should i stay or should i go?? help please..

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its quite a long story guys. but i'll try to sum it up. been talking to this scorpio guy for 7weeks now, he confuses me a lot. he was honest that he only wants to be friends so i agreed, but as a pisces im vulnerable so i cant help it if i develop feelings for him. ive been totally honest with him from the start that i like him and i care about him and actually even before we became friends he's already admitted how attracted he is to me and how much he likes me too and how he wants to be close to me. we've been to tooooo many arguements and fights like bf/gf (but were only friends) then we'll end up saying bye then the next day he'll chase me or if its my fault i will chase him with apology then were good again, this has been going on for the last 7weeks, we are sooo connected to each other that even when i go online i will feel that he's there and im right he's there, lol (im kinda psychic,) and when evrytime i talk about a guy he gets jealous, he will also try to make me feel jealous but will make me feel better later and tell me that i shudnt be coz im his fav girl, he will tell me when he's busy, explains why he's not talking to me, chase me when im pulling away, dont fight with me anymore when i feel like fighting he'll just keep quiet and telling me thats bec he doesnt want to fight, and when i say bye he cant seem to let go of me coz he keeps on coming back. now because of that i feel that he's got something for me, so latey we've kind of having issues (his trust issues) he's being suspicious in all that i say and do when i know i aint done anything wrong, been totally honest with him even if sometimes i look bad. so this week we had so much arguements, i am always the upfront type, always speak my mind so i told him evrything how im feeling what i think is going on and even explaining that i aint doing anything wrong (w/c is true), so okay we were okay again, then the other day we were cuddling and i said something he make a fuss about! i just said "this is what i am wanting u soooo bad" then he makes a fuss over it and telling me that we shud stop because this is what he's afraid of and he told me that he only wants to be friends with me, but me expect him to have feelings for me "NO WAY".. so i was like shock and hurt by his words i feel so rejected. so i said oh okay, lets just stop i will just swim away and never make myself exclusive for u anymore and from this day on i will open my doors to the guys who wants to be with me, then we said bye.
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so after we said bye we didnt speak for a day, actually even if he has disappearing acts before for whatever reasons it will only take him 2-3days and he'll be back and talk to me again but when we are fighting it will only take a day or 2 then he'll come around and chase me again. so there we havent talked for a day. i actually have the feeling that he will still come around and chase me ( i actually feel this all the time), but also everything changed for me after he rejected me, so im like okay this guy doesnt want me so i shud just move on (atleast thats my plan) coz really im the type of person that will not push myself to someone and i dont chase or make the first move unless i am chasing for apology if i hurt u in any way and since i didnt hurt him i dont need to chase for apology instead i just ignored him and made myself busy with friends, then this morning i was online, he was there too, then like after 30 mins of seeing him online he sent me a message saying "why cant we be just friends? its hard to see u and not talk to u" so i told him "its not that hard esp when ur not serious about anything" and he said "im serious about being friends" (btw he's also told me before that he's not serious about me and only wants to be friends and he is taking things lightly). so i told him we can be friends but everything changed for me after re rejected me, and i told him that i just said that because thats how i feel but i never asked him to be in a relationship with me and yet he makes a fuss over it like he's so scared to have a relationship when im not even asking him to be, and i told him he hurt my feelings so much and i said its a good thing i said that atleast i saw how he reacted. then i told him a lot i spoke my mind lol he just kept quiet i think he's trying to absorb everything and maybe assessing things till i went offline he still didnt respond to me even if he's there.. now guys u think he's trying to analyze things? figure out what he wants? i know and feel and see he's emotionally insecure and he's so guarded but u think my actions will be an eye opener to him? do u think by his way of always coming around and cant seem to let me go means he's also got something for me that he cant just admit? what do u think i shud do? shud i stay or shud i go? thanks a lot
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
People a Scorp can say they just want to be friends for a million reasons and not all of them are to break your heart.

For one, everything that the OP has written sounds like this guy is trying to protect himself in some way. Not to mention that the Fish-Scorp union is riddled with bizarre arguements in the beginning because both are strong willed and Fish seem to be able to spread their emotions much easier than Scorps can--and that has the opportunity to make Scorps go into suspicion mode.

Anything that seems to easy in the beginning can bring about trust test mode. We're weird like that. 😄

The whole friends thing this guy keeps going on about could also be due to the fact that our lovely Fish maiden here keeps bringing up "relationship" and this is freaking Scorp dude out. He instinctively knows that more than friends with our fair maiden is going to mean something deeper than with other girls and maybe he just wants to go with the flow and see how things go. If he's cuddling and sheet, I doubt there are only friend feelings. More like, he may want to keep things on the slow and even. For all we know his normally placid emotional undercurrent--that he's come to feel comfortable with--has been swirling around all passionate and confused like and slowing things down makes more sense to him.

Just some thoughts. Its only been on and off for 7 weeks. Its not really a lifetime is it? 😄



i really feel he just wants to take things slow between us, imj not really rushing him or anything but i guess lol i scare the f*ck out of him when i'd be upfront of my feelings, however the fact that he keeps on coming back seems to me that he wants me around and maybe yeah i'l just go with the flow and wont expect much from him.. thanks a lot 🙂
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Piscvirgaquafish is probably right.If u ready for the torture, go aheard and have FWB with him.but if u not, just swim away to safer waters.Trust me have been there, Just exactly the same story as urs.Right now am going through torture. Its really hard for Pisc-scorp to have a FWB relationship, coz definitely one is always gonna get hurt.

For my situation right now, its like we in the stage of hurting each other by making each other jealous.but again we keep treetrunking together as if nothing happened.If u wanna stay, just make sure u don't find urself in an awkward situation
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Posted by BaitedFish
Piscvirgaquafish is probably right.If u ready for the torture, go aheard and have FWB with him.but if u not, just swim away to safer waters.Trust me have been there, Just exactly the same story as urs.Right now am going through torture. Its really hard for Pisc-scorp to have a FWB relationship, coz definitely one is always gonna get hurt.

For my situation right now, its like we in the stage of hurting each other by making each other jealous.but again we keep treetrunking together as if nothing happened.If u wanna stay, just make sure u don't find urself in an awkward situation



hi baitedFish, thanks for ur advice i appreciate it a lot.. and i actually took some action about my situation already, i told him i cannot keep up and yes were just hurting each other so its not very healthy for the both of us to stay even if the connection of us scorpio-pisces is so strong.. anyways, to the people who laughed about the situation thank u, laugh all u want..
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Posted by pathfinder
prettyP, you told your scorp how you feel and got his response. If you are unable to be fwb with him, let him know and set yourself free. Don't depend on him to do that for you.



hi pathfinder, thank u for ur advice and yep i cannot keep up with his friendship lol its too much for me to handle i feel like the more i give the less i got so i finally ended the friendship we both agreed anyways, yeah i will move on and set myself free, im pretty sure there are way better scorpio guys out there for me or any signs that are sincere of being with me.. thank u..
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this morning, i went online, and check my visitors lol my scorpio dude was number 1 on the list but he never messaged me i guess he just checked my photos again then after a while he chat me saying "can i see u"? then even before i responded lol theres another 2 messages from him saying "no, we shouldn't" and i said "yeah, we shouldn't"..

i dont know what he wants really he seems so confused lol.. but im moving on anyways, i just shared lol..