Venus in scorpio ! Hiding the intensity

Questions for venus in scorpio .. If it feelings run so deeply in love and never take sex as a casual fling then why do you hide your true feelings . You pretend you don't care shout that person and give them a cold and aloof appearance while your inner self is running hot on fire...!! What would be the best way to tell how you truly feel or it's so complex you don't know yourself? What would you potential mate do or say to you to get your heart? Run from you when you are cold or be patience and keep being sincere...?

Posted by Whatu
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Whatu! Did you arrive back in Aotearoa?!

Just after a posted that..! He posted this on social media " there are times when the love is more intense when it's hidden behind silence ". Thoughts and why??

Posted by SunTauVenGem
Questions for venus in scorpio .. If it feelings run so deeply in love and never take sex as a casual fling then why do you hide your true feelings . You pretend you don't care shout that person and give them a cold and aloof appearance while your inner self is running hot on fire...!! What would be the best way to tell how you truly feel or it's so complex you don't know yourself? What would you potential mate do or say to you to get your heart? Run from you when you are cold or be patience and keep being sincere...?

It's not that we intentionally try to hide our feelings - we want to wait until we are really sure that the feeling is being reciprocated from the other end. It takes a lot for us to put our pride aside and let our guard down so ultimately it all comes down to making sure that the person is worthy and that the situation will not end up in disappointment. With Venus in Scorpios, the best way to be able to tell if we are interested in you would be through the actions - talk is cheap so we tend to not express ourselves as much verbally. A Venus in Scorpio will either like you or not at all - we don't waste our time on people we have no interest in so if we are taking the time to get to know you and be around you then that says something right there. Just be yourself and be open as we don't like anything superficial or lighthearted and we need to be re-assured of your feelings first.

Posted by silentkiller
It's all just so complicated.

I feel like, the one I care the most for, will never understand how much, I love him (I am a woman🙂)
Recently I am discovering my insecurities are waaaaaaaay more intense than I thought, and fear does control a lot of my love life (or lack thereof). I simply just feel like, I am not good enough, and therefore I put up with so much stuff, because I don't feel like, I deserve better. This keeps me from expressing my emotions: the fear of rejection and dissapointment and utter failure.

Seems like this one is tending to the feeling of love more than a relationship. I have done the same a lot of times. Not ready for a real commitment basically, even though he/I could have the best intentions.

I have been involved with him for the last couple of moths now and it's complicated. He never told anyone about himself but me and I can read him the moment we started talking. He's almost a little scared of how much I seem to know him already in such a small amount of time. He told me in advance he's not ready for a committed relationship as he takes that thing seriously but he always known from the beginning I want something serious with him as I was attached to him even before we did any physical stuff.. Deep connection..soul connection that kind of feeling.. he says one thing and act another.. last few days I ended it with him as I said I couldn't be just a girl he sees exclusively anymore coz my feelings are getting stronger.(we were exclusive). and I told him it's best if we stay away from each other and be friends again "soon". he said he's confused bla bla. He can't give me the commitment coz of all the other responsibilities.. He's extremely busy with work and other stuff and I am involved in his music life so I know it's true. he wants to build himself up first before anything.. That's true also.. he has extreme insecurities issues and also depression a little but since he met me he has changed so much in positive ways .. His actions proved that he does take me seriously yet he says he doesn't want real commitment coz he can't right now.. Yet when we had a downfall or when I ended us.. He went and posted all these sad songs on social media.. "Lazy love " by Neyo.. And another one says about a guy wanting a girl affection so deeply that he's so anxious .. Next day he posted about she's his king... And the next f

Posted by SunTauVenGem
Just after a posted that..! He posted this on social media " there are times when the love is more intense when it's hidden behind silence ". Thoughts and why??

He's subtly hinting that you talk and/or question things too much.

Not even trying to be rude. That ^^^ is a serious answer.

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Posted by SunTauVenGem
Just after a posted that..! He posted this on social media " there are times when the love is more intense when it's hidden behind silence ". Thoughts and why??

He's subtly hinting that you talk and/or question things too much.

Not even trying to be rude. That ^^^ is a serious answer.

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Excuse my ignorant but what?? So he's saying if truly love of feel for him I should keep it hidden a little? Or is it about his feelings?? My venus is in Gemini n I do have lots of air so yes I am trying to be less talkative lol n curios ! Moon in aqua too hah!!!

I am nothing deep like a Scorpio n I think through my feelings rather than feeling it... we are so not compatible in that way.. But I'm so drawn to our connection... Why ?

Trust what you feel and stop questioning it - and him.

Posted by Andalusia
Trust what you feel and stop questioning it - and him.

... Yay I got to learn n keep my mouth shut... in person I'm perfect coz I can read his feelings for me.. when we r not together.. His coldness alarms me..thank you .😉

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Understanding/reading your Scorp = Good.

Gloating that you can read everything about your Scorp =/= good. Mainly probably because you ain't seen nothing yet.

Can someone really "love" someone in two months? You might think you can but becoming too attached too early might bring out suspicion mode.

Slow down. Go with the flow. Don't come too strong. Or not...

Great advice as always 🙂. he's actually a sag sun but I think his venus influences a lot of his personality. slowing down and attempting to understand him fully first is probably the best option. He could be suspicious yes. I also need time to prove my true feelings as venus in Gemini can b in love one min and nothing the next. can someone please tell me why we are drawn to each other? None of our placements are compatible. Is it my sun (Taurus ) drawn to his venus (scorpio) and his sun (sag) drawn to my (venus Gemini). My moon is in aqua and his in Capricon..I never been involved with a sag guy ever before but this one is different. He's nothing like a sag but more like a scorpio if you ask me.🙂

Posted by MidniteStar
Hiding the feeling/emotions means you don't have to worry about being hurt or being vulnerable. There was a time when I was younger that I did not hide how I truly felt. I'll NEVER do that again. My feelings scare the hell out of me sometimes so I can only imagine how frightened they would make the other person. Surly send them running for the hills! Some things are just better left hidden until you are 100% sure the other person feels the same.

Yeah I can totally understand where you are coming from. I have read heaps of insights from scorp venus people. I wish I understood how deep the feelings go... I read that it's best to hand in "our heart " to venus in scorpio and surrender ourself in some way for you to open up your true feelings Etc etc. So I also need to make sure I won't get rejected either.. what has your partner or ex lovers done in the past to prove their love or feelings for you... When you say "surrender "... what would that be?

Posted by SunTauVenGem
Questions for venus in scorpio .. If it feelings run so deeply in love and never take sex as a casual fling then why do you hide your true feelings . You pretend you don't care shout that person and give them a cold and aloof appearance while your inner self is running hot on fire...!! What would be the best way to tell how you truly feel or it's so complex you don't know yourself? What would you potential mate do or say to you to get your heart? Run from you when you are cold or be patience and keep being sincere...?

Who was this directed to? All Scorpios? Wondering who "YOU" is referring to.

Posted by SunTauVenGem He told me in advance he's not ready for a committed relationship as he takes that thing seriously

last few days I ended it with him

I told him it's best if we stay away from each other and be friends again "soon".

He can't give me the commitment coz of all the other responsibilities..

His actions proved that he does take me seriously yet he says he doesn't want real commitment coz he can't right now..

OK..nevermind, it's about a guy who you are smitten with who has repeatedly told you he does not want a committment. You decided to take the sword out of your chest and ram it into his and tell him you both should stay away from each other.

Got it.

For the record...all Scorpio's are different. HOWEVER...WE DON'T LIE! Find someone else who is ready for a committment and stop the bullshit.

I'll assume you don't lie either..did you quit your job..you know, to stay away from him?

Posted by SunTauVenGem
Questions for venus in scorpio .. If it feelings run so deeply in love and never take sex as a casual fling then why do you hide your true feelings . You pretend you don't care shout that person and give them a cold and aloof appearance while your inner self is running hot on fire...!! What would be the best way to tell how you truly feel or it's so complex you don't know yourself? What would you potential mate do or say to you to get your heart? Run from you when you are cold or be patience and keep being sincere...?

For some, it hides the fear of rejection.

For others, the feelings are so intense, we don't know how to channel them. Best to keep them inside so as not to overwhelm the other person.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Understanding/reading your Scorp = Good.

Gloating that you can read everything about your Scorp =/= good. Mainly probably because you ain't seen nothing yet.

Can someone really "love" someone in two months? You might think you can but becoming too attached too early might bring out suspicion mode.

Slow down. Go with the flow. Don't come too strong. Or not...

True. Too fast, too soon = suspicious that they even know what love is. Causes me to distance a bit.

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Posted by SunTauVenGem He told me in advance he's not ready for a committed relationship as he takes that thing seriously

last few days I ended it with him

I told him it's best if we stay away from each other and be friends again "soon".

He can't give me the commitment coz of all the other responsibilities..

His actions proved that he does take me seriously yet he says he doesn't want real commitment coz he can't right now..

OK..nevermind, it's about a guy who you are smitten with who has repeatedly told you he does not want a committment. You decided to take the sword out of your chest and ram it into his and tell him you both should stay away from each other.

Got it.

For the record...all Scorpio's are different. HOWEVER...WE DON'T LIE! Find someone else who is ready for a committment and stop the bullshit.

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Yeah you are right he has repeatedly told me he's not ready for a girlfriend. Does that mean his feelings towards me are nothing though?. I know that's not the point but I can't help but wonder .. oh well I have to move on to the next. He's extremely comfortable around me to the point that it shocked me and he's a very very private person. He was the one that say we should stay away from each other after I told him that we should try to be friends soon. anyhow, I guess it was just a fling then... I thought venus in scorpio r more sensitive than that and my venus in gemini I can take sex as just sex but the sex wasn't even the point... He also said he's confused as to what he should do. he said this " I don't feel anything... I can't !". So yeah I did twist this whole thing around.... What's with all the sad posts on social media.. They are so obvious what it's about...

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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Understanding/reading your Scorp = Good.

Gloating that you can read everything about your Scorp =/= good. Mainly probably because you ain't seen nothing yet.

Can someone really "love" someone in two months? You might think you can but becoming too attached too early might bring out suspicion mode.

Slow down. Go with the flow. Don't come too strong. Or not...

True. Too fast, too soon = suspicious that they even know what love is. Causes me to distance a bit.

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What is "love" ?🙂

why are you chasing a Sagittarius that is saying he isn't ready for a gf? LOL. At least let him come to you.

Make his lazy ass do that work. shit lol

Posted by Sag89
Make his lazy ass do that work. shit lol

Haha! I am not chasing after him anymore. I made my point clear now that I can't just see him exclusively anymore.. If I'm not known as a "girlfriend".. I have to walk .. It's like his inner needs of intimacy are fighting with his "need of freedom " as a sag sun... He's cofused himself.. a tough decision walking way will do the trick.. Otherwise... Oh well... he's very scorpio to me though...

So.. he was singing at our usual salsa scene today and I always dance at the front.. The whole time he would have those stares and he would be watching me.. One guy came up and asked me to dance and it was a very akward situation coz at the corner of u eyes I could feel him watching "observing" me.. Watching me... Protecting me in some way.. I left this book at his n asked him to bring it for me but he said I can come and get it after .. I knew he meant after the night out "as always" but instead I said you mean next time? He was always "around" doesn't come talk to me but always watching I could feel it... towards the end of the night I went to say bye and he said .. to come and get the book tomorrow or something.. but we agreed on " staying away from each other"... when I left he posted this on social media straight away " vanished away " with a sad face on..... after I messaged him telling him to not worry about the book as I am working tomorrow.. Can't come and for him to bring it for me next week ..meaning.. No coming over.. I am confused as to how to act now or what he's trying to do. I feel like he's trying to manipulate me into falling for him by purposely not replying to my messages only to say sorry after etc.. Mind game or (tests) to me.. I am trying to turn the table but showing him my version of him. Mysterious etc.... Is that a wise move?

I read somewhere that the only way to win a power game with venus in scorpio or scorpio people is to play the game with them.. Not follow their game but try to think like them and mirror their actions ..?

Posted by silentkiller
It's all just so complicated.

I feel like, the one I care the most for, will never understand how much, I love him (I am a woman🙂)
Recently I am discovering my insecurities are waaaaaaaay more intense than I thought, and fear does control a lot of my love life (or lack thereof). I simply just feel like, I am not good enough, and therefore I put up with so much stuff, because I don't feel like, I deserve better. This keeps me from expressing my emotions: the fear of rejection and dissapointment and utter failure.

Seems like this one is tending to the feeling of love more than a relationship. I have done the same a lot of times. Not ready for a real commitment basically, even though he/I could have the best intentions.

You sound ALOT like him ....

Posted by IrresistableScorp
My power is not letting you have power over me. It's a silent power.

Stop thinking that stubbornness equals power trip and you will be on the way to a better understanding. Two cents.

So I am being stubborn to prove my point? I see.....

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Posted by SunTauVenGem
I read somewhere that the only way to win a po
wer game with venus in scorpio or scorpio people is to play the game with them.. Not follow their game but try to think like them and mirror their actions ..?

Worst thing u can do.

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I figured that .. So I changed and became myself again.. That did the trick.🙂

BullGem?

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Posted by Sag89
Make his lazy ass do that work. shit lol

Haha! I am not chasing after him anymore. I made my point clear now that I can't just see him exclusively anymore.. If I'm not known as a "girlfriend".. I have to walk .. It's like his inner needs of intimacy are fighting with his "need of freedom " as a sag sun... He's cofused himself.. a tough decision walking way will do the trick.. Otherwise... Oh well... he's very scorpio to me though...

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what trick?

Oh God the old social media statuses used by Scorpio Venus to manipulate you, know those too well. The problem is that whilst they think you should know what they are doing, they don't realize that every other girl is thinking that these messages are for them also. I can't be bothered with a man that can't just come out and say how he feels regardless of whether or not he gets rejected, fuck they don't even need to say how they feel, just fucking try to start a conversation or something. Some guys love to feel all 'Woe is me' they get off on it. If this guy really wanted you I'm sure he would be more forward about it, tell him to fuck off and get on with your life. A woman of value would never put herself in a position where a guy letting her know he is going to disappoint her from the beginning, and think that's ok. Take your ego out of it, it's not you it's him, why get a fucker you have to change when there are other guys out there that embody all that you need.

It might be fun for your Gemini venus to try and tame him, but let's face it, if it's too much trouble, the minute you get him you will use him and dump him, because if you make a gemini venus start playing games with their heart and work that hard, they will be over you by the time they get you. Fuck that shit, ignore his statuses, that shit can go on forever. He's waiting for you react so he can think "yea got cha bitch" then you will be having sex with him on his terms and he will throw you away when he feels like it. move on and catch him later on down the track when he's mature enough to have a heart and soul in love matters.

Posted by GeminiSparkle
Oh God the old social media statuses used by Scorpio Venus to manipulate you

So all online marketers must have Venus in Scorpio.

Posted by GeminiSparkle
they don't realize that every other girl is thinking that these messages are for them also.

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Maybe every other girl should not read into online statuses so much?

Posted by GeminiSparkle
Oh God the old social media statuses used by Scorpio Venus to manipulate you, know those too well. The problem is that whilst they think you should know what they are doing, they don't realize that every other girl is thinking that these messages are for them also. I can't be bothered with a man that can't just come out and say how he feels regardless of whether or not he gets rejected, fuck they don't even need to say how they feel, just fucking try to start a conversation or something. Some guys love to feel all 'Woe is me' they get off on it. If this guy really wanted you I'm sure he would be more forward about it, tell him to fuck off and get on with your life. A woman of value would never put herself in a position where a guy letting her know he is going to disappoint her from the beginning, and think that's ok. Take your ego out of it, it's not you it's him, why get a fucker you have to change when there are other guys out there that embody all that you need.

It might be fun for your Gemini venus to try and tame him, but let's face it, if it's too much trouble, the minute you get him you will use him and dump him, because if you make a gemini venus start playing games with their heart and work that hard, they will be over you by the time they get you. Fuck that shit, ignore his statuses, that shit can go on forever. He's waiting for you react so he can think "yea got cha bitch" then you will be having sex with him on his terms and he will throw you away when he feels like it. move on and catch him later on down the track when he's mature enough to have a heart and soul in love matters.

I'm not basig my answers on his statues only . It's also his actions face to face . Do you have venus in scorpio to assume such things? I don't need to explain myself as to what he posts. How he posts. Why he posts. I'm not stupid to be seeing this statues and assume they are for me when they are not. I'm sure my moon In Aquarius knows better than that . We have real conversations and deep conversations.! It's not even about the sex. You are judging things from te surface. What makes you thik I I will use him once I catch him? That's a lame statement.

Posted by SunTauVenGem
I read somewhere that the only way to win a power game with venus in scorpio or scorpio people is to play the game with them.. Not follow their game but try to think like them and mirror their actions ..?

We don't play games. We mirror those who do.

I needed to bring this thread back. So we decided to "stay friends". As he wasn't ready for a relationship or any kind of commitment etc. we were going back and forth between "friends" and "seeing each other". One day I brew cause I said my feelings for him were developing N I rather cut it off completely coz he can't be committed etc. He said he is not sure. He was confused coz he likes me heaps but he was never ready to have a girlfriend coz he's serious when it comes to that sort of stuff.. since we met untill now. He hasn't seen anyone else just me. Things between us get sour coz i oils be happy then he wud not reply for a day n I will detach myself (aqua moon) n I think it hurts him in the process. When we see each other in public coz we are in the same Latin scene. I get the " scorpio protective..obsessive..observant looks of his"... like he's constantly watching me all the time. I'm a dancer so I try to be true and care bout his feelings but I do dance with guys it's jus part of my life.. He will always look at me though as if he's so " proud and happy" that I'm happy. And I'm proud of him the same... The question is... We havnt been together physically for over two weeks now. Things been extra rocky coz I told him if he sees someone else he needs to let me know N he hated that saying he owes me no explanation coz he has not formerly asked me to be his girlfriend.. Then I said the level of loyalty between us is different. Anyhow, he finally told me he hasn't hooked up with anyone else.. So that Made feel better. I told him I will be his friend still coz I care about him a lot and I know deep down he cares about me too. In action I can read him much better. He's extremely comfortable around me it's not funny but we can't be together jus the two of us anymore coz he said he doesn't want things to go sour again and he doesn't want to build up the lead on.. I'm confused. I know he's very much into me when I see him. but act cool and aloof. I don't know if this is one of his loyalty test or what... It's killing me that I don't get to be with him that way... What should I do ? Start dating again ? If I do it so soon then it's like I don't care about him at all n didn't mean what I said... Help !!🙂 thanks in advance!

I must add that his dad and brother are in the same band as him and I definitely got the " are you seeing my son.. Will. You hurt him" kind of look.his dad especially was very observant of me and my action. Other friends in the band are known of me somehow.. It's like people he knows knows about me yet he's saying different things.

i am a woman with sun and venus in scorpio.
Look in her eyes deep like you mean it, hold her shoulders softly and whisper with steady voice'' i will not hurt you . I am here for you forever''. That of course if you honestly feel so, cause if you fake it she will smell it and disappear..

Posted by scorpioneyes1
i am a woman with sun and venus in scorpio.
Look in her eyes deep like you mean it, hold her shoulders softly and whisper with steady voice'' i will not hurt you . I am here for you forever''. That of course if you honestly feel so, cause if you fake it she will smell it and disappear..

Look in her eyes deep like you mean it, hold her shoulders softly and whisper with steady voice'' i will not hurt you . I am here for you forever''. That of course if you honestly feel so, cause if you fake it she will smell it and disappear..

we do that eyes things a lot.. according to our situation we are " friends" but I told him I am serious about him and I took us very seriously regardless of the commitment factor. I hve proven with words n action( I have not been with anyone else since we met and he knows it). He hasn't either. I am a little confused because I am away right now for dancing competition and I told him about him and said I am little sad that he didn't wish me good luck message but it's ok. He said coz he knew I will nail it!! N asked where I was.. Next day he posted on social Media the song " Neyo - she got her own... He reads into lyrics I know that for a fact. the lyrics saying how he loves this woman coz she's Indepndent.. Describes me to a tea.. I liked it coz I secretly know it's about me.... Few hrs later he posted " my girl".... With a love heart...he's a man with less words... He said he is letting me go coz he doesn't want to lead me on yet I still feel the intensity of his feelings... Esp when we are in the same place. I always get those intense stares.. Obsessive protective nature... And how proud he is of me... Am I supposed to wait ?😢 technically we are not " official" but I feel like he's a mirror of my soul. I want him long term..... How do I approach this situation? He can read me and trust me .. He said he doesn't trust many ppl etc... We can read eah other.

Posted by Denver34
You like commitment? Intense love? Total fusion? Go for it.

They sound delicious.., he's very intense.. Deep.. Less words more action... Totally commitment for life...I crave and long for it..