Scorpio Silence...Will he be back?

He shouldn't have said all that stuff to you if he couldn't act on it. That's fucked.

Yea ,if you're everything he's looking for but then screws you over something as petty as dancing? Sounds like a mind fucker to me..ehh..

Agree with Rambunctious76. Drop the scorpio, but keep up your dance lessons, let him know what he lost and in the mean time, I'll bet my legs you find another guy! I'm a lunar scorpio, and have dated scorpio's, they are flaky as hell in relationships, they either find the woman they want and will prove it, I mean head-over-heels, fight for you type of love or they will fake it and move on. If you are an easy catch, 9 times out of 10, they will move on, you have to treat them like dirt and stomp on their heart almost to make them "walk the line" and crawl on their face to get a moment with you, let alone get you in bed. Rule 1 of dating a scorpio, never get in bed with them in the first 3 months. Rule 2 never get in bed with them in the first 3 months! Might be extreme for most people, but, they will have respect for you and you will know if they really, truly want you for you!

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Yea ,if you're everything he's looking for but then screws you over something as petty as dancing? Sounds like a mind fucker to me..ehh..

Men say a lot of stuff to women.
It's just stuff he's saying.
You can't believe every word that comes out of a guys mouth when he's courting you.

If a guy is not backing up his words with actions then they were just words.
Don't just give yourself to a guy based on pretty words, let him prove it.

Posted by Rambunctious76


Just to let you know, Scorpios are more than likely (like 90% of the time) to settle for the familiar rather than the unknown.

Oh gosh. This one. Believe it.. Scorpio needs solid foundation.

AriesGirl,

Don't worry. You'll be fine soon. He's just a perfect stranger. ** hugs ** . I know how it hurts you.

Don't be too attached with that passion coming from a Scorpio - even I, Have that same passion.

I always withdraw the relationship because I cannot deal the unknown - fears interfer.

its dangerous to take what an emotional scorpion says seriously. his words were never meant to accommodate you really. they were there to match his mood. scorpios have tendency to let words flow in the heat of the moment. yet once they feel something different, the prior words they told you also change. im sorry that this happened. he just got done with a 12 year relationship with hardly anytime to become undamaged from that. it is best you move on. his ex still has him by the emotions.

35 year old female Scorp here. Maturity level debatable... _—

Firstly, breaking up from a 12 year relationship only 8 weeks prior to meeting is not ideal. Of course it depends on circumstances but 12 years is a long time to be with anyone.

Secondly, you only have his opinion on his last relationship and it must be taken with a pinch of salt.

Thirdly, spending so much time together initially in a 'whirlwind' romance can denote disaster waiting to happen. This is not a criticism. This is just an observation. Sometimes it pays to take a chance and go with the flow. Other times it does not.

In addition, I think you handled the first break up sensibly and maturely. However, I think the offer of continuing should he find himself single was not the best idea. It indicated you were still interested and available and I think he's taken advantage of this.

Whatever reasons he has cited sound like crap to me.

It's likely to be a case of right person, wrong timing. It happens. What can you do.

I'd thank him very much for his time and move on. I'd cut contact and use an alternative dance coach. While you're still hanging around he's likely to still take advantage and you're likely to succumb.

It's a lose/lose situation right now unless you just want to be a side chick or gap filler.

The good news is that as an Aries you'll move the fuck on rather quickly and not lose much sleep over it. As a Scorp, we can be rather fucked up emotionally and it takes us a long time to get over things. This is what is happening to him right now.

he wants to be chased like a woman. He's not a real man, and he's not worth it. You deserve way better.

Posted by biosynthesis
he wants to be chased like a woman. He's not a real man, and he's not worth it. You deserve way better.

woah, running into you on the scorpio board!

quelle surprise!

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Posted by biosynthesis
he wants to be chased like a woman. He's not a real man, and he's not worth it. You deserve way better.

woah, running into you on the scorpio board!

quelle surprise!

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Posted by HurtAriesGirl
So...scorpios can lie but others are not supposed to lie to them? That is complete bullpuckey. I give honesty and expect it in return (and told him that). Thanks everyone for the insight and support. I am done with him.

Yes, it would be easy to move on. One of the things that really bugged him was that I have a LOT of male friends. I let him meet them and told him that he would see that they treat me like one of the guys. His take on it was they all wanted me but I was just too oblivious to see it. I think I will just forge ahead on my own for now and wait for my mind and emotions to clear before allowing anyone else in. I had another dance lesson today (not with him. Half of me wants to cry and half of me wants to hit him over the head with a blunt object...I guess the healing process has begun... 🙂

I think you've made the right decision. I'm sure you'll find the right one 🙂

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Posted by Scorp1989
What's her sign if you don't mind my asking.

IDK. Wish I did. I only met her one time, the night I met him. He said it was a fluke that they were both at the location, now I don't know. I do know they were actually broken up then. She came up to me twice during the night telling me I should not dance with him, he was a horrible person, that is why she kicked him out, etc. He denied that she kicked him out and everything else she said ... In hindsight, I should have known better. But it all sounded plausible from his perspective. Now I know better. Lucky escape. Blunt object is sounding better and better.

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Lol definitely taking what he said about their relationship with pinch of salt then!! I've heard every sob story under the sun - how bad their wives/gf are or were. How they didn't do this or that. You name it, I've heard it. He's clearly full of crap but nothing ventured, nothing gained.

I have male friends. They are just that. It is possible that not all males desire to sleep with all females. He's a knob for making issue there.

Sounds like you have it all under control though which is good! Here, have a blunt object... _??

"Here, have a blunt object... _??"



Thanks, you made me laugh (which has been in short supply lately!). I would take your blunt object if I could and apply it to his body where it would do me the most good (not his head).
🙂

I really appreciate everyone helping me work through this. I will never get involved with a Scorpio male again. They are toxic to a straightforward Aries girl like me. First question I will be asking is "When is your birthday?"

what are your other placements? I agree, I do not think Scorpio and Aries energies are compatible past the point of platonic friendship. I prefer straightforward interactions. Too many games. You're probably more compatible with other fire or air. Aries energy and water signs in general in relationships isn't something I have seen being successful very often. I also think Aries women are better off with an individual that has some earth.

I didn't read much here, so perhaps this was addressed already .... I don't see you taking responsibility here.

Sure, this guy should have taken time after getting out of a long-term relationship ... but, so should YOU have considered that, and that it probably wasn't enough time. You jumping in is your fault, just as much as his.

The first time he burned you ... you just went right back to him. I didn't read anything in here where you made decisions in your best interest. He made a decision to be with you again, and you go along with it, without considering yourself. You even said that you would welcome him back.

You don't present yourself as having a mind of your own, and following his lead where ever it takes you ... even when you realize the taking of you is bad for you.

That's not a girlfriend material quality.


You say bullshit like, "since all I did wrong was want to see him", "and all I did was match his passion" ... you have placed yourself in a shining light, and are attempting to deceive your reading audience and make them believe that you're an innocent victim.

If you are an innocent victim ... then that means you weren't a participant in the relationship at all. Because we all know it takes two to tango.

I would wager that most of these details is a story, because it doesn't make sense. It feels like you're pissing on our shoes, while trying to make us believe it's raining.

Posted by HurtAriesGirl

Posted by biosynthesis
what are your other placements? I agree, I do not think Scorpio and Aries energies are compatible past the point of platonic friendship. I prefer straightforward interactions. Too many games. You're probably more compatible with other fire or air. Aries energy and water signs in general in relationships isn't something I have seen being successful very often. I also think Aries women are better off with an individual that has some earth.

I went online and did my birth chart. I have no idea what this means. Even though I read the stuff, it seems my chart is all over the board. Sun in Aries, Moon in Gemini, Rising Cancer and Venus in Pisces. All 8 degrees or over (most 9 or 10), and all said they were dominant. All the explanations I saw of these things seemed to contradict each other...Can you make heads or tails of this?

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I think maybe an air sign with water placements would be better for you. Sun-is your foundation, moon-rules emotions, mercury-way you communicate, rising-your ascendant etc... So basically your sun sign is the main sign (the one that you pick by date), and the other planets represent different facets of your personality. Birth charts are very intricately detailed; there are more aspects, but sun sign alone does not dictate compatibility.

Posted by P-Angel


I would wager that most of these details is a story, because it doesn't make sense. It feels like you're pissing on our shoes, while trying to make us believe it's raining.

menopause works in funny ways sometimes. It creates entertainment I guess.

Posted by Koniucha
What does it mean to be a part time gf?

Not exclusive I guess. I didn't get a chance to address it.

Posted by Rambunctious76

Posted by biosynthesis
what are your other placements? I agree, I do not think Scorpio and Aries energies are compatible past the point of platonic friendship. I prefer straightforward interactions. Too many games. You're probably more compatible with other fire or air. Aries energy and water signs in general in relationships isn't something I have seen being successful very often. I also think Aries women are better off with an individual that has some earth.

Nah. Sometimes it can work past the point of platonic friendship.The other placements besides the sun also come into play. My 2 Scorp exes were air/fire and earth/fire dominant, so it worked for me. My Aries friend whose been married to a Scorpio for 10 years now is a earth/water dominant Aries.

At the end of the day though it really boils down to how the Scorpio treats you, and whether or not you're getting as good as you give.

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fair enough, maybe in this case it isn't so, but I can see your point, makes sense.

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Posted by HurtAriesGirl


I went online and did my birth chart..

Sun in Aries, Moon in Gemini, Rising Cancer and Venus in Pisces.

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Thanks, GetMisted, that is how I feel. :-|

Posted by Rambunctious76
You should try to tap into your moon more. Air moon signs are great for analysing issues AND detaching themselves from those issues.

I am analytical. Just have extreme difficulty detaching. 😢
Not to say I can't. I just have to determine that it is hopeless. Then I am done AND gone.

Posted by Rambunctious76


So he wants you to be a side dish.

It's clear he's not over his ex.


I would suggest you move on and drop the idea of him ever coming back. Don't even entertain the thought of it.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^sums it up very well.

Posted by HurtAriesGirl

It will be difficult because I let him into every aspect of my life.

Every aspect of your life?

A guy you barely even know?

Exaggerate much? ..... again, most of this is a story that is designed to put you in the position of being a victim. In this particular sentence (and there are a lot of exaggerations here), you want your viewing audience to believe that you were most gracious to him, so much that you gave everything .... so that the other side of your mouth can wallow in pity that you were abused.


In reality .... you're the one who's fucked up (if this is true) ... because you don't have sound judgment.

Of course, we all know that you saying that was just another exaggeration you came up with to attempt to make yourself out to look like you've been taken advantage of.

You're not going to fool me. Maybe these other people are dumb enough to believe your story ... but, there are a few who are capable of reading between the lines and the evidence is right there.

Did I read in here where you said something about how you care unconditionally?

Yeah, the picture is becoming quite clear ... you're a liar, because there's nothing in here that even remotely suggests you give unconditionally. In fact, most of this is a lie, because it doesn't make sense.

so, the thing you give unconditionally, apparently, is wagging a forked tongue.

What's really mind blowing here is that you say you are over 50 ... so if this is true, then it means that you've learned nothing about relationships.

what you've described is how a teenager would respond to a Boy.

Pobody's nerfect...

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Posted by HurtAriesGirl

It will be difficult because I let him into every aspect of my life.

You're not going to fool me. Maybe these other people are dumb enough to believe your story ... but, there are a few who are capable of reading between the lines and the evidence is right there.

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again with the narcissistic self flattery. Bitch please. The OP may be clueless, but that doesn't give you the right to be a condescending, bitter, menopausal old hag. calm your sagging tits.

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Posted by AgentP911
Pobody's nerfect...

LAWL 😆

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lmao

Posted by Rambunctious76
My mum is an Aries with Venus in Pisces and she has a difficult time judging when people are trying to take advantage of her. Goodwill is still in her vocabulary - she still believes strongly in it. Sometimes it's hard for me to watch because I can sense when people are up to no good - but she won't believe until something goes terribly wrong.

Thank you. I have removed all of my other posts. I appreciate your empathy. I am withdrawing to ponder the lessons learned from this.

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Posted by HurtAriesGirl

It will be difficult because I let him into every aspect of my life.

You're not going to fool me. Maybe these other people are dumb enough to believe your story ... but, there are a few who are capable of reading between the lines and the evidence is right there.

again with the narcissistic self flattery. Bitch please. The OP may be clueless, but that doesn't give you the right to be a condescending, bitter, menopausal old hag. calm your sagging tits.

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Biosynthesis:
Appreciate the insights. Really, thank you.