Making up with a scorpio guy

ok, i'm a gem n i met this reli hot scorpio guy at a party about 2 months ago. there was chemistry almost instantly. we made out etc n i asked him for his number. my friends tried to warn me about him cuz apparently he's a player. i thought about it loads n then decided that i wasn't reli looking 4 anything serious cuz i just wanted 2 have some fun so i called him up about a week l8r 2 ask him if he wanted 2 go out w me and he said yes. we met up n had a gr8 time w each other n carried on seeing each other 4 about 6 weeks after that. mostly we had a physical thing n i don't think there was anything more than that, atleast at that time i didnt think there was. i also hardly ever appreciated him n took him for granted.

But the problems started in the last week when some reli immature people in our school started some reli nasty n untrue rumours about us n made it look like i was the one who started them 4 attention. even though it wasn't my fault i don't think he believed me n also told me not 2 talk about him and what we do 2 my friends so they won't have anything 2 talk about. i agreed n even after that he seemed 2 be a bit distant. he then started 2 ignore my texts and phone calls. i got really mad and told him to quit avoiding me n just tell me if he doesn't want 2 be with me anymore(BIG mistake btw). he told me that he did want 2 keep seeing me n the very next day he dumps me cuz 'we r very differnt ppl'.

i was so confused n i insulted him badly but then later apoplogised. he just maintained his cool all through this. it seemed 2 me as if it reli wasnt making any difference 2 him, which pissed me off so much. but i left it for a month 2 let things cool down and think about what i should do. all this while i started 2 miss him a lot and just realised what a prick i'd been 2 not treat him w more appreciation n respect and 2 just generally take our relationship for granted. i just couldn't take it n decided 2 let him know i wanted 2 get back n how sorry i was n how i wanted 2 make things different n better etc. so i text him n he says how he doesn't want a gf and how if it didn't work the 1st time it wouldn't work again. he didn't even want 2 meet up cuz 'if something happened between us, he'd be obligated 2 go out with me otherwise he would be using me'. God, i'm so pissed off with this guy. can't he just give me one more chance? cant stop thinkin bout him. plz can sum1 help. wot am i supposed to do— 😢

well, my birthday is 26 may 1990, 1.31 pm, new delhi, india and my ex is 18 nov 1989, got no clue bout the time, but i think he was born in derby, england.

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And what is it with Gemini and Scorp pairings these days!...

Its alright my lovely, I'll just keep flame to flame 😉

ok, so i'v been thinkin about this n i think there are various ways in which i cud approach this situation. plz help me 2 figure out, which one is the best one.

1) call him up again and ask him if he has changed his mind.

2) ask his bestfriend 2 talk 2 him 4 me.

3) start dating his bestfriend, who btw wanted 2 go out wit me b4 me n this guy started dating.in this way he wud get sooooo jealous and hopefully want to get back wit me. (very, very low indeed, i know, but how else do i make him realise wot he's missing out on. he need a reality check. get the point—)

4) act like i don't care about him next time i see him and mayb just say 'Hi' 2 him but then ignore him 4 the rest of the time n have fun n make it seem like i don't really care about him anymore n am like soooo over him, even tho i'm so not.

oh, i dunno. is there anything else that i can do. clearly, 4getting him is not the best option cuz the more i try the harder i fail. god, cnt seem to get him out of my head. u guys hav gotta help me. but 1 thing is 4 sure i'm soooooo gna get him back. the only thing now i need 2 do is figure out a way to do that. and as the saying goes 'Where there is a will, there is a way.'

thanks 4 the feedback n plz do feel free 2 add more stuff in n give me some more advice. ciao u guys 4 now. talk 2 u peeps l8r.

erm emeraldgem, lets just drop it now shall we. if u cnt say anything nice why don't u just shut up and not say anything at all. i really don't wanna bother wit ppl like you so why don't u just keep u'r lame comments 2 u'rself and go argue wit sum1 who actually has the time 4 u, cuz i don't. n i think u'r the 1 who needs 2 grow up cuz you clearly don't know how to talk to people - socially retarded or wot?? ciao darling xoxoxo

hey scorp_in_law, i totally get where u'r coming from but i don't want to apologise and ask him to get back...again. i've already done that and if i do it again i just think it's goig to look wayyyy too desperate or isn't it— what i want is for him to come back to me instead and i want to do this by hooking up with his bestfriend so that he gets jealous and realises what he's losing out on. i'm not sure if he's gonna want me after that or if he's gonna hate me even more than he already does. but then again a sincere apology sounds like a much more mature way of handling this situation.
All i really want is for him and me to get back. i don't want to hurt him but if that's the only way then i'm willing to do that. i just don't get why he wont give me another chance. The last i heard from someone was that he has a new girlfriend but then it's a rumor and may or may not be true. if its true then he's a liar because he told me that he doesn't want a girlfriend right now.
why are scorpio guys so complicated? why do they play such dirty mind games? why do they say something and make it sound so convincing and then go and do the complete opposite and break your heart? why are they so heartless and mean? dammit. can someone help me figure this out? And most importantly why do you miss them so much after they're gone—?

my only suggestion is to avoid him like the plague, because you are a bad person and need to grow up.

why am i a bad person— i know i made a mistake, regretted it but learnt from it and want to make things right if given one more chance. it's not asking for too much now is it? it was my first ever relationship with a guy and i know i sucked at it, was immature and childish - no doubts about that. but the important thing is that i learnt from my stupid mistake(s) and want to make it right this time. common now, everyone is allowed a mistake or two. why does he have to hold a grudge even when i put my pride aside and appologised— after all that, he doesn't even want to meet me once. i think that's really harsh.

But why does this make me a bad person— i did not do anything mallicious, evil or intentionally hurt the guy. all i'm asking is for a second chance.

it's not what you did before; that's an innocent (somewhat childish) mistake. your plans towards his best friend, and you trying to manipulate and play games is what makes you a bad person. just let it go. you really think he'd want you after you try screwing around with his best friend? guys aren't like that.

gemini_gal - you came here for some insight into scorpios, so here goes.

as a scorp, it would've bothered me to have my privacy invaded to begin with. you would have lost a little of my trust, and i would've been a bit distant (just like your guy). after your apology, i would've just kept observing you to see if i wanted to stick around or move on. (and you already know that your next mistake was giving him an ultimatum.)

emeraldgem & scorp-in-law gave you some good advice, even though you didn't want to hear it. you've already apologized, which is great, so now just leave him alone. all you can control is yourself and your actions. not him. just be yourself when you see him. be friendly, pleasant... if he starts seeing your positive sides again, he may take a second look. after all, something about you interested him to begin with.

hooking up with his best friend, playing games...these are surefire ways of driving a scorp away for good. doing that won't make him see your worth - it'll only reinforce in his mind why he's not with you to begin with.

Would you say that the Indian culture is more open to astrology, generally?

I want my palm read..

well, thank you very much guys for your views on this and all the advice especially scorp5pt0. you definitly have helped me out to see this more clearly and also to tackle things in a more mature way from now on. i'll definitly NOT hook up with his best friend cuz that's gonna be immature and make him hate me even more. i will, however, be like i was when i met him and maybe he'll see the positive things in me again, giving me another chance. otherwise, i'll just move on. it's not like short of guys anyway. if it's meant to be, it will happen no matter what.

that being said there are a few more things i'd like to add to m&mgem. Firstly, you should go and read some of the things that emeraldgem ha said to me. she sure might be one of 'the finest ladies' you know but that doesnt mean that she should go and insult people that way she insulted me no matter how amazing she is and how much ever she means to you. that's between the two of you, it's how you feel about her and you're entitled to your opinions, not everyone is supposed to be in love with her just as you obviously are . not being rude but please don't expect me to treat people the way you treat them cuz i'm just gonna treat them the way they behave.

well, now that i'v got that out of the way thank you very much for the advice and you are very right about the whole 'controlling' thing. usually it's really easy for me to make guys do what i want but this time obviously i lost control and didn't like it. ciao darlings xxx

o yeah n why was emeraldgem 'suprised'at my birth date—