scorpio and insulting (aspersion)

I have friend scorpio man. Sometimes he says mean things about my look (my hair, my body). Then I say something back. Then he apologise and says that he made a joke (did not mean it in a bad way). I asked him why he is saying these comments (does he is bottered about my look or me universally). Then he is getting mad and don't answer to me.
Sometimes it feels like he needs to see my reaction, seems like he needs action (i don't find the right word).

Is this something what scorpios do? and why he likes to insult me?
Is he getting better feeling

This isn't the kind of answer you're looking for, but I think it's relevant to your questions. My male scorp cousin is one of my best friends. He tells me he doesn't like my haircut, my clothes, says some of my shoes are ugly. It's not done in a rude way. I made him go shopping with me one day! lol! The clerk thought we were married because of the way we talked to each other. We burst out laughing!!! Basically, he thinks he's trying to help and doesn't mean it in a hurtful or mean way. He means it as a brotherly guidance. It doesn't hurt my feelings, I appreciate the male opinion. Besides, I put it back on him. I have made cuz change clothes before because I told him he looked stupid because his shirt and shorts didn't match.

Maybe your friend is the same way—?

OR he could just be picking on you to get a rise out of you for fun! Insult his stuff/ style /ways and put it back at him.

I say things all the time without thinking them through. Very small mouth filter. Then I stop and say... FAAACCKKK oops. Its something we just do. Its really meant to be a joke and some people take offense. We usually have tough skin (Scorpion Armour). So we sometimes forget other people don't. Try not to take offense.

Posted by kadri


Is this something what scorpios do? and why he likes to insult me?
Is he getting better feeling

No. Because he's a jerk.

Posted by kadri
I have friend scorpio man. Sometimes he says mean things about my look (my hair, my body). Then I say something back. Then he apologise and says that he made a joke (did not mean it in a bad way). I asked him why he is saying these comments (does he is bottered about my look or me universally). Then he is getting mad and don't answer to me.

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So basically, he was being a douche, you called him on it and he felt embarrassed and/or guilty and clammed up because "how dare you make me feel bad for being an a**hole?". There are jokes and then there is being mean. He's being mean and doesn't like to be called out on it. Your question(which came from being hurt) made him feel guilty. Sorry, doesn't sound like a "friend" to me if this is a regular occurrence.

Posted by Stinger Baby
im gonna find new friends that can actually take a damn joke. i didnt go crying when the rain ruined my hair and she said i looked like demon from 'the Grudge'.

LOL!!!!!! Geeze, I would have laughed. Now *that* is a joke.

It is not regular occurence. It has happened few times. Usually I understand him and laugh or say something bach. I started this post because few days ago he told me that I look like peasant (I cut my hair, I have new look). Firstly when he saw me, he asked me, did you cut kleopatra haircut (I have this haircut), I did not respond to him and when I was talking to someone else, he came and sayd you look like peasant. In that moment I was suprised (where it came from, what I did to you) and I felt offended.
Sometimes I am a little sensitive.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
What's the definition of a peasant haircut anyways?
Like Jersey Shore style hair (if you can call it a style )?

Not like Jersey Shore.
Very long time ago peasant had certain haircut, was cutted like kleopatra but the sides are lot shorter.

He's hitting on you ( trying to have sex with you )
by making fun of you ( pushing you away to show he is dominant and not weak & needy )
to invoke your attraction / herding instinct.

But ... obviously it's not working well. lol

You should just invite him over for sex ... if he'll stop making bad jokes.

Hmm sometimes I am the same way with my really close friends without realizing how mean it sounds. There have been more than a couple of times when I have said "You're gonna wear that outside—" It's usually not to be hurtful but sometimes it comes out that way.

I've been married to a Scorpio for almost 11 years and he's never criticized my looks. If he doesn't like what I'm wearing he tells me... he knows me though, so he's usually very subtle and tactful about his comments.

His cousin on the other hand (Scorpio as well), she's very opinionated and rude.

I would just talk to him, let him know it bothers you.

There's a difference between helpful criticism and destructive criticism... 🙂

Posted by Silvermermaid


I would just talk to him, let him know it bothers you.

There's a difference between helpful criticism and destructive criticism... 🙂

+1

Thank you for answering.
Seems like this was disturbing him (that I felt offended) because he called me and ask about that again. So I explained again and I made him a joke, if I am peasant then he is farmer daughter. I made him laugh.
Thad day he sayd that at noon but in the evening I did not feel offened anymore (we talked about that the same evening). I just whanted to know why he say that.
I know that I am ok and seems like he is now ok too.

Posted by kadri
Thank you for answering.
Seems like this was disturbing him (that I felt offended) because he called me and ask about that again. So I explained again and I made him a joke, if I am peasant then he is farmer daughter. I made him laugh.
Thad day he sayd that at noon but in the evening I did not feel offened anymore (we talked about that the same evening). I just whanted to know why he say that.
I know that I am ok and seems like he is now ok too.

Awwww, It's so nice to know that every body is ok. 🙂