CleoZ
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Im confused about what to do with my scorpio man
Hi all
Im a female cancer. Ive been dating my scorpio man for 2 months.
I am 19 and he is 26. This is my first "real" relationship. He let me know from the beginning that he was expecting a daughter from his ex, and they broke up because their families didnt approve.
From the day we met
we have just been calling and textig each other multiple times EVERY single day. So we got really serious from the beginning. I have met all of his friends, see him almost every day. He says he loves me and i have said it back. He has opened up to me about his life, work, dreams, family etc. So he has made me feel like he is my man. Recently he disapeared for two days, after his baby mama was sick. I am insecure about the baby mama, cause another friend mentioned that they were still together. No calls, no returning of my calls, no text, NOTHING. Ussually wake up to his calls, texts and more calls during the day and evening. Im just confused. What does this mean? Im angry that he would just disapear like that.
Im a female cancer. Ive been dating my scorpio man for 2 months.
I am 19 and he is 26. This is my first "real" relationship. He let me know from the beginning that he was expecting a daughter from his ex, and they broke up because their families didnt approve.
From the day we met
we have just been calling and textig each other multiple times EVERY single day. So we got really serious from the beginning. I have met all of his friends, see him almost every day. He says he loves me and i have said it back. He has opened up to me about his life, work, dreams, family etc. So he has made me feel like he is my man. Recently he disapeared for two days, after his baby mama was sick. I am insecure about the baby mama, cause another friend mentioned that they were still together. No calls, no returning of my calls, no text, NOTHING. Ussually wake up to his calls, texts and more calls during the day and evening. Im just confused. What does this mean? Im angry that he would just disapear like that.
Oh hun, that doesn't look good. He has a new baby and he really shouldn't be dating if he's going to be that young and involved in his child's life with the chance they might get back together. Better if you find out now than find out a year from now.
Cleo, you'd be better off finding a virgin.
IF you're clingy, it can be problematic for the Scorpio man who has children, be they one or many.
It can grind on him and he may disappear. And your imagination may get away from sooner than he
can get back.
You're 19 years old, take it slow. Don't be in a hurry. Don't assume that you are emotionally strong
and ready - Decisions made at your age can haunt you for the rest of your life. IF you have children
it can ruin their lives as well.
I know what I am talking about.
IF you're clingy, it can be problematic for the Scorpio man who has children, be they one or many.
It can grind on him and he may disappear. And your imagination may get away from sooner than he
can get back.
You're 19 years old, take it slow. Don't be in a hurry. Don't assume that you are emotionally strong
and ready - Decisions made at your age can haunt you for the rest of your life. IF you have children
it can ruin their lives as well.
I know what I am talking about.
Cancers like to "process" things. Scorpios "analyze" things.
It could well be that he is considering you and analyzing his own emotions against
his personal situation that existed before you so that he can be absolutely sure
all things are a "go".
You MUST be remain patient, calm and cool and collected.
IF you start losing it because you're listening to a string of "what if's"
You might kill a good thing before it has a chance to bloom.
It could well be that he is considering you and analyzing his own emotions against
his personal situation that existed before you so that he can be absolutely sure
all things are a "go".
You MUST be remain patient, calm and cool and collected.
IF you start losing it because you're listening to a string of "what if's"
You might kill a good thing before it has a chance to bloom.
damn my punctuation.
Posted by MrFirebird
Cancers like to "process" things. Scorpios "analyze" things.
It could well be that he is considering you and analyzing his own emotions against
his personal situation that existed before you so that he can be absolutely sure
all things are a "go".
You MUST be remain patient, calm and cool and collected.
IF you start losing it because you're listening to a string of "what if's"
You might kill a good thing before it has a chance to bloom.
This is exactly! And he has a kid, which means the mom is going to be in your life. Be very sure you can handle that. Some 40 yr olds can't.
Posted by MoonArtistPosted by MrFirebird
Cancers like to "process" things. Scorpios "analyze" things.
It could well be that he is considering you and analyzing his own emotions against
his personal situation that existed before you so that he can be absolutely sure
all things are a "go".
You MUST be remain patient, calm and cool and collected.
IF you start losing it because you're listening to a string of "what if's"
You might kill a good thing before it has a chance to bloom.
This is exactly! And he has a kid, which means the mom is going to be in your life. Be very sure you can handle that. Some 40 yr olds can't.click to expand
That's right.
Imagine arguments between you and the child's mom over how the child is raised. Imagine it getting physical.
These are ALL things to consider - not just the emotional aspect.
And these emotional considerations may well be what are going through his mind.
No longer does a scorpio man have his own heart to consider, but that of his x, the child, and new prospective
love and family, financial future: Home economics, Business and National and Global economics. All of which
are important factors to consider. It's a heavy load to think about and few consider it.
However, if your scorpio interest IS indeed going over this - it's a good thing for all, involved.
That was my thought too... that while she is pregnant he is finding release with you. I would go as far as to say the story he has told you is maybe 20% truth, if that.
I would caution you. Ask yourself why you would want to tie yourself up in a mess like this at such a young age? I think it is such a waste of your time and heart.
I would caution you. Ask yourself why you would want to tie yourself up in a mess like this at such a young age? I think it is such a waste of your time and heart.
Also, there isn't any way you can fix this and make it better. It is what it is and its really important that you take it at FACE VALUE. He told you straight up his heart is somewhere else but he cant have that and so he is there with you. That is NOT a reflection on YOUR WORTH at all. Just in case this is hitting you hard in your self-worth, you need to know that it has nothing to do with whether or not you "measure up".
Go no contact if necessary, let it hurt a little right now because in 6 months it will hurt a lot more. Don't make the same mistakes some make and stick by him cause you have this romanticized idea that he is "your Man" and you need to be supportive and understanding etc... and blah, blah, blah.
Walk away from that shit and go find a Real Man that can focus on building a relationship with You.
Go no contact if necessary, let it hurt a little right now because in 6 months it will hurt a lot more. Don't make the same mistakes some make and stick by him cause you have this romanticized idea that he is "your Man" and you need to be supportive and understanding etc... and blah, blah, blah.
Walk away from that shit and go find a Real Man that can focus on building a relationship with You.
RUNNNNNNNNNNNN, don't walk, RUUUUUUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!
Pump those pinchers across the beach and ocean as far possible.
Why are Can/Scorp relationships so damn messy? YUCK
Pump those pinchers across the beach and ocean as far possible.
Why are Can/Scorp relationships so damn messy? YUCK
Posted by LunarMaiden
RUNNNNNNNNNNNN, don't walk, RUUUUUUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!
Pump those pinchers across the beach and ocean as far possible.
Why are Can/Scorp relationships so damn messy? YUCK
Hahahaha u sure have a funny way of putting it. I wish it was as easy as that. But i guess this is something i have to confront head on.
Posted by MrFirebird
Cancers like to "process" things. Scorpios "analyze" things.
It could well be that he is considering you and analyzing his own emotions against
his personal situation that existed before you so that he can be absolutely sure
all things are a "go".
You MUST be remain patient, calm and cool and collected.
IF you start losing it because you're listening to a string of "what if's"
You might kill a good thing before it has a chance to bloom.
I thought so as well. But honestly im just so scared to stick around, stand by him and then fall deeply in love and get heartbroken once he figures out what he really wants. But i guess thats all part of being in a relationship, being in love is all about taking risks.
Posted by aquavitaPosted by CleoZ
Hi all
He let me know from the beginning that he was expecting a daughter from his ex, and they broke up because their families didnt approve.
What does this mean?
This means that you are a substitute for the person he really loves. It is 21 st century and he cant stand for the love of his life to his family yet he comes and has sex with you giving u sweet i love u s only after 2 months? Those are not real they dont mean much. Not yet and in this case never. He is too old for you and you are being used. If the other woman is having a bay i am very surprised what family would allow this without a marriage. Stay away this is a dangerous situation. What if the wife gets hormonal during pregnancy and comes and hurts you ? This man is a loser, for lack of better word. And you will be a double loser.click to expand
Lol...i wouldnt want to be a double loser!!! We NOT having sex though, because im still a virgin. And its an ex girlfriend not a wife.
Posted by FixedWater
Also, there isn't any way you can fix this and make it better. It is what it is and its really important that you take it at FACE VALUE. He told you straight up his heart is somewhere else but he cant have that and so he is there with you. That is NOT a reflection on YOUR WORTH at all. Just in case this is hitting you hard in your self-worth, you need to know that it has nothing to do with whether or not you "measure up".
Go no contact if necessary, let it hurt a little right now because in 6 months it will hurt a lot more. Don't make the same mistakes some make and stick by him cause you have this romanticized idea that he is "your Man" and you need to be supportive and understanding etc... and blah, blah, blah.
Walk away from that shit and go find a Real Man that can focus on building a relationship with You.
Thats what i thought as well. If im having such issues now, better to deal/end it soon rather than when im more in love or invested way too much in the relationship. Its true he did tell me straight up and that reason actually means they still do, and did love each other.
Thank u sooooo much for all the advice, and the truth that i know but scared to accept. I dont know what Im gonna do yet. But my instinct and your input tells me to walk away. Its going to be so hard, but hopefully i will be good.
Some tips for a successful break-up
~Get your bestest girlfriend.
~Box of Kleenex
~Two bottles of your fav "beverage"
~Give her some low profile ear plugs
~Also a gift to her in advance is nice
~Begin by deleting all of his numbers. ~Drink half of the first bottle
~Dump all pics on your phone
~Hand phone over to deaf g/f
~Drink second half of first bottle
~Listen to Katy Perry's "Roar" as many times as you can take it stopping just before you throw the sound system out the nearest window
~Cry like a baby or banshee depending on anger and sadness levels
~Blow nose
~Drink second bottle all at once
~Feed girlfriend so she doesn't leave
~Wash mascara tracks off and put some moisturizer on.
~Find a bowl
~Pass out anywhere but your bed but preferably not on the front lawn
~Get your bestest girlfriend.
~Box of Kleenex
~Two bottles of your fav "beverage"
~Give her some low profile ear plugs
~Also a gift to her in advance is nice
~Begin by deleting all of his numbers. ~Drink half of the first bottle
~Dump all pics on your phone
~Hand phone over to deaf g/f
~Drink second half of first bottle
~Listen to Katy Perry's "Roar" as many times as you can take it stopping just before you throw the sound system out the nearest window
~Cry like a baby or banshee depending on anger and sadness levels
~Blow nose
~Drink second bottle all at once
~Feed girlfriend so she doesn't leave
~Wash mascara tracks off and put some moisturizer on.
~Find a bowl
~Pass out anywhere but your bed but preferably not on the front lawn
Posted by aquavita
and... Of course they are still together.
this is a very bad story.
Of course they are.
+1
OP = 19, likely a knockout, and unfortunately... gullible.
Even if it's ALL true (it isn't), you will still and always be Number 4-- if you're lucky.
Try to move on as soon as you can.
You deserve so much better.
Posted by FixedWater
Some tips for a successful break-up
~Get your bestest girlfriend.
~Box of Kleenex
~Two bottles of your fav "beverage"
~Give her some low profile ear plugs
~Also a gift to her in advance is nice
~Begin by deleting all of his numbers. ~Drink half of the first bottle
~Dump all pics on your phone
~Hand phone over to deaf g/f
~Drink second half of first bottle
~Listen to Katy Perry's "Roar" as many times as you can take it stopping just before you throw the sound system out the nearest window
~Cry like a baby or banshee depending on anger and sadness levels
~Blow nose
~Drink second bottle all at once
~Feed girlfriend so she doesn't leave
~Wash mascara tracks off and put some moisturizer on.
~Find a bowl
~Pass out anywhere but your bed but preferably not on the front lawn
Very nice. 😄
Posted by CleoZ
Thats what i thought as well. If im having such issues now, better to deal/end it soon rather than when im more in love or invested way too much in the relationship. Its true he did tell me straight up and that reason actually means they still do, and did love each other.
Thank u sooooo much for all the advice, and the truth that i know but scared to accept. I dont know what Im gonna do yet. But my instinct and your input tells me to walk away. Its going to be so hard, but hopefully i will be good.
*impressed*
Sorry, I didn't see this.
Smart girl. 🙂
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by FixedWater
Some tips for a successful break-up
~Get your bestest girlfriend.
~Box of Kleenex
~Two bottles of your fav "beverage"
~Give her some low profile ear plugs
~Also a gift to her in advance is nice
~Begin by deleting all of his numbers. ~Drink half of the first bottle
~Dump all pics on your phone
~Hand phone over to deaf g/f
~Drink second half of first bottle
~Listen to Katy Perry's "Roar" as many times as you can take it stopping just before you throw the sound system out the nearest window
~Cry like a baby or banshee depending on anger and sadness levels
~Blow nose
~Drink second bottle all at once
~Feed girlfriend so she doesn't leave
~Wash mascara tracks off and put some moisturizer on.
~Find a bowl
~Pass out anywhere but your bed but preferably not on the front lawn
Very nice. 😄
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Hahahaha this will come in handy.
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by aquavita
and... Of course they are still together.
this is a very bad story.
Of course they are.
+1
OP = 19, likely a knockout, and unfortunately... gullible.
Even if it's ALL true (it isn't), you will still and always be Number 4-- if you're lucky.
Try to move on as soon as you can.
You deserve so much better.
click to expand
I think i deserve much better too. Hope to find the courage to end it all today.
Posted by ScorpioHarmony
You're too young to be getting involved in such a messy situation. Trust me I've been there done that with a Taurus man who had a baby on the way.... totally not worth it.
The thing is you will never win this battle against the baby mother, she will always be there in the picture. Wanting, needing something...
Don't get caught up in thinking you can win this battle, you wont. I hate to put it this way but you'll always come 2nd best.
Move on and find yourself a child-free man with lots of time and space in his life for you. Best wishes.
Yes, im too young to be dealing with such. Especially since its like a first real relationship.
Thanks soooo muh once again for all the advice. I hope i will find the courage to end it today. But i know i have to.
Cleo...move on. Don't be stupid and naive. You are either going to be his built in baby sitter while he's out knocking someone else up, or you will end up knocked up.
MOVE ON.
MOVE ON.
..or both
I just did it...Pheew!!! He took it badly, he was all emotional, and had teary eyes. But i stood firm, even though it was hard. 😢 sad but will get through it!!!
Send the teary eyed sap to the Scorpio forum.
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by FixedWater
Some tips for a successful break-up
~Get your bestest girlfriend.
~Box of Kleenex
~Two bottles of your fav "beverage"
~Give her some low profile ear plugs
~Also a gift to her in advance is nice
~Begin by deleting all of his numbers. ~Drink half of the first bottle
~Dump all pics on your phone
~Hand phone over to deaf g/f
~Drink second half of first bottle
~Listen to Katy Perry's "Roar" as many times as you can take it stopping just before you throw the sound system out the nearest window
~Cry like a baby or banshee depending on anger and sadness levels
~Blow nose
~Drink second bottle all at once
~Feed girlfriend so she doesn't leave
~Wash mascara tracks off and put some moisturizer on.
~Find a bowl
~Pass out anywhere but your bed but preferably not on the front lawn
Very nice. 😄
click to expand
Lol... Thankyou ~takes a bow~ 😄
Posted by CleoZ
I just did it...Pheew!!! He took it badly, he was all emotional, and had teary eyes. But i stood firm, even though it was hard. 😢 sad but will get through it!!!
All joking aside, this is really the best thing you could have ever done for yourself. Stand your ground and remember it is not about making him happy. It is about making yourself happy. I don't even know you but I am proud of that Woman inside you that decided for herself instead of being railroaded for the next however-many years and coming out of it in the end all messed up. Good JOB!
Posted by CleoZ
Hi all. Im a female cancer. Ive been dating my scorpio man for 2 months.
...I am 19 and he is 26. This is my first "real" relationship.
...He let me know from the beginning that he was expecting a daughter from his ex, and they broke up because their families didnt approve.
...He says he loves me and i have said it back.
...So he has made me feel like he is my man.
...Im angry that he would just disapear like that.
...But i guess thats all part of being in a relationship, being in love is all about taking risks.
...And its an ex girlfriend not a wife... Its true he did tell me straight up and that reason actually means they still do, and did love each other.
...I dont know what Im gonna do yet.
...I just did it...Pheew!!! He took it badly, he was all emotional, and had teary eyes.
... 😐
... From yourself. Not him.
Posted by CleoZ
I just did it...Pheew!!! He took it badly, he was all emotional, and had teary eyes. But i stood firm, even though it was hard. 😢 sad but will get through it!!!
Please surround yourself with all the love and support from family and friends right now.
You are going to need it when it hits you later.
Best wishes.
From what I'm interpreting:
She knew his situation from the jump and still got involved because she had feelings for him.
OP is minimizing the existence/presence/role of the "baby mama" in this guy's life, while maximizing her own.
His situation has not changed - and likely won't any time soon. However, his actions towards the OP have changed and that is really what's making the OP angry and upset.
This thread and the 'break up' are the result of her anger and hurt feelings. They are emotional reactions to his behavior - not self-preservation moves based on his situation or the over-all picture.
She knew his situation from the jump and still got involved because she had feelings for him.
OP is minimizing the existence/presence/role of the "baby mama" in this guy's life, while maximizing her own.
His situation has not changed - and likely won't any time soon. However, his actions towards the OP have changed and that is really what's making the OP angry and upset.
This thread and the 'break up' are the result of her anger and hurt feelings. They are emotional reactions to his behavior - not self-preservation moves based on his situation or the over-all picture.
Posted by GetMistedPosted by FixedWater
Some tips for a successful break-up:
Beer
SportsCenter
Fixedclick to expand
Oh no no.... that'll never do.
Beer - yuck
Sports Center - what is that?
Tanning Salon
Shopping for Kick Ass Bikini
Beach
Vodka
Fixed
Posted by Andalusia
From what I'm interpreting:
She knew his situation from the jump and still got involved because she had feelings for him.
OP is minimizing the existence/presence/role of the "baby mama" in this guy's life, while maximizing her own.
His situation has not changed - and likely won't any time soon. However, his actions towards the OP have changed and that is really what's making the OP angry and upset.
This thread and the 'break up' are the result of her anger and hurt feelings. They are emotional reactions to his behavior - not self-preservation moves based on his situation or the over-all picture.
Pretty much. Virgos....??_
Posted by MrFirebirdPosted by MoonArtistPosted by MrFirebird
Cancers like to "process" things. Scorpios "analyze" things.
It could well be that he is considering you and analyzing his own emotions against
his personal situation that existed before you so that he can be absolutely sure
all things are a "go".
You MUST be remain patient, calm and cool and collected.
IF you start losing it because you're listening to a string of "what if's"
You might kill a good thing before it has a chance to bloom.
This is exactly! And he has a kid, which means the mom is going to be in your life. Be very sure you can handle that. Some 40 yr olds can't.
That's right.
Imagine arguments between you and the child's mom over how the child is raised. Imagine it getting physical.
These are ALL things to consider - not just the emotional aspect.
And these emotional considerations may well be what are going through his mind.
No longer does a scorpio man have his own heart to consider, but that of his x, the child, and new prospective
love and family, financial future: Home economics, Business and National and Global economics. All of which
are important factors to consider. It's a heavy load to think about and few consider it.
However, if your scorpio interest IS indeed going over this - it's a good thing for all, involved.
click to expand
I've seen more problems with step parents being jealous of the ex, jealous of the kids, mean to the kids....it's not an easy thing to get into and most shouldn't because they can't handle it.
Posted by FixedWater
Also, there isn't any way you can fix this and make it better. It is what it is and its really important that you take it at FACE VALUE. He told you straight up his heart is somewhere else but he cant have that and so he is there with you. That is NOT a reflection on YOUR WORTH at all. Just in case this is hitting you hard in your self-worth, you need to know that it has nothing to do with whether or not you "measure up".
Go no contact if necessary, let it hurt a little right now because in 6 months it will hurt a lot more. Don't make the same mistakes some make and stick by him cause you have this romanticized idea that he is "your Man" and you need to be supportive and understanding etc... and blah, blah, blah.
Walk away from that shit and go find a Real Man that can focus on building a relationship with You.
This, too, is possible. At 19 the future is wide open and this would narrow options immensely.
Posted by CleoZPosted by MrFirebird
Cancers like to "process" things. Scorpios "analyze" things.
It could well be that he is considering you and analyzing his own emotions against
his personal situation that existed before you so that he can be absolutely sure
all things are a "go".
You MUST be remain patient, calm and cool and collected.
IF you start losing it because you're listening to a string of "what if's"
You might kill a good thing before it has a chance to bloom.
I thought so as well. But honestly im just so scared to stick around, stand by him and then fall deeply in love and get heartbroken once he figures out what he really wants. But i guess thats all part of being in a relationship, being in love is all about taking risks.click to expand
It's not just what he wants....what about what YOU want?
Posted by FixedWater
Some tips for a successful break-up
~Get your bestest girlfriend.
~Box of Kleenex
~Two bottles of your fav "beverage"
~Give her some low profile ear plugs
~Also a gift to her in advance is nice
~Begin by deleting all of his numbers. ~Drink half of the first bottle
~Dump all pics on your phone
~Hand phone over to deaf g/f
~Drink second half of first bottle
~Listen to Katy Perry's "Roar" as many times as you can take it stopping just before you throw the sound system out the nearest window
~Cry like a baby or banshee depending on anger and sadness levels
~Blow nose
~Drink second bottle all at once
~Feed girlfriend so she doesn't leave
~Wash mascara tracks off and put some moisturizer on.
~Find a bowl
~Pass out anywhere but your bed but preferably not on the front lawn
This would work 😄
Posted by CleoZ
I just did it...Pheew!!! He took it badly, he was all emotional, and had teary eyes. But i stood firm, even though it was hard. 😢 sad but will get through it!!!
Good job! ~hugs~
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Im a female cancer. Ive been dating my scorpio man for 2 months.
I am 19 and he is 26. This is my first "real" relationship. He let me know from the beginning that he was expecting a daughter from his ex, and they broke up because their families didnt approve.
From the day we met
we have just been calling and textig each other multiple times EVERY single day. So we got really serious from the beginning. I have met all of his friends, see him almost every day. He says he loves me and i have said it back. He has opened up to me about his life, work, dreams, family etc. So he has made me feel like he is my man. Recently he disapeared for two days, after his baby mama was sick. I am insecure about the baby mama, cause another friend mentioned that they were still together. No calls, no returning of my calls, no text, NOTHING. Ussually wake up to his calls, texts and more calls during the day and evening. Im just confused. What does this mean? Im angry that he would just disapear like that.