Scorpio...Aquarius...I don't know... O_o

I also posted this in the Aqua forums...I'm not double dipping for sympathy or no bs like that..just need a little outside criticism...

Ok, I've been seeing this aqua for about 3 months or so..things were rolling along just fine. She texted mushy shit through out the day..we hung out often and had plenty of sex. Things were looking up. All of a sudden, right after new years...she's distant all of a sudden. Out of no where, her friends are getting waay more time with her than I am (i'm not implying she can't hang with her friends) I just don't like the fact that they got to see her more (ok, that's selfish as f**k lol) There's been no sex..not even kissing..hell, i'm barely getting hugs. Somethings off, and I know some of it probably stems from an incident we had (Summary: She went out, at some point told me she was going home. I wake up to send my morning tweets and I see she hadn't gone home when she told me. The only thing I said to her is don't tell me you're going home and you're not because if i'd done the same..she's be hot at me. And its not a good look, she's done nothing to dis-earn my trust as of yet) But that's when I started to notice a different vibe from her. And there will also be incidents where i'll go to her house to see her (its been a few days at this point) she's hollering she's tired cause of work which is understandable so I cut my visit short only to receive a call from her right as I get home asking me if I can get some trees for her and her best friend.

Whats going on here..did I turn right when I should have turned left? I'm kind of confused and the thing about me is...the more distant she gets, the less I care to fix it. I'm not really interested in chasing folks...

I think aqua people love their friends.

I'm a sag sun with venus in aqua and I would choose my friend over a boyfriend probably everytime.

You probably threw her off when you said "Don't tell me your going home if your not". I dated a aqua before when I was younger and they like a lot freedom to rome and do as they please. Me and him always bump heads because he would rather be hanging out with all his friends rather then hanging with me.

You nailed it ScorpDiva..thats exactly what i'm going through. I'm not gonna lie, their concept of "freedom" is beyond me..I just don't quite get it...what i'm talking about is communicating. To me, that's a bad habit to have present...if you want my 100% trust, then I need to be able to trust whats coming out your mouth...lil lies have you loose points with me just as much as big ones...

@Sag- Then why have a BF if friends are your top priority? I'm good with being FWB's if thats the case...But you not gonna tell me you love me and then not wanna be around me..what is that?

Posted by ScorpioMackin
You nailed it ScorpDiva..thats exactly what i'm going through. I'm not gonna lie, their concept of "freedom" is beyond me..I just don't quite get it...what i'm talking about is communicating. To me, that's a bad habit to have present...if you want my 100% trust, then I need to be able to trust whats coming out your mouth...lil lies have you loose points with me just as much as big ones...

@Sag- Then why have a BF if friends are your top priority? I'm good with being FWB's if thats the case...But you not gonna tell me you love me and then not wanna be around me..what is that?

Well not like that. I love my boyfriend and he's a great person and I spend alot of time with him ( he's a scorp ) but we always have to remember who have always been there for us. Which is our friends. You have to balance all 3, friends, bf, yourself. But yourself needs to be top everytime. Even above friends. The reason I state friends so high is because my friends have been my family most of my life so I find them equal to that. But If it bothers you so much maybe ask her to invite you out with her and her friends and vice versa for you. Some people enjoy a connection like that. For me personally I don't see the point in pushing our lifes too much together because we are not getting married and I don't see that as a future goal in this relationship. If I did I def would more. But anyway it comes down to who you are and who she is and if have the same ideas about boundaries. And if you don't, thats fine and if you do thats fine too. Sorry I rambled.

@Sag- Ok, that makes a bit of sense to me. She's come out with me to hang with my friends but it hasn't went the other way around yet. She has one in particular who've I had the chance to hang out with, the one who she asks me to get the trees for. Anyway, her bday past and my girl played it as if her buddy didn't know what she was going to do, later that day...I guess the plans changed and it turned into my girl, her friends, my girls brothers and his friends all went bowling. This is something if reversed, I would have brought my girl too..especially if they hung out before. I'd be lying if I said I felt left out but i didn't get mad at her although she knew it bothered me. She told me "Well, it wasn't my party. She didn't invite you." Things like this baffle me, but like you said..I might be looking at this whole relationship too deep considering we probably won't get married or nothing like that.

Posted by ScorpioMackin
@Sag- Ok, that makes a bit of sense to me. She's come out with me to hang with my friends but it hasn't went the other way around yet. She has one in particular who've I had the chance to hang out with, the one who she asks me to get the trees for. Anyway, her bday past and my girl played it as if her buddy didn't know what she was going to do, later that day...I guess the plans changed and it turned into my girl, her friends, my girls brothers and his friends all went bowling. This is something if reversed, I would have brought my girl too..especially if they hung out before. I'd be lying if I said I felt left out but i didn't get mad at her although she knew it bothered me. She told me "Well, it wasn't my party. She didn't invite you." Things like this baffle me, but like you said..I might be looking at this whole relationship too deep considering we probably won't get married or nothing like that.

Right! But if you haven't met any of her friends at all that is a valid concern too. Like in the way that she may be a bit guarded of a person. Like I mean my bf has met my friends we just don't hang out with them all the time and vice versa.

But you haven't met any at all huh? No I mean that may be a red flag.

I met about 3 of 4 of the lady friends..none of the fellas. We bump into guys she knows but no one I think she truly considers a friend like that.

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Posted by ScorpioMackin
@Sag- Ok, that makes a bit of sense to me. She's come out with me to hang with my friends but it hasn't went the other way around yet. She has one in particular who've I had the chance to hang out with, the one who she asks me to get the trees for. Anyway, her bday past and my girl played it as if her buddy didn't know what she was going to do, later that day...I guess the plans changed and it turned into my girl, her friends, my girls brothers and his friends all went bowling. This is something if reversed, I would have brought my girl too..especially if they hung out before. I'd be lying if I said I felt left out but i didn't get mad at her although she knew it bothered me. She told me "Well, it wasn't my party. She didn't invite you." Things like this baffle me, but like you said..I might be looking at this whole relationship too deep considering we probably won't get married or nothing like that.

This is a shot in the dark, but be objective: do any of her friends not like you? Have you ever snubbed them?

I had an ex that called one of my friends a bimbo, and you can bet I never brought him anywhere near any of my friends again. I was mortified.

Also, this meant I chose who I'd spend time with: my friends, whom I've always cherished...or my boyfriend. Who I had only known briefly, and largely fueled by irrational lust.

My friends won out every time.

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Nope, we get along Super cool..or so I thought. I actually like everyone she's introduced to me. If there's beef, I ain't cook it up, thats for sure...

I am an aqua and you went wrong with the whole telling her to tell her if shes home or not. We are VERY independent and dont like to be told anything. Were free spirited and social. We do as we feel. Thats where I think scorps and aquas clash. At first you guys are attracted to our free spirited vibe we got going on. But later down the road you guys dont like it so much because your trust issues start coming to play and all the sudden were told what to do and we dont feel so free anymore. Were also unemotional and detatched. Doesnt mean we dont care or have passion it will just come off that way. Scorps usually take that as were playing you.

Seems like after your little incident shes not as interested. It turned her off. BUT the moment you pull away shell play sweet again. Only to revert back into being distant. It seems like shes just playing games. Which with a scorp playing games is the WORST idea if you want to build anything.

Aquas dont understand why scorps dont SAY their feelings and Scorps dont understand why aquas dont SHOW their feelings... if you can work around that than those two signs could move mountains together!

We called it quits, just couldn't get back on the same page. You're right though, she was dope in the beginning bit when that detached stuff started, I just didn't get it.

Best decision ever.

The aqua/scorpio match is sooo tempting, but I've seen it break too many hearts.

A scorpio guy and an Aquarius lady not a great combo. I think it works better if the guy is an Aquarius and the female is Scorpio, even, then relationship will not be all Plain Sailings. Peace!

Posted by ScorpioMackin
We called it quits, just couldn't get back on the same page. You're right though, she was dope in the beginning bit when that detached stuff started, I just didn't get it.

Good for you!