Me, not a sexual dynamo!

Are there any other scorpio women who seem to lack all that scorpios are supposed to be sexually. Maybe my private self is so overdeveloped. I'm not frigid, just not so expressive, overt, lustfully sexual. I don't care to do it much in the light of day. I just want to do at night in bed so that I can sleep that beautiful luxurious, glowing sleep. I will occasionally enjoy a wake-up call. My libido is somewhat subdued. I am in a 21 year monogamous relationship with my Libra husband (married 16). We have great sex when we have it (2-4 times a month).

Maybe there's something in my chart that causes this dampening of the fire within. Today I had my heart quickened by a glance from a young man. Maybe there's still a spark or ember alive. I have taken this to heart and am trying to keep giving this idea oxygen. Not as an idea to act on but hopefully something to bring home to bed!

I'd be curious to hear from others. Is it just me?

"I am in a 21 year monogamous relationship with my Libra husband (married 16). We have great sex when we have it (2-4 times a month)."

first off, good for you for still getting it 2-4 times a month after 21 yrs of marriage 🙂

i say that coz i had a 10-yr relationship with a Cap where the sex dwindled to about once a year (!) in the last 3-4 years we were together. I also thought that maybe there was something wrong with me as I had a strong libido before. This problem has since been 'fixed' so to speak, thank gawd.

I think that if having sex 2-4 times a month works for you & your husband, then there's nothing wrong with that. Some couples need to have daily sex, some once a month, and some once a year - as long as it suits your relationship and you're both happy, then why look for problems where none probably exists?

Maybe all you need to feel more 'lustful' is to vary the frequency from week to week....have one week where you lock him in the bedroom 😉

I've been with my pisces for only about 9 years and we only have sex 3-4 times a month.Its not a problem cause we're generally busy elsewhere and not in a "sexual" mindframe as much anymore.I also have a leo mars so im actually supposed to be a very horny scorp but it takes stimulation to even get me in the mood most of the time otherwise,im never in the mood naturally:/

Well Kriz, I haven't been in as long of a relationship with anyone as long as you, but I was with someone for 8yrs. And though the really healthy 'honeymoon' stage was grand it was in the first two years. After that we probably averaged about twelve lovely nights in a month. I think to a certain extent it depends on the person. But I know that I would look at him, and see the beautiful man that I fell in love with. Eventhough with time the comfort zone hit, I found that I could still see what was inside of him that thrilled me. He was a pisces though, and they have a wonderful randy reputation, and can always find a way to spice things up a bit. We were very balanced in the sense of, I like slow and sensual, and he liked to be inventive. Because of that we often visited a world of bliss together. But I found that you have to keep the spark in your mind going, and it takes effort. Still finding romance was always easy for him and I, we were a perfect match in that sense. Doing simple things like candle lit dinners, teasing one another when we knew we wouldn't be able to do anything about it until later. Greeting one another wearing only a smile. Things of that nature.
If your sex life is satisfactory in your eyes though, it doesn't matter the stigma of our sign. If you're happy, then it isn't broke. It all lies on your value system. But wishing to have more of a fire within, takes an opened mind, and a bit of a dirty one too. 😉 It also depends on how you view sex, if you see it as simply physical, then that's what it is. But if you choose to let yourself feel through and through for your spouse, you'll make a soul connection when you're in the act, it takes both though. But once you do that, beware, it's addicting. 😉
Best wishes!
Storm

Well, yeah I guess we're somewhat dissatisfied with the frequency of lack thereof. I'm not nearly as affectionate as he would like when I'm troubled.

GreatBull, you have a good point. I'm not usually the type to gauge myself against standards or meters! I don't know what has gotten into me lately. It's like an identity crisis so I'm looking at every aspect of myself. I'm a bit afraid of driving myself crazy but I'm driven toward answers right now. Perhaps I'm on the verge of a breakthrough, hopefully not breakdown!! My husband hates this!!! I don't blame him either, it's the pits 😢

Hi Storm, our sexual connection is very soulful when it's there. Maybe I'm working on the dirty mind stuff. Yeah we've been together a long time!

Thanks scorp5.0, DB and Tiamat

"This problem has since been 'fixed' so to speak, thank gawd."

Did you pencil it in on his calender? ...


DB,
i got rid of him, hehehehe