opposite) and Saturn Aquarius. And Midheaven Sagittarius.
she wants the same types.
Posted by AdmirallolPosted by cornflower2Like this?Posted by starloverI agree, it doesn't get easier...to end relationships.Posted by cornflower2Yes you know what you have to do < 3
@starlover I agree with you. Waiting for something that might never happen is wrong.
Right now he is texting me, like these arguments we had yesterday never happened, but no words about meeting up with me. That makes me feel even more foolish and my Scorpio soul whsipers to me: 'Let him go!'
I did it five times....it doesn't get easier but we do learn .... eventually
You know you deserve more and you do know that Scorpio women attract aloof men? I believe they come to us for a slice of the passion...
All I want is to attract a strong man with a reliable, warm personality. But I mostly attract these elusive or aloof characters, like you stated. Do you know why we Scorpios almost never get the strong, good guys? Are we too strong and independent for them?
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Posted by starloverWow this is so on i, Thanks so much! I'e read something about Venus in Aqua before, but this hits it on the head even more. He does Apnoe diving for a hobby (besides ten other hobbies) and always looks for new weird challenges. His former girlfriend (who dumped him) was a teacher, according to his words she had a very cool, icy personality and always lectured him about his looks and how he should behave. I guess he needs someone like that.
This could help you make up your mind.....
~ (does this sound like a love style that Scorp women would like....*may not like to commit*) ~
Men: Venus in Aquarius
May prefer unorthodox partners or unconventional friends and relationships May have a lot of weird relationships that appear out of the blue and go to really unexpected places. May prefer really cool but nerdy girls like someone who is really sexy but knows a lot about science. May not like to commit, may prefer open or non-traditional relationships. May love to invent things. May be really into science and technology. May relax by doing something weird or unorthodox, may have really weird interests and hobbies
For me this would be a total turn off. I am warm, can be sexy with the right guy and prefer my relationship to be close and intimate.
maybe because you are super duper smart, OP.
aquarius venus men also love brainy gals.
edit - Gordon levitt, ok he's aqua sun but he's also aqua venus, he married finally to a brainy gal. (some software genius. I don't attract aqua venus men at all, cause I just don't do brainy work ect.
aquarius venus men also love brainy gals.
edit - Gordon levitt, ok he's aqua sun but he's also aqua venus, he married finally to a brainy gal. (some software genius. I don't attract aqua venus men at all, cause I just don't do brainy work ect.
Posted by lisabethur8
maybe because you are super duper smart, OP.
aquarius venus men also love brainy gals.
LOL Yeah he always says he likes that I'm so smart and that he loves my dry, witty humor. But sometimes I found myself wondering, if maybe after spending more time with him, I would realize, that he might be too superficial for me. I guess we're not compatible in regards of emotions and relationship goals
Posted by cornflower2Posted by lisabethur8
maybe because you are super duper smart, OP.
aquarius venus men also love brainy gals.
LOL Yeah he always says he likes that I'm so smart and that he loves my dry, witty humor. But sometimes I found myself wondering, if maybe after spending more time with him, I would realize, that he might be too superficial for me. I guess we're not compatible in regards of emotions and relationship goals
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you have libra venus though, that is compatible with aqua venus.
from his chart, it sounds like he is the super shy type and you have to do the pursuing.
Posted by LeDominoesThanks for your honesty. I thought about your words and yes, I do like exclusive attention. I like it when a man gives me the feeling he's only interested in me and that I'm the one. In our case he's only texting his love for me and how he misses me almost every day while he's at work. On the weekeends when he does his stuff, I hardly hear from him and when he writes, the tone is much cooler, no love words anymore. He never commits to a date or plan to me.Posted by cornflower2I think you may enjoy the "opposite" of you and the amount of, what appears to be, exclusive attention. Once that is lost, you expect more but life or other things get in the way. That's what I notice with most Scorps I've known (except my male buddies). We end up doing the chasing while you tend to stay in their safe place, expecting the other to do the hard work. I just find it something all scorps go through in life and need to learn. Some of my male friends do the same.Posted by starloverI agree, it doesn't get easier...to end relationships.Posted by cornflower2Yes you know what you have to do < 3
@starlover I agree with you. Waiting for something that might never happen is wrong.
Right now he is texting me, like these arguments we had yesterday never happened, but no words about meeting up with me. That makes me feel even more foolish and my Scorpio soul whsipers to me: 'Let him go!'
I did it five times....it doesn't get easier but we do learn .... eventually
You know you deserve more and you do know that Scorpio women attract aloof men? I believe they come to us for a slice of the passion...
All I want is to attract a strong man with a reliable, warm personality. But I mostly attract these elusive or aloof characters, like you stated. Do you know why we Scorpios almost never get the strong, good guys? Are we too strong and independent for them?
I just woke up (thunderstorm) and I hope you don't take it insulting. Could this be the case with you? Though, I have to admit, it doesn't sound like he is much of a catch to begin with, so chasing him (which would help bridge the gap in the LDR) is insensible.click to expand
Me on the contrary, I don't like this texting so much. I could go 2-3 days without and rather prefer a long intimate phone talk instead. Also, I do not need to hear the I love you words so early on in a relationship. But I show him I like him a lot when we meet, tell him nice things when we're together and try to create a nice weekend program whenever he visited me. In short I would say, he's in love while texting, I'm trying to be in love while being actually together with someone
Posted by busyeyes88His former relationship ended on Valentines Day this year, we met in April. I told him right in the beginning, that I think he needs more time to heal and that I do not want to be some kind of consolation for him. He said, I'm not...but see how this worked out 😢Posted by cornflower2All the Scorps I know are emotionally deep and very clingy..Posted by starloverI agree, it doesn't get easier...to end relationships.Posted by cornflower2Yes you know what you have to do < 3
@starlover I agree with you. Waiting for something that might never happen is wrong.
Right now he is texting me, like these arguments we had yesterday never happened, but no words about meeting up with me. That makes me feel even more foolish and my Scorpio soul whsipers to me: 'Let him go!'
I did it five times....it doesn't get easier but we do learn .... eventually
You know you deserve more and you do know that Scorpio women attract aloof men? I believe they come to us for a slice of the passion...
All I want is to attract a strong man with a reliable, warm personality. But I mostly attract these elusive or aloof characters, like you stated. Do you know why we Scorpios almost never get the strong, good guys? Are we too strong and independent for them?
You said he was obsessed with his scorp ex. who he had a relationship with for six months and they split up. How soon did he start going out with you since the split with the ex?
There is usually an "obvious" time frame from a relationship ending to being emotionally healed and stable to start a new relationship. So if there was not enough time for him to emotionally heal from the split with his ex to when he met you, then it's obvious that you are just the "rebound"?!
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Posted by starloverhm I don't know about that. why would he put effort into the relationship for so long and then shy away?Posted by lisabethur8I don't get that he is just shy, just detached and even kind of playing some headgames with her (albeit that it could be on an unconscious level)?Posted by cornflower2Posted by lisabethur8
maybe because you are super duper smart, OP.
aquarius venus men also love brainy gals.
LOL Yeah he always says he likes that I'm so smart and that he loves my dry, witty humor. But sometimes I found myself wondering, if maybe after spending more time with him, I would realize, that he might be too superficial for me. I guess we're not compatible in regards of emotions and relationship goals
you have libra venus though, that is compatible with aqua venus.
from his chart, it sounds like he is the super shy type and you have to do the pursuing.
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maybe financially he is not in the right place??
a lot of men don't go forward unless they are happily financially set.
and with those key earth placements, he is very very slow. and money and career and being financially well off is going to be on his mind if he is thinking serious.
Posted by starloverEverything I've read about Aqua Venus does not relate to me and my kind of personality. When I read about his charts in the beginning of our dating I thought to myself "That's not the right partner for me" but then he starting his constant love texting things for weeks and after a while I thought, maybe astrology is wrong...Posted by lisabethur8How can libra venus be compatible with an Aqua Venus though? Just because they are trine, and there may be some common ground, it still doesn't get away from the fact that romantic libra venus will not feel connected to the cold and detached aqua venusPosted by cornflower2Posted by lisabethur8
maybe because you are super duper smart, OP.
aquarius venus men also love brainy gals.
LOL Yeah he always says he likes that I'm so smart and that he loves my dry, witty humor. But sometimes I found myself wondering, if maybe after spending more time with him, I would realize, that he might be too superficial for me. I guess we're not compatible in regards of emotions and relationship goals
you have libra venus though, that is compatible with aqua venus.
from his chart, it sounds like he is the super shy type and you have to do the pursuing.
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Posted by starloverPosted by lisabethur8How can libra venus be compatible with an Aqua Venus though? Just because they are trine, and there may be some common ground, it still doesn't get away from the fact that romantic libra venus will not feel connected to the cold and detached aqua venusPosted by cornflower2Posted by lisabethur8
maybe because you are super duper smart, OP.
aquarius venus men also love brainy gals.
LOL Yeah he always says he likes that I'm so smart and that he loves my dry, witty humor. But sometimes I found myself wondering, if maybe after spending more time with him, I would realize, that he might be too superficial for me. I guess we're not compatible in regards of emotions and relationship goals
you have libra venus though, that is compatible with aqua venus.
from his chart, it sounds like he is the super shy type and you have to do the pursuing.
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the only man I know in real life is our uncle, who is my mother in law's brother. He is Pisces sun, Aqua venus, but he is married to a triple libra (libra sun, moon venus) although she has scorpio mars.
she's super smart and social, her life revolves around social work and caring for the poor, and he loves that!!
so maybe it's just something an aqua venus man loves, about a woman, something she does! that he is Impressed with, deep down and will always want to be by her side. Again, it depends because our uncle has Taurus moon so he is very steady in love and easily commits.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by starloverhm I don't know about that. why would he put effort into the relationship for so long and then shy away?Posted by lisabethur8I don't get that he is just shy, just detached and even kind of playing some headgames with her (albeit that it could be on an unconscious level)?Posted by cornflower2Posted by lisabethur8
maybe because you are super duper smart, OP.
aquarius venus men also love brainy gals.
LOL Yeah he always says he likes that I'm so smart and that he loves my dry, witty humor. But sometimes I found myself wondering, if maybe after spending more time with him, I would realize, that he might be too superficial for me. I guess we're not compatible in regards of emotions and relationship goals
you have libra venus though, that is compatible with aqua venus.
from his chart, it sounds like he is the super shy type and you have to do the pursuing.
maybe financially he is not in the right place??
a lot of men don't go forward unless they are happily financially set.
and with those key earth placements, he is very very slow. and money and career and being financially well off is going to be on his mind if he is thinking serious.click to expand
Thanks for your input! Finances are an issue with us sometimes, cause we live 4,5 hrs apart, so seeing each other only every 2nd weekend is expensive for both of us. Also he has an ex wife and two kids to pay for. But whenever I offered to come to him, so he'd safe gas money and stuff, he backs off and becomes elusive again...Then, whenever I wanted to break up with him due to his cold behavior, he comes and visits me. But only then, when he's afraid of losing me. I do not unterstand this behavhior at all.
maybe some insight on aqua venus man and how he loves.
https://astrolibrary.org/aquarius-in-love/
How to Love Venus in Aquarius
To make your Aquarius lover feel loved, you must first remember that they are an air love sign. This means that they are operating neither on the emotional, nor the physical wave. Their love language is abstract, in the mind, and understood rather than felt. Talking about all subjects is more romantic for them than deep emotional promises and hugs. If you have Venus in Water, perhaps you should move on now before you get hurt.
They enjoy discussing things, including fantasies. Try this: get an adult novel and take turns reading it to each other and acting out the scenes. They’ll enjoy it more if it’s outdoors.
They are not content to sit at home with you, just the two of you. In order to experience love, they need to socialize actively with many people. Be prepared for this. Remember, they need to be shocking someone with your relationship. Plan for this.
They are geeks at heart, so plan trips to the library, science museums, art exhibits, or any place that gives you the chance to discuss something. As gifts, buy them only the newest, most advanced technological gadgets. Never get them an older version of anything.
The single-most important secret to win over an Aquarius lover is to be different from everyone he/she knows. Not just a little different; you must have some shock value. Dye your hair green if you have to. If everyone in your circle is Muslim, be Jewish, or vice versa. If everyone is a vegetarian, have a burger. If everyone is an alcoholic, be the only sober one. You get the picture. Let them know that you appreciate their uniqueness. Never say that you think they’re boring or normal. "
--- to be honest, that sounds crazy. lol
https://astrolibrary.org/aquarius-in-love/
How to Love Venus in Aquarius
To make your Aquarius lover feel loved, you must first remember that they are an air love sign. This means that they are operating neither on the emotional, nor the physical wave. Their love language is abstract, in the mind, and understood rather than felt. Talking about all subjects is more romantic for them than deep emotional promises and hugs. If you have Venus in Water, perhaps you should move on now before you get hurt.
They enjoy discussing things, including fantasies. Try this: get an adult novel and take turns reading it to each other and acting out the scenes. They’ll enjoy it more if it’s outdoors.
They are not content to sit at home with you, just the two of you. In order to experience love, they need to socialize actively with many people. Be prepared for this. Remember, they need to be shocking someone with your relationship. Plan for this.
They are geeks at heart, so plan trips to the library, science museums, art exhibits, or any place that gives you the chance to discuss something. As gifts, buy them only the newest, most advanced technological gadgets. Never get them an older version of anything.
The single-most important secret to win over an Aquarius lover is to be different from everyone he/she knows. Not just a little different; you must have some shock value. Dye your hair green if you have to. If everyone in your circle is Muslim, be Jewish, or vice versa. If everyone is a vegetarian, have a burger. If everyone is an alcoholic, be the only sober one. You get the picture. Let them know that you appreciate their uniqueness. Never say that you think they’re boring or normal. "
--- to be honest, that sounds crazy. lol
Posted by cornflower2Posted by lisabethur8Posted by starloverhm I don't know about that. why would he put effort into the relationship for so long and then shy away?Posted by lisabethur8I don't get that he is just shy, just detached and even kind of playing some headgames with her (albeit that it could be on an unconscious level)?Posted by cornflower2Posted by lisabethur8
maybe because you are super duper smart, OP.
aquarius venus men also love brainy gals.
LOL Yeah he always says he likes that I'm so smart and that he loves my dry, witty humor. But sometimes I found myself wondering, if maybe after spending more time with him, I would realize, that he might be too superficial for me. I guess we're not compatible in regards of emotions and relationship goals
you have libra venus though, that is compatible with aqua venus.
from his chart, it sounds like he is the super shy type and you have to do the pursuing.
maybe financially he is not in the right place??
a lot of men don't go forward unless they are happily financially set.
and with those key earth placements, he is very very slow. and money and career and being financially well off is going to be on his mind if he is thinking serious.
Thanks for your input! Finances are an issue with us sometimes, cause we live 4,5 hrs apart, so seeing each other only every 2nd weekend is expensive for both of us. Also he has an ex wife and two kids to pay for. But whenever I offered to come to him, so he'd safe gas money and stuff, he backs off and becomes elusive again...Then, whenever I wanted to break up with him due to his cold behavior, he comes and visits me. But only then, when he's afraid of losing me. I do not unterstand this behavhior at all.
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aw that is something else. no wonder. he has a lot of burden to take care of first. its gonna be hard, but if you want to be in for the long haul, it takes time and patience and may take YEARS. youre gonna have to have patience if you know of course he wants you in his life.
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maybe some insight on aqua venus man and how he loves.
https://astrolibrary.org/aquarius-in-love/
How to Love Venus in Aquarius
To make your Aquarius lover feel loved, you must first remember that they are an air love sign. This means that they are operating neither on the emotional, nor the physical wave. Their love language is abstract, in the mind, and understood rather than felt. Talking about all subjects is more romantic for them than deep emotional promises and hugs. If you have Venus in Water, perhaps you should move on now before you get hurt.
They enjoy discussing things, including fantasies. Try this: get an adult novel and take turns reading it to each other and acting out the scenes. They’ll enjoy it more if it’s outdoors.
They are not content to sit at home with you, just the two of you. In order to experience love, they need to socialize actively with many people. Be prepared for this. Remember, they need to be shocking someone with your relationship. Plan for this.
They are geeks at heart, so plan trips to the library, science museums, art exhibits, or any place that gives you the chance to discuss something. As gifts, buy them only the newest, most advanced technological gadgets. Never get them an older version of anything.
The single-most important secret to win over an Aquarius lover is to be different from everyone he/she knows. Not just a little different; you must have some shock value. Dye your hair green if you have to. If everyone in your circle is Muslim, be Jewish, or vice versa. If everyone is a vegetarian, have a burger. If everyone is an alcoholic, be the only sober one. You get the picture. Let them know that you appreciate their uniqueness. Never say that you think they’re boring or normal. "
--- to be honest, that sounds crazy. lol
:-) that cheered me up so much :-) thanks. Who wants someone like that, lol
not saying that his family is a burden, since that's not a good word to apply, but he is NOT free to do as he wishes like a single man with no obligations (his children) so that is something you have to accept. At least understand that he is a responsible man and doesn't want to be apart from his children. Aquarius placements have that sadness personally, where they are apart from loved ones, due to Uranus- unexpected events. It is very sad, so it's good he is with them. in fact you would have to be the one to go to him if you want to sacrifice yourself.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by cornflower2Posted by lisabethur8Posted by starloverhm I don't know about that. why would he put effort into the relationship for so long and then shy away?Posted by lisabethur8I don't get that he is just shy, just detached and even kind of playing some headgames with her (albeit that it could be on an unconscious level)?Posted by cornflower2Posted by lisabethur8
maybe because you are super duper smart, OP.
aquarius venus men also love brainy gals.
LOL Yeah he always says he likes that I'm so smart and that he loves my dry, witty humor. But sometimes I found myself wondering, if maybe after spending more time with him, I would realize, that he might be too superficial for me. I guess we're not compatible in regards of emotions and relationship goals
you have libra venus though, that is compatible with aqua venus.
from his chart, it sounds like he is the super shy type and you have to do the pursuing.
maybe financially he is not in the right place??
a lot of men don't go forward unless they are happily financially set.
and with those key earth placements, he is very very slow. and money and career and being financially well off is going to be on his mind if he is thinking serious.
Thanks for your input! Finances are an issue with us sometimes, cause we live 4,5 hrs apart, so seeing each other only every 2nd weekend is expensive for both of us. Also he has an ex wife and two kids to pay for. But whenever I offered to come to him, so he'd safe gas money and stuff, he backs off and becomes elusive again...Then, whenever I wanted to break up with him due to his cold behavior, he comes and visits me. But only then, when he's afraid of losing me. I do not unterstand this behavhior at all.
aw that is something else. no wonder. he has a lot of burden to take care of first. its gonna be hard, but if you want to be in for the long haul, it takes time and patience and may take YEARS. youre gonna have to have patience if you know of course he wants you in his life.
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Sorry, I guess my patience thins down by the minute...He doesnt act like he wants me in his life. Right now he sends me cruise ships photos, he can see from his office, stating "it almost feels like vacation, but I'm sitting on the wrong side". Talking aboout his vacation...WTF, he is so mocking my feelings. I need to get out!
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not saying that his family is a burden, since that's not a good word to apply, but he is NOT free to do as he wishes like a single man with no obligations (his children) so that is something you have to accept. At least understand that he is a responsible man and doesn't want to be apart from his children. Aquarius placements have that sadness personally, where they are apart from loved ones, due to Uranus- unexpected events. It is very sad, so it's good he is with them. in fact you would have to be the one to go to him if you want to sacrifice yourself.
His daughters live with his ex wife in another city (8 hours from him) and he only sees them during their school vacation. He seems kind of close with the youngest, but not so with the other.
oh he's dreaming!!! what his heart desires. to get away on a cruise with you, just once. aw that's so sweet.
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If you finish it, do it with grace and honesty.....tell him this isn't right for you and you will be moving on and try not to do it bitterly......but be strong if you can. He may be clueless as to why you are feeling the way you are so explain, then let go
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I did exactly that when I broke up with him before, I explained my reasons, stayed calm and friendly. But this only lead to him trying to manipulate me in taking him back. He cried on the phone, said he doesn't understand etc. Then later on he bombarded me with texts about how dreadful and fucked up his life is and that he needs me...all that butter...he calls non stop and honestly I do not want to go through this again, risking in taking him back out of whatever reasons...
I just want to find my inner peace and for him to leave me alone. Wouldn't it be best, to just send him a short goodbye text tomorrow and than block him on my phone? Otherwise this vicious circle repeats itself...
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oh he's dreaming!!! what his heart desires. to get away on a cruise with you, just once. aw that's so sweet.
No, you got it worng: He wrote, that he is sitting on the wrong side. He only talks about him and how he likes to be on that ship. He never mentions me at all!!!!!!
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It is probably all words OP
Move forward.....
YUP! I know, that's the only solution! Thanks again so much for your time and emotional support. I really appreciate it and it helped me a lot today :-)
Posted by starloverI hug you for this big time! Thanks for being a Scorpio friend in my time of needs :-)
I couldn't resist asking the fairy cards what you need to do regarding this matter ~
*Feeling Safe*
and
*Detoxification*
They are very self explanatory, aren't they? Do what brings you safety and get rid of the toxic stuff in your life
🙂
x
Posted by tizianiI don't demonise him and agree with you: him and me are on two very different levels in regards of communication, emotions, values. But his statement about this cruise ship photo and that he would love to be on it for "his" vacation" had no deeper meaning in my opinion. He even send a lame cartoon after that about two guys in the cafeteria talking about food and one is eating his tray...
I don't think it's necessary to demonise this man. At the end of the day, it just sounds like you two genuinely don't communicate on the same level. His last message strikes me as a very vulnerable, yet also a downer. It's no fun to have something just open up to you on their emotions from a distance without any plans, although ironic that you dismissed the very real depth in his message because you couldn't see your place in it. Simply put: miscommunication. A natural result of long-distance and not being able to learn one another's habits/quirks in person.
We talked 1 hour last night about our vacation "problem" and he made no effort to find a solution just put me off, cause he has a new project at work. At the same time he tells me that he has invited two girls to stay at his house for vacation, coming up August 7. Sorry but that is no good communication and most of all has nothing to do with working on a building a healthy, loving relationship with me. But I really appreciate your support today @tiziani. Thanks a lot!
Posted by cornflower2well I have experience with pisces sun men...Posted by lisabethur8
oh he's dreaming!!! what his heart desires. to get away on a cruise with you, just once. aw that's so sweet.
No, you got it worng: He wrote, that he is sitting on the wrong side. He only talks about him and how he likes to be on that ship. He never mentions me at all!!!!!!
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and to be honest, they do do that...and yes you are included in the picture.
they would never do it alone, that is the romance of it.
Posted by tizianithat's what I think too...
I don't think it's necessary to demonise this man. At the end of the day, it just sounds like you two genuinely don't communicate on the same level. His last message strikes me as a very vulnerable, yet also a downer. It's no fun to have something just open up to you on their emotions from a distance without any plans, although ironic that you dismissed the very real depth in his message because you couldn't see your place in it. Simply put: miscommunication. A natural result of long-distance and not being able to learn one another's habits/quirks in person.
maybe you understood him because you have virgo to his virgo moon and trine his Capricorn and he is a man?
he doesn't have any plans short term to be with you, OP, because it's just not possible.
but you are impatient. you want it now. and you are wearing thin.
you have to go to him, I tell you to be with him.
My husband's cousin did this, but unfortunately it was to the wrong man, early in life. where she ran off to Austrailia and New Zealand to be close to the man she loves who is with another woman. in your case, there is no other woman.
edit - and yes she is a scorpio sun, with a scorpio stellium, cancer moon.
It's only easy if i am love with you. Because then my love knows no limit and I'd do anything for you. Including going long periods without seeing you physically..
I tried it once with a military guy but, my heart wasn't fully there. I never cheated, but I was unhappy and wasn't determined or motivated to continue.
I tried it once with a military guy but, my heart wasn't fully there. I never cheated, but I was unhappy and wasn't determined or motivated to continue.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by starloverPosted by lisabethur8How can libra venus be compatible with an Aqua Venus though? Just because they are trine, and there may be some common ground, it still doesn't get away from the fact that romantic libra venus will not feel connected to the cold and detached aqua venusPosted by cornflower2Posted by lisabethur8
maybe because you are super duper smart, OP.
aquarius venus men also love brainy gals.
LOL Yeah he always says he likes that I'm so smart and that he loves my dry, witty humor. But sometimes I found myself wondering, if maybe after spending more time with him, I would realize, that he might be too superficial for me. I guess we're not compatible in regards of emotions and relationship goals
you have libra venus though, that is compatible with aqua venus.
from his chart, it sounds like he is the super shy type and you have to do the pursuing.
the only man I know in real life is our uncle, who is my mother in law's brother. He is Pisces sun, Aqua venus, but he is married to a triple libra (libra sun, moon venus) although she has scorpio mars.
she's super smart and social, her life revolves around social work and caring for the poor, and he loves that!!
so maybe it's just something an aqua venus man loves, about a woman, something she does! that he is Impressed with, deep down and will always want to be by her side. Again, it depends because our uncle has Taurus moon so he is very steady in love and easily commits.
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I think I was married to your uncle! Pisces sun, taurus moon, aqua venus! 😄
Posted by LeDominoesThank you for your kind advice, I'll try an loosen myself from his grip on me and hope to learn from this, even if all I'm feeling right now is pain and sadness. And please (@LeDominoes) do not get into useless arguments on my behalf with some users on here who just seem to twist the facts... It's not worth your good energy :-)Posted by cornflower2And you want to be with this guy? Please think higher of yourself.Posted by tizianiI don't demonise him and agree with you: him and me are on two very different levels in regards of communication, emotions, values. But his statement about this cruise ship photo and that he would love to be on it for "his" vacation" had no deeper meaning in my opinion. He even send a lame cartoon after that about two guys in the cafeteria talking about food and one is eating his tray...
I don't think it's necessary to demonise this man. At the end of the day, it just sounds like you two genuinely don't communicate on the same level. His last message strikes me as a very vulnerable, yet also a downer. It's no fun to have something just open up to you on their emotions from a distance without any plans, although ironic that you dismissed the very real depth in his message because you couldn't see your place in it. Simply put: miscommunication. A natural result of long-distance and not being able to learn one another's habits/quirks in person.
We talked 1 hour last night about our vacation "problem" and he made no effort to find a solution just put me off, cause he has a new project at work. At the same time he tells me that he has invited two girls to stay at his house for vacation, coming up August 7. Sorry but that is no good communication and most of all has nothing to do with working on a building a healthy, loving relationship with me. But I really appreciate your support today @tiziani. Thanks a lot!
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Posted by SomeSortOfMermaidSorry but you do not seem get the situation at all. He was the one who told me he loved me very early on, but he mostly does this through texting and never makes time for me in real life. He also was the one who wanted to spend 1 or 2 weeks vacation with me this august. Then I make time for him and he says, he will ask his boss for the time off, but he never does...
People move at different paces and if you can't respect him taking things slow he's not for you. That does not make him a bad man at all, just different from you.
The way you talk about him shows zero respect towards him, and I'm sure he senses this in your communication too. It's only been a few months and yet you're being so demanding of him. He had a job and children and is financially strapped but rather than sympathise with him you're demonising him.
I'm not trying to make you feel bad, just being honest. As a fellow Aries moon, I think you're focusing way too much on your own feelings/needs and not taking his into consideration.
If he is too slow/casual for you, just move on.
He is the one who always tells me, that he wants to see me every weekend. But when I try to make plans to visit him on the weekend he goes golfing alone! instead, visits other (platonic = his words) girl friends or he is out drinking with some male friends. Still I stayed patient and left him his space...
Whenever we saw each others I paid my share as well, trying to find nice things to do that don't cost a lot. But he is the one who always wants to eat in the most expensive restaurants, where he orders expensive food and drinks for himself while I order just a soup or so. I listen to his job problems or other stuff that bothers him almost every day on the phone, but he never asks how I'm feeling or how my day was.
So honestly, I think I showed him a lot of patience and respect, but I do not get these much from him return...
Posted by TaurusinTexashaha probably different houses and different mars ect.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by starloverPosted by lisabethur8How can libra venus be compatible with an Aqua Venus though? Just because they are trine, and there may be some common ground, it still doesn't get away from the fact that romantic libra venus will not feel connected to the cold and detached aqua venusPosted by cornflower2Posted by lisabethur8
maybe because you are super duper smart, OP.
aquarius venus men also love brainy gals.
LOL Yeah he always says he likes that I'm so smart and that he loves my dry, witty humor. But sometimes I found myself wondering, if maybe after spending more time with him, I would realize, that he might be too superficial for me. I guess we're not compatible in regards of emotions and relationship goals
you have libra venus though, that is compatible with aqua venus.
from his chart, it sounds like he is the super shy type and you have to do the pursuing.
the only man I know in real life is our uncle, who is my mother in law's brother. He is Pisces sun, Aqua venus, but he is married to a triple libra (libra sun, moon venus) although she has scorpio mars.
she's super smart and social, her life revolves around social work and caring for the poor, and he loves that!!
so maybe it's just something an aqua venus man loves, about a woman, something she does! that he is Impressed with, deep down and will always want to be by her side. Again, it depends because our uncle has Taurus moon so he is very steady in love and easily commits.
I think I was married to your uncle! Pisces sun, taurus moon, aqua venus! 😄
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