Scorpio Man Ignoring All of a Sudden

Met him at work about a year ago, first time I saw him he gave me "that stare". I gave him an apologetic smile and forgot all about it 'cause at the time I had a crush on someone else also at work. About 5 months went by and this Scorpio man would occasionally try to get my attention but I was oblivious 'cause my eyes were on someone else. Unfortunately my crush never liked me back and eventually he left the company. I then set my sights on the Scorpio man even though my intuition said not to 'cause I thought he was a player, he started to greet me but only when we were alone and never in the company of others. He would act like I wasn't there, this turned me off so I started to ignore him then he ignored me and we did this for like two months! Finally he caught me off guard and started talking to me again but he kept ignoring me in front of others. I decided that I had had it so I decided not to look at him anymore. He must have realized it 'cause then he changed, he started to pay more attention to me and to be around where I was. He would greet me in front of people and try to make conversation. This went on for about two months and never once did he ignore me. The problem was that due to our work schedules we hardly so each other, sometimes only once a week and for brief periods of times since he worked the night shift.

Then New Years' Eve came around and we both had to work but we were getting out early, he asked me if I was going to celebrate. I said no because I had to work the next day. He then told me that one of the other co-workers was having a party and that I should go, he turned to the guy and told him to give me the address but the guy didn't give it to me. Not that I would have gone since I didn't know the guy and I had to get up early the next day. 11 days went by before I saw him again, by then things had cooled down. I didn't see him as much 'cause work slowed down and we didn't get as many hours. During one of the times he saw me he said "why so serious? everytime I see you around you're always serious" I said "that's just the way I am". I saw him a few more times after that and he still greeted me and smiled at me but then two weeks ago I saw him and he looked at me and looked really pissed. I waved and smiled at him and he just made a motion with his hand and walked away. The next time I tried to talk to him about work and he barely looked at me and just said "hey" and "ok".

The third time I was working in my area and saw him walking in my direction. When I looked up he looked down and passed by me and completely ignored me. He kept coming around and when I was talking to people he looked my way as if to gauge my reaction. I decided that the next time he was at work I would ignore him as well and try to avoid him and that's what I did. I don't know why he changed and started ignoring me after 3 months of paying me attention.

My friends say that he's just a player that wanted me to chase after him and throw myself at his feet and since I didn't he gave up 'cause he wasn't really interested in me. I admit I was reserved and serious but only because I didn't feel like I could trust him due to his inconsistent behavior at the beginning and my instincts about him possibly being a player. I guess I was right after all. But why is he throwing it in my face that he's not interested, why keep coming around to where I'm at just to ignore me? He could just stay away and leave me alone. This took me by surprise and hurt my feelings 'cause I was really beginning to like him. *sigh*

About his sign: all I know is that he's a Scorpio born on Nov. 12th

I'm a Cancer sun sign with Virgo moon sign and Aries Rising.

Posted by LonelyVirgo
hiya! keep it at a professional, work relationship. nothing more. if your gut thinks he's a player, follow it and find someone better!

I will attempt to do that. Luckily we work different shifts so I don't have to talk to him about anything. I only see him when his shift is beginning and mine is ending.

LoL do not let him control your emotions because he is a MASTER......
-whether or not he is a player who knows
-but you let the way he is acting bother you and your gonna be on a emotional roller coaster

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
LoL do not let him control your emotions because he is a MASTER......
-whether or not he is a player who knows
-but you let the way he is acting bother you and your gonna be on a emotional roller coaster

Got it, I'm gonna pretend I don't care. I will not let him know he's affecting me this way!

Yea playing mine games .u smart u no wat u feel.act like his ass dont exist..cancers can be very stubboring if they want too so get that way.wat u have over him is that u are emotionally intuitive.in your soul u no wat u feel is true. So put your shell on and block his ass out.

Posted by Morph2Scorpio
He likes you a lot, in a serious way, period.

If he was aiming for sex, believe me, oh we Scops could seduce a nun if we wanted to. For someone we really like and admire, that's where we do the stare and stalking so that we know for sure she likes us back. Rejection from any other fling we just could not be bothered and move on to the next. Rejection from a potential mate would unfortunately destroys a part of us, pains us and takes too long to heal.

You blew your chances, he's trying to hate you to lessen his pain of rejection.

To him, now u r dismissed !

Did I miss something, at what point did I reject him?!

Ugh he reeks of game playing, right from the start. I don't care what month this guy was born, your friends are right. Anyone who deliberately gives you mixed signals is a player. No exceptions.

Tell him that he can take his little hand motion and shove it in his eye.

Posted by crunchy
Ugh he reeks of game playing, right from the start. I don't care what month this guy was born, your friends are right. Anyone who deliberately gives you mixed signals is a player. No exceptions.

Tell him that he can take his little hand motion and shove it in his eye.

LOL

This entire explanation you shared is nothing but assumptions and listening to what other's think at work. Instead of grabbing the bull by the horns and asking him straight up, you play games, and say you are going to "act" like it doesn't bother you. Wow..that's gonna get you far. Maybe a couple more stares, smiles and a "hey". Yet you come here to tell us the Scorpio man is ignoring you. smh

"Assumptions are the termites of relationships"

Posted by LonelyVirgo
if your gut thinks he's a player, follow it and find someone better!

I agree you cancers are usually pretty sensitive to stuff like that. Like you can tell.

OMG I give up lol.... Letitbe you got an apt point.... Couldn't hurt to ask this guy directly wtf but if he isn't straight up with you just forget about it. Don't let his actions bother you.

Posted by LetltB
This entire explanation you shared is nothing but assumptions and listening to what other's think at work. Instead of grabbing the bull by the horns and asking him straight up, you play games, and say you are going to "act" like it doesn't bother you. Wow..that's gonna get you far. Maybe a couple more stares, smiles and a "hey". Yet you come here to tell us the Scorpio man is ignoring you. smh

"Assumptions are the termites of relationships"

I would probably do that if we were friends instead of acquaintances who exchanged a few words here and there. And I'm not playing games just reacting to his.

"I would probably do that if we were friends instead of acquaintances who exchanged a few words here and there. And I'm not playing games just reacting to his."

ok..can't imagine what you'll be like when(if)you go from acquaintance to friend. You seem to be pretty worked up on page one. Just an observation.

Posted by LetltB
"I would probably do that if we were friends instead of acquaintances who exchanged a few words here and there. And I'm not playing games just reacting to his."

ok..can't imagine what you'll be like when(if)you go from acquaintance to friend. You seem to be pretty worked up on page one. Just an observation.

True. I don't know why I'm so into him when I barely know him. I guess when I like someone I really really like them.

Cancers drive me crazy with assumptions. A man could do something so small like holding the door open and OMG HE WANTS TO MARRY ME IN BAHAMAS! Or they drop a pencil on the floor near their desk and hey he picks it up and gives it back OMFG WE ARE SOULMATES. Seriously calm down. I think youre reading into it too much. If a Scorpio is interested you would know. They make no mystery of their intentions including sex. Im a Gemini and Im one serious elusive type and even the Scorpios around me didn't flinch when they wanted something.

Posted by Xin
Cancers drive me crazy with assumptions. A man could do something so small like holding the door open and OMG HE WANTS TO MARRY ME IN BAHAMAS! Or they drop a pencil on the floor near their desk and hey he picks it up and gives it back OMFG WE ARE SOULMATES. Seriously calm down. I think youre reading into it too much. If a Scorpio is interested you would know. They make no mystery of their intentions including sex. Im a Gemini and Im one serious elusive type and even the Scorpios around me didn't flinch when they wanted something.

LOL. You're right, it's true that we create this whole relationship in our heads...I'm calming down now and beginning to accept he isn't interested 😢

Yeah. I wasnt trying to be rude, I guess my Gemyness can be that way sometimes, that wasn't my intention though. But yes you do create this whole relationship like what you would want it to be instead of what it really is. I always remind my BFF (who is funny enough a Cancer and is EXACTLY like my sister who is also a Cancer) I tell her "see it for what it really is instead of what you wish it would be", she never listens to me though LOL!

Posted by IntriguedScorp
This the main problem between two water signs in the beginning before things are established. We mirror eachother. Before you know it you are mirroring the mirroring mirror. It's all very confusing. Someone needs to manup and be direct. Imho

Stop with assumptions like let it be said.

I really hate when I find myself mirroring and I hate it even more when someone does it as a form of communication with me.
I prefer for the person to be them self. And let me deal with who they are.
This way everyone is on the same page and we all know where we stand.

Posted by QUlETstorm
This is funny to me. You think he's a player and talk about how his actions are inconsistent, yet you are the one who paid him no mind at first because your attention was elsewhere.

So the other guy leaves the company so you decide to give scorp boy sole attention and now you think he should just be all attentive and consistent. Why exactly gave you the impression that he's a player? Does he flirt with other women in your face? Or is "player" still just the default word that everyone falls back on when they don't understand a mans actions?

This is why I don't mesh well with other water signs in relationships. Too much alike. The very things you are complaining about, you have done to him as well.

Aside from that -- as a Scorpio myself I will say that I often mask my feelings as best I can when I first meet a guy i'm crushing on. Scorpios are well aware of how intense we can be, and so often times we try to mask that and play it cool, especially when we don't know how the other person is feeling. We try to appear cool, calm and collected and I admit sometimes it can seem like we are icing you out, when really sometimes we are just trying to mask our own feelings. Vulnerability is uncomfortable for a scorp.

I was always consistent, I never went back and forth on him. If I had seen the Scorpio guy first it's possible that I would have crushed on him first, unfortunately I didn't and once I'm interested in someone there's no one else. Once the other guy left and after I got over my crush on him is when I started paying attention to the Scorpio. I can only focus on one person at a time. I assumed he's a player 'cause I thought he was playing mind games with me. And you're right about Scorpio's masking emotions, one time I caught him looking at me with this lustful look on his face and when he realized I saw it he shook himself and put on a poker face.