For women wondering about scorp men...

ive spent alot of time on here while dating a scorp the last 6 mos. i read the advice and tried to do what was said..be patient, dont react, dont push, and so on...but im realizing thats all silly. no matter what the guy's sign is, he doesnt have the right to treat you like crap. please remember that. i made excuses for my scorp, saying he's untrusting and needs time alone yada yada yada. he seemed to be the typical scorp in so many ways. i used it to excuse his bad behavior. he was born that way! well, theres no excuse for bad behavior. please, please, ladies, remember that. if u want more--u deserve more. if he cant step up, then he doesnt deserve u anyway. just walk away. and when he comes back (and he will, as mine has, twice), if he wont tell u he messed up, walk away again. dont let him play with ur head just because of his sign. dont make my mistake and waste time on a guy who wont call u or spend time with u regularly and who demands total control of the relationship. if it feels wrong, it is. go with ur gut and quit making excuses for him. if youre obsessively reading these boards, grateful when u read about other scorps who misbehave, dont just walk away--run.

(not saying scorps are bad--at all...as a crab, im still hoping to find my ideal scorp match...but i won't let him walk all over me)

"dont let him play with ur head just because of his sign."

Wait, you've let him treat you like crap just because he was born at a certain date?

lol...not treat me like crap..he didnt cheat or anything like that. but i put up with his bossiness, reclusiveness, the way he got mad over small things, because i said oh, a lot of scorps do that...when id stand my ground with other guys or at least ask what was up. i feared the sting too much...lol

Sooo...You didn't even tell him it was bothering you?

not really, which is kind of my point. i tried at first but hed get sarcastic or defensive so id back down, and that wasnt the way to handle it. i dont want others to make my mistakes.

my point was, scorps can be as good or as bad as any other sign. if u wouldnt take it from a pisces, or an aries, or whoever, u shouldnt take it from a scorp...thats all. i was trying to be encouraging. sure, u can consider how he is, and try to work with that, but dont let that go too far.

LOL @ DB...
I am with you on the cancer thing...don't think we are compatible at all..
Capricorn on the other hand..yes..defo

No one should tolerate any sign if they are misbehaving, that is just plain silly.

Scorpios don't have the monopoly on misbehaving, it could be any sign, so one shouldn't be "patient" with any of those. Just a kick in the butt.

I still know the most great matches that are Cancer-Scorp, BUT, the need to be in their thirties/fourties, so grown up and mature.Then, they are unbeatable.
Scorpio-Cap very good, but boring after a while, far too boring and stagnant.

LOL Antibling, that's true...

People on the forum, I have been doing astrology for more then 15 years, 5 out of those professionally (completed London School of Astrology Diploma course in 2001).
I saw the charts of thousands of couples, that's why I make some claims on this forum very confidently. Of course, the whole charts need to be compared, but it is the Sun, Moon and Ascendant that are the most important to match compatibly, other things are just the "backing vocals", so to say.

DB -

You wouldn't be getting along so well with your Gemini if she didn't have at least one strong planetary placement in Cancer. Trust me on this. Geminis and Scorpios are very good short term, but longer term, it is usually the Gemini who flies the coop UNLESS she has some strong Cancer placements there, to hold her emotionally attached to a Scorpio, and to be able to handle the intensity.
I saw many, many charts, and if the Gemini is more pure Gemini, without any water placements in the chart (could be Pisces, too), then forget Scorpio-Gemini pairing. They simply don't understand one another, something is missing. It is lucky that most Geminis, being the sign before the Cancer, usually have some strong Cancer placement, usually Venus, sometimes they are on the cusp (like me), sometimes moon in water or earth sign etc.
As for Scorpio - Capricorn, I saw many successfull couples in these. But often it would happen that the emotional intensity that Scorpio is craving is missing, that deep soulful bond that they crave. But it is stability and goals that usually keep them together.
I have a library of more then 300 astrology books (and growing, this is my passion), but if you want one book that I found irreplacable for synastry, especially for people who don't want too much technical stuff, it would be Linda Goodman's Love Signs. Get it, you won't regret it.
Oh, and yes, Scorpio-Scorpio, great pairing. And very often Scorpio-Aries work well, this is from my observations in practice.

wow Lubenica..you do have a passion for astrology don't you!..I started reading up about astrology as soon as I came onto these boards..my pisces friend used to go on and on about it and it used to annoy me to no end...initially I came on DXP cos I was curious about Caps..(great name for a film eh!) but as i've gone on it has fascinated me...

So you recommend Linda Goodmans? Scorpio and Scorpio good pairing? well I want to buy a good book..I am a bit miffed that some websites are really bad but really want to buy a good astrology book for the ol' bookshelf...I will dash off and buy that if you recommend it..

Christ!..I don't want more options!..I am fine stuck on Scorpio, Cap or Virgo..lol..Don't need more choice...

Ok, well I will go to book shop at lunchtime and see if i can find it...

You have too Cap?

Yes, it is my passion, but I don't base my life on it! Hey, I married a Libra!!!! Yes, he has Venus in Scorpio and is on the Scorpio cusp, and I have Venus in Gemini, and am on the Gemini cusp, but still, he is a Libra!
Astrology is just really usefull for self-understanding and understanding others, that's all.

Yes, as cap said, Love Signs is an awsome book. I've read all the combinations for all signs (takes time for this, it is a massive book), it is so insightfull, deep, humane, it is just a wonderfull book.
Missmorals, I think that you will be blown away when you read it. And read the combos for the people you know, friends, family, it is such fun!

But, as one astrologer said (I am paraphrasing) :"No amount of love will defeat people's selfishness and immaturity, and there is no obstacle that cannot be surpassed by patience, tolerance and love".
So, to love another, regardless of the sign, there needs to be lots of patience, tolerance, selflessness and maturity, so we first need to develop these in ourselves to be able to really love others.

But on the purely astrological basis, there needs to be at least 2/3 of compatibility between the main "triad" Sun, Moon and the Ascendant. Another 1/3 of challenging aspects is actually good to have, as it adds a bit of spice, growth, challenges which is good for the relationship so it doesn't become stagnant.

And before I forget, most Capricorn people I know are blissfully happy with Virgoes.

And I know many Scorpio-Scorpio, it seems that they just understand the emotional dramas that rage in each other, and they love it. They actually feed on it.
Linda Goodman also gives it top marks. But people must be mature, otherwise no compatibility will help, regardless of the signs.
I have to run now, going away for the weekend. Will be back on Sunday.

I actually thought she had something like 4, but I am not sure, read about it long time ago. Well, you are stuck on excellent signs for you, so don't change it 🙂. Bye.

Lubenica: "But people must be mature, otherwise no compatibility will help, regardless of the signs"

Yes very well said...Maturity and selfless...I will buy that book..sounds fab...
Yes Scorpio and scorpio very good but also extremely destructive!

Actually Lubenica..you are right, there was 4..the fourth being Taurus..but kind of gone off that idea now...

I am fine with 2 of my 2 favourite earthlings and one of my own kind..lol

Have a great weekend Lubenica

Thanks a lot, I am just running out of the door.

Yes, destructive it can be, that's why Scorpio's have to get that out of their system before they settle down with someone.

Buy the book, you will love it. Great read, you will be reaching for it over and over again. And you will learn so much about other sign's psychology.

For istance, if you are interested in a Scorpio, read his relationship with all other signs, because she uncovers bits and pieces of a Scorpio in every combination. And of course, read for yourself all combos (because she writes separatelly about getting along between the signs regarding the gender, so Scorpio-woman Taurus-man, or Scorpio-man Taurus-woman), plus at the beginning she describes the general compatibility (friends, relatives, etc).
And don't forget to read the introduction to the book, it is beautiful. Ciao, see you all next week.

I am with a Scorpio man...but yeah defo buying that book...I have just ordered it from Amazon

Have a fab weekend!

Ciao

cancerella... i totally agree with what you said about the scorp male. I am totally trying to be patient with my scorp...but im starting to think its not worth it. I mean I like him but his ways are uncomprehensible. One day hes a sweetie and funny and laughing...then the next day another person. Im an aries and have no patience...I wish he didnt have to make things so difficult...we could be so happy...oh well....

Following this logic, I reckon you have a "bling" side?😛

"when needs must,I react accordingly..."

This, is quintessential Scorpio.

"Scorpio-Cap very good, but boring after a while, far too boring and stagnant."

I, for one, can attest to the non-truth of this statement. I wonder who came up with this generalization? That's exactly what it is - a generalization. This is assuming all Caps are the same and all Scorps are the same, which is completely false! I am in a Scorp-Cap relationship, and I can honestly say we are far from boring! If this pertains to the comfortable level in the relationship, I think this can hold true for a good percentage of couples...you hit a comfort level in a relationship, it's natural. As far as this combo being boring....I can say from my experiences, that we are far from it.

"it's black and white though...."

oh no...that scorp said that to me all the time...i dont understand that thinking. in theory it would make life much simpler, but wow, what a lonely life that must be...no ones perfect...i know, i know, except scorps...sure, uh huh...

yep, dward, those mind games just arent worth it. what if he never stops playing? how much time will u have wasted waiting? besides, games need to be fun for everyone involved, not just the one winning...

🙂 Love ya!!

He's right, by the way! 🙂

ahhhh, lubenica...

" 'No amount of love will defeat people's selfishness and immaturity, and there is no obstacle that cannot be surpassed by patience, tolerance and love.'
So, to love another, regardless of the sign, there needs to be lots of patience, tolerance, selflessness and maturity, so we first need to develop these in ourselves to be able to really love others."

...thank you for sharing this. i needed it. 🙂

I am way to clever for the scorp investagating non-sense tactics.


This just says it all.: )

crab23, your Scorpio has hurt you real bad. But not all scorps are alike. Please do not retreat into that shell of hurt, dear sweet crab.

LOL

Scorps are fun to play around with, but if I ever decided to get married again, I think I would seek out a Taurus (based on astro info)! Open to all signs of course because we don't know everything!!!

"go with ur gut and quit making excuses for him`` so true, I`ve made a million excuses, because I have things I want to believe - things that aren`t true.

oh, and Libertarian, hehe, WISE CHOICE!!! 😉 (um, i would really reseach that first too, to be prepared, we ALL have bad traits)

Yes, TaurusGoddess. My father was a Taurus and my moon is in Taurus so I am familiar with some of it by experience!! Yep, Yep, I know... dating one would be a whole new ball game. So let the scores begin! Ha-Ha!