Stung and Spun Out by Scorpio Man (Page 2)

Posted by LetltB

Posted by thrownaway
With regards to issues with my relationship or self esteem, the best answer I can give is maybe. I know this is unpopular, but as I mentioned earlier, I am open to a one time thing. It's not something I'm actively chasing, and I have options that I'm not pursuing and don't intend to pursue.

I do not want to dissolve my relationship, and I don't think serial monogamy is any more virtuous, but I can say with certainty that I cannot and will not be _sexually_ faithful to one man for the rest of my life.

Then have the RESPECT to tell the man you are with now ^^^^^and those in the future so THEY can make a choice to be with someone like you and your unpredictable behavior.

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I find it curious that everyone assumes that I have not been, and that we haven't had that conversation. Also, for the most part, I'm extremely predictable. My own completely insane reaction to this situation is what has sent me to the internet in search of advice.

Also, no Leo moon, but Venus in Leo instead.

I'm betting on a mutable moon..

and a Gemini Mercury

Posted by Andalusia
and a Gemini Mercury

You're right on the mutable moon, but not on Mercury.

Posted by thrownaway

Posted by MoonArtist
Shit....Well, you're going to feel a connection with him just because you're both water. I do think you've projected your wants and desires onto him and he's not reciprocating. It's not that he might not feel a sexual pull, but that he's not going to touch you with a 10 ft. pole because you're taken and he's not into cheap flings. Leave him alone, redirect your focus, shrug off the obsession.

Thank you for this. I think you're 100% right. I'm sure I'll be referring to this post repeatedly in the future, thank you for your compassion. At least the crying has stopped. The ...other stuff should wear off soon enough. 😉

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Find a new masturbation muse, preferably a fictional one. Jamie, from Outlander is a good one.

OMG!!! HAVE YOU SEEN THE STARZ SERIES—

Posted by thrownaway

Posted by LetltB

Posted by thrownaway
With regards to issues with my relationship or self esteem, the best answer I can give is maybe. I know this is unpopular, but as I mentioned earlier, I am open to a one time thing. It's not something I'm actively chasing, and I have options that I'm not pursuing and don't intend to pursue.

I do not want to dissolve my relationship, and I don't think serial monogamy is any more virtuous, but I can say with certainty that I cannot and will not be _sexually_ faithful to one man for the rest of my life.

Then have the RESPECT to tell the man you are with now ^^^^^and those in the future so THEY can make a choice to be with someone like you and your unpredictable behavior.

I find it curious that everyone assumes that I have not been, and that we haven't had that conversation. Also, for the most part, I'm extremely predictable. My own completely insane reaction to this situation is what has sent me to the internet in search of advice.

Also, no Leo moon, but Venus in Leo instead.

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Well, if your partner knows you don't intend to be faithful and is fine with that, then good. Scorpio man isn't willing to be a third party to your love triangle. You'll have to work out how to shift your focus off him.

Pisces moon?

Girl, pull yourself together! I think it may help to be a bit more introspective an look at what is going on with you/your life. Why is it that you are allowing these fantasies to cloud your judgement? Sounds like you fell for a fictional character. You see all these red flags, but yet you still want this man. Sometimes we tend to be in love with the chase or the idea of being happy with somebody and not truly being in love (or even like sometimes) with the actual person. You have to look inside yourself and figure these things out.

Posted by FrostAndBite

I never met one damn Scorpio that is like the posts here recently.

FFS this.

Posted by Andalusia
OMG!!! HAVE YOU SEEN THE STARZ SERIES—

Hell tea, and I'm loving it! So far they've done a fantastic job of it and staying true to the books. 😄

Posted by StarMooney
Girl, pull yourself together! I think it may help to be a bit more introspective an look at what is going on with you/your life. Why is it that you are allowing these fantasies to cloud your judgement? Sounds like you fell for a fictional character. You see all these red flags, but yet you still want this man. Sometimes we tend to be in love with the chase or the idea of being happy with somebody and not truly being in love (or even like sometimes) with the actual person. You have to look inside yourself and figure these things out.

You're right. Honestly, reading some of the forums here and other Scorpio man articles out there didn't help, because they clued me in to things about him that I wouldn't have been able to put into words, and played into some bad ideas.

It's his masculine, sexual energy that attracts me, but it's his wounded, guarded vibe, and some of the things he's said to me that make me think all kinds of irrational things. Things like, I have what he needs, I can be that soft place for him, all the while knowing that my life with him would be incredibly difficult. There's a sick part of me that wonders just how different I would be if I were with him, just how much would I have to give up. It's masochistic and tied to how I feel about him sexually.

Anyways, all idle speculation, most likely totally projected.

To clarify, he did not say I have what he needs, etc. He has expressed other more neutral things about what he wants in life, and I know enough about how he actually lives his life that it makes me believe I have what he needs.

Don't speculate. If he didn't outright say it then it's a moot point. Besides, you made it clear you're staying with your partner, and scorpio guy isn't interested in sharing a partner with another, so it doesn't matter if you believe you have what he needs, because you don't.

Posted by MoonArtist
Don't speculate. If he didn't outright say it then it's a moot point. Besides, you made it clear you're staying with your partner, and scorpio guy isn't interested in sharing a partner with another, so it doesn't matter if you believe you have what he needs, because you don't.

I agree. I was just explaining why I was having all these stupid ideas, despite all other evidence. On some level, I'm probably dodging a bullet by being unavailable, because I'm certain that if I was single when he came back around, he and I would be together right now, and life would become instantly more difficult.

I understand your struggle. Take it day by day and don't be too hard on yourself. There are plenty of men out there, you will get over this one. In the meantime, try to find things that make you happy and kick that urge to fix a broken man.

From reading the OP's first post, "Troll" immediately came to mind. I read up to page 3, and still "Troll" remains. If anyone has called the OP out as a "Troll", I agree. The thread (esp. the title) is so textbook "kiss up the scorpio ass" -ish. I'll even bet the OP is probably someone who is a frequent poster and is probably having a good laugh.

It's so strange to me that people think I'm trolling. For what exactly? I was upset when I first posted, and not thinking rationally. A few people in this thread gave me the kind of advice I would have given myself if my brain wasn't flooded with stupid ideas. They've been helpful and kind.

A kiss ass post? The only person who's ass is being kissed here is the man in question, and I've omitted almost everything about specifics and our history to make sure he never knows.

Anyways, it's the internet, those of you who think I'm trolling are free to think that, I just find it weird, because I can't imagine what the point is.

Also, whatu, that's one hell of a line. I may have to share it with some of my single friends, it may come in handy for them.

Posted by thrownaway
With regards to issues with my relationship or self esteem, the best answer I can give is maybe. I know this is unpopular, but as I mentioned earlier, I am open to a one time thing. It's not something I'm actively chasing, and I have options that I'm not pursuing and don't intend to pursue.

I do not want to dissolve my relationship, and I don't think serial monogamy is any more virtuous, but I can say with certainty that I cannot and will not be _sexually_ faithful to one man for the rest of my life.

So are you saying you and your boyfriend have an open relationship?
Honestly I think you are acting way to sprung to try a one time thing with the Scorpio.
Have you had sex with the Scorp?
What is the sign of your boyfriend?

Posted by Whatu

Posted by thrownaway


All I was looking for was a one night stand. I didn't realize that sometimes these men don't offer that option.

Baby when we look into a girls eyes we can see that her heart Is aching for so much more than a one night stand.

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I really don't understand why people come on here trying to convince us that they are not deeply intrenched with someone when it is so obvious.

I didn't think troll, but I never do. I actually believe that when someone posts here they really are looking for answers. Just another indicator of how nieve (SP?) I can be.

I instantly got that she wanted everything she was saying she didn't (grandstanding) It is not the first time someone has handled their deepest desires by acting as if that's the last thing they want. I have done it myself.
OP is unhappy in her marriage and thinks the Scorp or some other Man will provide her with what she needs to feel whole. Probably most of us have done that at some point in life.
The problem is, this isn't how it will work out. That part sucks hey? If only it were that easy. It isn't, and getting to the bottom of why you're looking to other Men to satisfy something that's missing within will take courage. Many don't ever take that path until forced to...
This isn't rocket science.

I should Clarify** Not that most of us have looked to another Man to find happiness as that would suggest most of us are cheaters. That many of us have felt unhappy within at some point...

That's better.. Lol

After a few days of reflection, I find that the power has faded. I have a strong, electric sexual attraction to him. We have incredible chemistry. But now that he's out of sight, he's also (mostly) out of mind. I need to remember that if I find myself spinning out again, it's an illusion based on my lust.

I know that our society says that when we feel attraction to someone outside our relationship, it's because that relationship is lacking, or we secretly want to move on, but to me, sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. I want to have sex with him, to know if there's fire under all that smoke, but now that there's no opportunity anymore it's easy to move on.

Anyways, thanks especially to StarMooney and MoonArtist for the healthy dose of realism, and really, to all of you, even those of you who think I'm full of it! 😉

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Posted by Andalusia

Posted by thrownaway
...All I was looking for was a one night stand. I didn't realize that sometimes these men don't offer that option...

...All this could have been prevented if he had followed through on his f me eyes.

This is insulting to so many people on so many levels.

Just so u know Scorpio men have values
U missed it completely the above is a turn off.
Don't assume because we rule sex means we are dogs.

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This times a million. I hate when girls only look for one night stands. I have standards.

Absolutely not!!!!
We have a need to nurture and care for our lover.

Posted by Whatu
I would be pretty pissed off If a woman decided I needed fixing.

That would be pretty insulting.

That was someone's interpretation of what I had said, not something I actually said.

This is completely unrelated to the specific situation that kicked this thread off, but I will add that in my experience, some men (and women) do look to relationships for a place they can lick their wounds, and their partner becomes the place they ease their minds and feelings. Trouble starts when the person they pick to do that with (to?) is unsuitable, or if their wounds are too deep. Sometimes you just can't nurture and care enough for another person to have them feel secure. "Fixing" has nothing to do with it.

Posted by thrownaway
Did not believe in the myth of the Scorpio man until now.

I doubt he wants to be with me, especially because I'm in a relationship with someone else, but he threw those eyes at me and ruined me. Now he's gone, and didn't even give me the opportunity to taste, and I'm completely devastated.

I'm a strong, hyper-rational, not easily impressed woman, but he managed to strike me at my core, made me question everything with one look, made me contemplate what it would take to actually be with him (complete sublimation of my self, patient acceptance of behavior I would never put up with from my man), and then walked away.

I don't think he did this intentionally. I don't think he knows what's inside me. I feel like I've temporarily lost my mind. I never would have imagined something like this happening.

I just needed to vent to some sympathetic (hopefully) strangers, a small break from masturbating and crying.

what the hell?

So you're crying because you're unbearably horny for some dude who won't sleep with you while you're in a relationship with someone else?

brb, tuning my violin

Posted by thrownaway
masturbating

Is everyone here ovulating? This seems to be the theme of the week.

Posted by thrownaway
masturbating

Is everyone here ovulating? This seems to be the theme of the week.

Posted by seraph

Posted by thrownaway
Did not believe in the myth of the Scorpio man until now.

I doubt he wants to be with me, especially because I'm in a relationship with someone else,

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Hahahah 😆

Posted by Noreallynow

Posted by arietteheart2
Masturbating and crying blahaha

Lol. You're not right...

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Aww 😢 did arietteheart2 delete? She's funny 😢

Posted by Noreallynow

Posted by arietteheart2
Masturbating and crying blahaha

Lol. You're not right...

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Aww 😢 did arietteheart2 delete? She's funny 😢