Scorpio man ends things with Pisces woman for being "too nice"!?

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So I was seeing this Scorpio man for about 6 weeks. Things got kind of weird between us so I asked him if he felt the same and next thing I know he says he doesn't know what he wants but he just doesn't see a long term relationship with me and our initial spark wasn't there anymore. I suggested to him that we should hang out alone more since we were always with friends but I eventually just let him go because I'm not going to try and make a guy like me. His best friend starts texting me tonight and ends up telling me that he was told by the scorp that I was so nice and he felt weird because he's not used to a girl being so nice to him?? Is this the classic case of "why men love bitches"??
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Posted by GetMisted
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Did you have coitus with him?
Did it once.. Two days before this occurred and it was awful. I kind of think maybe that was the breaking point. He told me he's not very experienced and it showed and after he kept critiquing himself and it was just awful.
There's your answer.
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But what I don't get is the "too nice" part that he told his friend.
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Did you have coitus with him?
Did it once.. Two days before this occurred and it was awful. I kind of think maybe that was the breaking point. He told me he's not very experienced and it showed and after he kept critiquing himself and it was just awful.
There's your answer.
But what I don't get is the "too nice" part that he told his friend.
It's a bullshit excuse.

Either his goal was to hit it and quit it.. Or he is ashamed of his performance and too embarrassed to face you again.
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I'll go with the second one cause honestly.. He should be lol
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Posted by munchykin
Were you maybe being overly clingy or overbearing somehow? Maybe that's what he told his friend, who tried to paraphrase that in a gentle way.
Now I'm trying to rack my brain wondering why he felt this way. He introduced me to his whole family and friends and would tell me how much he liked me all the time and then before I knew it it was over. I was always nice but I didn't impose on anything or come over uninvited or anything. I don't know!
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I was truly just going with the flow. I see myself as a nice person but never knew that being nice would push someone away.
There's something seriously wrong with someone who is actively repelled by nice people.

If that's really his reason, then you've probably dodged a bullet.
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The more I think about it the more I am starting to believe that too. He told me his dad was really messed up to him growing up so maybe he doesn't believe he deserves to be treated well ..
Or something. I don't know.
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Because a lot of men are insecure and prefer that treatment. Now n days men/boys have a difficult time being raised properly. They have grown to be lazy and searching for their moms in women they date. They are not the manly man who have they butter together. It now takes them longer to discover who they are and they self esteem. Society plays a part due to expectations and governmental corruption. More women are even graduating from college and having better careers then the men today. Males have fragile egos and don't have true role models on what it is to be a self assured man.

As for OP yes he is embarrassed and you doged a bullet because he has childhood issues he needs to resolve he is extremely insecure.
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Posted by Arielle83
Maybe you're too nice because he wants someone to take the reigns sexually.

He obviously doesn't know what he's doing.

Either way, if he can't tell you to your face, there's no point.
I agree with most of what people are saying, but this one stuck out because it sounds like the culmination of issues he might have in a nutshell. You have a guy with a "rough" background that might find comfort in more controlling people, Weak sex skills might show a past with partners more dominant/controlling attributes.

In my experience, I read the man and learn what kind of personality he is to easily determine the type of woman he needs. I also ask myself if I am that type of woman. More times than not I am not for them and I know it before wasting too much time *aries venus?*. Best luck to ya, because tbh his reason doesn't matter if he couldn't even tell you to your face, I call that feminine behavior and he might have needed a woman with more masculine qualities who would be more direct with him about that.

You seem like a go with the flow kind of person, you too might do better with a more masculine guy. Not in the macho man way, but like someone mentioned, a "salt of the earth" kind of guy.
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I was truly just going with the flow. I see myself as a nice person but never knew that being nice would push someone away.
I read your other thread...IMO, I don't think it has to do with you being nice, despite what his friend said, he may have told his friend that but it's probably what you said before...the whole sex debacle and how it wasn't that great because of his inexperience...I'm betting on that. He's really embarrassed about it and/or he was expecting something else himself...

In my experience, they like "nice girls" salt of the earth type of people. The saying "lady in the street freak in the sheets" comes to mind. Maybe the chemistry was just not there on both sides. Who knows...but keep on going, there is nothing wrong with you. You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince...even though he was a Scorp and You a Pisces and the chemistry is supposed to be legendary, and in my case it is... he just isn't the right Scorpio.
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Yea we both said they we thought the sex would make us closer. It did not. He still continues to contact me, but I agree with you. I think he was embarrassed. And yes. I also think just the wrong scorp! Better to figure that out now than later!
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It's not you, it's him

He seems to be projecting his lack of love for himself onto you

Seen that happen a few times with relationships


Lucky escape!
He wants one of those nasty bitches who belittle him and make him feel stoopid he'd prob fall in love in a nano second.

Fcuking douche bags like this are what turn nice gals into bitter women.

Fcuk him
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Agree!!! I was second guessing myself at first but decided no. Not going to change how I treat people because I'm "too nice". Much rather be nice than rude!
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Posted by Octoberbaby91
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Because a lot of men are insecure and prefer that treatment. Now n days men/boys have a difficult time being raised properly. They have grown to be lazy and searching for their moms in women they date. They are not the manly man who have they butter together. It now takes them longer to discover who they are and they self esteem. Society plays a part due to expectations and governmental corruption. More women are even graduating from college and having better careers then the men today. Males have fragile egos and don't have true role models on what it is to be a self assured man.

As for OP yes he is embarrassed and you doged a bullet because he has childhood issues he needs to resolve he is extremely insecure.
Thanks girl! You're right
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Posted by Arielle83
Maybe you're too nice because he wants someone to take the reigns sexually.

He obviously doesn't know what he's doing.

Either way, if he can't tell you to your face, there's no point.
I agree with most of what people are saying, but this one stuck out because it sounds like the culmination of issues he might have in a nutshell. You have a guy with a "rough" background that might find comfort in more controlling people, Weak sex skills might show a past with partners more dominant/controlling attributes.

In my experience, I read the man and learn what kind of personality he is to easily determine the type of woman he needs. I also ask myself if I am that type of woman. More times than not I am not for them and I know it before wasting too much time *aries venus?*. Best luck to ya, because tbh his reason doesn't matter if he couldn't even tell you to your face, I call that feminine behavior and he might have needed a woman with more masculine qualities who would be more direct with him about that.

You seem like a go with the flow kind of person, you too might do better with a more masculine guy. Not in the macho man way, but like someone mentioned, a "salt of the earth" kind of guy.
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You're so right. Unfortunately I always kind of figure out how a new guy can work in my life, and not whether or not he even works for ME. Definitely need to reevaluate how I go into new relationships.
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Posted by Tinxy
Posted by starlover
It's not you, it's him

He seems to be projecting his lack of love for himself onto you

Seen that happen a few times with relationships


Lucky escape!
He wants one of those nasty bitches who belittle him and make him feel stoopid he'd prob fall in love in a nano second.

Fcuking douche bags like this are what turn nice gals into bitter women.

Fcuk him
Agree!!! I was second guessing myself at first but decided no. Not going to change how I treat people because I'm "too nice". Much rather be nice than rude!
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Toxic relationships/friendships ain't worth it