Stung and Spun Out by Scorpio Man

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thrownaway
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Did not believe in the myth of the Scorpio man until now.

I doubt he wants to be with me, especially because I'm in a relationship with someone else, but he threw those eyes at me and ruined me. Now he's gone, and didn't even give me the opportunity to taste, and I'm completely devastated.

I'm a strong, hyper-rational, not easily impressed woman, but he managed to strike me at my core, made me question everything with one look, made me contemplate what it would take to actually be with him (complete sublimation of my self, patient acceptance of behavior I would never put up with from my man), and then walked away.

I don't think he did this intentionally. I don't think he knows what's inside me. I feel like I've temporarily lost my mind. I never would have imagined something like this happening.

I just needed to vent to some sympathetic (hopefully) strangers, a small break from masturbating and crying.
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Scorpios tend to trick people into believing they are the shit with their overconfidence and mind games. Once you tie them down and open them up, you realize why they had to play so many mind games in the first place-there's no real mystery or specialness to them. The sex? After consistent sex with them you realize that their sex gets stale and move on to the next best thing. This goes for the immature scorps. In the beginning stages my ex would peak all of my interests, but once I truly got to know him and spent QT with him, everything seemed so forced and scripted (like they were trying hard to fit into a certain mold) and it was then that I realized his overall image was all that was interesting about him. He tried way too hard and in this process, lost himself. I see similarities in unevolved scorps. It's like the smoke and mirrors the Wizard of Oz put up. Good luck to you.
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Posted by MoonArtist
Posted by PhoenixRising
Posted by thrownaway

I just needed to vent to some sympathetic (hopefully) strangers, a small break from masturbating...



😆!!! Venting here is better than masturbating?



She ain't doing it right. ~shakes head in sadness~
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This. I thought that was the saddest part of this gut wrenching soliloquy.
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Posted by thrownaway
Did not believe in the myth of the Scorpio man until now.

I doubt he wants to be with me, especially because I'm in a relationship with someone else, but he threw those eyes at me and ruined me. Now he's gone, and didn't even give me the opportunity to taste, and I'm completely devastated.

I'm a strong, hyper-rational, not easily impressed woman, but he managed to strike me at my core, made me question everything with one look, made me contemplate what it would take to actually be with him (complete sublimation of my self, patient acceptance of behavior I would never put up with from my man), and then walked away.

I don't think he did this intentionally. I don't think he knows what's inside me. I feel like I've temporarily lost my mind. I never would have imagined something like this happening.

I just needed to vent to some sympathetic (hopefully) strangers, a small break from masturbating and crying.



I'm stuck at YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE. I feel sorry for the bastard too. smh
(no sympathy AT ALL)
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Posted by LetltB
Posted by thrownaway
Did not believe in the myth of the Scorpio man until now.

I doubt he wants to be with me, especially because I'm in a relationship with someone else, but he threw those eyes at me and ruined me. Now he's gone, and didn't even give me the opportunity to taste, and I'm completely devastated.

I'm a strong, hyper-rational, not easily impressed woman, but he managed to strike me at my core, made me question everything with one look, made me contemplate what it would take to actually be with him (complete sublimation of my self, patient acceptance of behavior I would never put up with from my man), and then walked away.

I don't think he did this intentionally. I don't think he knows what's inside me. I feel like I've temporarily lost my mind. I never would have imagined something like this happening.

I just needed to vent to some sympathetic (hopefully) strangers, a small break from masturbating and crying.



I'm stuck at YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE. I feel sorry for the bastard too. smh
(no sympathy AT ALL)
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Oh wow...lol smh
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thrownaway
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To clarify, I'm not looking for sympathy for what I'm about, since your scorn is justified, but from others who've experienced how suddenly a Scorpio can get inside your head.

All I was looking for was a one night stand. I didn't realize that sometimes these men don't offer that option.

Noreallynow and StarMooney, you're both probably right. How I know this is a sickness is that I know he's unsuitable, but I still can't stop imagining an alternative life, despite all the warning signs.

All this could have been prevented if he had followed through on his f me eyes.
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Posted by thrownaway
Maybe. If that were true though, I wouldn't be writing this. I would be comfortable with that, and it would be easy to move on.

I think there's something here, but I think he wants all or nothing, and I can't offer that.



You saw that with one glance? Frick, now the 20 year old at the gas station probably thinks I want him all or nothing cause I was tired the other day and apparently gave him the look (So he tells Me anyway) Maybe I should go explain I don't want him all, I just wanted him to put my shit in a bag but was too tired to say... LMAO
Your a funny girl.
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thrownaway
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That's true, I guess I meant it more like, I got hooked.

I was not aware of any Scorpio stereotype until this all started happening. I did not pursue him based on his sign, or any ideas of an easy lay. I was not aware of the Scorpio look or choosiness until after I landed on this forum a while back, looking for answers after the fact.

The night this happened, I thought he was giving me the green light, but I must have been wrong. That was not last night. I posted last night out of pure grief, because I missed him.
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Posted by PhoenixRising
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Posted by thrownaway

I just needed to vent to some sympathetic (hopefully) strangers, a small break from masturbating...



😆!!! Venting here is better than masturbating?



She ain't doing it right. ~shakes head in sadness~



This. I thought that was the saddest part of this gut wrenching soliloquy.
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I know! Wasting that kind of intensity to hoard to oneself? tsk tsk tsk. Different strokes for different folks, I guess.
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Posted by thrownaway
I am leaving a lot out here. This is not a random person I met once. This is an ongoing situation that I thought would come to a physical resolution after he gave me some clear indicators, but didn't.



What's your sign?

I think you WANT it to happen and you're projecting your sexual desire onto him. The reality is he didn't take the bait and now you're bent about it.
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thrownaway
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Posted by MoonArtist
Posted by thrownaway
I am leaving a lot out here. This is not a random person I met once. This is an ongoing situation that I thought would come to a physical resolution after he gave me some clear indicators, but didn't.



What's your sign?

I think you WANT it to happen and you're projecting your sexual desire onto him. The reality is he didn't take the bait and now you're bent about it.
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This is my worst fear. As I mentioned before, there are some things that make me think there's something actually here, but assuming you're right, that means that 1) I suddenly can't read men anymore, and 2) I'm letting my ego run the show over my logic, both of which are bad. I am going to try to focus on the idea that I'm projecting onto him. As much as it hurts, it's probably the smart choice.

As for my sign, I'm tempted to have you guys keep guessing. I'm atypical, I think.
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Posted by thrownaway
Did not believe in the myth of the Scorpio man until now.

I doubt he wants to be with me, especially because I'm in a relationship with someone else, but he threw those eyes at me and ruined me. Now he's gone, and didn't even give me the opportunity to taste, and I'm completely devastated.

I'm a strong, hyper-rational, not easily impressed woman, but he managed to strike me at my core, made me question everything with one look, made me contemplate what it would take to actually be with him (complete sublimation of my self, patient acceptance of behavior I would never put up with from my man), and then walked away.

I don't think he did this intentionally. I don't think he knows what's inside me. I feel like I've temporarily lost my mind. I never would have imagined something like this happening.

I just needed to vent to some sympathetic (hopefully) strangers, a small break from masturbating and crying.



Nope!
Every now and then the Universe will send an agent to test our character or push us on the right path.
Either you are a cheater or perhaps you are ready to move on from this relationship?
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MoonArtist
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Shit....Well, you're going to feel a connection with him just because you're both water. I do think you've projected your wants and desires onto him and he's not reciprocating. It's not that he might not feel a sexual pull, but that he's not going to touch you with a 10 ft. pole because you're taken and he's not into cheap flings. Leave him alone, redirect your focus, shrug off the obsession.
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FixedWater
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LM has a great point. What the experience does seem to show by action is that you are not totally committed to the one you are with. It may be the Universe's way to get you to wake up and smell the coffee, so to speak. I also got a sense of Low Self-Esteem or Self-Worth from you. Have you struggles with this in the past? Is there something in your current relationship that is causing this maybe?
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thrownaway
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Posted by MoonArtist
Shit....Well, you're going to feel a connection with him just because you're both water. I do think you've projected your wants and desires onto him and he's not reciprocating. It's not that he might not feel a sexual pull, but that he's not going to touch you with a 10 ft. pole because you're taken and he's not into cheap flings. Leave him alone, redirect your focus, shrug off the obsession.



Thank you for this. I think you're 100% right. I'm sure I'll be referring to this post repeatedly in the future, thank you for your compassion. At least the crying has stopped. The ...other stuff should wear off soon enough. 😉
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thrownaway
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With regards to issues with my relationship or self esteem, the best answer I can give is maybe. I know this is unpopular, but as I mentioned earlier, I am open to a one time thing. It's not something I'm actively chasing, and I have options that I'm not pursuing and don't intend to pursue.

I do not want to dissolve my relationship, and I don't think serial monogamy is any more virtuous, but I can say with certainty that I cannot and will not be _sexually_ faithful to one man for the rest of my life.
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Posted by thrownaway
With regards to issues with my relationship or self esteem, the best answer I can give is maybe. I know this is unpopular, but as I mentioned earlier, I am open to a one time thing. It's not something I'm actively chasing, and I have options that I'm not pursuing and don't intend to pursue.

I do not want to dissolve my relationship, and I don't think serial monogamy is any more virtuous, but I can say with certainty that I cannot and will not be _sexually_ faithful to one man for the rest of my life.



Then have the RESPECT to tell the man you are with now ^^^^^and those in the future so THEY can make a choice to be with someone like you and your unpredictable behavior.
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Posted by thrownaway
With regards to issues with my relationship or self esteem, the best answer I can give is maybe. I know this is unpopular, but as I mentioned earlier, I am open to a one time thing. It's not something I'm actively chasing, and I have options that I'm not pursuing and don't intend to pursue.

I do not want to dissolve my relationship, and I don't think serial monogamy is any more virtuous, but I can say with certainty that I cannot and will not be _sexually_ faithful to one man for the rest of my life.



You cannot say anything of the sort. With maturity comes knowledge that if there is one thing that we can always be sure of in this life is that things change.
Another point I would like to mention is what you do not deal with today will come back again in more challenging ways. It is the way the Universe works.
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