Venus in scorpio please help !!!:(

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Ok so you probably know my situation with this man.. He said he missed me before n I asked if he only missed the sex.. So before we met again he posted this song http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/112/sweetlove.html it's about a guy wanting to make love to his girl all night long because it's getting serious etc.. That night he went out and at the end of the night he messaged me saying he wanted to see me and he wants me. I felt the same so I went over. He made love to me all night n didn't let go of me at all.. The next day he asked me what I was doing.. I said if was performing.. He said all day? I said nothing coz I am seeing someone at the moment and that guy wanted to see me.. I kept my mouth shut.. I said to him I will maybe see him at the place he's singing at and his reaction was " maybe??" Ofcoz I didn't end up going that night coz I ended up being with the other guy instead. Please don't judge me. This venus in scorpio told me before it was just the sex n his feelings are reserved n all the other crap so I had to keep my door open.... But he came back in my life n said he missed me... Ofcoz since then he's been distant.. He drank to the point of being sick that sat night..... Oh and he said to me " what's if I was seeing someone too ?" This was over a message n I said oh well if it's not exclusively technically you are not doing anything wrong". But when I went over his room was a real mess n I commented on it and he said " well this is how you left it " I didn't say anything but it seemed like maybe he isn't seeing anyone . He is very good at actin cool and aloof but I know he's different underneath. A typical scorpio I must say... I asked to see him tonight n he said he will let me know. I told him why he's being distant n he said it's nothin he's jus been busy with work.. I know it's a lie . He just have sensed I am still seeing someone n still wanting him.. It's not my fault right since he told me by text it was just the sex.... I am so confused right now..... He always post songs and crazy love making songs on their.... Esp when we are talking online.. But since that day it's been very dry... Help please? How do I win his heart ?😢 I want him more but he can't give me the commitment so what am I supposed to do?
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p reading into the songs this guy posts?

It's funny you're so caught up into the Venus in Scorpio depth of emotion and whatever else you're projecting in your fantasy about this placement but then you go and do this...

Posted by SunTauVenGem
I said nothing coz I am seeing someone at the moment and that guy wanted to see me



Even funnier how you keep trying to work him to get some emotional reaction out of him.

Posted by SunTauVenGem
He also helped me take off my shoes and followed me to the toilet to show me where the light was
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^^This was highly relevant to the story. It's good you didn't miss this crucial detail.

You really need to get your emotions in check before..anything. You're making a lot of assumptions.


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Posted by SunTauVenGem
A typical scorpio I must say...



😕? Isn't this man a Sag? Scorp in Venus =/= Scorp Sun. I'll play along for a few moments anyway....

Posted by SunTauVenGem
I asked to see him tonight n he said he will let me know. I told him why he's being distant n he said it's nothin he's jus been busy with work.. I know it's a lie .....



Hmm looks familiar:

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The next day he asked me what I was doing.. I said if was performing.. He said all day? I said nothing coz I am seeing someone at the moment and that guy wanted to see me.. I kept my mouth shut.. I said to him I will maybe see him at the place he's singing at and his reaction was " maybe??" Ofcoz I didn't end up going that night coz I ended up being with the other guy instead....



See how that works? Don't have expectations of honesty when your side steppin' and dancing around the truth yourself.

Posted by SunTauVenGem
I am so confused right now..... How do I win his heart ?😢 I want him more but he can't give me the commitment so what am I suppose to do?
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Oh get off it. Where's the confusion? How do you expect to win a man's heart when your playing games ? If you want more tell the man you want more or piss off. From what you've written you already recieved your reply, but you've reduced yourself to "just sex" and now you're moaning about being confused?

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Is this the first , second or third Taurus? Oh wait a Taurus could not have Venus in Scorp.

You ask us not to judge you yet you are in love every month with a different person. To make matters worse you sleep with every one of them.

Stop it.

Did you really say he showed you where the bathroom light was? I can't. This is too much for my Virgo placements to handle before coffee.

These Scorp women are going to sting you to death. It's gpoing to be painful to watch.
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Posted by SunTauVenGem

Help please? How do I win his heart ?😢 I want him more but he can't give me the commitment so what am I supposed to do?



Keep fucking the other guy, don't tell him about it and hope he doesn't find out. Don't tell the other guy your fucking this guy and hope he doesn't find out.

THEN....

Whoever finds out you've been fucking around with the other guy first, pick the other guy who hasn't.

(five bucks she likes this answer best)
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Wow.... I expected painful comments but these are not as bad as I thought.. My numbers are very low for my age and yes I started sleeping around after I been torned by the first Taurus man 11 months ago and I couldn't really care less. I don't fall in love every month. Yeah my venus in Gemini sometime makes me feel like I am in love all the time n yeah I get side track and confused as to who I really love anymore.. You guys are right though I have to come clean...
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Here's a question: why don't you know anything about what's happening in your own life. I mean for goddsake, do you honestly need a bunch of strangers to tell you what this VS guy meant when he danced with you? Put your head on straight..

He's been a singer for years now but no one ever seen him danced with a girl coz he doesn't dance. Tonight he was watching me all night and across the room n he asked me to dance. I wanted to dance with him but I never asked him to... Before we saw each other 4 months back he also grabbed me to dance n my friend said he was into me.... Tonight proved to me that he's still into me.. It was sweet he didn't Know how to dance really but it was cute ! Now what do I do.. Do I tell him about the other guy ( honest approach) or do I stop seeing the other guy and go with the flow slowly with him.... I really want to be with him... I'm helping him clean his apartment coz he's moving out so that should be a good bonding for us.... Thank you
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Posted by nov13thscorp
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how about asking the sag board?




wait he's a sag??..... *sigh* please disreguard my post
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Yay but he's nothing like a sag though. Moon in capricon. He's very dark, mystery n secretive... Another guy is also a sag.. Venus in scorpio too but that one is a true sag...🙂. Plus I love scorpios so I'm stuck in this board... Sorry :p
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So a guy from the past says I miss you and you just run over and jump in the sack with him? Even though you're seeing someone else?

If it wasn't about the sex, the scorp venus would go after you and date you and make you his. He's not going to just be all like, well come crawl in my bed. A scorp venus will be possessive and claim you and won't want anyone else near you. He would wine and dine you, treat you like a lady and make sure there was no doubt about who was his and who he belonged to.

So, yeah, it's only about the sex.

I feel sorry for your boyfriend.
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Yeah, so you made love all night to this VS and then you had to blow him off for another guy the next day?

If you really like this guy and he seems to be into you, why not see where that goes instead of playing the field at the moment? Any guy would pull back if they found out the girl they just made love to still went out on the date the next day??_idk.

Its 50/50 if he's trying to rein you in because he simply doesn't want to share or because he likes you...



I'm a venus in scorpio and I don't like to share.
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-_- okay you REALLY fucked up when you said you were seeing another guy. And when he asked how you would feel if he was with someone else, he was trying to see if you would get jealous. You should have said something along the lines of "I would not be comfortable with that at all." Trust me, it's not just the sex he is missing. But he is trying to keep that a secret.

And as a venus in scorpio, I must say I think you are actually getting into something by linking his songs with his feelings. I do the same exact thing. If I am not feeling it I don't care for/listen to it. I usually will link songs of my current emotions.

I don't understand taurus very well, you guys confuse the shit out of me, but I love you too so I will give you advice: TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. Tell him you want him exclusively. It seems that he is really starting to fall for you.. so just tell him, and see what happens.
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Thank you all for your honest advice. I respect each one of it! I admit I stuffed up yes. When we were seeing each other exclusively i didn't mess up. It was untill I said ok, we either girlfriend and boyfriend or I walk. Which I did.... Friends here and there n he admitted we can't be friends coz he's too attracted to me and liked me too much to just be friends... When we were exclusive n decided to brake it off coz the timing was bad, he wasn't ready for a commitment so he posted online " once u have a chemistry all u need is timing but timing is a bitch.." His friend commented that he shud just go for it but he said .. " it's heart braking ".. So fast forward we had up n down...'I started seeig someone. Nothing serious he's very busy with work so it's been like I see him once a week kind of thing. He's not my boyfriend and we are not exclusive at all. We had a very clear conversation about that... So of coz I started to miss this VS passionate kisses so we started talking I started hinting ok, let's see each other blabla , he said wait arnt u seeing someone? I said we are just getting to know eah other n we are not exclusive n I want to see him coz I miss him. So he came to see me n he said he missed me.. N said he was excited to see me coz it's been so long... So we had very passionate time.... Vs kind of way... It's just the sex realy I mean. I'm venus Gemini I know what " sex" is... With him it's like " I will make love to u and kiss all over you so u will miss me and never forget about me ".... So anyway, after that we started plannig day to meet , that's when he started posting songs that he wanna make love to her all night long n know things are getting serious now n he's ready coz he's been curious all along... So that's when he asked me to come over n made love to me all night n didn't let go of me...!! Meanwhile the other guy wanted to see me just to catch up the nxt day so I did... Obviously things happened he wined n dined me so I fell for it for the moment n forgot about what the heck I was doing.... fast forward this VS was being a bit cold using work excuses but I saw him last night n he asked me to dance...'I tried to lock into his eyes which are getting easier every day... Yeah I want to continue this for a bit n I will stop seeing other people so I don't have to feel guilty. It seems he hasn't seen anyone else since me but he's hiding it and lying that he is...becoming exclusive again wud be easy. I will ask him in a few weeks if he's s
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-_- okay you REALLY fucked up when you said you were seeing another guy. And when he asked how you would feel if he was with someone else, he was trying to see if you would get jealous. You should have said something along the lines of "I would not be comfortable with that at all." Trust me, it's not just the sex he is missing. But he is trying to keep that a secret.

And as a venus in scorpio, I must say I think you are actually getting into something by linking his songs with his feelings. I do the same exact thing. If I am not feeling it I don't care for/listen to it. I usually will link songs of my current emotions.

I don't understand taurus very well, you guys confuse the shit out of me, but I love you too so I will give you advice: TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. Tell him you want him exclusively. It seems that he is really starting to fall for you.. so just tell him, and see what happens.

Thank you I finally find someone that understand my situation... He doesn't post songs unless there's something going on between me n him... I used to ask him about it before n he said " those are inspirations , not feelings "... Seriously ? Inspiration .... He's very good at saying one thing n meaning the next it's almost like a test .. I know he reads into lyrics ..when I see him face to face n talk to him one on one that's when I get the truth out from him... But my messages it's too easy for him to try n hide things true?...🙂
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Posted by heartlocket
You might want to check this out. Extreme accuracy everything she says.
ESPECIALLY about the sex.



You have been a great help! I have watched her before and did tons of research about them...😢 .. He inspired me to write my first song wen he went out n he asked me to share. I shared it n etc.. Dropped by see if he's ok.. Disappeared on my for a day now... Intensity is overwhelming? .. He's really confusing me... the on and off act n the non consistency from his part is what confusing.... now I don't know how to take the next step lol.... I'm secretly scared he knows I'm still talking to this other guy but it's not my fault if he hasn't claimed me yet ?😢 it's not an easy placement to work with that's all I can see but extremely addictive.. It's like when we are good it's like heaven it can smile and laugh at everything and anything but when he disappears it's like.. What the hell was that —? ***sigh ***
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Yeah don't even bring up the other guy with him... I understand why you have him on the side though. You feel like if he doesn't commit to you or you don't get what you want then you can turn to the other guy, correct?

Why do you think he's dissapeared? What is the last thing he has said to you?

The dissapearing act COULD be because he is afraid of commitment/ wants to see what you will do/ is afraid to unleash himself onto you because he doesn't know what you think.
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Posted by heartlocket
Yeah don't even bring up the other guy with him... I understand why you have him on the side though. You feel like if he doesn't commit to you or you don't get what you want then you can turn to the other guy, correct?

Why do you think he's dissapeared? What is the last thing he has said to you?

The dissapearing act COULD be because he is afraid of commitment/ wants to see what you will do/ is afraid to unleash himself onto you because he doesn't know what you think.

Thank you. You understand me and I really appreciate that... I don't mean to be having him on the other side, if he was to tell me he can commit to me full force I would be totally commit to him. I was extremely committed when we were exclusive before we ended it coz he wasn't ready for a commitment..(girlfriend boyfriend) thing.. So I stepped out and started moving on with my life.. He came back around and this is what is happening... The last thing he's heard from me was the song I wrote.. I guess he figured my feelings are intense and real and he's getting scared? I don't know.. It's been 2 days now .. He's seen the messages just hasn't replied at all. Perhaps he needs some alone time? He's a sag after all and my moon in aqua doesn't mind it really .. I don't go crazy.. I just get confused and try to analyse my feelings and his feelings... maybe he's really thinking about it seriously what to do with me.. He's got a lot to work on as a person as well and there's no chance he's ready for a something serious now but I just want to be exclusive nothing more.. But from what I heard from him, he hasn't seen anyone else from the comment " yeah the room is messy just how you left it ". It's almost like he's saying these on purpose so I am aware that it's only me he's seeing without actually saying it. I think I need to start proving to him my feelings with my action ... do you disappear ? Do you tell someone u are not interested in becoming anything more straight out ?... Or do you leve them hanging ? You have been a great help..🙂 thank you again. !!
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LOl oh yes I definitely disappear. It's usually because of my own insecurities or I am just not that interested. For example, recently someone has out of the blue wanted to see me.. I became a bit scared and insecure, I was suspicious and so I kinda stopped talking to him because I want him to initiate conversation.. which he is doing. But the other day was looking online and apparently he has a new gf... so I was like fuck this I won't talk to him anymore. And yet he wants to do stuff with me. Guh... Guys are fuckin annoying lol.

I'm kinda a runner, but since he is a Sag I know they can be totally into you at one point and then the fire will burn out and they can move on quickly. It's happened to me twice. So that is a bit confusing. I think sag men are bad at communicating.
Also, I disappear when I am angry or upset with someone. I would recommend waiting a little bit longer, and if he doesn't say anything, contact him again. Personally, I think it makes things A LOT easier if someone would just come out and say how they feel about me. I like people who are not afraid of commitment and of being loyal and true. I don't like to play games, just makes me angry. I want to know people's intentions with me upfront, it builds trust and respect tremendously.

And you're welcome 🙂
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-_- okay you REALLY fucked up when you said you were seeing another guy. And when he asked how you would feel if he was with someone else, he was trying to see if you would get jealous. You should have said something along the lines of "I would not be comfortable with that at all." Trust me, it's not just the sex he is missing. But he is trying to keep that a secret.

And as a venus in scorpio, I must say I think you are actually getting into something by linking his songs with his feelings. I do the same exact thing. If I am not feeling it I don't care for/listen to it. I usually will link songs of my current emotions.

I don't understand taurus very well, you guys confuse the shit out of me, but I love you too so I will give you advice: TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. Tell him you want him exclusively. It seems that he is really starting to fall for you.. so just tell him, and see what happens.



^^^^ THIS.
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LOL is this a good thing? 😄
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Posted by heartlocket
It could possibly be about you. Not saying for sure, but quite possible...🙂

I am so confused right now..! I have always been honest with him about my feelings but keeping my venus in Gemini under control is a bit difficult when he's not telling me how he feels.. I think he secretly knows what was happening with my last weekend and maybe it's his way of cutting lose with me coz maye perhaps I have broken his trust... I am not sure how to resolve this situation that I caused.. He hasn't said anything yet.. So I will just wait.. Maybe I will c his reaction when he sees me next.. 😢 .. If this song was about me it's kind of scary .. I could relate to what he's trying to say actually.. Yet I don't think he realises how true and how strong I feel for him....