So I lived w/ a Scorpio woman (roommate) for 4.5 months. We had a 2 bdrm apt out of which I was renting 1 room. Here was the situation She was toooooooooooooooo Needy. She is disabled and is home all day long. So the minute I got home she would hit me with all her problems (how bad her day went). When I would be getting ready to leave in the morning she would stand in front of the bathroom mirror while I got ready and noncessantly talk about all her problems again. So u get the pic day/night of this drove me crazy and I decided to move out. Well the problem is we had a blow out b4 I left because she would constantly want to know where I went and how long b4 I would be home. . . needless to say her overbearing ways led to a blowout between us. Finally the day came for me to move out and she was being Nicey Nicey to me because she wants to keep in touch (she always does things for people for something in return). I had already decided that I didn't want to keep in touch so I was just being polite not friendly. Current problem: She doesn't know where I live (didn't give her the address). She keeps calling, emailing and txting me to ask how I am doing, etc. I don't respond then she leaves me a msg saying I hope all is well because I haven't heard from you and I left her a msg saying everything is fine just very busy. But she doesn't get the msg that I don't want to talk to her anymore and I can't be rude enough to tell her that. I prefer to end things politely so ignoring her is my way of doing this. It feels like she is a leech that just doesn't go away. I can't stand her constant victim mode and incessant complaining (never stops). I don't want to be friends or even acquaintances with her. If she finds my address somewhere she will just show up at my place (she is crazy). My ? to all of you is IS her behavior normal for a scorpio woman?? How should I deal with this? Please don't be rude. I am just fed up and need some advice.
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female from USA
"I don't respond then she leaves me a msg saying I hope all is well because I haven't heard from you and I left her a msg saying everything is fine just very busy. But she doesn't get the msg that I don't want to talk to her anymore and I can't be rude enough to tell her that. I prefer to end things politely so ignoring her is my way of doing this. "
From a woman's point of view - ignoring someone is rude. I lose respect for someone that isn't straightforward with me. Many men like to just ignore a woman and think she'll get the hint but sometimes we don't or we need closure. Ignoring someone and just saying "you're busy" is dishonest and impolite. Don't be scared to set boundaries and say how how u feel. It would take no more than 5 minutes of your time to respectfully give her closure and end the friendship. I think its best to be honest in a tactful way. I would explain it all to her over the phone that way if she has questions you can answer them or say that nothing will change so to accept that you can't be friends, etc. Make sure you tell her that you cannot be friends with her and that you'd like for her to not contact you anymore. Then give her a reason (constant complaining & possessiveness was too much for you). Then change your number & block her emails.
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male from India
I have started disliking such posts, in spite of perhaps having indulged in doing the same at some point of time. Some one, who just happens to be a scorp also, is exhibiting signs of a troubled psyche because of being disable, and after having decided to not to help her in material form, U choose to humiliate her here ? I understand therez a fair chance that she might not actually be a noble soul aft all, but it doesn't sound tasteful if U start projecting her as a complete loser. Sunaina, if at all U had wanted a solution that badly, U could have presented it in a better way.
But then again, why do I forget that these boards have a different utility as well and to get exercised is actually stupid.
Just tell her how you feel. This is definitely about a person who is disabled and needing a friend, who clearly don't have the advantages of life that we abled people do. Be sympathetic to her, but let her know how you feel. What sign are you? (Libra? - hence not wanting to hurt her feelings and the ingnoring- lol!!!)
thanx for all the advice. BTW I have endured this "friendship" for 3 yrs till date and the fact that I am polite has gotten me into this mess. There is more to this story than I am telling because I don't feel like writing a novel. This just happens to be the straw that broke the camel's back. If I did not want a solution then I would have never posted this here. Also if I wanted to demean her I could have done all that by posting this without asking for advice. I agree this has more to do with her loneliness and not her sign but she is the first Scorpio female friend (I have several close ones) who seems to display this type of behavior. It's just become intolerable. Yes I did use this post as a advice column/rant (everyone has a right to that as long as I am not hurting her). I see everyone's pt . . . I may just do all this in email format. I know I will get a rebuttal from her because she always plays victim but as long as I am forthright in my email there won't be much that she can do. I am an Aries like Gaurav. Also I am not saying that I am without fault (I have my share) but all I want is a solution to end this situation in the most decent way possible. . . and that's what you guys helped me with. Thank you