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My husband and I don't click as of late
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Posted by PrincessLouise
I can't help you. He needs to help you.
Got the message on the Sag board. I appreciate too.
Congratulations on the baby 🙂. Be patient and wait a bit to see if the Scorp men can help you out, particularly Rabbit (Quantum) as he's married and may be able to give you some helpful feedback
If not, I'll give my thoughts later.
1) marriage is hard work. Rough patches like this are not uncommon. Don't sweat it too much.
2) children create stress. They can also cause resentment if the man feels the child is getting more attention. Again...not uncommon.
3) neither of these are Scorpio related. It can happen to ALL men.
4) regarding his cheating allegations you mentioned on the Sag board, he's sorta being a drama queen. He's fallen into a self pity death spiral related to #2. I doubt he truly believes you're cheating, but he is feeling left out and maybe a bit hurt. Men are told to express their emotions but often aren't taught how to do that constructively. I'd ignore it unless he presses the issue.
5) you have a family now. A husband and especially a child. Please...if you feel it's getting out of control please please please see a professional counselor. Astrology won't help you here. All you'll get here are bitter people with axes to grind giving you bad advice based on their own clouded perceptions.
Posted by Quantum
1) marriage is hard work. Rough patches like this are not uncommon. Don't sweat it too much.2) children create stress. They can also cause resentment if the man feels the child is getting more attention. Again...not uncommon.
3) neither of these are Scorpio related. It can happen to ALL men.
4) regarding his cheating allegations you mentioned on the Sag board, he's sorta being a drama queen. He's fallen into a self pity death spiral related to #2. I doubt he truly believes you're cheating, but he is feeling left out and maybe a bit hurt. Men are told to express their emotions but often aren't taught how to do that constructively. I'd ignore it unless he presses the issue.
5) you have a family now. A husband and especially a child. Please...if you feel it's getting out of control please please please see a professional counselor. Astrology won't help you here. All you'll get here are bitter people with axes to grind giving you bad advice based on their own clouded perceptions.
See 😄 (except ignore his last point. This is all because he's a Scorp male)
I tease!
Just tell him you know the baby has been taking up a lot of your time but you still love him and you'll try to be sure he doesn't slip through the cracks. That's usually enough reassurance. Discuss ways you can be there for him and how you two can compromise.
Your relationship with your husband is just as important as the relationship you have with your child. If it's healthy and strong, the relationship with your child will be much healthier and much stronger as a result.
Posted by PhoenixRising
Posted by Quantum
1) marriage is hard work. Rough patches like this are not uncommon. Don't sweat it too much.2) children create stress. They can also cause resentment if the man feels the child is getting more attention. Again...not uncommon.
3) neither of these are Scorpio related. It can happen to ALL men.
4) regarding his cheating allegations you mentioned on the Sag board, he's sorta being a drama queen. He's fallen into a self pity death spiral related to #2. I doubt he truly believes you're cheating, but he is feeling left out and maybe a bit hurt. Men are told to express their emotions but often aren't taught how to do that constructively. I'd ignore it unless he presses the issue.
5) you have a family now. A husband and especially a child. Please...if you feel it's getting out of control please please please see a professional counselor. Astrology won't help you here. All you'll get here are bitter people with axes to grind giving you bad advice based on their own clouded perceptions.
See 😄 (except ignore his last point. This is all because he's a Scorp male)
I tease!
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Occasionally I start typing and something useful is the result.
Then again...if you put enough chimps in a room with typewriters, mathematically there's a chance they will eventually type out the entire works of Shakespeare.
Scorpios may not wanna admit it but they crave attention from their partners. Just remind him you love him, that he matters to you. Try to make him feel as tho you loved him just as much as you did before the birth of your child, I mean... I'm sure you do, but he may not feel that way.
Beautiful advice. Im taking notes.
I try to do everything with him. Even when it comes to the baby. Now, I'm a nursing mother and honestly it's very draining. I expressed to him almost everyday how I feel a wedge coming in between us and I'm scared because I don't wanna lose him. His response, I don't feel a wedge, everything is perfectly fine. Wtf—
As of late, he's not been trying to hear me. At all. I do the primary care for the baby. I told him a few minutes ago i booked a weekend at a nice hotel for us and got a sitter for the baby so we can spend time together.
Silence...
Sometimes, I feel lonely. So I can imagine him feeling the same. I listen to him except when he's pulling the cheating card.
I want my husband bad as hell. Im mad we went to the show and he didnt touch me after. He's usually all over me when were alone.
Posted by EnochtheWise
You both need sexual healing.
Yeeeeeeeeesssssssssssssss!!!!!
Posted by mzmee
I posted this in the Sag section and thought I would share here for more insight.I'm gonna try to keep this short.
My Scorp husband and I have been having some hard times lately. Dont know if it's because of the baby or what. He seems a lot irritated and emotional. I've tried talking to him about us and he denies it, almost to the point of trying to manipulate me into thinking it's just me feeling this way.
So I havent really said anything to him. One word answers. Why? I'm pissed. I analyze his communication style lately and it's not me feeling this way. He will blow up over the smallest things, that's never been him. When I first noticed it, I figured it was stress from his job so Id try to cater to him a little more when he comes home from work. Didn't work. Got worse.
What approach do I take with this? I loathe this manipulation crap and I can't take this attitude. Please help.
contiinue as if Nothing is wrong. I would have slapped him . I get fired by jerks. Ask him if he would like a divorce . Casually. Dont pressure the jerk. It probably wirh baby he relaizes fun ia over. Yea...it is. U wont get an answer by pushing. He may apporach u on a later date. I know it s very hard but focus on baby and yourself till he gets over it. Sing.
STOP BREASTFEESING IN FRONT OF HIM !
Posted by Sagittarius16b
Posted by mzmee
I posted this in the Sag section and thought I would share here for more insight.I'm gonna try to keep this short.
My Scorp husband and I have been having some hard times lately. Dont know if it's because of the baby or what. He seems a lot irritated and emotional. I've tried talking to him about us and he denies it, almost to the point of trying to manipulate me into thinking it's just me feeling this way.
So I havent really said anything to him. One word answers. Why? I'm pissed. I analyze his communication style lately and it's not me feeling this way. He will blow up over the smallest things, that's never been him. When I first noticed it, I figured it was stress from his job so Id try to cater to him a little more when he comes home from work. Didn't work. Got worse.
What approach do I take with this? I loathe this manipulation crap and I can't take this attitude. Please help.
contiinue as if Nothing is wrong. I would have slapped him . I get fired by jerks. Ask him if he would like a divorce . Casually. Dont pressure the jerk. It probably wirh baby he relaizes fun ia over. Yea...it is. U wont get an answer by pushing. He may apporach u on a later date. I know it s very hard but focus on baby and yourself till he gets over it. Sing.click to expand
lol. it must be a sag thing. my sag rising got so mad when i read that he competes with HIS baby, sat there and dreamed up some stupid BS instead of being a helping father and husband. i'd most definitely not be nice about it. there is a time and place. this is not the time to baby him. grow the F up.
it's not about good or bad at analyzing why he does this and that, HIS emotions and HIS psychology. it's about how selfish he has been, emotionally especially. learn how to be a man before having kids.
Posted by EnochtheWise
Does the baby go down for a nap long enough for you two to get it on?
It seems like as soon as we try, he wakes up.
Straight blockin my action.
Posted by Ellycakes
You sound a little stressed and emotionally raw. So does he. It's hard to break through those moments when both parties are stacking up hurt and feel like they need the other to be there for them. That's what makes or a breaks a marriage.Scorps can be very stubborn when they fall down their emotional rabbit hole. Surely this has happened in the past, maybe just to a lesser degree. Do you remember how he came out of it/what brought him out of it last time?
I'm very stressed. So so tired and I wany my husband so bad.
He is extremely stubborn but Ive learned to be patient with that part of him. I aint had no sex so I'm anxious.
He was down before but kissing, cuddling and catering to him more made him feel special and he was ok.
I need sex...
Posted by EnochtheWise
My advice....Forgive me for being a little more crass and explicit than Quantum.1) Marriage is hard work. You need to have good and frequent sex, that doesn't become too routine in positions, locations, etc.
2) Children create stress, and they can also put both parents, not just the woman, in a mode where sex is not seen as a priority. People don't realize this, but men actually experience hormonal changes too, even as the birth of the child approaches (lower levels of testosterone, higher estrogen, etc.), that affect libido.
3) Compounding this, and in addition to the added stress,there is the existential weight of ushering a child into this world, the seriousness of it, and his perception of you in this new mothering mode. It can be all be a real boner killer.
4) If you can get the baby down for a nap, go find an oversized tanktop or t-shirt, toss it on, no undies. Approach him and give him a slow, sloppy wet bj. Force it on him if he tries to resist. When he's rock hard, pull out a new lube that you bought (coconut oil is magical), and slather him up.
5) bend over the nearest piece of stable furniture and tell him you want him to fuck you hard.
5) Talk dirty to him, more so than usual (use the word "cock" a lot if you are inclined to be bold). Be very vocal, loud, sluttier than your usual self. Do new things to him. Tell him to pull your hair a bit if he doesn't normally. Don't use terms of endearment like "babe" or "honey". Use his name: "Fuck me, ____!!", etc. Loud and not timid.
6) Reach back and clutch his balls real tight, don't let go, letting him feel your nails a little. Tell him you want his cum.
7) Continue to let out your joyous moans as he climaxes - give him a really loud "Yes!!! YEEESSSSS!" when he's blowing his load.
This should solve most of your marital issues. I say all that just to get you horny, and thinking along the lines of something that isn't routine. I think men can psychologically disassociate motherhood from sexuality, and you can really short-circuit that, by going in the opposite direction and amping up your sluttiness.
Yeeeeeeeeesssssssssssssss
I'm taking notes. We get a whole lot more erotic thtan this but the approach standpoint you give is extremely hot!!!
Thank you babe
Posted by Sagittarius16b
Posted by mzmee
I posted this in the Sag section and thought I would share here for more insight.I'm gonna try to keep this short.
My Scorp husband and I have been having some hard times lately. Dont know if it's because of the baby or what. He seems a lot irritated and emotional. I've tried talking to him about us and he denies it, almost to the point of trying to manipulate me into thinking it's just me feeling this way.
So I havent really said anything to him. One word answers. Why? I'm pissed. I analyze his communication style lately and it's not me feeling this way. He will blow up over the smallest things, that's never been him. When I first noticed it, I figured it was stress from his job so Id try to cater to him a little more when he comes home from work. Didn't work. Got worse.
What approach do I take with this? I loathe this manipulation crap and I can't take this attitude. Please help.
contiinue as if Nothing is wrong. I would have slapped him . I get fired by jerks. Ask him if he would like a divorce . Casually. Dont pressure the jerk. It probably wirh baby he relaizes fun ia over. Yea...it is. U wont get an answer by pushing. He may apporach u on a later date. I know it s very hard but focus on baby and yourself till he gets over it. Sing.click to expand
No voilence. Uuummm you saying jerk, you talking about my husband mf. Watch yo mouth!!!
Bringing up divorce is kinda jumping the isnt it?
Posted by iCloud9
it's not about good or bad at analyzing why he does this and that, HIS emotions and HIS psychology. it's about how selfish he has been, emotionally especially. learn how to be a man before having kids.
No one is 100% prepared to be a parent prior to having a child. Mother or father.
Thinking that you ARE prepared is foolish and overconfident.
The mistakes we make mold who we are. You can either turn into the storm and weather it, or you can let if blow you away. The real test of him "being a man" is how he deals with this storm.
Posted by Sagittarius16b
STOP BREASTFEESING IN FRONT OF HIM !
Huh— It's our baby.
Posted by EnochtheWise
Sags are not really good at analyzing people psychologically. I wouldn't speculate as to motives, especially with a Scorpio who isn't being forthright. You really have no idea what is upsetting him. The important thing IMO is that you connect intimately/emotionally again. I recommend getting it on, and frequently. Its a tough time for both parents. Once you have some fun again, feel a degree of closeness, the communication will flow better from that place. You try to talk out all these issues, with the stress both of you are under and the hormonal mess that both of you are right now, from a place of emotional distance, you are both going to just dig the hole deeper. The past Merc retro probably hasn't helped.
I know him and I know something isnt right, you're right tho, I have no clue what it is.
Usually when I give him space to think, he comes around and talks it out with me. Nope, consistent silence.
Posted by PrincessLouise
when you have baby it's both of your jobs to click with each other
Yes. I was thinking about if I dropped the ball on some things, I cant think of anything. Aside from being tired as shit, I dont know. I keep the house cleaned, his clothes washed, he gets a hot plate when he gets home from work, every Friday, I do his pedicure and make sure he soaks Sunday.
We have our favorite shows we watch Sunday and I cook what he requests. I have the baby on a decent schedule so at 8:30, he's sleep.
Posted by EnochtheWise
Posted by mzmee
Posted by EnochtheWise
Does the baby go down for a nap long enough for you two to get it on?
It seems like as soon as we try, he wakes up.
Straight blockin my action.
lol. Is this child also a Scorpio?
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He's a Leo. Lol
Posted by Quantum
Posted by iCloud9
it's not about good or bad at analyzing why he does this and that, HIS emotions and HIS psychology. it's about how selfish he has been, emotionally especially. learn how to be a man before having kids.
No one is 100% prepared to be a parent prior to having a child. Mother or father.
Thinking that you ARE prepared is foolish and overconfident.
The mistakes we make mold who we are. You can either turn into the storm and weather it, or you can let if blow you away. The real test of him "being a man" is how he deals with this storm.
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i agree with you.
he is not dealing with this well right now. he is not being her partner in this. does he consider how hard it is for her being a new mother? i feel like someone needs to create a storm so ground shaking that pushes him to do an eagle rebirth lol
Yea do NOT stop breastfeeding in front of him. If he cant handle that then show him the door. You need just as much love and attention and nurturing as he does. You just had a baby ffs. He should be taking care of you instead of sulking.
Posted by mzmee
Posted by Sagittarius16b
STOP BREASTFEESING IN FRONT OF HIM !
Huh— It's our baby.
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them dont complain.... actually nature dorsnt intend u having fun right now. Tjis modern culture....
Posted by mzmee
Posted by Sagittarius16b
Posted by mzmee
I posted this in the Sag section and thought I would share here for more insight.I'm gonna try to keep this short.
My Scorp husband and I have been having some hard times lately. Dont know if it's because of the baby or what. He seems a lot irritated and emotional. I've tried talking to him about us and he denies it, almost to the point of trying to manipulate me into thinking it's just me feeling this way.
So I havent really said anything to him. One word answers. Why? I'm pissed. I analyze his communication style lately and it's not me feeling this way. He will blow up over the smallest things, that's never been him. When I first noticed it, I figured it was stress from his job so Id try to cater to him a little more when he comes home from work. Didn't work. Got worse.
What approach do I take with this? I loathe this manipulation crap and I can't take this attitude. Please help.
contiinue as if Nothing is wrong. I would have slapped him . I get fired by jerks. Ask him if he would like a divorce . Casually. Dont pressure the jerk. It probably wirh baby he relaizes fun ia over. Yea...it is. U wont get an answer by pushing. He may apporach u on a later date. I know it s very hard but focus on baby and yourself till he gets over it. Sing.
No voilence. Uuummm you saying jerk, you talking about my husband mf. Watch yo mouth!!!
Bringing up divorce is kinda jumping the isnt it?
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wow u arw uptight 🙂
I I don't have to watch my mouth but I did he's a jerk or your prima-donna just trying to cheer you up cause you not going to ask him for a divorce I just said say it like a joke lighten the mood up since you think he's the uptght one
I forgot you breastfeed in front of him that changes everything give him time to get used to the fact it's are not just the erotic but for him to accept them as erotic will take time again
Posted by ElleDuMonde
Posted by Sagittarius16b
I I don't have to watch my mouth but I did he's a jerk or your prima-donna just trying to cheer you up cause you not going to ask him for a divorce I just said say it like a joke lighten the mood up since you think he's the uptght one
You have issues.
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Is that Aquavita?
Posted by ElleDuMonde
Who the hell jokes about divorce to lighten the mood?
me
Posted by ElleDuMonde
Posted by Quantum
Posted by ElleDuMonde
Posted by Sagittarius16b
I I don't have to watch my mouth but I did he's a jerk or your prima-donna just trying to cheer you up cause you not going to ask him for a divorce I just said say it like a joke lighten the mood up since you think he's the uptght one
You have issues.
Is that Aquavita?
Makes sense. She was so obsessed with DMV she came back a sag.
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The terrible engrish is similar...
Posted by EnochtheWise
Posted by Sagittarius16b
I forgot you breastfeed in front of him that changes everything give him time to get used to the fact it's are not just the erotic but for him to accept them as erotic will take time again
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no need no need. But thnk u. I accept.
Posted by Quantum
Posted by ElleDuMonde
Posted by Quantum
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Posted by Sagittarius16b
I I don't have to watch my mouth but I did he's a jerk or your prima-donna just trying to cheer you up cause you not going to ask him for a divorce I just said say it like a joke lighten the mood up since you think he's the uptght one
You have issues.
Is that Aquavita?
Makes sense. She was so obsessed with DMV she came back a sag.
The terrible engrish is similar...
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yes cant log in. Sorry.
Whatever :
Posted by Sagittarius16b
Posted by Quantum
Posted by ElleDuMonde
Posted by Quantum
Posted by ElleDuMonde
Posted by Sagittarius16b
I I don't have to watch my mouth but I did he's a jerk or your prima-donna just trying to cheer you up cause you not going to ask him for a divorce I just said say it like a joke lighten the mood up since you think he's the uptght one
You have issues.
Is that Aquavita?
Makes sense. She was so obsessed with DMV she came back a sag.
The terrible engrish is similar...
yes cant log in. Sorry.click to expand
ok... gotta make th e effort t write. It is mpt easy typing while driving .and also i have always bren s sagittarius born dec 19. Thw terrible english... yes i liv it.
AlwYs liked dmv. Not onsessed though. But u never know. If we met... sags do freedom syiff.
Sorry subject was breastfeeding h3. Here
Posted by Sagittarius16b
Posted by mzmee
Posted by Sagittarius16b
Posted by mzmee
I posted this in the Sag section and thought I would share here for more insight.I'm gonna try to keep this short.
My Scorp husband and I have been having some hard times lately. Dont know if it's because of the baby or what. He seems a lot irritated and emotional. I've tried talking to him about us and he denies it, almost to the point of trying to manipulate me into thinking it's just me feeling this way.
So I havent really said anything to him. One word answers. Why? I'm pissed. I analyze his communication style lately and it's not me feeling this way. He will blow up over the smallest things, that's never been him. When I first noticed it, I figured it was stress from his job so Id try to cater to him a little more when he comes home from work. Didn't work. Got worse.
What approach do I take with this? I loathe this manipulation crap and I can't take this attitude. Please help.
contiinue as if Nothing is wrong. I would have slapped him . I get fired by jerks. Ask him if he would like a divorce . Casually. Dont pressure the jerk. It probably wirh baby he relaizes fun ia over. Yea...it is. U wont get an answer by pushing. He may apporach u on a later date. I know it s very hard but focus on baby and yourself till he gets over it. Sing.
No voilence. Uuummm you saying jerk, you talking about my husband mf. Watch yo mouth!!!
Bringing up divorce is kinda jumping the isnt it?
wow u arw uptight 🙂click to expand
Not uptight, no need to call him a jerk. Why the name calling? Where did it come from?? No need for all that.
Posted by Sagittarius16b
Posted by Sagittarius16b
Posted by Quantum
Posted by ElleDuMonde
Posted by Quantum
Posted by ElleDuMonde
Posted by Sagittarius16b
I I don't have to watch my mouth but I did he's a jerk or your prima-donna just trying to cheer you up cause you not going to ask him for a divorce I just said say it like a joke lighten the mood up since you think he's the uptght one
You have issues.
Is that Aquavita?
Makes sense. She was so obsessed with DMV she came back a sag.
The terrible engrish is similar...
yes cant log in. Sorry.
ok... gotta make th e effort t write. It is mpt easy typing while driving .and also i have always bren s sagittarius born dec 19. Thw terrible english... yes i liv it.click to expand
And why the hell are you typing and driving??
The fuck—
There are 69 comments and I just got super damn horny.
Posted by mzmee
Posted by Sagittarius16b
Posted by mzmee
Posted by Sagittarius16b
Posted by mzmee
I posted this in the Sag section and thought I would share here for more insight.I'm gonna try to keep this short.
My Scorp husband and I have been having some hard times lately. Dont know if it's because of the baby or what. He seems a lot irritated and emotional. I've tried talking to him about us and he denies it, almost to the point of trying to manipulate me into thinking it's just me feeling this way.
So I havent really said anything to him. One word answers. Why? I'm pissed. I analyze his communication style lately and it's not me feeling this way. He will blow up over the smallest things, that's never been him. When I first noticed it, I figured it was stress from his job so Id try to cater to him a little more when he comes home from work. Didn't work. Got worse.
What approach do I take with this? I loathe this manipulation crap and I can't take this attitude. Please help.
contiinue as if Nothing is wrong. I would have slapped him . I get fired by jerks. Ask him if he would like a divorce . Casually. Dont pressure the jerk. It probably wirh baby he relaizes fun ia over. Yea...it is. U wont get an answer by pushing. He may apporach u on a later date. I know it s very hard but focus on baby and yourself till he gets over it. Sing.
No voilence. Uuummm you saying jerk, you talking about my husband mf. Watch yo mouth!!!
Bringing up divorce is kinda jumping the isnt it?
wow u arw uptight 🙂
Not uptight, no need to call him a jerk. Why the name calling? Where did it come from?? No need for all that.
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thats all u gor out of me? Stop breastfeeding in front of him ans u lll get " touched " again. Maybe. . Isn't baby ur priority? Let rhe man sulk. Or u had the baby just to tie him down for morw sex 🙂? U hornonal also. Take care of u and baby. Stip breastfeeding in front of him.if u wanna be " touched" and him " all over u when alone ".
Posted by mzmee
There are 69 comments and I just got super damn horny.
jerk 🙂
Ew
She's not doing anything but wasting hot air.
Go blow out some candles chick. Lol
He's been seeing someone else.
Posted by mzmee
He's been seeing someone else.
Oh no! I thought of this being a possibility.
Horrible smh.
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I posted this in the Sag section and thought I would share here for more insight.
I'm gonna try to keep this short.
My Scorp husband and I have been having some hard times lately. Dont know if it's because of the baby or what. He seems a lot irritated and emotional. I've tried talking to him about us and he denies it, almost to the point of trying to manipulate me into thinking it's just me feeling this way.
So I havent really said anything to him. One word answers. Why? I'm pissed. I analyze his communication style lately and it's not me feeling this way. He will blow up over the smallest things, that's never been him. When I first noticed it, I figured it was stress from his job so Id try to cater to him a little more when he comes home from work. Didn't work. Got worse.
What approach do I take with this? I loathe this manipulation crap and I can't take this attitude. Please help.