oliviad
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Scorpio man being less flirty
Posted by Arielle83
You’re addicted to love and the fantasy and need attention. Codependent attachment. You’ll drain him emotionally and it will never be enough.
A few more weeks and you’ll be accusing him of cheating and you’ll break up because you’ll sabotage based on your shallow and insecure character.
I 2nd this.
Long distance relationships don't always work out. Probably 1% of them do. And we are in the middle of a global pandemic. He is back home with all his friends now who have probably missed the crap out of him and wanting all his attention. He is probably being pulled in 20 different directions all at once and then there is you.....blowing up his phone.... and I get it. I've been there. It's hard. It is heartbreaking. But you have to snap out of it and start finding other things to occupy your time with. New hobby(I've picked up several since lockdown), where are all your friends that you probably stopped talking to because you were up his ass?
Cant you feel pretty or beautiful in your own skin without him having to say it EVERY time?
Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Cant you feel pretty or beautiful in your own skin without him having to say it EVERY time?
This is something to aim for
Posted by oliviad
Hello everyone,
I am dating a scorpio man for 2 months now, I am taurus.
For the first few weeks he would compliment me a lot and give me nicknames or call me pretty or beautiful. He left to go back to his home country a week ago and will be there until September, and he has been a lot less flirty since he's been there. Now he will still ask for photos of my day, but will no longer compliment me in them.
Yesterday for example I wrote 'hello handsome x' and he said 'hello x'. I will say 'i miss you' and he will say 'i miss you too', but he doesn't initiate it anymore.
I texted him 'i want a hug from you' and didn't get an answer. Last night I said 'good night handsome, muah' and he wrote 'goodnight muah', and i just feel so deflated that he no longer calls me pretty or is as flirty. He does call me though, on Monday he called me and we spoke for an hour about lots of deep topics such as our dreams and hopes, and when we were together in person we would also speak for hours on end. On the phone on Monday he said if the country goes through another lockdown which it may happen, that i should jump on a plane and join him. I told him yesterday that I miss him calling me nice things and spending time with him, and he said he misses me too, and that he doesn't want to come back to this country but the only reason would be to see me. I said we rarely text nowadays and he said that's true, and especially now as he is busy with work and friends. Where we live he has just one friend, but in his home town he has a large group of friends. Why does he not text me as much though? It is mainly me now texting him good morning etc.
I don't want to force him to call me nice things, I want it to come naturally. I am thinking of just not calling him handsome anymore, and not reaching out as often either. Is he losing interest, or is this normal that he pulls away like this?
“I am thinking of just not calling him handsome anymore”
😂😂 thanks for the laughs
Ok, assuming this is a real thread. He’s actions say he’s really into you, in the next lockdown he’d want to be stuck with you...Doesn’t that speak volume? And the only reason he’d return to your country is for you.
How are you not seeing this clearly 🤔
People usually come on strong at the beginning. Why not just tell him you like when he compliments you and says hello beautiful. Tell him it makes your day.
He can't read minds you know. Its called positive enforcement. Reward/praise the behavior you like.
He can't read minds you know. Its called positive enforcement. Reward/praise the behavior you like.
And ask yourself if you'd rather have a guy who gives you verbal compliments all the time (which cost a person nothing) but doesn't every delve deep in the conversations or make solid plans to see you.
Cause any low level wanna be Lothario can dish out generic compliments. Someone who is really interested in something beyond the superficial will open up to you and make the effort to see you and move things along.
Cause any low level wanna be Lothario can dish out generic compliments. Someone who is really interested in something beyond the superficial will open up to you and make the effort to see you and move things along.
the daily hi beautiful/hi handsome/good morning shit gets old fast. save it for when you can have a proper conversation or see each other in person.
Expectations only lead to disappointment. Try dropping em and see what you get. Go do you, trust that he’s going to do him, and wake up from the fairy tale. Life, and relationships, varies a lot over time—it can’t always be rainbows and orgasms. Acceptance of reality is key. Give it time for it to even out, verbalize your feelings but don’t be too needy. Put yourself in other peoples shoes more and maybe that will help.
Posted by Arielle83
You’re addicted to love and the fantasy and need attention. Codependent attachment. You’ll drain him emotionally and it will never be enough.
A few more weeks and you’ll be accusing him of cheating and you’ll break up because you’ll sabotage based on your shallow and insecure character.
You are right, it's something im working on, to let go and have no expectations. thank you for this reminder!
Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by alexscaries
@oliviad
Obviously I've not met him so I can't say personally what he is thinking, but from my perspective:
* I only give compliments if they are heartfelt. I don't pile it on thick. I'm probably seen as being a bit cold.
* I don't tend to do what people want me to do.
* I don't state the obvious like " I miss you", it will show in my behaviour if I put in the effort in making contact or spending time.
I am scorpio dominant, but I'm not scorpio sun and I know the two are different in a lot of ways, but I hope what I posted is relatable.
Also I tend to focus on self improvement and throw myself into work, me time is as important as spending time in a relationship. I know this is true with both male and female but clingy types sometimes can't comprehend that.
Jesus! Aries and compliments...😂😂😂😂😂
It’s AS funny as Scorpios and compliments.
- Am I pretty?
- I am here am I not?
Most of the time I don’t give a shit. I have a mirror.
But some days when I am looking for a reason to let him have it - THAT would be my first choice
- When did you tell me I am pretty last time?
KABOOM!!!
Works like a magic...😂😂😂
@oliviad
Poor child...if he called you beautiful More than once - he must have some messed up placements besides Scorpio - you must be gorgeous child or he is madly in love!
These 2 don’t compliment! Period! It’s not even ‘normal’...
Their way of complimenting is ‘if I didn’t think you are pretty I wouldn’t date you’...THATS the compliment Scorpio will come up with IF he is courting you. Later in rship - forget it. If you can’t deal with it - too bad!click to expand
haha thank you, good to know 🙂 My love language is not even words, I much prefer spending time together. Just confused as to why he started off complimenting me tons and now nothing. But we speak on the phone a lot, so I'm just going to see how it goes. Thank you again 🙂
Thank you everyone for the kick up the butt that i needed! You are all right, I sometimes get very anxious and needy, which is not ok. I am generally happy in my own skin, and have refocused on myself and spent less time clinging to a text message from him. He's been calling and we've been talking a lot on the phone, and also he is there with his friends and family who he rarely sees. ❤️
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I am dating a scorpio man for 2 months now, I am taurus.
For the first few weeks he would compliment me a lot and give me nicknames or call me pretty or beautiful. He left to go back to his home country a week ago and will be there until September, and he has been a lot less flirty since he's been there. Now he will still ask for photos of my day, but will no longer compliment me in them.
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I texted him 'i want a hug from you' and didn't get an answer. Last night I said 'good night handsome, muah' and he wrote 'goodnight muah', and i just feel so deflated that he no longer calls me pretty or is as flirty. He does call me though, on Monday he called me and we spoke for an hour about lots of deep topics such as our dreams and hopes, and when we were together in person we would also speak for hours on end. On the phone on Monday he said if the country goes through another lockdown which it may happen, that i should jump on a plane and join him. I told him yesterday that I miss him calling me nice things and spending time with him, and he said he misses me too, and that he doesn't want to come back to this country but the only reason would be to see me. I said we rarely text nowadays and he said that's true, and especially now as he is busy with work and friends. Where we live he has just one friend, but in his home town he has a large group of friends. Why does he not text me as much though? It is mainly me now texting him good morning etc.
I don't want to force him to call me nice things, I want it to come naturally. I am thinking of just not calling him handsome anymore, and not reaching out as often either. Is he losing interest, or is this normal that he pulls away like this?