*Shivers* Ow. Hurt More Than I Thought It Would (Page 2)

Posted by CreoleGeisha

Posted by MrFirebird

- It sounds to me as though you or him, or the both of you, may have given each other the wrong impression and that false impression has existed for some time. I think the best thing for you
to do is to ask him what's going through his mind concerning the both of you. As yourself the same
question. Then ascertain the appropriate resolution to your relationship's specific problem.
If it's a case of he is in love with you and you not with him, it's all downhill from here.
Otherwise, the job will cease to be comfortable, as it were, and both of you will feel awkward from different standpoints.

I'll cop to being guilty of not seeing things I don't want to see. Your advice is sound and I'll see if I can talk to him after this freeze lets up. But yeah, I don't guess we can work together if we can't settle this. Thanks.

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sure thing.

Posted by Rabbit

Posted by tiziani
Well at least you had his best interests at heart. One door closes, another ten open. I'm sure there'll be another man down the line who doesn't feel the need to ice you out. Sometimes life with a Scorp is about taking them out the back in the alleyway with a rifle and putting them out their misery. The whole death and rebirth thing. Good luck.

False!

You want to use a .22 to the back of the skull to minimize the mess.

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Wait a minute, Rabbit!! Who's side are you really on—
Who cares about the mess??!??!!
Get with the program! sheesh.

Being iced you get used to it

Like water of a ducks back

I have been iced so many times its hard to keep it up

Ops lol, I didnt mean for that to come out that way

nah been iced thats its easy fro ppl to not let anything get to others, peoples opinions are like whinging heard this too many times before after awhile its like ppl dont hear it except for the genuine pleas of help then other act accordingly to that situation but you have been there done that too many times before to even let it get to you. like being iced out of people coz it allows you to be by youself which is what ppl want anyway. Cool story Bro, LOL, get it 'Coool' story! Yeh ok that not funny to you but to another may be

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Posted by tiziani
Well at least you had his best interests at heart. One door closes, another ten open. I'm sure there'll be another man down the line who doesn't feel the need to ice you out. Sometimes life with a Scorp is about taking them out the back in the alleyway with a rifle and putting them out their misery. The whole death and rebirth thing. Good luck.

False!

You want to use a .22 to the back of the skull to minimize the mess.

Wait a minute, Rabbit!! Who's side are you really on—
Who cares about the mess??!??!!
Get with the program! sheesh.

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Agreed. Stabbing deaths seem more appropriate for Scorpios. Much more passionate crime. 😉

Posted by mfwb55
Being iced you get used to it

Like water of a ducks back

I have been iced so many times its hard to keep it up

Not this girl. I do not have time to put up with it. Life's too short and nobody's good opinion is worth tolerating what amounts to emotional cruelty. Let the Scorp males play these party games with females who actually like them.

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Posted by tiziani
Well at least you had his best interests at heart. One door closes, another ten open. I'm sure there'll be another man down the line who doesn't feel the need to ice you out. Sometimes life with a Scorp is about taking them out the back in the alleyway with a rifle and putting them out their misery. The whole death and rebirth thing. Good luck.

False!

You want to use a .22 to the back of the skull to minimize the mess.

Wait a minute, Rabbit!! Who's side are you really on—
Who cares about the mess??!??!!
Get with the program! sheesh.

Agreed. Stabbing deaths seem more appropriate for Scorpios. Much more passionate crime. 😉

I'm trying to considerate to the killer. There's no reason to ruin a perfectly good set of clothes just for my death.

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The killer could just strip naked and store clothing in airtight plastic prior to said stabbing?

Kinky or not, it would resolve the issue of blood spatter on clothing. It's been suggested that Lizzie Borden stripped naked to hack up her dad and stepmom to eliminate evidence. Seems kinda far-fetched to me, but I guess we'll never know.

And don't forget, killer, a Libra lit the way.

Oh thank God, he's accepting my calls now. I was able to tell him about the paperwork I emailed him. This man doesn't believe in checking email.

We're meeting tomorrow, pending no more freeze (I mean weather freeze, not Scorpio freeze). Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I should say to get to the bottom of this mess? Without offending him or hurting his feelings?

Blunt, brutal honesty and nothing less. "You have (list the outrageous behaviors) and then acted like I don't exist. I'm confused. Please explain yourself."

OK. No dice. I attempted to speak with him seriously today, he's not having it. He's friendly, cooly polite, and pointedly ignoring me as much as possible.

No problem. I brought him some documents he said he'd needed, and sat in his office as far away from him as I could. Immediately he needed me to change something minor on one page and OF COURSE this meant I had to come round his desk and stand alongside him while he pointed out the minor change. Then he sent me along my merry way.

Does this mean I can take this ridiculous statue of a fornicating couple off my desk and flirt with other men again?

Thank goodness for that, anyway.

I wouldn't have left until he talked/spilled the info I wanted. He'd have to literally pick me up and haul me out.

Posted by MoonArtist
I wouldn't have left until he talked/spilled the info I wanted. He'd have to literally pick me up and haul me out.

*sighs* Okay, this will probably sound very cold and very "air sign-ish" but ... the truth is I'm not interested in interrogating someone who's obviously "closed" to me. If he doesn't wanna spill, he doesn't wanna spill.

To be honest, this isn't the first time this has happened. The last time he "cut me off" was when I didn't want to work directly under him. He ignored me for quite some time, then we had the incident where he tried to break my door, and all of a sudden he was all about me again. It'll probably happen again -- probably during swimming season or something.

I think my early instincts are probably right. He doesn't really want me for himself, but dislikes the idea of me being with someone else.

I'm just super stubborn and hate it when someone does something without giving a reason. I MUST find the root cause! If it means being a squeaky wheel then so be it. If you don't want to find out the reason or get an answer then you shouldn't complain or worry about the offending behavior. As a water sign I'm not too interested in being diplomatic, though.

Posted by MoonArtist
I'm just super stubborn and hate it when someone does something without giving a reason. I MUST find the root cause! If it means being a squeaky wheel then so be it. If you don't want to find out the reason or get an answer then you shouldn't complain or worry about the offending behavior. As a water sign I'm not too interested in being diplomatic, though.

Truly, I don't think any explanation he offered would improve the situation. I'm not so interested in an explanation as a resolution to the drama.

Also, I disagree that reluctance to address the reasons means I shouldn't complain. Just because I don't know why he went ape-crazy on my door doesn't mean I'm "wrong" to express concern that it happened.

Honestly, the ONLY information I'm really interested in is what would it take for us to work together without this ongoing drama? I'm more a results-oriented type and that's what I care about. What would it take to stop this silliness?

You'll never know unless you talk to him about it and get to the root of why its even happening.

Posted by MoonArtist
You'll never know unless you talk to him about it and get to the root of why its even happening.

I'm an adult woman; he's an adult man. It's not my job to force him to talk to me. Like any other relationship issue, it can only be solved if BOTH participants are willing to communicate and work on it. Clearly, he can't or won't. I'm not accepting responsibility for he can't/won't do. If I never get answers and can't continue working with him, so be it. It won't happen because I wasn't willing to listen, but that's as far as I go.

True. I guess it's a stalemate then.

Yep, right up until he decides "She's MINE!" all over again. Which wouldn't be so bad if he didn't drag it all into office politics.

In fact, I think I'm more convinced than ever this is an effect of the retrograde. The door incident happened well before that, but all the demonstrating, possessiveness, and other behavior has been going on since pretty much mid-December. The retrograde's winding up now, maybe he's finally coming to his senses? Sort of a "Midwinter Month's Madness" or something?

All the Scorps I know have been acting pretty easy going and jovial through this retrograde.

Posted by MoonArtist
All the Scorps I know have been acting pretty easy going and jovial through this retrograde.

You're saying that on purpose. Good night.