I thought Scorps were supposed to passionate?

I've been with a scorp many years older than me for about 3 years now and I am so bored. Being a cap-aqua I'm not very good at sharing emotions but when I do he gives little or no response. (won't tell me how he feels) In turn, I close up even more and resort to work related matters. In the beginning of our relationship, I did most of the initiating b/c I was very attracted to him, but it's gotten old and I don't have the time or energy. I've always read about about how sexy and passionate scorps were supposed to be yet he is anything but. i love kissing him during LM time, that's when he kisses best. However, i wish he would be more sexually demanding so I could less feel that i'm doing all the work... Any advice or suggestions— - I'm new here - you guys rock!

You have a reserved one...Don't know what to suggest..Even I would find them a bit boring..I need someone with a bit more fire in their belly!..Maybe talk it out with him..But I don't know if I can see him changing..If thats the way he is, then not a lot you can do about it really. Can't change someone..What attracted you to him in the first place (obviously not his get up and go)

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I've read that the main "danger" of Sco-Cap relationship is boredom factor, which sets in after the first attraction has worn off. Maybe this is what you are experiencing.

Yes good point..

Yes its usually the scorp who gets bored...impatient creatures that we are at times!..

obviously referring to myself here...lol

I started to get bored with my cap-man after juz 1 month. Everything seemed to revolve around his job and he was such a workaholic that it sometimes affected his performance in bed, he could be so absorbed with work-related problems. Most of the time im the one who initiates, and i usually get so frustrated.

Yes this seems to be a recurring thing between scorps and caps...

"Yes this seems to be a recurring thing between scorps and caps..."

I suspect it's a recurring thing between Caps and everyone else.😛

I think that these two are not boring/bored separately, they just get bored with one another.
In life, I noticed that Cappies go best with Virgoes, especially Cap woman-Virgo man. And often Cap men go wonderfully with Pisces women.

LOL @ Yama...be nice

Lubenica..I don't think it applies in all cases...and how could you possibly get bored with a Scorp!..LOL..I think you have to find the right cap..if you find an undercover manic depressive..then you've had it!..

My friend is a Cap (female) with a Virgo male..and she came onto msn last night to talk to me..could tell she was down...she said she's sooooooo bored with her guy..they have only been seeing each other for about 6 months...Told her she needs a Scorp for entertainment purposes...she agreed!

Pisces & Cap? Hmmm..

God Yes! Agreed on Capricorns being boring as all hell!

Not saying they are bad people. But-ugh. I am not even going to get into my experience with these "people".

Let me rephrase that...On second though. Nope. Capricorns are dead damn boring. No-Wait 🙂 Not all of them...but usually I get bored with them. Even my friendships don't last long with these folks.

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Boring.....that is one thing my cap man is not! We have been together 7 years and when we are not in a dispute we are still pretty hot! He does get involved in his own "life" and I tend to get bored hearing about his work, friends, etc. That's when I turn boring because I feel like he doesn't listen to what I have to say. So I just don't talk. I just nod and agree. But when I do decide to open up and talk about what's going on in my life he is an ok listener. I don't know, communication is not our strong area. Fighting and humping is more us. But we are opposite of capri-quari. Scorp girl and cap man. Scorp men are much more quiet. They really suppress their feelings. It's like trying to get into fort knox. Good luck girl! I hope things work out for you two!

As far as the passionate thing, do you think he is emotionally shut down? Did he have a bad relationship prior to you? He might have shut himself off from feeling so he won't be hurt again. Try to talk about subjects HE is passionate about. What does he like? Get on the net and educate yourself on his likes. Fishing, sports, cars, whatever. Then when it's just the two of you, like at dinner time, ask him about his favorite thing. When he finds out you really made an attempt to share his interests you might just see a different man come out.

I agree with notso. If you have always been the initiator in the sex department he might have just settled into that pattern. I don't totally agree with the whole Victoria's Secret shopping spree to get the fire started again. But do little things. Bend over the sink seductively in a thong while you are doing your make-up and tell him how you love it when he touches you. Act subtle. Stare at the hair on his chest and tell him you love the way it feels when it's rubbing on your body.

Is he over 40?

"Scorp men are much more quiet."

The word is "sane", Juwana, "sane."

LOL Yama!!!! They are more emotionally messed up than Scorpio women. They just have an even harder time than us opening up! But sane is not the word I would use. Scorp males and females are both insane. And I love it!!!!

my ex-scorp use to lie there say " do whatver you want with me" talk about a major turn off...we need to do each other or nothing at all....

Thank you all for your comments, they made me think some things over and some made me laugh! I agree about the complacency thing, I guess I started a bad pattern... Yes he is over 40. The funny thing is that sex isn't all that important to me, but I still need attention in that area every now and then - can't believe I'm complaining about it!

Lots of you say that caps are boring, but this is only b/c our primary focus is getting ahead in life. Once we get where we're trying to go, then we can loosen up.

What initially attracted me to him? We met at a wedding (I was depressed at the time over a bad relationship) But first at the rehersal the day before. We both were annoyed b/c the wedding director wasn't doing stuff right. She says okay everybody line up, and then left us and went somewhere else in the church. The wed party was confused, like how are we supposed to line up. I said, well why don't all the men and women line up separately from shortest to tallest and then we'll pair up (this was weird b/c I don't usually speak up - only when I see a problem). My scorp goes, yeah b/c that lady don't know what she's doing...

We didn't speak any more that night really except for getting the wed party in order. Afterwards, I keep feeling him staring at me.

Next day, we didn't speak until the reception. I was coming out of the bathroom and we ran into each other. It was like, you know when you walk in 1 direction and the other goes the same way? (swear he did this on purpose, like he didn't want me to get away) We did this 3 times and he says, wait a minute what's your name? I told him and he says, what are you looking down for, I'm right here. (so I was forced to look into his eyes)... And whoa, when I did - can't explain it - was like he was staring into my soul or something.

We'll later went out to his car to smoke and talk. - After that, I drank and danced, but not with him. - after the reception was over, I was cleaning up. He came to where I was, turned me around and kissed me very long and deeply. It was the best kiss I ever had in my life! I was embarrased and said, hey my aunt and cousin is over there! He said, so and his me again. I said you're going to get me in trouble, he laughed and walked away. But I ended leaving with him that night - been addicted to that kiss ever since... (I know this is long, but I love our hooking up story🙂

sounds romantic...nothing like a powerful kiss....its so hard to find a good kisser

Message posted by: dward417 on 1/5/2007 12:24:16 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.162
my ex-scorp use to lie there say " do whatver you want with me" talk about a major turn off...we need to do each other or nothing at all....

See - that's what i'm talking about - I agree 100% - he just lies there - augghh!

Message posted by: dward417 on 1/5/2007 12:24:16 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.162
my ex-scorp use to lie there say " do whatver you want with me" talk about a major turn off...we need to do each other or nothing at all....

See - that's what i'm talking about - I agree 100% - he just lies there - augghh!

Maybe it is the age thing, then. He got set into his ways, plodding along. Perhaps your relationship ran out of steam. Whatever it is, maybe you should talk to him about your problem.

Maybe it is the age thing, then. He got set into his ways, plodding along. Perhaps your relationship ran out of steam. Whatever it is, maybe you should talk to him about your problem.