@PeanutBrown
18 Years
Question for you Scorpios...
He is scared and protecting himself. The situation isn't easy and he is trying to keep his composure before he gets to the point of no return... Identical words from my scorp friend... So there is probably much truth in it for yours.
Thanks Queen...
I'm just having one of those "many" days and I'm just frustrated. These Scorpio men are just so complex!
I'm just having one of those "many" days and I'm just frustrated. These Scorpio men are just so complex!
"Would a Scorpio distance himself if he has lot of personal issues going on?"
I tend to do that.
I tend to do that.
i like to play that game too, sometimes i do it intentionally to see how much am i missed—i think you should also consider the venus and the moon here
I'm the classic heavy water Scorp. Yes, Sun in Scorp.
If it weren't, I wouldn't put up with all the baggage, psychosis, and drama that the other Scorps dish out on a consistent basis.
If it weren't, I wouldn't put up with all the baggage, psychosis, and drama that the other Scorps dish out on a consistent basis.
^ by visiting this board.
Scorp978...Are you talking about my Scorp's venus and moon?
His venus is Virgo and his moon is Virgo.
Thanks for all the feedback guys...
**he told me that when he gets to a place he can't process mentally and emotionally, he shuts everyone out.**
FSS: I definitely think that's what happening...Even though he's telling me everything is fine. I just feel like I'm getting mixed signals from his actions.
Scorp978: Sometimes I feel like it's a game, because when I pull away she seems to get anxious and all sentimental on me. But when I let down my guard again he's back to acting aloof...WTF?
**he told me that when he gets to a place he can't process mentally and emotionally, he shuts everyone out.**
FSS: I definitely think that's what happening...Even though he's telling me everything is fine. I just feel like I'm getting mixed signals from his actions.
Scorp978: Sometimes I feel like it's a game, because when I pull away she seems to get anxious and all sentimental on me. But when I let down my guard again he's back to acting aloof...WTF?
DC: I've definitely been told to give them their space, but when I do he gets all insecure on me. Questioning my feelings for him. I tell you this is a constant roller coaster ride!
In which sign is your moon Scorpion_rising?
Sorry, I'm not big into self-disclosure. Please read my profile for more answers.
*cough*
Some folks try too hard to fit their sign. A wise man once said, "Small minds fit inside small boxes."
Some folks try too hard to fit their sign. A wise man once said, "Small minds fit inside small boxes."
"He calls, he reassures me that he still loves me and he was worried that I was going to leave him ..."
Question: How can you leave someone you never had?
Question: How can you leave someone you never had?
"Would a Scorpio distance himself if he has lot of personal issues going on?"
Ah YEAH .... especially when he has a woman and family at home.
Thats's some pretty serious personal shit to have with another woman hanging in the shadows.
Seriously .. are you on crack?
He has you hanging, tells you he loves you and wants you .. then goes home to his woman and family, while you sit with bated-breath for his return when he can steal away from her. Is there something wrong with you, PeanutBrown?
Ah YEAH .... especially when he has a woman and family at home.
Thats's some pretty serious personal shit to have with another woman hanging in the shadows.
Seriously .. are you on crack?
He has you hanging, tells you he loves you and wants you .. then goes home to his woman and family, while you sit with bated-breath for his return when he can steal away from her. Is there something wrong with you, PeanutBrown?
"It just seems that he's never available...Something is always coming up!"
lol
lol
***but some signs can only feel truly happy when they can live a life without deceptions. Scorpios and capricorns being two of them. Although both signs can be secretive but they are most happy when they can share themselves completely with their love ones. ****
Thi is true for scorps, however, if he (scorp) is't able to completely share himself with the loved one at home, this would explain while he is looking outside his relationship. Do I condone it? No. Do I judge either of the parties involved in this affair? No. Why? Because it isn't me and I have no idea what they are going through.
So, yes PB it is a much different situation than it would be if he was separated and not living with his partner and they aren't together rather than the two of you still being with your partners and trying to steal some time to see eachother too. He probably just isn't able to see as much as you both would like and yes for a scorp it is probably uncomfortable to keep both relationships going at the same time as we tend to focus most or all our energy on one partner at a time or one will always be loved more than the other so we would perfer to focus on the most loved or the one we are "in love" with.
It seems it will always be this way unless the two of you can be together after you are out of your current relationship. I don't know if I could handle this myself. I wouldn't want to it is hard enough dealing with them when it is just you.
Thi is true for scorps, however, if he (scorp) is't able to completely share himself with the loved one at home, this would explain while he is looking outside his relationship. Do I condone it? No. Do I judge either of the parties involved in this affair? No. Why? Because it isn't me and I have no idea what they are going through.
So, yes PB it is a much different situation than it would be if he was separated and not living with his partner and they aren't together rather than the two of you still being with your partners and trying to steal some time to see eachother too. He probably just isn't able to see as much as you both would like and yes for a scorp it is probably uncomfortable to keep both relationships going at the same time as we tend to focus most or all our energy on one partner at a time or one will always be loved more than the other so we would perfer to focus on the most loved or the one we are "in love" with.
It seems it will always be this way unless the two of you can be together after you are out of your current relationship. I don't know if I could handle this myself. I wouldn't want to it is hard enough dealing with them when it is just you.
Sorry my spelling sucks. My keys are sticking on my laptop.. Isn't, its.
"Sorry, I'm not big into self-disclosure. Please read my profile for more answers."
I haven't checked your profile....I'd prefer you in order to answer my question...
I'm sure that you know best why you're not big in self-disclosure...Have a nice day....
I haven't checked your profile....I'd prefer you in order to answer my question...
I'm sure that you know best why you're not big in self-disclosure...Have a nice day....
dear Peanutbrown,
i honestly understand him, i do the same, i want soemone to love me but i cannot have him in my face, just give me a little bit and then back off........i cannot explain why, and then i do become a bit "insecure" because i want things my way....i know it is not fair but that doesn't mean i do not like the person; one thing is for sure, i would never be with someone that i do not like or feel attracted to, i wouldn't even talk to them...lol
i hope this helps
i honestly understand him, i do the same, i want soemone to love me but i cannot have him in my face, just give me a little bit and then back off........i cannot explain why, and then i do become a bit "insecure" because i want things my way....i know it is not fair but that doesn't mean i do not like the person; one thing is for sure, i would never be with someone that i do not like or feel attracted to, i wouldn't even talk to them...lol
i hope this helps
P Angel:
WOW! You really know how to cut a girl deep!
Am I on crack? Sometimes I think I am..LOL!
**He has you hanging, tells you he loves you and wants you .. then goes home to his woman and family, while you sit with bated-breath for his return when he can steal away from her. Is there something wrong with you, PeanutBrown?**
P Angel there is nothing wrong with me?We both have situations going on at home. I just got caught up in something and I'm trying to figure out how to deal with it. I'm human, we don't always make the right choices in life and nobody knows what I'm going through unless they've walked in my shoes. No one knows what my life is like at home as well as his?His feelings for me are genuine, as well as mine for him.
WOW! You really know how to cut a girl deep!
Am I on crack? Sometimes I think I am..LOL!
**He has you hanging, tells you he loves you and wants you .. then goes home to his woman and family, while you sit with bated-breath for his return when he can steal away from her. Is there something wrong with you, PeanutBrown?**
P Angel there is nothing wrong with me?We both have situations going on at home. I just got caught up in something and I'm trying to figure out how to deal with it. I'm human, we don't always make the right choices in life and nobody knows what I'm going through unless they've walked in my shoes. No one knows what my life is like at home as well as his?His feelings for me are genuine, as well as mine for him.
Emerald...Sagigoat...Queen...
Thank you all for your insight. I know that I have to make a decision about what the next step will be. We BOTH know that we cannot continue to be in this relationship; it's unfair to the other people in our lives. We are either going to have to commit to each other or commit to the people at home. Of course this is not an easy choice, but it's the right choice. Da_n!
Thank you all for your insight. I know that I have to make a decision about what the next step will be. We BOTH know that we cannot continue to be in this relationship; it's unfair to the other people in our lives. We are either going to have to commit to each other or commit to the people at home. Of course this is not an easy choice, but it's the right choice. Da_n!
ROXI...ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!
2nd Chapter...Thanks!
It's very torturous and I'm going to have to make the very though decision to walk away, because I cannot continue to go on this way. I REFUSE to go on the way! Wish me luck...
It's very torturous and I'm going to have to make the very though decision to walk away, because I cannot continue to go on this way. I REFUSE to go on the way! Wish me luck...
2ndchapter... I figured that to be true.
2nd Chapter:
That's what really scares me. The few times I tried to pull away I've seen some of his "obsessive ways". Not to the extreme because he's always reeled me back in. The good thing is that I've kept my distance lately and haven't seen him. I'm hoping to slowly distance myself and just stay out of his presence. It won't be so easy to reel me back in if I don't physically come in contact with him.
That's what really scares me. The few times I tried to pull away I've seen some of his "obsessive ways". Not to the extreme because he's always reeled me back in. The good thing is that I've kept my distance lately and haven't seen him. I'm hoping to slowly distance myself and just stay out of his presence. It won't be so easy to reel me back in if I don't physically come in contact with him.
He is trying to protect you from feeling his pain or whatever he is going through. See, Scorpios think about other people alot. He doesnt want to hurt you and he wants to deal with this problem alone before he is ready to come back and feels he can give his all to you.
He is trying to protect you from feeling his pain or whatever he is going through. See, Scorpios think about other people alot. He doesnt want to hurt you and he wants to deal with this problem alone before he is ready to come back and feels he can give his all to you.
May I add here that sometimes they (men, I suppose, but that could include Scorpios) back off when they actually want to back off... I mean, this tango business is all very well, but if you are supposed to reassure when they DON'T back off, and back off when they DO, it all begins to sound like very hard work.
Tell me, when do Scorpios make the running? Do the chasing? Profess feelings?
I'm guessing, whatever the time scale involved, the answer will be, "When they are truly interested." So I imagine that if he isn't doing those things, love may be a cheap word on his lips. It certainly seems as though the love he promised his wife hasn't been all that binding and sadly, though I do understand your words about not always making good choides, there is no reason, given his track record, why he should treat you any better than he has her.
I hope you get the courage to make the decision which will help you long-term.
SAV x
Tell me, when do Scorpios make the running? Do the chasing? Profess feelings?
I'm guessing, whatever the time scale involved, the answer will be, "When they are truly interested." So I imagine that if he isn't doing those things, love may be a cheap word on his lips. It certainly seems as though the love he promised his wife hasn't been all that binding and sadly, though I do understand your words about not always making good choides, there is no reason, given his track record, why he should treat you any better than he has her.
I hope you get the courage to make the decision which will help you long-term.
SAV x
Oh - and has it occurred to you that Non contact might be the right thing to do so that he DOES forget you?
I'm not sure what I believe about Karma but it sure bit my friend in the butt. I have spent three years NOT saying what I felt about her going with another man's wife, as well as watching her slowly go under the waters with a breakdown after he treated her just as badly. I haven't even said 'I told you so' or 'You should have known' but sheesh, my lips and tongue are almost bitten through!!
I'm not sure what I believe about Karma but it sure bit my friend in the butt. I have spent three years NOT saying what I felt about her going with another man's wife, as well as watching her slowly go under the waters with a breakdown after he treated her just as badly. I haven't even said 'I told you so' or 'You should have known' but sheesh, my lips and tongue are almost bitten through!!
So sorry, Toro - I was confusing you with Peanut Brown.
I'm glad for your certainty!
I'm glad for your certainty!
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I know you Scorp's are sooooo sick of all these relationship questions. But look how many people you've stopped from jumping off the bridge! LOL...
OK...Here's the question.
Would a Scorpio distance himself if he has lot of personal issues going on?
He calls, he reassures me that he still loves me and he was worried that I was going to leave him because I was being distant due to his recent withdrawal.
It just seems that he's never available...Something is always coming up! I'm trying to be patient, but I don't know what to do.