my ongoing scorpio love affair

hi everyone first time poster.

I wanted to hear peoples perspective on my romantic situation.

2 years ago this july(wow time flies) I ended for what seemed like for good a relationship with a scorpio male I dated for a year . There was tons of love between us, but he at the time was having what seems like a typical scorpio response of running away from the person he really loved and after being patient for so long I told him I had to end things .After I broke up with him he tried to contact me for several months after but i just ignored it. Finally after absolutely no contact for over a year ,last july he wrote me out of the blue and told me that he knew I wasn't happy with things he had done in the past but he was sincerely "working on becoming a better man." I kinda laughed that off and kept on ignoring him.In the last month or so we started talking again and it's crazy but within a few days of communicating again it's as we had never gone through all the drama and distance. He told me he still had strong feelings for me and that being with me before was a defining moment in his life which taught him you can have it all ;love and care for someone along with intense intimacy /passion. I was stunned .

So we have been talking pretty much daily again, and last week I even allowed him to take me out for drinks. We had a great time ,and had a great make out session but I was surprised he didn't try to sleep with me , but he told me "there was no rush we are getting to know one another again."


AHH! i'm so like bewildered how this all started up again .What do I do?should i go for it?does he seem sincere? is it possible for scorpio's feelings to remain suspended in time like that. I mean sure he has dated other people since me, and me as well, but this connection we have with one another it's f'in intense.

any perspective is very appreciated. Thanks in advance!

"What do I do?should i go for it?does he seem sincere? is it possible for scorpio's feelings to remain suspended in time like that."

In my experience, yes. If they care for you, that never goes away.

I have been in this situation a couple of times w/2 different Scorps. In both cases I discovered the person had not changed at all, just put on a good show of it in the beginning to hook me again.

I'm not saying not to go for it...maybe he really has changed. Just be prepared if he's not. You could be setting yourself up for another major disappointment.

"Maybe those men you are talking about weren't the problem.

It was probably you."

Haven't gotten any complaints from the one I'm seeing now. But thanks for the unsolicited judgement based on complete and total ignorance. 😉

Exes are usually exes for reason.

"what if YOU are the "ex" (the crazy one) and you are truly mending your ways?"

Honestly, I have found women are more likely to do this than men. We are far more critical of ourselves than they are. However...did everyone miss the part where I said "I'm NOT telling you not to go for it? LOL

All I'm advising is to prepare yourself for the fact that it could just be a repeat. That is what most people find when they reconnect with an ex.

lv, what is your sign? It is up to you. How do you feel? Do you feel confident about trying again. Have you told him how much you disliked the way he handled things before?

"In the last month or so we started talking again and it's crazy but within a few days of communicating again it's as we had never gone through all the drama and distance."


Bewildered? To help you with your bewilderment on how it started again, read the above quote, in which YOU wrote and there is your answer.

In failing relationships, people pine away to have what was after people have changed .. this cannot happen because people change.

In re-connecting of old relationships, people have to take into account that they have changed and can never have what was.

Going by what you wrote .. this togetherness excludes the distance and drama that what was as if it never happened .. it DID happen, it was why you broke up.

To get back together ignorant of personal life-growth and attempt to re-connect according to what was .. will cause this to fail again.

wow I wake up and there is all this great advice, thank you to everyone responding!

Queen -I am a Taurus(SO CLICHE RIGHT ahahah, the taurus -scorpio thing). Also I dont know if it matters, but I'm 27 and he is 34.

to latinaindia-hola. Believe me it was not me who didn't have the true feelings. I loved him so much , and I was SUPER patient with him, but who the hell in their right mind is going to hold someones hand for a year and be like "it's cool i totally understand" every couple of months when this person they love freaks out and like alienates themself for a week but then comes running back saying "i love you." i think that sort of shit would bug anyone and be hurtful .

With all that said

1) its been a couple of years, Im older, he is older.
2) i really for the most part am going into this without too much holding on to the past , i do feel pretty much there is a clean slate.
3) I , also, must say I am seeing a great deal in maturity in him . He has gotten really into healthier living(biking,hiking).He got back into his art and music which he loves but had also neglected for years .He is totally in constant contact with me.He is really stepping up at his job and has recently acquired a co-owner position.I sincerely am so proud of him !
4.On my end I'm communicating better too,my taurus tendency is to keep alot inside. its hard for us to just get carried away in love, not that we dont want to or feel deeply, its just there are also a lot of trust barriers we have to overcome before we can let that guard down and enter cheesey love zone ahahaha. I know before I played it so super cool with him because I never wanted to act like I needed him too much .Now Im being much more open for example yesterday I just wrote him a little email during the day saying "i know you are super busy, but just wanted to say hi and im thinking about you." THATS BIG FOR ME...old me never would have felt comfortable being like that.


Why am I still confused as to what to do ?

1.i dont know the whole its been years but then it all came back so strong and so quick , it just feels too like unreal.And again taurus here...that sort of stuff is hard for us to comprehend .

2.i dont want to be a dumbass, what if this is all an act? i dont feel like it is in my gut but you never know right?cmon ladies we have all been here !

3.i DO love him so much, but i dont know if i could handle it not working out again.


see im not crazy, im just analytical.

***but who the hell in their right mind is going to hold someones hand for a year and be like "it's cool i totally understand" every couple of months when this person they love freaks out and like alienates themself for a week but then comes running back saying "i love you."***

No one. This seems to be a scorp man pattern. However, my scorp friend is never gone longer than a day or so, but he does the whole " you are too good for me", "I am scared but I love you and can't imagine not having you in my life etc....." Blah, blah, blah and this is not even while in a serious relationship. I think.

ya i totally do think its a scorp man thing , and believe me im a patient person but and i kept hanging in there to be like he is going to come out of it, but we all have statutes of limitations . A year of time isn't like nothing you know, and we were such good friends for 2 years before we ever did anything, i just felt like I deserved him to be consistent and fight past his fears, i was fighting past mine!

but things are rad right now ,it almost scares me ! but what about the fact he didn't try to sleep with me the other day when he took me out. that was weird to me. he is so so sososososos sexual, and believe me he writes me very provocative emails all the time and expresses his interest to be fully intimate again, i was very taken aback by his restraint

***but what about the fact he didn't try to sleep with me the other day when he took me out. that was weird to me. he is so so sososososos sexual, and believe me he writes me very provocative emails all the time and expresses his interest to be fully intimate again, i was very taken aback by his restraint***

My scorp friend is the same animalistic and sensually sexual. Whew just the thaught, however there were a few dates where he didn't do more than kiss me and hold my hand. He went home after he dropped me off at home and made sure I got in safely. I think they sometimes want to show you they can have that clean special valuable time with you without the sex. They feel you on another level.

you all are so insightful and helpful,thank you for taking the time to give me your perspective 🙂

holy crap tonight he asked me if i want to go with him and his sister to a museum this weekend. i never was asked to meet his family before .WOA

grrr

so after all the positivity these last few months me and the scorp have hit a snag after he invited me to go to the museum with him and his sister. I guess my taurusness reared its ugly head(im cautious ... i responded that i had already seen the intended exhibit , but i did still ask if we could hang out later on).he ignored me after that FOR FOUR DAYS!! this week there has been more communication but it seems sorta funky although last night we did engage in some naughty text messaging(so I guess he still must sorta like me right ahaha).


Is everything blown? or is he just regrouping ?or maybe did he get scared that he invited me out to meet his sister ? egads help! thanks dudes y dudettes

i think he is psychic or something bc after i posted last night he called me and we hung out and things are all good again, actually better than GOOD

I'm a tard

🙂