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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
...You would be stunned, to realise, when you only think of you, your own thoughts, your own emotions, people are drawn to that....So, I meant to come back to this. I don't quite understand what you mean by this.
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PR, you would have to remind me where on earth I wrote that.
I write so much nonsense in here, it is hard to keep track. 😆
I too PR, am a compartmentalizer. Everyone has their purpose and 'box' in my life, at times it does not mean one person is more important than the other because of the information they know about me. Simply, because I know what certain people, and traits they have, that benefit particular aspects of who I am. Why would I bring up irrelevant details of myself to everyone, when I know one does not fit all. Unfortunately, in the past, people have mistaken this as secrecy but hardly. It merely means I am being efficient about using my energy and time. If I were to share all of myself on a consistent basis to everyone. It would be a drain on me, and a drain on them. To spare everyone that pain, I do what I do. It is a pity, they see it as us 'lying', when refraining certain parts of ourselves until the appropriate timing or individual to listen to, is consideration, no ?
I agree with some of this (bold). I'm not sure if your question at the end was rhetorical, but I'll answer it anyway. Given you view it as a consideration, I can't really challenge that. Rather than challenge someone's pov, I've always just been curious by it (although I know I don't communicate my curiosity very well lol).
I do find it interesting that you consider withholding (for lack of a better word) parts of yourself from others a consideration vs keeping parts of yourself away for some other purpose. You do realize that, you and you alone are determining what the relationship will grow into. For example, by saying "why would I bring up irrelevant details of myself to everyone?", how do you know it's irrelevant to the other person? I am guessing this is some of the frustration that others feel with Scorps at times. Why the word "controlling" is often used to describe a Scorp. Perhaps others see it as 'lying' because they simple want to be able to determine for themselves, what info about you is relevant and what is not as they try to get to know you.
I know for myself I compartmentalize partly out of fear, but also due to what one might consider "selfish" reasons and make no apologies for the latter. I need to work on the former.
...Intimacy, felt like a pressure cooker to me, it felt like the other demanded of me...
Hmph. I still feel this way most of the time.
It does to me as well, I am working on it but more often than not, I would get a deer in headlights moment and all my instincts tell me to run, hide, or disappear off the face of this planet. 😆
People are often left, feeling abandoned. I really should change this.
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I tend to emotionally disappear. I'm physically present, but become distant.
Posted by CAPSLOCK2018
❤Happy New Years Scorpios 🙂Have a bomb 2018
*like* Happy New Year 🙂
The best thing about the Asylum is it works very well with my Moon. I mean I can come back when I am ready at any time to a conversation and add what I need to say....or not. Could you image trying that in real life?
*Someone talks to me, perhaps opens up about something they've put a lot of thought into*
Me: 
*7 days later*
Me:...
Posted by Ellygant
Been in bed for 43 of the last 48 hours with a 100° fever. Yay. 🤒😷Happppyyyyy New Yearssssss.
🤧😪
to all Scorpies!
I’m the same way. From the jump over an issue it’s clear where I stand. Unless the issue completely sideswipes me and I’m emotionally t-boned. Then I disappear for a few hours or days until I figure out wtf just happened. But that only normally happens when dealing with crab suns lol.
I'm curious, why Crab Suns?
Sometimes when they’re afraid to confront you they save it up for a moment when they need space. They’re kinda like Libras, where they accommodate you without any hint they’re upset until months or years later then attack you with a laundry list of stored up grievances when they need space...
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*cough*cardinals*cough*
Posted by Unwording
When you have a nice little buzz going and your friend brings up something deep
😆 *like*
I’m the same way. From the jump over an issue it’s clear where I stand. Unless the issue completely sideswipes me and I’m emotionally t-boned. Then I disappear for a few hours or days until I figure out wtf just happened. But that only normally happens when dealing with crab suns lol.
I'm curious, why Crab Suns?
Sometimes when they’re afraid to confront you they save it up for a moment when they need space. They’re kinda like Libras, where they accommodate you without any hint they’re upset until months or years later then attack you with a laundry list of stored up grievances when they need space. Which I kinda understand cause I’m prone to the same sharing a moon. It still throws me though lol.
Those are the worst, of worst experiences. Libras, explode in one big episode, which I find easier to deal with (perhaps, influenced by their opposite, the Ram ?). I find Crabapples, bring it up over and over again, nagging, until it feels like a death toll of a migraine.
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😆 Yup.
Okay, *brain can't process anything thoughtful or insightful anymore...exits Asulym for a few hours*
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
...You would be stunned, to realise, when you only think of you, your own thoughts, your own emotions, people are drawn to that....So, I meant to come back to this. I don't quite understand what you mean by this.
PR, you would have to remind me where on earth I wrote that.
I write so much nonsense in here, it is hard to keep track. 😆
🙂 Sorry. Context:
I too have been mulling over similar sentiments as of late. Except, for a change, I decided to make a change, to let my guard down and tear down those walls. As much as we could interpret that as a sign of weakness, as I did, I was stunned at the amount of love being reciprocated back to me. It was only then did I realise, all these safe guards, are simply a silly notion that we would experience pain simply by being ourselves, by being vulnerable, or by being good. What we failed to realise is, connecting with others, is never a one sided affair.
Of course, for as many good apples, there are bad ones. However, to realise that throwing oneself out there, with a bit more abandon only to be given so much back. It broke down all the constructs I had been building the last few years, and it never felt more liberating. Many people had been hurt by me, because vulnerability, intimacy, were things that took a long time for me to reach or achieve with others. If I went by my instinct, I would have ran the other way, and disappeared. Which, guilty as charged, I do. Intimacy, felt like a pressure cooker to me, it felt like the other demanded of me. That was until, I chose to see it differently.
Therefore, this holiday season, to reach out, and to realise so many were still there, unshaken, ready to take me back as I am. That very feeling, is irreplaceable. There is strength, in connecting with others. We are human beings after all, creatures that crave connection. Strange, how a simple change in perspectives have given me much relief. To be vulnerable in this way, it allows me accountability of my own emotions. If gives me more headspace, as I am thinking far less of what others are thinking or feeling. The best way to put it is, I put myself out there as I am, with no expectations. You would be stunned, to realise, when you only think of you, your own thoughts, your own emotions, people are drawn to that. You ask of them nothing, you only give, and in return they want to approach you too.
In regards to love, yes, like the both of you, it is such a difficult and arduous thing to reach a point where you realise you have love, dear love for someone but no longer love them. The pain, of knowing, that safeguard net of acceptance will be gone, the very thing that caused you to grow. Yet, on the other end of this spectrum, you realise with that growth, you are now more than able to face the challenges of the world alone. You are more whole, a bigger whole, than when it all began. At least, that is how I view it now.
It is a sad thing though, to realise, when something is over. No amount of experiences shared, no amounts of care, could bring that feeling back. Sometimes, it was not to the fault of either people, it simply was time to move on. Relationships, is a point of contention for me, where I have to grow in them. If there is no growth, it begins to feel like a burden, that I am a burden to them, and them, me. That beautiful connection is lost, as we have reached the limits of what we could give each other. Though, it does not stop my belief that two people could be together till death do us part and still grow. Certain individuals, were merely pitstops, and not the journey. They do not matter more or less, in our life story. They just are, existing as a chapter to remember. A chapter to be grateful for, for all the lessons learned, to be appreciated for what it is, for the time that it lasted.
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I tend to float back to things that interest me.
...Intimacy, felt like a pressure cooker to me, it felt like the other demanded of me...
Hmph. I still feel this way most of the time.
It does to me as well, I am working on it but more often than not, I would get a deer in headlights moment and all my instincts tell me to run, hide, or disappear off the face of this planet. 😆
People are often left, feeling abandoned. I really should change this.
I tend to emotionally disappear. I'm physically present, but become distant.
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If I could achieve that, half the battle would already be won. PR, I applaud you for being able to do that.
Their physical presence, would trigger and remind me too much of the expectations hanging in the air. I need complete disassociation to get a clear head.
Posted by PhoenixRising
The best thing about the Asylum is it works very well with my Moon. I mean I can come back at any time to a conversation and add what I need to say...or not. Could you image trying that in real life?*Some talks to me, perhaps opens up about something they've put a lot of thought into*
Me:
Hah PR, I am guilty of doing this very thing even in real life. 😆
It angers a lot of people, those who understands it, appreciate it. Oh well, one of my quirks I suppose.
I’m the same way. From the jump over an issue it’s clear where I stand. Unless the issue completely sideswipes me and I’m emotionally t-boned. Then I disappear for a few hours or days until I figure out wtf just happened. But that only normally happens when dealing with crab suns lol.
I'm curious, why Crab Suns?
Sometimes when they’re afraid to confront you they save it up for a moment when they need space. They’re kinda like Libras, where they accommodate you without any hint they’re upset until months or years later then attack you with a laundry list of stored up grievances when they need space...
*cough*cardinals*cough*
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I honestly believe I have a love / hate affair with all signs cardinal.
When it is going great, then it is amazing, and they energise you like no other. When they become a pain in my bottom, then I want to fade to black. 😆
Hey I wasn’t gonna say anything because I know good and well people have to skim read my novels if they bother reading them at all. If people try reading my entire posts they’d surely fall asleep! Ha!
Seriously, I’m just thankful you even read it at all! Haha 😂
I love everything you write!
(plus all the other gooey Crab Moon stuff Elly wrote)...
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This
Hey I wasn’t gonna say anything because I know good and well people have to skim read my novels if they bother reading them at all. If people try reading my entire posts they’d surely fall asleep! Ha!
Seriously, I’m just thankful you even read it at all! Haha 😂
I love everything you write!
(plus all the other gooey Crab Moon stuff Elly wrote)...
This
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I don't get it. Why was this worthy of a repost?
Backsides and Tissues
Him: *asks about friend Scorp hasn't been talking to*
Scorp: We haven't talked in a minute.
Him: Really? Why?
Scorp: Hmph.
Him: Okay.....🙂 *silent*.
Scorp: *slowly shares what happened....voice starts to get louder....starts to curse....*
Him: 🙂
Scorp: *look at him* And what are you smiling at?!
Him: *puts up hands* Whoa killa! I'm just listening to you.
Scorp: Well, what's so funny?
Him: Not funny. Amusing..
Scorp: I'm glad I amuse you.
Him: Your accent does.
Scorp: I don't have an accent. You have an accent.
Him: *tilts head, gives side eye* Say backside....
Scorp: Hmph. Say Tissue.
Him: 😄
I've been hooking up with the ex Scorp. I haven't decided how I feel about it yet. LOL.
Lol?
Posted by Andalusia
I've been hooking up with the ex Scorp. I haven't decided how I feel about it yet. LOL.Lol?
Give it 2-5 days, that moon will shake out at least seven different feelings on the matter. Well, you are a Virgo, so maybe a full week. 😄
Also.
That only took months. How many ages ago did you post saying you were thinking about texting him? 😛
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Yeah... I know, I know 😑😣😳😈
😙
Posted by Andalusia
I've been hooking up with the ex Scorp. I haven't decided how I feel about it yet. LOL.Lol?
Give it 2-5 days, that moon will shake out at least seven different feelings on the matter. Well, you are a Virgo, so maybe a full week. 😄
Also.
That only took months. How many ages ago did you post saying you were thinking about texting him? 😛
Yeah... I know, I know 😑😣😳😈
😙
See, you’re still at 4 emojis in your emotional sequence. Totes good.
When you can’t pick any emojis, that’s when you need to send up a flare signal.
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*standing in line annoyed...* this man has to either be an air or a fire sign....or very strong air placements. He's talked more in the last 5 minutes I've been standing behind him than I've done all day....😐
Posted by ellesbelles
You are not going to believe this.....My new partner in crime is a........
Gemini 😱
🙂
Lol?
😆
Ugh. Same shit different day. As soon as I let loose with him, he clenches tighter than an asshole and goes completely silent.
Aaaand thus I remember one of the many reasons we are not a couple any longer.
(Scorpio + Pisces) = the two loves of my heart
(My nephews) (Scorpio baby + Pisces toddler)
(Please don't quote or share)
Ate a cookie. Shouldna done that :/
Posted by exo
all about this show rn 👏👏
I saw the ads for this and I'm curious....
Posted by Andalusia
(Scorpio + Pisces) = the two loves of my heart...
Melly, what approach would you suggest for a shy Virgo?
Posted by Andalusia
(Scorpio + Pisces) = the two loves of my heart...Melly, what approach would you suggest for a shy Virgo?
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Approach in what capacity? As an aunt with her niece/nephew?
Posted by Andalusia
Ate a cookie. Shouldna done that :/Roomie just the other day when talking about how long I’ve been sick.
Taurus: We really need to get some vegetables in your diet.
Elly: I know. It’s shit.
Taurus: I mean, you could eat more than cookies.
Elly: you mean, woman can’t survive alone off shortbread, salted caramel toffee, sugar and tollhouse?
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My cookie has weed in it:/
Posted by Andalusia
(Scorpio + Pisces) = the two loves of my heart...Melly, what approach would you suggest for a shy Virgo?
Approach in what capacity? As an aunt with her niece/nephew?
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As in help the person loosen up and relax a bit. Feel comfortable enough to express needs and wants.
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Posted by exo
all about this show rn 👏👏I saw the ads for this and I'm curious....
it is all sexy, dark, female power. must watch! 🙂
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I tried yesterday, but couldn't stream it. I was bedridden and needed to find something interesting to watch... 😐
I'll will try again.
Posted by ellesbelles
She hasn't completely broken me though....I still get giddy when I cross this bridge on the way to work in the morning....
....and see this on my way home.....
....and when I was sleeping in on Sunday....a squirrel was crawling about on the outside of my window about six inches from my face...I just smiled at him and watched him play with a leaf...lol. His tiny little hands!!!
*like*
Posted by Andalusia
(Scorpio + Pisces) = the two loves of my heart...Melly, what approach would you suggest for a shy Virgo?
Approach in what capacity? As an aunt with her niece/nephew?
As in help the person loosen up and relax a bit. Feel comfortable enough to express needs and wants.
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Hmmm.. How old is the Virgo in question? I was gonna say 'read aloud to them' and other things along that vein.. but obviously that won't work if they're fully grown, lol.
Posted by Andalusia
Ate a cookie. Shouldna done that :/Roomie just the other day when talking about how long I’ve been sick.
Taurus: We really need to get some vegetables in your diet.
Elly: I know. It’s shit.
Taurus: I mean, you could eat more than cookies.
Elly: you mean, woman can’t survive alone off shortbread, salted caramel toffee, sugar and tollhouse?
My cookie has weed in it:/
Omg YAAAASSS.
Those cookies are butterfinger and hiding in my fridge.
You just need an itinerary next time.
Start with bubble bath. Load up Netflix que with either documentaries or comedies. Pre plan snacks.
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Instead I spent the evening listening to myself chew, lol.
Posted by Andalusia
(Scorpio + Pisces) = the two loves of my heart...Melly, what approach would you suggest for a shy Virgo?
Approach in what capacity? As an aunt with her niece/nephew?
As in help the person loosen up and relax a bit. Feel comfortable enough to express needs and wants.
Hmmm.. How old is the Virgo in question? I was gonna say 'read aloud to them' and other things along that vein.. but obviously that won't work if they're fully grown, lol.
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Lol. Yes, this Virgo is fully grown. It's okay. I think I just need to work on my patience and try to recognize that I may be more direct and assertive than others are.
Posted by Andalusia
(Scorpio + Pisces) = the two loves of my heart...Melly, what approach would you suggest for a shy Virgo?
Approach in what capacity? As an aunt with her niece/nephew?
As in help the person loosen up and relax a bit. Feel comfortable enough to express needs and wants.
Hmmm.. How old is the Virgo in question? I was gonna say 'read aloud to them' and other things along that vein.. but obviously that won't work if they're fully grown, lol.
Lol. Yes, this Virgo is fully grown. It's okay. I think I just need to work on my patience and try to recognize that I may be more direct and assertive than others are.
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Hmm.. I personally don't have a problem with direct and assertive, as long as it's not accompanied by a bitch ass temper or excess emotionalism (a la Leo or Cancer 😛 ).
Scorpios usually feel comfortable and familiar to us virgo's, even if there's a bit of awkwardness initially. Just keep being your badass self and I'm sure they'll warm up. Now, whether or not you'll regret it once they start talking is another story all together.
2017 - a year of exploration and of putting oneself out there in new environments, living for others
2018 - a year of discovery, to determine my limitations and then to challenge my capabilities, pushing, even breaking boundaries, living for myself
The Spartan Race, signed up and there is no turning back now.
Posted by Ellygant
Dazed says hi ladies!
Is He there with you? Did you tell him Ands got knocked up??
Posted by Ellygant
Dazed says hi ladies!Is He there with you? Did you tell him Ands got knocked up??
LOL. nah. I still haven’t talked any of y’all into visiting me yet. Still a dxp meetup virgin.
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Yeah.. me too.
Posted by Ellygant
Dazed says hi ladies!Is He there with you? Did you tell him Ands got knocked up??
LOL. nah. I still haven’t talked any of y’all into visiting me yet. Still a dxp meetup virgin.
Yeah.. me too.
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Y'all need to get a move on.
So many threads I've literally clicked on with the intention of replying, paused and then just hit the return button. Meh....
Ha! Cancer moon loves cheese. 😄...
I saw this one line as I was hitting "post message" and thought *lol, what the hell is Elly going on about now?*
I read post in sequence though, so I'll get to that post in time....
Scorpios usually feel comfortable and familiar to us virgo's, even if there's a bit of awkwardness initially. Just keep being your badass self and I'm sure they'll warm up. Now, whether or not you'll regret it once they start talking is another story all together.
Hmph. Honestly, the Virgos I know are the only folks I've ever felt truly safe with and that's saying a lot given my feelings about trusting others.
You folks are very easy to love.
With the exception of D. Her Ram Moon, pushes her right over that thin line of love and hate.
yes, I know you're lurking......😛
I'm not sure why it is, but there is this part of me that always needs to fight the urge to purposely add a lot of typos when I'm addressing a Virgo lol.
Posted by Unwording
What the actual hell!?
LOL.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
2017 - a year of exploration and of putting oneself out there in new environments, living for others2018 - a year of discovery, to determine my limitations and then to challenge my capabilities, pushing, even breaking boundaries, living for myself
The Spartan Race, signed up and there is no turning back now.
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So, I meant to come back to this. I don't quite understand what you mean by this.