Jealousy...

My Scorpio and I have a discreet relationship and we socialize in the same circle. So when we are at social functions we act as if we're platonic. He has voiced to me that he feels uncomfortable with me being at these social functions because he hates to see other men talk and flirt with me. So he has requested that I not attend these functions. He's even gone as far as telling me that he and his "guys" have decided that at the next function no one could bring their significant other (which I think is stupid). We'll today I find out that's not true and that one of his friends I talked to today is bringing his sig.other.

I'm trying to figure out if my Scorp lied because he feel out of control in these social settings and it makes him jealous?

it's just because he cares about you...i know it sounds weird, but you should be flattered. tell him that he doesn't have to be jealous, reassure him that you care for him very much and then give him the best sex of his life.

the scorpion's language is a sexual one - especially the guys.

why is your relationship discreet?

Thanks for the feedback SW...

Not that I'm proud of it, but we are currently in a LTR with other people...

It's a very complicated situation.

sw: are all scorps are that jealous? what if i have one that's not jealous? how would you cover your jealousy?

PB: i don't know how you do it. i'd probably go insane by now🙂 does this "not bringing s.o." situation makes you comfortable?

AG...

I'm still battling with it. He has on several occasions told me how it bothers him when we are out together and men approach me. I'm genuinely a social butterfly, so when people do approach me I'm friendly. So I can see how that could be uncomfortable for him because maybe it appears that I'm enjoying the attention and that I'm flirting back. Of course this is his own insecurity. We are still currently having a disagreement about his request.

"we are currently in a LTR with other people.."


Huh——


On your other thread, I didn't read the whole thing before posting my thoughts .... is this saying that both of you are currently in a relationship with other people and you and Scorpio man are having an affair = cheating on your partners?

pb: does he get jealous when you're with your "s.o." and does it bother you to see him with his? what does he expect you to do just stand in the corner and not be social with anyone except him? that's unfair to you. does he socialize with other people?

Before waiting for your response, I will elaborate on another thought, assuming this assessment of that quote is correct, and add ...


.. the reason why he doesn't want to be seen with you in public is because you are his mistress, his secret squeeze, in which he doesn't want people who might know her .. tell her that he's unfaithful.

If that's not what it meant ... then above is total bullshit, and I've no clue what I'm talking about 🙂

Yes P-Angel we are having an affair...It's complicated.

Are you about to rip me a new one? Believe me I feel the guilt. I've tried to let go. I'm not perfect...

We've never been out and seen each other's "significant other."

In the past...I'm the social butterfly and he's the one sitting back being quiet and drinking a drink.

"Are you about to rip me a new one?"


Possibly .. cheating is fucked up.

P-Angel...

I know it's "treetrunked up"! Like I said it's complicated.

I hear ya FF...

I'm working on the madness now. Thanks again for all your feedback. It's been greatly appreciated. I would love to hear your story...Of course in private ;O)

***I don't know. It looks like his behavior might have to do with guilt and being with you around other people makes him feel uncomfortable. You are a part of his "secret" life and we all know Scorps don't like letting our secrets be discovered. ***


This statement I could probably agree with. However, scorp guys are relentlessly jealous (normally) always suspecting something...

He knows the situation. I wouldn't give him that power. Trust me they act like they want a woman who dances to their drum, but one who does what she wants challenges him and All us scorps love strong, independent challenging people - just like us. It will initially cause a short confrontation, but you are an adult. You do as you please. Control is not love. They seem to think it is, but it isn't.

On another note: PEOPLE WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE? NONE OF US ARE PERFECT OR WITHOUT FAULT SO STOP THROWING STONES! Not that I condone cheating, I personally would rather leave a relationship than cheat. However, I don't judge. We all live our life the best way WE know how. We only have one, so why not make the most of it while we are here, whatever that may be. Get what you need and be happy. Period. So stop the stone throwing unless you yourself are perfect without fault!!!!

By the way PB, does he ever bring is sig. other to these events? Do the two of you go together. Do you work in the same field? Or, do you just meet up there?

Remind him that you are P/T lovers and at events is not that part of the time. LOL!!!

Thanks Queen for having my back!

We've had the discussion and he knows that I'm not going to stop living and enjoying my life because of him feeling uncomfortable...So we're over that hump. I think he knew deep down inside that I wasn't going to stop attending social engagements because of his insecurities. He even made reference to me being at the next event. He was probably just testing me...

He NEVER brings his sig. other out. They don't do anything together unless its family related. Even before we hooked up I always saw him without her. No, we don't attend these functions together and we're very discreet when we attend because we have a lot of the same friends in common. We met through hanging out in the same social circle.

I think he's getting the hint that it's part-time...You know we Cancers can be very FICKLE and I've been taking it easy lately and acting kind of aloof. Not on purpose...I'm just getting tired because it's too emotionally draining. He senses it I'm sure.

Yeah, I can see it being emotionally draining. It is hard enough dealing with one relationship. Geeez! Girl I am sure you drink plenty of coffee. LOL!! However, keeping it in prospective, you know this all comes with the territory of the situation. Right? When was this event? Saturday?

Coffee? Please! I came home last night and made me 2 vodka's and cranberry. LOL!

The event is this Saturday...

"I think he's getting the hint that it's part-time"


lol

hey pb: are you going to talk to him during the event?

At these events we hug exchange a few pleasantries back and forth and then we go our separate ways to socialize amongst our friends.

BTW AG...How have things been going with your Scorp this week?

pb: this whole sutiation just sucks for you. i'm sorry about that.
i spend some really nice time with him and it's great when we're together but then when he's gone it drives me insane. you know how it is.