Me and my scorp have been together roughly a month an a half. We should still be in the honeymoon phase of our relationship. We started out really fast and furious and have spent almost all of our free time together. We were annoyingly cute with the hand holding, silly inside jokes, and PDA. In the last couple of weeks it seems that we have slowed down dramatically. Gone are the cutesy emails through the work day, or the long phone conversations. Plans to hang out are assumed and we manage to have sleepovers at least 5x a week, but I am feeling a measured level of lost excitement now when we meet. Even sex has become a bit routine already. Maybe I am overanalyzing things but it seems to me like something is missing from this picture. With others I have been with, the honeymoon phase was full of excitement and cant-get-enough-of-each other action and lasted much longer than a month.
With my last Scorpio I noticed an almost routine ness in our relationship that lacked the spark of passion. I am afraid that this is happening again. Is this the scorpion way. I thought you guys were supposed to be full of passion. Do you try hard to win the girl over and then once you think you have her, you fall into a routine? Am I overanalyzing the situation? Is he getting bored or am I projecting boredom into this relationship?
your problem is that you have no idea how to pace a relationship. You can't let a man see you whenever he wants (5x's a week) it's too much. Didn't u have a life before you met him? where did it go? Maybe you are boring yourself. Ergo, boring the relationship...literally...do death. Get a life. There was no honeymoon, so wake up and smell the coffee (maybe it will give you enough energy to do something to make you a more interesting person, so that you can inject a little life into your relationship)
Be wary of the ones that zoooooom into a relationship..it will fizzle out just as quickly..if he's distancing himself..just let him be..I am sure he'll come around..
Your responses give me different perspectives that I cannot always see for myself and that is quite helpful. I know I can be very black and white about things, so Thanks!
i know some feelings does seem to fade away. I would say spend quality time with him...not everyday. Please keep your life because maintaining a relationship can be very exhausting. I would not have sex with him every time you see each other. When you are together do things to that best friends would do so you guys can connect in other ways. One thing about a relationship...it has to be exciting....and it can get boring very quickly. I was with a scorp for 5 years and for the first 2 years we had sex EVERYDAY. It got so boring...
It may seem real to some..but I think anyone screaming I love you within the first few days needs to be shot!..How can you possibly love someone so quickly..ridiculous..those are insecure and idiotic scorps..
And yes DB made a fair point earlier i.e. distancing due to ending relationship.
My intuition tells me this is a comfortable zone not a distancing maneuver. He still wants to spend lots of time with me it is just our daily cuteness and conversations have died out a bit. He still does little things that let me know he is still "there" in the relationship (holds my hand in the car while driving or when we are out anywhere in public and other such affectionate things).I too still do cute things back to him. What I think I am feeling is more of a "want" for the initial rush of new relationships. I guess I wasn't ready for that ?rush? feeling to diminish so quickly, but due to the speed of our relationship and all the daily time we spend together, the honeymoon phase was bound to end that quickly too. I am happy with being comfortable with him and that has been the underlying theme of our relationship from the beginning. We had an uncanny sense of comfort with each other from the moment we met which sparked us to jump into things so fast. It was almost like we had already known each other for years and I am not just saying that. It was completely mutual from the start. We even jokingly commented to each other that it felt like we had been dating for years. I just need to quit worrying and enjoy the relationship for what it is.
Yes Atlantic Myst, we go out and bowl, get drinks, dinner, movies,etc... He even took me out one time to a small amusement park and won me lots of stuffed animals at the midway. We get out of the house as much as possible, but we do have allot of time spent at our homes too.
Probably need that whole "absense makes the heart grow fonder thing" to avoid overkill.
Me Sun Aquarius in house 3 Ascendant Scorpio Moon Libra in house 10 Mercury Aquarius in house 3 Venus Capricorn in house 2 Mars Aquarius in house 3 Jupiter Libra in house 11 Saturn Libra in house 11 Uranus Scorpio in house 1 Neptune Sagittarius in house 1 Pluto Libra in house 11
Him Sun Scorpio in house 4 (scorpio/libra cusp October 24th) Ascendant Leo Moon Gemini in house 11 Mercury Libra end of house 3 Venus Virgo in house 3 Mars Cancer in house 12 Jupiter Aries in house 10 Saturn Leo in house 1 Uranus Scorpio in house 4 Neptune Sagittarius in house 5 Pluto Libra in house 3
Thanks for looking at that!! I know it is not an exact science and many things are left to interpretation. Astrology gives you things to be aware of and work with.
I don't plan on bailing at all at this point. Like I said, the comfort stage hit too quickly for my taste but it is not necessarily a bad thing. Taking this one day by day.
ya... . . the daddy phase is something i didn't know was so common..
oh but the touch of an older man sometimes makes my body quiver..
is it because they know what women like?.. i dunno.. but all i have to say about it is that it's an experience i'll never NEVER forget and never regret, and yeah, i guess something to giggle about , it makes you feel better when you can laugh at your own mistakes, part of the whole "growing up" thang😛
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With my last Scorpio I noticed an almost routine ness in our relationship that lacked the spark of passion. I am afraid that this is happening again. Is this the scorpion way. I thought you guys were supposed to be full of passion. Do you try hard to win the girl over and then once you think you have her, you fall into a routine? Am I overanalyzing the situation? Is he getting bored or am I projecting boredom into this relationship?