Scorp Sting pt.2

Thanks to JuiCy* for telling me to start a new thread, I could have lost it all...

Sun in Leo Said...

Saggit, I'm no scorpio. But I do know that, with this girl, your going to have to make some decisions. It sounds like your attracted to this girl, however, you like playing the class clown (being a sag, I can understand that). If you want to go on playing the clown, joking around all the time. Listen to the scorpios on this board and forget all about her. If you want to get serious, go for it! The first thing you have to do is set your mind on winning her. Make a decision! Do you want to go for it or not? (Despite all the obstacles that you think there are in the work place) A scorpio woman is never going to give you respect if you can't even decide if you want her! That would be first and foremost. If you do, let me know, and I'll give you some advise in winning her over. (Just a tip, be more positive about yourself. Don't let the fact that she's pretty make you feel you don't have a chance) In other words, Get chickeny!

Well I got my chance to flirt with another chick in front of her today, at one of those office birthday party things.
A new girl that just started there, her checking me out, me checking her out, chatting a little, all the while in front of the scorp who was playing with her hair furiously, acting all ansy. This new girl followed me out after work, and I asked her for a cig and we talked for a little as the scorp came into the parking lot and stormed her way into the car. So whatever.

I took what Dancing Bread said to heart today, about not being the victim, I was apprehensive about going up there just to be ignored by this chick but I said it, I'm going laugh and joke around with everyone like I did before this girl got into my brain. And I had a blast.

So thanks to you guys for helping me to laugh at this situation and giving me some perspective.

Thanks sun. I did try to go for this chick. I asked her to lunch first. Later I asked her out for a drink. Then she told me she refuses to do anything that even resembles a date. I told her let's just call it two people hanging out. She said no no no that is a date we are friends.

Then she started making out with me and getting all over me. AT WORK. It made me feel weird. I was still into her, and we just started to be friends though, at work. Then a few weeks later the topic came up again. I won't date. Coming out of a relationship. I want to be friends. Just going around in circles. If a chick keeps telling me, I don't want to date, no dating we are friends, then I don't know how to handle that. How many times can I get rejected like that? She KNOWS I want her. And she's using that to beat me over the head. All she had to do was say let's get coffee after work or something, and I would have taken it from there. But she didn't.

She's ignored me for over a month. When she stopped coming down to visit, like a wuss I started going up to visit, which I never did, and she just gave me a dirty look. I saw her walking my way, and I waited for her, and she whipped out that stupid cell phone and just walked in front of me laughing. She knows I feel bad about it, she sees me and I look at her and smile and she just looks down at the floor.

I may not be the most forward man but I went for it, got denied, went for it again a few more times. Now it's her turn.

Also about being the class clown, I do kid around a lot. But with her I have been nothing but honest. I have told her explicitly how I feel about her. That I really enjoyed being with her and we seemed to have fun together. That I didn't want to pressure her into anything, I just wanted to spend more time with her. But not as friends, as something inbetween. She refused.

I never hold back when it comes to telling someone exactly how I feel or what I'm thinking. I'm always genuine and straight to the point.

go you saggit...you'll be okay..SAGGIT LIVES! lol

I do live. I feel pretty good right now 😛

haha yes you understand and you dont care ...this is your brain speaking!

oh wait wrong person..woops lol

i didn't look at the name! 😢.... i was just typing.... sorry!

So if I understand the Scorp chick is gone right ?

Well, she might show up again now, she seemed pretty pissed. I still like her but for the moment where there was one there are now two and that makes a big difference.

it that situation..good, get one more and you'll be fine! haha

Saggit,
you can never say by what a scorp shows outwardly. She may be behaving like this coz she is serious about you. I may be wrong. But there is a very good possibility for that. If that is so, then you would be making the biggest mistake by trying to make her jealous.
Being a female scorp, I would lose all respect for a guy if he openly flirts with some other woman in front of me, after he has shown his interest in me. He would cease to exist for me.

You make good points. Early on I told this girl flat out, I am interested in meeting someone. And that a weird friendship with her would only distract me from that. She told me it was bad timing.

I didn't really flirt, but yes I was looking at her and talking. What am I supposed to do? Be ignored forever? This chick has given me the silent treatment for over a month. And when we were hanging out, she was always trying to say little things to me that would make me me feel bad about where I stood with her. Just to see what I would do. She's controlled just about everything, I'm surprised I was able to keep up with her and constantly call her on her bullshit.

She did get a kick out of flirting with the other guy and hurting me. This is after I told her I cared about her and really liked her. At one point she called me a bitch and that was pretty much it for me. But every time I've tried to talk about feelings she'd say, "don't get so hung up on me don't lose sleep over it."

Besides if she wanted me, and since she basically intitiated the whole thing, why won't go for me?

I'm used to being honest about what I'm thinking and feeling. With this girl it's a constant guessing game. When you bring up anything normal a wall goes up, she has at least five different personalities and I can't decide which the real one is.

She parks her car next to mine, which she never did before, but she makes sure to get there before I do, and she'll adjust her schedule so that every time I go to my car, her's is gone. I look at her and smile and she walks right past me and says hi to someone else and leaves.

She was obsessed with me in a good way and now it's a bad way. I'm not her back-up man. For all I know she's got tons of guys like me that she just strings along for a kick.

And yeah, I do kind of like this new girl. She's cute and seems normal, but that could be deceiving. I have deliberately not talked to other chicks when the scorp is around. I'm a big flirt and I wanted to show her that I won't do it in front of her, still the cold shoulder. Maybe she's already over it.

Saggit,

You just don't learn do ya!

Your playing with fire, or perhaps I should say your in deep water and heading out to sea with a scorpion on your back. Not to smart. Better turn around.

Your being deceptive by hiding what you are and hedging like that. She's gonna find out and nail you again, and she sounds like the type that will do it even if that means she goes down too.

If you want to get with her just apologize, be a stand up guy, and she'll come around. If you can't manage that, better stay away completely, just be yourself, and she'll know what to do.

apologize for what?

It's not like I'm going to date this new girl. I just want to know the scorp to know she has some competition. That's what happens when you blow me off for a month.

That's what happens when you blow me off for a month.


spoken like a true sag! LOL

I'm all mixed up now. I have no need to apologize. She's acting like a baby. In my tone of voice and in the way I've looked at her, gone out of my way to go up and see her, she knows I feel like crap. Now It's up to her.

So I think the saga ends today. Thinking of the other posts about apologizing and maybe her being serious about me, and me being sick and tired of the ice queen, as I was walking on my break I saw her coming down the steps. She knows my schedule and this is the first time she's showed up in a long time. She came down the steps and I just said how's it going, she was acting really uncomfortable. Then the other girl walks out and I'm kind of looking left and right in a weird way for a split second.

So I walked with the ice queen for about ten seconds, I think she mumbled under her breath are you having a good morning. She said she felt sick and had to go inside and sit down, I said see you later.

At lunch I was pulling out of the driveway and there she is, walks right in front of my car and pretends to not see me. I honk at her since I'm basically about to run over her anyway, and she doesn't look at me but gives me an awkward wave/non-smile.

After lunch she parks her car on the other side of the building. Oh look how I'm avoiding you.

So I stop thinking at this point and make the no do-overs mistake of sending her an email, the first in a month since we had our little spat and this all started.

I asked her how she was, she responded and said she was pretty sick. I asked her if she wanted to talk for a minute, she said she had too much stuff to do at work. I said after work then. She wanted to know what I wanted to talk about first. I said if you want to talk, then we can talk. If not that's fine. She asked me if I could say it in an email. I said in person. No response. Didn't see or hear from her.

So, to most normal people this would be closure. She got what she wanted, a reaction from me, and I got what I wanted, a fuck off.

I think I need to stop deluding myself. A scorpio may not show what they feel on the surface, but after a month and a refusal to talk to me, I don't see how this girl could possibly be into me, or at least want to do anything about it anymore. I have never seen someone hold a grudge for so long. And I'm just trying to be cool. Like a normal dude, a friendly co-worker. And everytime I see her it's either casual indifference or it looks like she's about to collapse from being so uncomfortable around me. Now I just feel sorry for this chick.

talkin with a scorp is like making love to a double edged sword.



lmfaoooo when mad ..yes

Well she seems to be too strange. Something very strongly felt there.. is it lack of interest after an initial fascination ?? don't know. Only the scorpion can answer that.

But after going through all your mails I feel that you have done all that is possible to save the relationship, if there was one.

I think that it is better to let her be as she likes and live your life the way you want to, becoz you owe at least that much to yourself.

"Now I just feel sorry for this chick"

Never feel sorry for a scorpio unless it is death.

She is probably just sitting back waiting to come after you with her powerful sting.

Saggit,

I don't want to be hard on you, because you turned around and stepped up to it real good, but don't kid yourself -you didn't close jack.

Closing leads to action, and things feel different - I don't see that here. Trying deserves praise, but it isn't doing. Look for better timing and dispoition if you have something to say. Why betray your mutual effort and pain now.

Hi Val,
I'm not sure what you mean. I wanted to talk to her and she refused. Even now at work, when we're both working on the same project, she'll just call my supervisor about the project as if she forgot I was assigned to it. When I finished the project, I took it upstairs, and waited for her to finish her part and give it back to me. I made small talk with the other people like I usually did, before I felt like that part of the office belonged to her. At this point I'm just wishing she could be civil.

Later I got out of my car and walked towards the office, she passed me, talking on her cell phone, just walked right past me.
At least she parked her car away from mine. I get the feeling that she just likes that I'm in pain, she thinks it's kind of funny.

I'm really not sure what you mean. I'm not going to apologize in a freaking company email, even though we used to talk all the time that way. She knows I feel bad and I offered to talk to her. She doesn't do anything if she doesn't want to. She has to give you an opening that means she's willing to let you be in her presence, but the message I get is: I DO NOT WANT TO TALK TO YOU.

So at this point I have to assume: she hates me, she never wants to talk to me or see me again (unless it can make me uncomfortable) and she wants me to know that she is avoiding me, and wants me to be in pain. How is that not closure? Wouldn't trying to talk to her again just make me look like a fool?

Hi VAL, sent you a PM.