Please Don't Judge Me... :(

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Okay, so it happened. I really didn't think it would...


As I was laying with New Scorp tonight cuddling and joking around I said " I really like you new scorp " he said " I really like you too "



We say this to eachother all the time btw or have for the past 2 and half months. When I say like you know I mean in the ( lover/friend ) with benefits kind of way. CAUSE THAT IS WHAT WE HAVE BEEN.

He snuggles me a little closer and says " Will you go out with me? " I started laughing and said " What? " "What do you mean? " he goes " Like will you be my girlfriend "


I felt like bailing my eyes out and running for the door but couldn't move because I was in sheer terror. So I said " Are you serious or joking " hoping maybe it was a joke since we had been just joking around...


He's like " Lol no I'm being serious " so I said " Yea totally I will " and than continued cuddling.


Now before you rip me a new one what the hell was I suppose to do? I'm like half naked in someones bed and they are asking you this? Putting you on the spot? What would you do—


We hung out for about an hour more cuddling and watching tv than I said I had to go home and get some rest. He was like " Ya babe you seems sleepy "

"Babe"


Great. Ya okay maybe I'm just a naive stupid sagittarius that couldn't read the signs right. He's been wanting me to meet his friends, txting more and more and he even called me baby in a txt the other night but honestly I thought it was all a joke.


So now I feel like totally fucked because I have no idea how to handle this. He is a really great guy, I mean he is a really together person I have no idea why he wants to be with a piece of shit like me.

Anyway scorps what do I do? Is there anyway I can " Let me think about it? " or can we " Keep it how its been? " without sounding like a bitch or hurting his feelings?


* goes and dies in corner *









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I have no idea why he wants to be with a piece of shit like me.





wait...is this why you don't want to be with him? obviously, he sees something in you he likes. personally, i think you're being hard on yourself. unless you're just scared? it's ok to be, you could just see how it goes.

but if you really don't want a relationship, honesty is the best policy here. as in, 'you know, you caught me off guard that night and i don't want the same thing you do. but i'm happy to keep things casual' *insert friendly smile*

i do think he put you on the spot, though. like, seriously...was that the best time, lol
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I have no idea why he wants to be with a piece of shit like me.





wait...is this why you don't want to be with him? obviously, he sees something in you he likes. personally, i think you're being hard on yourself. unless you're just scared? it's ok to be, you could just see how it goes.

but if you really don't want a relationship, honesty is the best policy here. as in, 'you know, you caught me off guard that night and i don't want the same thing you do. but i'm happy to keep things casual' *insert friendly smile*

i do think he put you on the spot, though. like, seriously...was that the best time, lol
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Thanks nimbue,

Yea I guess because I have issues and I feel like I need to be perfect to be in a relationship and I am not perfect by far.

^^^ yes I know that is childhood stuff

Lol I guess there isn't a best time for the kind of stuff it just caught me off guard alot. I guess I just wasn't reading the signs right or totally ignoring them. Idk.
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Posted by ellessque
awwwe.

the life of venus in aqua 😄

what do YOU want? being in his shoes (lol), the most important thing you can do is be honest. no beating around the bush, no sugar coating. pure honesty. but be prepared.....your honesty may make him want to be closer to you, but you have to do it anyways so he knows exactly where he stands.

why do you think you are a piece of shit? seems like this is a theme with aqua venus. just because you can't love someone in the traditional sense, does NOT make you less of a person. EVERYONE is different. Embrace yourself sweetness. There are people who are going to love you and accept all of that, and you are deserving of it too 🙂



Haha I do feel that way!

I'm very confused with this placement. I always feel like I'm incapable and I don't know. I'm sure you get what I mean elle since Mr. Cap 🙂 And thank you for saying that
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sag, remember your thread about the selfish guys you sleep with who don't care about your pleasure? why do you think that is? be honest.

it seems like you??ve been accepting less than what you really want and deserve. this guy is offering you more. don't pass him up.



Yea I do remember that post.

I wasn't sleeping around to find a boyfriend though. I don't think that has ever been a intention my whole life. I just " fall into " things.

But yes he is a very nice man. So were most men that I could of dated but wouldn't. But I have a hard time saying my needs to people though your right about that.

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Posted by ellessque
the more you tell her that the more she's going to freak out. seriously.

she has to be honest with her feelings and she needs a partner that accepts that honesty. otherwise she'll feel like she is fooling herself into feeling something that isnt't there because it's not. in order for it to work it has to be done at her pace. she has found a lovely man who as the aspects to understand this......if she tells him.



so she doesnt like him? i thought she did? so she only wants him for sexy time?

well if thats the case. call him this minute and tell him you didnt mean any of that stuff and why...
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And your all right. I'm totally freaked. I don't know what to do. I'm scared of alot of things. Mostly him seeing that I am not perfect.
Maybe it's the venus in cap?



he's a scorpioooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, he don't want you to be perfect 😄 bleh, perfect is boring.

the venus in cap is lovely, seriously. no flakiness there. he knows what he wants and he'll wait for it.
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Are you sure? LOL my last scorp had some crazy standards I couldn't seem to reach.
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Posted by aPiscesPrincess
Exactly the reason why I would never do friends with benefits, or even have sex with a guy I don't love.. there's a good chance someone will get hurt. I'm not judging you though either, I'm far from perfect myself.
A lot of people here already gave you really good advice. I think you should give him a chance too 🙂



Thats a good point PP. I've never been in love with anyone though. I don't think.

Maybe I should stop having sex all together. I was actually thinking about that the other day. It seems to be causing me problems no matter how I have it.
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*judging*



😢



I was joking.

Hun, give the scorp a chance.

How do you expect to grow and figure out what you want as far as relationships goes if you never give it a chance.

This one could be the one who makes you fill like you're the best thing since sliced bread, not a piece of shit.
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Yea and than he decides I'm not one day. It's hard for me to trust water signs. He is a very nice person though, I just don't know if he could understand me.
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Posted by hiplove79
Girl, you better give that Scorpio man a chance. He sounds lovely.

And look, next time those childhood insecurities come up, I want you tell them, "Tits or Get The Fuck Off." Seriously. Everytime. You know why? Because it will make you smile and realize just how silly those thoughts are. Of course you deserve love.



That is a very true point. I over think everything. It SUCKs. Thanks though Hip
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And your all right. I'm totally freaked. I don't know what to do. I'm scared of alot of things. Mostly him seeing that I am not perfect.
Maybe it's the venus in cap?



he's a scorpioooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, he don't want you to be perfect 😄 bleh, perfect is boring.

the venus in cap is lovely, seriously. no flakiness there. he knows what he wants and he'll wait for it.



Are you sure? LOL my last scorp had some crazy standards I couldn't seem to reach.



whole new set of placements. 😄
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That is true. Are you staying with that cap elle?
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Exactly the reason why I would never do friends with benefits, or even have sex with a guy I don't love.. there's a good chance someone will get hurt. I'm not judging you though either, I'm far from perfect myself.
A lot of people here already gave you really good advice. I think you should give him a chance too 🙂



Thats a good point PP. I've never been in love with anyone though. I don't think.

Maybe I should stop having sex all together.
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whoa whoa whoa, lets not get crazy.
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Hey everyone 🙂

The scorp did not beg me at all deadringer. He just asked me and he was very calm about it.

When my last scorpio asked me to be his girlfriend he was calm about it too.

I just sometimes need a little bit to think about things because I feel in someone way it's a big choice. It's kind of like an investment you know? You wanna make sure you can provide what they need and that they can provide what you need.


Uh I kind of sound like a robot 😛 damn venus.

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Hey everyone 🙂

The scorp did not beg me at all deadringer. He just asked me and he was very calm about it.

When my last scorpio asked me to be his girlfriend he was calm about it too.

I just sometimes need a little bit to think about things because I feel in someone way it's a big choice. It's kind of like an investment you know? You wanna make sure you can provide what they need and that they can provide what you need.


Uh I kind of sound like a robot 😛 damn venus.

I was only messing with the Scorps that came out to play last nite,, honey....anyway good luck with you're investment, hope it pays off🙂
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Ya whatever
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Hey everyone 🙂

The scorp did not beg me at all deadringer. He just asked me and he was very calm about it.

When my last scorpio asked me to be his girlfriend he was calm about it too.

I just sometimes need a little bit to think about things because I feel in someone way it's a big choice. It's kind of like an investment you know? You wanna make sure you can provide what they need and that they can provide what you need.


Uh I kind of sound like a robot 😛 damn venus.



So how are you and your guy doing? Are you feeling more comfortable?

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Yea so far it's been pretty alright. Nothing to scary has happened yet 😛
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Hey everyone 🙂

The scorp did not beg me at all deadringer. He just asked me and he was very calm about it.

When my last scorpio asked me to be his girlfriend he was calm about it too.

I just sometimes need a little bit to think about things because I feel in someone way it's a big choice. It's kind of like an investment you know? You wanna make sure you can provide what they need and that they can provide what you need.


Uh I kind of sound like a robot 😛 damn venus.

I was only messing with the Scorps that came out to play last nite,, honey....anyway good luck with you're investment, hope it pays off🙂



Ya whatever

Oh brother, a Sag with no sense of humor, you and your Scorp should be very happy together.
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Your totally right
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Hey everyone 🙂

The scorp did not beg me at all deadringer. He just asked me and he was very calm about it.

When my last scorpio asked me to be his girlfriend he was calm about it too.

I just sometimes need a little bit to think about things because I feel in someone way it's a big choice. It's kind of like an investment you know? You wanna make sure you can provide what they need and that they can provide what you need.


Uh I kind of sound like a robot 😛 damn venus.



So how are you and your guy doing? Are you feeling more comfortable?



Yea so far it's been pretty alright. Nothing to scary has happened yet 😛



Haha, that's good to hear. 🙂

Just don't run away. You want to stay tuned for that kinky, passionate Scorpio sex Dazed speaks about. He speaks the truth. *nods*
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HAHA! this is true. I really hope I don't!

*crosses fingers*
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Saggy, you realize the sex only gets better the more that scorp likes you right?



Haha yes ;P It was so beautiful with my ex scorp. Him and aqua are the only ones who have been able to make me so far.

I haven't with this scorp yet. Maybe in time..



There's a word missing in there somewhere right?
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Yea...I bet you know what it is though
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Hey everyone 🙂

The scorp did not beg me at all deadringer. He just asked me and he was very calm about it.

When my last scorpio asked me to be his girlfriend he was calm about it too.

I just sometimes need a little bit to think about things because I feel in someone way it's a big choice. It's kind of like an investment you know? You wanna make sure you can provide what they need and that they can provide what you need.


Uh I kind of sound like a robot 😛 damn venus.



So how are you and your guy doing? Are you feeling more comfortable?



Yea so far it's been pretty alright. Nothing to scary has happened yet 😛



Haha, that's good to hear. 🙂

Just don't run away. You want to stay tuned for that kinky, passionate Scorpio sex Dazed speaks about. He speaks the truth. *nods*



HAHA! this is true. I really hope I don't!

*crosses fingers*



...and just remember, the ground didn't cave in and swallow you whole. you're going to be fine 😄
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OK 🙂
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By the way, he has an excellent chart too. 🙂



Ya think so? lol



Lol yesssss. What's your whole chart? I'm sure you've posted it but I'm not like the rest of DXPers with super human chart memorization powers lol.
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Sun Sagittarius
Moon Leo
Merc Cap
Venus Aqua
Mars Scorp
Jupiter Cancer
Saturn Cap
Uranus Cap
Nep Cap
Pluto Scorp

Lilith Scorp

HAHA I have those too for someone reason!