Scorpio Man Playing Games??

Is this Scorpio man playing games? I delayed his response in making us official because we've only dated for 3 weeks and within those 3 weeks I've seen him 3 times total. I told him I would give him an answer at the end of Jan (within 2 weeks) and he replied, "Who are you waiting for??" I told him, "No one. I'm just hesistant jumping into another relationship so soon after the last one ended horrendously." And he replied.. "I don't know... I usually just give up. I hate wasting time." I replied, "Well, if it's meant to be, then we would be together regardless."

From then on, he started to go clubbing on the weekends (he never goes clubbing unless it's a b-day and it wasn't a b-day), and he showed me a clubbing photo of him behind some girl. I did not react, and didn't make any comments regarding the girl. It seemed to put him off that I was not jealous. He would still contact me, but at a lesser frequency each day and even to the point where I contacted him first (he always contacted me first prior to that). Then he would sometimes reply to what I say with just a smiley face, and he never used emoticons before and I asked him why he was using it all of a sudden and he just smiled with another emoticon. He didn't ask me to go out like he usually does every week, and I've hinted to him to come visit and he would change the subject. He responded, "Maybe next week" and gave me reasons as to why he couldn't come over the weekend and his excuses checked out (saw photos posted on his Instagram). Then the following week was the end of the month and I said, "So... it's the end of the month. Do you still want your answer?" He avoided answering the question for 2 hours and finally replied, "Sorry, I fell asleep and just woke back up."

I thought he was playing a game by purposely avoiding my question so I ignored his texts for two days and finally answered when he asked, "Are you mad?" I replied that I wasn't mad and that I knew what was going on and I'm not playing along. He kept played dumb and pretended he didn't know what was at the end of the month. I told him he was seeking revenge because he thought I was playing a game with him and he's playing one back and it would be to his best interests to stop lying. Then he made up more excuses as to how he slept all day on the weekend (he never sleeps all day.. he's always up at the same time every morning no matter what).

I told him to be mature and admit it. Then I told him I was done since he won't admit and it was a waste of time. He finally responded, "Are you talking about your last text, 'So it's the end of the month. Do you still want your answer?" Then he said, "I don't know what's at the end of the month. Let me see if I can find it. I'm so lost." And he kept texting every half hour and I ignored it. That was on a Monday night, and on Friday I texted him, "I felt like you were using every tactic to get me jealous because I delayed your answer." No response and it's Tuesday the following week now. He recently unfollowed me on Twitter, but I can still see all his tweets since I've been following him prior to his deleting me. On one of his tweets, he lied and said he went on a date on Monday before 4pm. He works M-F 8am-6pm rain or shine and never ever takes time off from work and is always on time (he owns his own business). He knows I look at his social networks. Do you think he purposely deleted me from Twitter and made up a fake date for me to see and hope I come crawling back? Or is he seeking some revenge?

His chart:

Sun Scorpio
Moon Gemini
Mercury Libra
Venus Virgo
Mars Pisces
Jupiter Gemini
Saturn Sagittarius
Uranus Sagittarius
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio

Posted by ellessque
you questioned his authenticity.

now he's just toying with you.

if we go all in and you hesitate just ONE bit........it's a long road back.

Elle, so it's a lost cause now and I shouldn't even bother?

Good grief - he's an idiot. LOL.

Firewaterair, it sounds like you have handled this very sensibly. You called him on his behaviour and he's floundering around. Cool off and get on with your life. If he pulls into life great. If not, you've had a lucky escape.


Can't help wondering if he's got some mate in the background giving him bad advice.

"If he pull into line great"

Here's the reality ....


He has realized you are stupid, and you are ... so as you continue in being an idiot, he'll continue in being entertained by your ignorance.


YOu've only seen him 3 times, and then think you have him hooked into waiting with baited breath as to whether you are his. Seriously, you think you are more than you are, and still do.


Like even after writing all of this, and conveying to us that he is OBVIOUSLY fucking with you because you are that gullible, and a responsers comes in to say this in her own words ... your come back is, "so it's a lost cause now and I shouldn't even bother?" ..... which indicates, you have zero reasoning skills.

You really have no clue ..... and it sounds like he's enjoying that quite immensely

i don't get why things have to be defined so quickly. what happened to dating in the sense of hanging out and having fun? it would be way too soon for me to make a declaration that i'm in a relationship and if someone else starts that kind of talk when i barely know them, it's a red flag for either bullshit with malice or worse, psychosis.

Don't blame Dazed. The power points, bullets and numerals are subconscious habits formed from playing, living, and breathing DXP Survivor 24/7 for over a month ... 😛

Posted by firewaterair
I told him to be mature and admit it. Then I told him I was done since he won't admit and it was a waste of time. He finally responded, "Are you talking about your last text, 'So it's the end of the month. Do you still want your answer?" Then he said, "I don't know what's at the end of the month. Let me see if I can find it. I'm so lost." And he kept texting every half hour and I ignored it. That was on a Monday night, and on Friday I texted him, "I felt like you were using every tactic to get me jealous because I delayed your answer." No response and it's Tuesday the following week now. He recently unfollowed me on Twitter, but I can still see all his tweets since I've been following him prior to his deleting me. On one of his tweets, he lied and said he went on a date on Monday before 4pm. He works M-F 8am-6pm rain or shine and never ever takes time off from work and is always on time (he owns his own business). He knows I look at his social networks. Do you think he purposely deleted me from Twitter and made up a fake date for me to see and hope I come crawling back? Or is he seeking some revenge?

Fire -- don't waster your time with him! Good he showed his true colours early on.

To the 'ONE-TIME-CHANCE' sayers... everyone has the right to think. Fire was honest, Scorp guy acted immature. His low-esteem is his own problem. If a guy plays the fickle early on, he probably will not turn any better later on.

Showing interest, then stepping back and letting the other person think is a nobel thing to do. The scorp guy couldn't handle the waiting period.

Posted by SultrySultana

Posted by OceanDeep
Don't blame Dazed. The power points, bullets and numerals are subconscious habits formed from playing, living, and breathing DXP Survivor 24/7 for over a month ... 😛

LOL 😛 Yeeeeaaaaaaaa... seen you guys in action... and OD, seriously speakin... YOU SHUDA WON!!!! *sticks tongue out at Dazed*

pffttt #woteverscorpios

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Aw, thanks 🙂 But Dazed won fair and square ... and it was fun along the way, so it evened out

I appreciate all the input and apologize for getting back to you all so late - it's been quite hectic recently. I agree my choice of words could have been better selected, and I realized his ego had been bruised badly from it. What I failed to mention was a psychic told me last year that he would be my husband... she described him down to the T (age, career, personality, locale, month I would meet him, etc.) and I told him this reading. He said, "Sometimes these things are true," and didn't dismiss it. We had been talking about things like marriage, divorce, kids, finances and the like, and I told him I would never divorce and do whatever it takes to work it out with my husband. I am seeking your help because if this reading is true, I need to put more effort into saving what we had.

I have not contacted him and posted an evening photo of a beach I was at (which we coincidentally went on one of our dates) on Facebook. Two days later on Twitter, he posted photos of all the places we went to or had plans to go to in the same sequence. He made sure to take photos that included his date's manicured hands and even a photo just of her hand getting her nails done. I'm not sure why he even bothered deleting me from Twitter seeing as how I have no tweets and he knows I can see all his tweets since I'm still following him. Are these photos he's posting purely a coincidence or he's trying to get attention?

@bluemoon My answer was going to be yes, but I was afraid of giving him an answer right that moment because it felt like a marriage proposal (assuming the psychic's reading was true).

I was seriously hoping you would come back with something witty and mature to prove me wrong.

26 years old?

in Cali?


Did your parents just now let you out of the house?

3 dates is not enough to decide on whether to call it a relationship or not. how ridiculous. it's just a man or woman's way of trying to make sure you aren't sleeping around or dating others but unless you are into multiple dating, why can't you just hang out with someone and have some (exclusive) fun withouth defining what you have.

I've been seeing a scorpio man for 3 months now... first time ever for me to be with a scorpio. He drives me crazy!! I don't know if we would have even kissed for a month, if I hadn't tackled him after our third encounter LOL. All this stuff I read about "be patient with scorpio" and how guarded they are, is definitely true! He is all hot and heavy when we are fooling around... we have not actually had sex yet, though. Maybe he's not ready to "let me in" ? I know he likes me, I can tell when we are together. When we are not together, we text, send pics to each other 🙂 Three different times now in the 3 months, he has gone a week or so being too busy to even meet for 10 minutes. I don't get it. I am the type.. what you see is what you get.. no hiding, or games, tell it like it is. Any tips?

Perhaps you tackled him too fast.

Perhaps when you two do meet up or text, he senses that you want to move in fast, again.

What you see is what you get isn't good enough ... if what he sees is a woman who moves in too quickly when he wants to be a slow mover because he is guarded.



Seriously ... people think they are open, when in reality, they are self absorbed. so much that they will attempt to confine a man to hard commitment based off of a psychic reading.


::: shakes head :::

I hung out with my scorp for 3 months before we became " offically " it takes time.

Things will always go somewhere or they won't.

Posted by DazedScorp
When I went after my Ex Aries, I let her take the lead.

I let her know I was interested by taking the first step to ask her out, and get to know her.

What I did not do, was drop my emotional bomb on her.

I stayed distant, and let her come to me, and after about 3 weeks, she said she wanted to take the next step and start a relationship.

Two things with this scorp male though...

1. Gem moon. Of course he's going to be a bit flakey/fickle. He works a lot, and has a lot on his plate.

2. He's still a scorpio. He put him self out there, and you didn't respond. You hurt his ego a bit. The best thing to do would have been to say, "Three weeks is a bit to quick for me, but I do like you and want to continue to get to know you, but give me a bit, Okay?"

He is mirroring you right now. You weren't sure about him, so in turn, he acts like he isn't sure about you know.

Personally, if I was him, I'd walk. You get one chance, and if you don't take it, I'll go else where. Anything that I do to you after the fact, is just a game to me.

That, that, that, that, that, that.

I gave up at the beginning reading these lame attempts for comments. The problem at hand is verified simply. Guy is a player, and an immature one at that. End of story line. Find a dude who's not into that shit. Simple.

Player is right!! We stopped talking end of January and he came back around April and we worked it out. We started dating again in May and he asked to be my bf. First week in, he mailed me roses and told me he wanted to meet my entire family and send my father a gift for Father's Day.. I declined, because it's much too soon and very fishy. He invited me several times to meet his friends and family. Again, I declined because it seemed like a trap to guilt me into staying. I made up excuses as to why I couldn't go and he could tell I did not want to meet them.

A month later, we went on a vacation and I went through his iPad while he was in the shower and found a Match.com app. This prompted me to go through his emails and I found an old email from his ex.. she broke up with him because he slapped her. He was also begging for her back, admitted he had depression, an alcoholic, afraid he was going to lose his business and his house, but she refused to come back and told him to move on (she was a Taurus). For safety reasons, I did not confront him on the spot and waited til I got home.

I found out his ex has the same name as me, and my friend told me I look similar to his ex but thinner and more attractive. He posted a photo of us together on his Facebook as if to rub it in her face, and started contacting his ex's cousin, brother and best friend to try and get his ex's attention. He started becoming distant after our trip and I used that as my excuse to dump him. He responded the next day by apologizing and said there were some things on his mind that he tried to not think about, but it just became worse. I'm thinking he's talking about his ex, his cheating, and/or his addictions. I did not reply and deleted him off all of my social media and blocked him on IM. It's been over a week that we've broken up, and he still has not changed his relationship status or removed the photo of us together (he does not have photos of him with any of his other ex's). I think he is plotting something, but what? Obviously, I want nothing to do with him anymore, but I do fear for my safety and the infamous Scorpio revenge. What should I do if he tries to come back?

:::: shakes head ::::



Back in the day .. by the time people were 16 years old, they wanted to be grown-ups.


Now, at 27 years old .... you haven't matured enough yet to actually want to be grown up.



You think you are above his games, while you actively play .... there's no doubt in my mind that that ^^^^ goes right over your head, and you actually believe you are acting maturely