Scorp asked me to be gf, but did I already eff up?

Hey, I'm an Aries dating a Scorpio. After 8 months of ups and downs, he asked me to be his girl this weekend. It was amazing. He came over and was so sweet and loving, told me I was so beautiful, apologized for all the freezeouts saying he was just scared of being hurt (he teared up a little saying this), said he trusted me and knew I wouldn't hurt him. It was like something out of the movies with him carrying to my bed and spending like an hour just staring at me, kissing me and touching my face.

Then he asked me to put on something sexy (heehee) for him and pretend like he was just coming to my place. I did and when I open the door, his eyes got all wide and he asked me if I had a bf and I said yes, a very hot one, and then we started roleplaying like I was a stripper and he was someone who followed me home from the club I was working in, and the sex was SO HOT, omg. We fell asleep in each others arms listening to Alicia Keys. The next morning, we got up and he seemed shy, saying he was afraid to kiss me because his breath smelled and he felt like his body smelled, too (it didn't). He goes for breakfast and we eat in bed and we start kissing at that point and make love again. He was so cute, when I got out of the bed to shower, he was all like "where are you going?" and when I got out of bed to turn off the TV he asked me that again, as if he didn't want me to go anywhere.

He slept in my bed a little bit then said he was tired and hadn't gotten much sleep and felt like he needed to relax in his own bed. We kissed goodbye and he said he'd call me later on. He didn't call last night, which concerned me, because he was online at his Myspace and was up obviously. I didn't call either because I've done research on Scorpios and know they need their space, but he's officially asked me to be his gf, so I am surprised. I am wondering if he is thinking it over. The reason I ask this is because of the roleplaying. He kept asking me what my "bf" would think of me fucking a customer, and I started wondering if he was trying to suss out whether I'd screw around on him when his back was turned, so I sort of "broke character" to say that I was a one-man woman and never would cheat on him, and he said "Well, I am glad to hear that." But I still wonder if he was testing me and if I failed somehow. I thought he knew we were just playing. I mean I'm not a stripper. I'm worried he didn't call. Hoping he was just tired and needed a break.

Thank you so much am2! If he'd been weird or cold the next morning, I would be really concerned, but he was even sweeter and even a little clingy himself! I just don't want him thinking I'm dressing up in tight dresses and trying to pick up random guys, lol!

Also, does anyone know the quick character of a Scorpio sun, Virgo moon and Cancer rising?

Hey VR!! Good news!! You won't mess it up as long as you stay exactly the same with him now. Just because he has asked you to be his girlfriend, it doesn't mean that you can start expecting more from him. That might freak him out. Just let him get used to this new status slowly now. Just let him have his space and let him come to you. I know it's hard but you have to do it. He just let himself be very vulnerable and he is probably very sensitive right now so don't pressure him. A lot of women (including me) has made the mistake that as soon as the word exclusive is mentioned that it means that we can start to expect so much more from them and start making demands and freaking them out. LOL!! Don't do it!!

Gslove, omg, you are SO RIGHT. It's funny because a couple days ago, I was on here actually lurking on the Cancer boards (because he is a cancer rising and he acts a lot like one of my best friends who is a sun Cancer), and someone made that point that women automatically attach "expectations" as soon as the word "exclusive" is mentioned and that it makes the guys think they were baited and switched. If I hadn't been concerned that he might've took our roleplaying the wrong way, I wouldn't even have been stressed about the no phone call because he calls me 2-3 times a week anyway. It's just that I am nervous as well and after 8 months of craziness, I have gotten to where I want to be and I don't want to trip all over myself! 🙂

I'm a Taurus rising and a Cap moon. I wonder if that makes me prone to worrying or over-analyzing.

Well I am definitely one of those over anyalyzers and I would have done the same thing that you did. I would have started worrying that he didn't call and wonder if he was sorry that he decided to be exclusive and that maybe he was changing his mind. If you look over my posts you will see that I'm always on this board throwing up on you guys instead of showing my bf my insecurities. He thinks I am just completely awesome and different than other girls and totally secure. That freedom keeps him coming closer and closer. Boy do I have him fooled. LOL!! Someday I will tell him how I really was in the beginning. I have been working on learning to just keep myself busy and not think about it instead of asking him what is wrong or ask him if he is changing his mind. I am just trying to keep the faith that if we are meant to be together than it will all work out and if not then the universe just has a different plan for me. It actually helps me to read yours and others posts so that we can all laugh at ourselves of how silly we are being sometimes. If I were you I wouldn't expect a whole lot to change with him at this point. I think he will still do the push pull thing with you. The good news is though that he is starting to pull more and push less.

''I'm a Taurus rising and a Cap moon''

Me too!

Thanks everyone!

It turns out it was a false alarm. He thought he'd asked me to call him on Sun night! He said when I didn't, he was scared to call me because he thought I might have been angry that he left! He said he couldn't really sleep because he didn't know what was up and when I explained to him I left him alone because he said he was tired and needed rest, he sweetly said, "I really appreciate that, baby, but sometimes I want to hear your voice and fuck sleeping!" He's already called 3 times today and he texted me good morning. It's so strange that THIS is the man who would ignore my calls, tell me he wasn't sure what he wanted and I didn't see for weeks on end sometimes. When a Scorpio loves you, you know it, and when he doesn't, you sure as hell know that, too! It's pretty amazing.

Thanks everyone!

See VR— When we pull back and give them space it brings them forward even more. I think it's good to let him get a little scared sometimes. It sure worked for you when he was pulling away. Let him see that you care for him, but that you are not going to change him. Or as Tracy Chapman says in her song "Gimme One Reason".....

I don't want no one to squeeze me - they might take away my life
I don't want no one to squeeze me - they might take away my life
I just want someone to hold me and rock me through the night

I think this pretty much sums up how most men feel.

"It's so strange that THIS is the man who would ignore my calls, tell me he wasn't sure what he wanted and I didn't see for weeks on end sometimes. When a Scorpio loves you, you know it, and when he doesn't, you sure as hell know that, too! It's pretty amazing."
yeah that's exactly the scorp way, we are intense and when we're in love, you're the world.