This sting is destroying me!

A few months ago a scorp girl at work who was rebounding started befriending me, out of nowhere. She did all the work, sent all the emails, made all the calls. We started going to lunch together. We discussed dating. She said she wanted to be friends, even though she was really attracted to me. I have a no friends with girls policy. I was hurt that she didn't want to take it further, but that's life. Let's just be friendly co-workers then.

Then she started smothering me with attention. She is gorgeous, but the attention was just too much. And I stared feeling she had some implant in me, because everywhere I went, she was there. This didn't FEEL like friendship. It felt like she was coming on to me, hands all over me, teasing me, all that stuff. I confronted her with it. I told her she was sending mixed messages. She DEMANDED that we be friends. I told her I'm sorry, I can't do that. You are very cool and charming and that's WHY I can't be your friend. I will want you too much.

The next day she kissed me, in the parking lot at work. (late at nite, no one was there). The day after, it was basically on. She was always by my side, looking at me like she was going to devour me later. My head was spinning.

Then she tells me some people at work saw us. That it was the funny thing at the office next day. Back to us being friends. But I realized that her version of friends was me constantly trying to make her feel good about the evil world, and her making out with me at work. That's just too casual for me.

I started ignoring her. I felt she was using me, she has a way of making me feel cheap and disposable. Like I was her little toy. That it was always her way or no way. This mixed in with making me feel great about myself. I can't explain it.

She didn't like being ignored. We had the friend speech one more time. She was trying to force me into a friendship with her and all I wanted was to not put a label on it yet.

Then things started getting dark. We would kind of hate each other one day and the next be just like when we first started hanging out. I had decided that I needed something more than a make out friend. But that she was still important to me, and I wanted our time at work to mean something.

Then she started flirting with another guy at work in front of me, who was insanely jealous of all the attention I was getting. Of course, now the other guy was getting the attention I was starting to get jealous. She kind of toned down on th

She kind of toned down on the flirting, since she had gotten her reaction, and her sensitive spot to use against me. Basically, she doesn't get the attention she wants, she flirts with the other guy, and I get jealous. I started to hate her.

Then she started to try to win me back. It took a few weeks but I finally started warming up to her again. Just in time for her to flirt with the other guy. And he thought he was the man, because he "stole her" from me. Whatever. I couldn't take it. I called her on it. I tried to be nice at first, I told her that I wanted to make sure we were cool. That I'm not going to make a move on her. If a girl tells me she doesn't want to date me I'm not going to keep trying with her. Then I called her a little crazy. Big mistake.

This was a month ago. Her first reaction was to give me cold icy stares and flirt with the other guy in front of me. It hurt but I started to accept that maybe she was just a narcissist and that she found a new source. At one point I saw her outside, I was set to apologize but she whipped out her cell phone. She started parking her car next to me. She would leave for lunch and for home when I would, and I got the impression that she maybe wanted to talk but she can talk to me if she wants. I knew she wanted me to see her. Checking in on me, her property.

Then she started visting me a little. She told the other guy to screw himself, making him feel like crap. Now she doesn't talk to him anymore, but she isn't really talking to me either. She won't look at me in the eye. She'll avoid me completely for a day, the next day she'll visit for a little, then the next day she won't look at me. She wants me to KNOW that she is avoiding me. And she does this by hanging around me, spying on me, I can feel her eyes all over me even though she won't look at me. At this point I wish I never hurt her. I'm a goner. I just want her to acknowledge me. I think she is testing me. She's making me so uncomfortable, and I think she's getting off on it.

I don't know what to do. Just move on with my life? Try to apologize to her a month later and still feel like a man? And if I do, I feel like she'll just blow me off. I used to be so freaked out by her, all the attention, like she was a stalker, but now that she

I don't know what to do. Just move on with my life? Try to apologize to her a month later and still feel like a man? And if I do, I feel like she'll just blow me off. I used to be so freaked out by her, all the attention, like she was a stalker, but now that she is being so cold I can't think about anything else. I just want her to want me again. As scary as that wanting has been. And she KNOWS it. At least I think she does. I'm trying to be sweet and gentle around her. One day a warm smile from her, the next day NOTHING. I'm a goner.

Please, give me some advice. I am losing my mind.

BTW I am sorry about such a long post. I tried to keep it brief.

sounds like she is playing games...before and after you hurt her..although before she sounded more stable and i just think she didn't like the fact of being denied...If she wants to play games with you thats fine, Move on with your life and when you find a girl .. watch her eyes fill up with tears. Don't let her mess with you. You were nice and you didn't take advantage of her.

and in my opinion you didn't do anything wrong...Ok so you called her crazy, she needs to get over it and you were telling her the truth bc at the time you thought she was acting like it. So take her stinger and shove it up her ass.

oh and the way you explained it, it sounded like you were being very honest in telling her you can't be her friend that will make you want her more, and she didn't care about your feelings when she kept comming onto you did she?...or when she was trying to make you jealous?..So why would you even waste your time with this girl?..

oh yes welcome! =D

Juicy?I wish there was a pill I could take to not want this girl. When she was all over me I was feeling great about myself and felt like I could start dating someone else....now that she's cold, can't think about anything else. I just need to get out there and start dating again. I've been in a dry spell for too long.

Dancing Bread? This whole thing has been going on for about 3 months. At first the other guy was so jealous that he was interrupting our conversations. She kind of blew him off. Then she asked me to go to lunch with her, and I declined. That's when the flirting started. About 3 weeks ago she completely started ignoring this dude. He would try to flirt with her and she would just tell him to shut it. She basically told him to stop talking to her. She hasn't talked to him since.

The work thing is the tough part. I am trying to be myself. If I see her I politely wave and smile. I guess I'll have to be consistent. I don't want her to have control over me. I am crazy for her despite all the crap she has put me through, but I will settle for just being friendly again. I am feeling like a victim. I don't know how to pretend she doesn't have control when she does. At this point I just do my work, and speak to her when she speaks to me. Which is getting less and less. She's more happy to just observe me now.

thanks! I've been lurking for awhile now.

lol..true

*She's more happy to just observe me now.

HAAAHAHAHAAHA!!

you just wait...if you're REALLY nice maybe she will let you have one of those hampster wheels for your cage...

and don't complain if she forgets to change your water dish either...we scorpafemms HATE a man who complains

*hands you a bag of wood chips* just get in damnit...

hey HEY!! don't you go gnawing into the empy tissue box- I want to be able to keep my eye on you for a while (o)_O

LMFAO

The way it sounds, she is after something, you didn't give it to her and now she is begging for it from someone else. Your loss.

I'm here, kinda !!!

Hi!! CHILDREN!!

*hands everyone a skippit and a quaker granola bar*

*skip skip skip BANG*

Damn!!! I hate these things!!! Do you have a cigarette?

damnit jd- stop trying to thwart me!! don't be such a pissahhhh!!!

just for that- I'm going to put you in with my hermit crabs

and TAP ON THE GLASS

WHILE your trying to relax on the heat rock

AND I'm going to keep moving the treasure chest and castle- JUST to annoy you

so 😛

'The way it sounds, she is after something, you didn't give it to her and now she is begging for it from someone else. Your loss."

Maybe, but the last thing I need is to have a quick fling with someone at work.

"Leave her and don't look back, pleae don't jump in her cage, you'll go crazy, she's doing what is best for her only and you should do what's best for you."

I think I'm in the cage, trying to gnaw my way out. Feeling like a sucker the whole time.

PPFFTTT!!! I am the Queen of the castle and I OWN the land and the hermit crabs! They are my servants!

(Do I live in fantasy world or what?)

Hi DB! Long time no love! (*)-_-(*)

Oh come on, we have all peed in our wheaties at one point or time!

It's a small office. Everyone knows everyone else's business as it is. At a larger company, I would.

Saggit, I take it you are a Sag and she is a scorp? She sounds like one. Trying to make you regret not taking her up on her offers and then going for someone else in front of you to make you jealous.

OH GOOD FUCKINGRASCIOUS MAN!!!

saggit- WHAAAT—?

is your "work" really "highschool"??

is that scorp chic 15?

what the hell...I was kidding about the cage...don't waste your time indulging some immature gash's ridiculous headfucks - NO MATTER WHAT HER SIGN IS!

Whatever Schoen, he should bang the shit out of her and then ignore her like she never existed. I would.

*eats the cereal with a fork and waits for somebody to post something*

LOL- juwawna- you would bang the shit out of a scorp CHIC??

*raises eyebrows off of forehead*

Hey, the grocery store had merlots on sale for $ 3 a bottle. I bought them out, baby!!!! I am working on the end of my second bottle. I am running a little slow tonight, DB!

"Saggit, I take it you are a Sag and she is a scorp? She sounds like one. Trying to make you regret not taking her up on her offers and then going for someone else in front of you to make you jealous."

I am. This isn't some chick I met at a bar. I have friends who have gotten involved at work and it has blown up in their faces, harassment charges all that crap. Sometimes you have to think with your head even when you're only thinking with other parts.

She doesn't flirt with this guy anymore. He's married. He's a nice person but he comes on way too strong. Always trying to impress/flatter. Tries too hard.

I just keep a low profile and make sarcastic comments, tease people. Even with this girl, I'll say a sarcastic comment as a joke, because I love to tease people that I like. And they'll take it like I'm serious. And I have to say, "I am JOKING!!"

-_-)))))(*)(*)


HEY!!! Stop pushing away my exquisite breasts!! Do you know how many men would love to be in your place?

And yes Schoen, I would do a scorp girl (if I was a man) just to get her back at her own head games!

SECOND BOTTLE—

FOOKINSHITE WOMAN!! I would be passed OUT in my own VOMIT...

*looks at your liver* it's not human...

rising sag? That don't sound very impressive....LOL!!

HIIIIIIIII DB , HIIIIIII JUWANAPLAAAAA HIIIIIII SCHOEN

IM FEELING LIKE A....LEO TODAY..ARE YOU SURE YOUR READY?LOL

"is your "work" really "highschool"??

is that scorp chic 15?"

You would think so. It feels like it.

And as far as taking someone up on an offer, this chick told me she will not date and will not sleep with anyone. I don't care if that's hard to get or not, an offer would have been, "hey let's get together after work". Which were words uttered by me at one point. I don't ask twice.

Hey!!! *glares at DB back*

Shall we have a glaring contest? I bet I'll win!! I'm seeing crossed eyed and your scorp stare can't mess me up right now! 🙂

Bang her and move on...i like that idea

hey pluto!

an offer would have been, "hey let's get together after work". Which were words uttered by me at one point. I don't ask twice.

Well why are you so upset about it then? She didn't take you up on the offer and she is playing like she's still 15. Let her go, man! She's fucked up in the head!

Hi Juicy Box! What's up chica?

nothing much just drinking my wine..relaxing lol how have you been??

"what is your moon and rising sag?"

I've no clue. I don't know too much about the specifics. I was born on a tuesday.

saggit...mess around with her bestfriend, make a tape and send it to her..then move straight across the country ..

"Well why are you so upset about it then? She didn't take you up on the offer and she is playing like she's still 15. Let her go, man! She's ed up in the head!"

I KNOW THIS!!!

Jesus. I don't WANT to feel this way. I've said all this stuff to myself a million times already. I just need to get laid.

Hi all...

how do you find your rising?

go for a gemini next time.. LOL no i'm playing don't do it to yourself

look what happen to DB... LOL jk

Saggit, are you right handed? Sit on it for a good 20 mins, then spank that monkey like there is no tomorrow! I heard it works wonders!

lmfaoo ..oh man

Saggit, are you right handed? Sit on it for a good 20 mins, then spank that monkey like there is no tomorrow! I heard it works wonders!

you're evil.