virgo girl and a scorpio guy.... please help!!

Let's start from the beginning... I'm a Virgo chick and I used to date a Taurus, while we were together I became really good friends with his good friend, who happens to be a Scorpio. When we split up, Scorpio and I stayed friends. I had feelings for him, but felt uneasy persuing anything because he was so close to my ex, who hated at the time. We hangout alot and I really enjoy his company, which is weird for virgos because rarely do we have friends of the oppisit sex without having some kind of sexual tension. I just feel completely comfortable with him. When I like a guy I play games to get his attention, and then get all kinds of nervous and retarded around them because I want to impress them but don't know what to do. For the first time, I feel like I can just be me, and real, around him. ... well, we've been friends for about half a year or so now... and the more we hang out, the more I like him. I'm just worried that since I rejected him in the past, he has moved on from wanting a relationship with me.
I know scorpios are vindictive... could he be putting on a scherade to make me like him, just to reject me? or is his friendship genuine? ... or am I just thinking to much about all of this?
anyway... I wanna be with this guy and don't know what to do

winter melon, I'm Virgo too, but I don't really see your signs having a lot to do with it. He probably sees you as just a friend because you were with his boy once upon a time. It might be awkward for their friendship if he hooks up with you if they are still good friends, though he probably really likes you as a person. I became great friends with a good friend of my ex. Nothing is going on and nothing will go on because they are still friends and it would be very awkward.

Another Virg... hopelessly tormented and outmatched by a Scorp.

For every FS posts about 1 tormenting Virg, there are like 200 on Scorps tormenting Virgs. Regardless of what branh says.

well you see, he did ask me if a relationship was possible between us after me and his boy broke up. I was specticle because my ex and i were not on good terms, so i said no, plus I didn't know how much i could trust this scorpio. but now that i've gotten to know him better, i really would like a relationship with him.... i just don't know if he feels the same anymore. .... so, i'm at a loss. I guess i'm asking you kids if you think he will be persistant if he wants one. or is it possible that he may want a relationship, but keep it to himself because i said no before? i know they have low self esteems sometimes and he may fear another bruise to his ego.
.... and how compatable are scorp dudes and virg girls anyway—

I think he still likes you!! Scorpio attraction does not go away that easily. He may have hidden the feelings way down deep, but they can probably be brought back out again. If I were you I would just begin to flirt with him a little and see how he reacts. Touch his arm or his shoulder a little more smile a lot and tease him about how handsome he looks in that shirt or touch and compliment his hair, etc. etc. I take it he is not seeing anyone at the moment though right—? If he is or he has a bad crush on anyone at the moment then wait a little while until he is in a place where he doesn't have affections for someone else. Let him know silently with your subtle flirting that he needs to ask you out again and that this time you will say yes. If he asks you why you are flirting with him tell him the truth that for some reason you have been feeling very attracted him lately. He will love it. If you get no response at all from him and he doesn't ask you out then you pretty much know your answer and you can just go back to the friend zone without making anyone feel too uncomfortable.

^ I once thought you were utterly clueless. Except I was wrong. It's much worse than that. You believe in unicorns.

"^ I once thought you were utterly clueless. Except I was wrong. It's much worse than that. You believe in unicorns."

so this approach wouldn't work on you scorpion_rising? .. do you have any advice for me?

i agree with you fumingli_scorp on the whole just coming out with it and being honest and up fornt... he seems like a pretty straight forward guy. thank you

Winter Melon - Please whatever you do, I don't think you should flirt with him coz being a Scorpio, I think I know that most scorpios are strange, especially since he's still friends with your ex!!

Plus do NOT listen to gslove's advice! I totally disagree! If you do you will be treading on dangerous ground I think! Just be friends and see what happens but as you say he might be silently vindictive and wants to get back at you by rejecting you once you tell him you feel for him..finally!!

OR he might be genuine and would be shocked that you want to be flirty with him since he's still friendly with your ex, and might not respect you for it!!

Well, whatever you do, I hope it all turns out Ok!

You seem excited!

scorpion_rising: Another Virg... hopelessly tormented and outmatched by a Scorp.

SR's been huffing Pine Sol again!

My Wife would tell you that there's mutual tormenting in this relationship - two Elements about equally matched in wit, depth, and tenacity...

WM: When I like a guy I play games to get his attention...

Bad Idea to play games with a Scorp. They see right through the fakery - even when they realize you mean no harm, they still don't like it...

Why would my advice be bad—?? He already asked her out in the beginning right after her and her ex broke up and she told him no out of respect for the ex. Where was his regard for his friend then when he asked her out?? Why would he disrespect her now for all of a sudden deciding to like him and flirt with him when her old relationship has been long gone and she has no attachment to him anymore? If he is worried about his friend then he will not respond to the flirting. If he doesn't want to go out with her anymore than she will save the friendship by not coming out with the uncomfortable conversation that may put a strain on their friendship. I suggested subtle flirting. Not attacking the poor guy. Just enough to get him thinking about her in that way again so that he will be the one to ask her out again if he is comfortable doing that to his friend. If he is not comfortable with it he won't ask her out and the friendship is saved.

just to clear things up with you guys.... my ex and i only dated for 3 months and it was practically a year ago. .. so i don't think that is a conflict anymore.

to Dyar about the games thing... i said he was the first guy i didnt feel like i needed to do that with. i'm just real with him

and to gslove: what is your sign again? ...

FS:Guys! Their brain is in their pants most of the time... they get mixed up with what is more important.

Um, I'm QUITE certain on what's more important....the brain in my pants.....😉

I am a Scorpio and I like mystery and I like the slow buildup in a relationship. I don't like it when anyone comes on too strong too quickly. I like to guess a little bit at the very beginning (for a couple of weeks) on whether or not someone likes me. It's intriguing and causes my Scorpio fantasies to get stirred up and it drives me crazy. I just don't think you should rush right into telling this scorp your feelings. I'm just saying I think you need to feel him out a little first by light flirting to see if he is even still interested before you go spoiling your friendship.