scorp loneliness,

do you other scorps feel like nobody, not even your close friends/family/lovers really know the real you?

while i have some great friends and have had some great lovers, i can't help but feel they

a) never made the effort to know the "real" me, or
b) tried and pretty much failed.

it's pretty lonely being a scorp - the secrecy, jealousy, intense passion underneath the calm poker face. my good aqua friend complains that whenever she says "i love you" i never say it back, and i explained i don't mess around when it comes to the word "love" and she still gets a little weird because of it. to me, that's what being a scorp is all about - nobody understands you, and even if they do try it's difficult for most people who aren't scorps to possess that same intensity and patience to understand what we're all about.

how would you react if someone understood you?

wheel, i know what you're getting at. as scorps, we find superficiality really ridiculous. 'cause scorps know full well that there is a hidden crevice in all things we tend to have very probing personalities (and, likewise, we are very secretive.) i would surrender power only if i knew in my heart that the power i gave up would be used for my own betterment and the betterment of those i love.

blue, while we scorps revel in being loners, on another completely different level we long for love and security. this duality makes us especially moody and susceptible to our emotions, and being so strong-willed we tend to choose all the wrong options when it comes to our emotional fulfilment.

a very, very good friend of mine (who's a cappy) said something of me that's one of the most accurate statements anyone has ever made about me - this goes for scorps in general, too. she said,

"you would rather be right than in love."

and that hits the scorpio personality to a tee.

gtommy: " its an effective shortcut to know me!"

LOL..yes I agree..

Its not that we don't want anyone to know us..its just in our nature to be that way..we don't help ourselves..but we can't help ourselves...we are just built that way...

Lonely maybe...but only for a while...we don't stay in any state long enough for us to be affected by it..(if that makes any sense)

you are going to die old, alone and without any children around you

But that doesn't bother us...

LOL @ fiddlesticks

"they seem totally oblivious of the chance I want to give them"

Seriously? Is it your impression that you have to give a person a "chance" to get to know you? And herein lies your problem....your slightly skewed perspective doesnt even grasp the concept that a person WILL get to know you, allow or not, if given the opportunity to be around you. You giving them the "chance" merely skews your perspective even further. Must you see the light bulb go off over a persons head as you give them this chance? And if the light bulb doesn't go off as you anticipated it would when you gave the person the "chance" do you close off even further? Here is an idea....be whoever you want to be...and choose your friends however your going to choose them....and TRUST them, they ARE getting to know you!

while we scorps revel in being loners, on another completely different level we long for love and security. this duality makes us especially moody and susceptible to our emotions, and being so strong-willed we tend to choose all the wrong options when it comes to our emotional fulfilment.

I agree- I think the reason that scorps are that way is that they may be afraid of revealing too much and getting hurt, which is not at all irrational. Many of us signs tend to put all of our cards out there and then seem to be shocked when we get hurt or when our words and emotions are used against us. Scorps are very carefull and have to ensure that security, and even then tend to hold back at times. They do not take what they say lightly- at least not when it has to do with feelings or being vulnerable. A person who cares for a scorpio has to understand this and not take it the wrong way- think of it in that when a scorp does let you in on what is going on inside, they are taking a huge leap of faith that you will be carefull with them and what they have shared. We often think that it is always what is said that is important, but with scorps it is more what is not said- it is in their actions- things they do and take care of behind the scenes that really shows how they feel- their loved ones just have to realize that.....but beware....once you realize it, you can be overwhelmed with how much your scorp really cares for you 🙂

DB:"You feel terrified in the thought that someone you care for knows you...it is in your nature to hide your true self behind a wall...b/c in your mind, at least you feel safe...

And when someone gets close to the truth of who you are, you deny it and build your wall thicker...you may not notice it, but you do..."

Gosh, how these words ring true....

db, the understanding of your words seems to have a personal connotation to them - sounds like you've been thru something similar?

haha, look at that - right when somebody calls me on my vulnerabilites and flip it around and turn the attention away from myself. a true scorp =)

A person can only speak like that through experience.

How long you been with your Scorp EG?

Awwwwwwww...how shweet...I am a sucker for a good story...

Well hope it does last forever for you..sound like right a pair!!!

🙂

Everyone deserves a second chance...but only in limited circumstances...

If your sure in your heart of hearts that is the only reason they want to have a second chance, cos they want to get into your pants...then by all means say no...but some people do genuinly make it through on the 2nd chance...especially if they instigate it..My Leo let me down first time around, 2nd time around I gave him a chance and he didn't put a foot wrong..we were together 3 years..in the end he wanted to marry me but i wasn't in love with him anymore..

No come on Cap...don't be a typical cap..let it out..

Cap: "didnt get some thing else that they wanted"

OH I SEE WHAT YOU MEAN...yes, but you can never be sure of that really...unless they decide to disclose that information, which they probably won't...I guess you just take the risk...if you want to..

LOL

EG: Don't get me wrong...I am not one for forgiveness at times, it really does take a lot..a hell of a lot..but sometimes you can see the good in a person behind that facade..Not all second chances are successful...I guess it depends entirely on the circumstances..but if you don't you'll never know..and I don't like "not knowing"

yeah you scorps are some very difficult people...but its actually kinda cute to me. I like the challange. Especially with the scorp Im involved with now. He acts so hard but he is such a puppy dog. yesterday I ask him to tell me he wants me...and you know what he tells me....NO I cant say that....then I ask him if he wanted me....his response...YES...hes just so weird. But he always shows genuine interest in me. I just have to hang in there with him. You Scorps are really good people..

**flutters eyelashes @ Dward**