Weird Scorp behavior

OK, some of you might know about my story with the trembling professor. I don't want to repeat it, but I'd like some advice on a few things.
The trembling has gotten a lot better nowadays. At least he can SIT next to me.

My problem is that he does not call me. When I call, I have to call like two or three times for me to see him. He is nice about it, but he just seems to be so passive around me. He is never in one place for a long time. He leaves his house every week or two and when I call, which is not often, he may be wherever. He was like this all his life and no one knows him very well.

I called him today and he said he was not in the city but will be back sometime soon. After he said this, he left the phone on and started yelling at a woman over some paper work he had for her to hand in. He was yelling at her for like two minutes while I was on his cell phone and then he hung up on me! Of course I did not call him back.

This guy's behavior really perplexes everyone. There have been cases of him "calling" other people in front of me when we were on a date and it was clear that no one was on the other line. A part of me wonders if he has Asperger's Syndrome and tries hard to seem normal/fit in, or he is just a dickhead who uses people without mercy.

I am thinking of calling him in a few days but wonder what advice you will give me. Should I be mean to him for hanging up on me and not calling or should I just let it go.

Hmmm..i can help you, but i need to know some more information.

Like how old are you? your pic? what's your favourit sex position?

All these info are essential for me to help you..so i am waiting.

"he left the phone on and started yelling at a woman over some paper work he had for her to hand in. He was yelling at her for like two minutes while I was on his cell phone and then he hung up on me!"

Whether he has Aspergers or not, why in the hell would you want to have a relationship with someone like this?? The way he treats other people is the exact way he will soon be treating you no matter how nice he seems to be in the beginning.

>Hmmm..i can help you, but i need to know some more information.

>Like how old are you? your pic? what's your favourit sex position?

>All these info are essential for me to help you..so i am waiting.

So you want to help, hmmm? And how will knowing the above help me with the dude?
OK, since you insist:
25. No pics in public forums but I can assure you that I am very attractive. Spooning.

gslove, he wasn't terribly mean with her but the whole thing got to me because he wanted me to HEAR the fact that he was yelling at her. He could have told me, "OK, bye now" but he let me hear the conversation and then hung up on me. I am sure that if I call him back in a few days and reprement him, he will pretend that nothing happened.

WHATEVER!!!! THE GUY IS FUCKING NUTS!!

"There have been cases of him "calling" other people in front of me when we were on a date and it was clear that no one was on the other line."

Is this normal behavior to you?? He obviously has problems which is why he is so distant from you in the first place I'm sure. He doesn't want you to find just how nuts he really is. You should just stop trying to figure him out and just move on to someone who is actually healthy enough for a real relationship.

>Is this normal behavior to you?? He obviously has problems which is why he is so distant >from you in the first place I'm sure. He doesn't want you to find just how nuts he really >is. You should just stop trying to figure him out and just move on to someone who is >actually healthy enough for a real relationship.

What types of problems do you think he has? I was attributing his weirdness to Asperger's Syndrome. He is after all an academic and these types tend to be weird. I will be an academic myself soon.
Some other info: the guy's brother and cousin are in their 40s and 50s, unmarried, and no current girlfriends. The professor is not known to have had a girlfriend in at least 10 years if not more. Not married and always traveling somewhere or other. Scorpio with Sag ascendant and Sag Venus.

And I haven't told you the best part.....but the older members know. When I sit next to him, he orgasms and cums without me touching him at all. No joke! I am serious here. Part of me thinks he might be impotent and that is causing all his weird behavior, in addition to the Asperger's Syndrome (they usually go together)

"What types of problems do you think he has?'

Sounds like you have answered your own question. LOL!! Again with just the little odd bits that you know about him why would you want to persue this?

Do you know for a fact that he has Aspergers? Just curious, What makes you think that? From what you have said I don't see that.

I believe he has Asperger's because he either stares too intensely or avoids eye contact all together. He is very sensitive to smell and noise. He overhears people's conversasions, learns what they like, and then gives it to them. He seems to have a very bookish knowledge of body language and sex. Plus, cumming in his pants while sitting across from me or next to me for a while indicates that he is not really sexually experienced, even at his advanced age. He get angry very easily and then forgets about the whole thing. He wants to appear normal but does not really totally succeed in doing it.

Elena, just what is so funny?

My BF's 17 year old son has Aspergers and he has trouble with filtering what comes out of his mouth. Almost everything he says seems to be for shock value and he has no clue that he may be offending someone and if you try to teach him that what he is saying isn't right he has a very hard time trying to understand what it is that he did wrong and he it's like he gets hurt feelings about it. Here is some things I looked up about Aspergers in adults.

Symptoms:

Average or above average intelligence
Inability to think in abstract ways
Difficulties in empathising with others
Problems with understanding another person's point of view
Hampered conversational ability
Problems with controlling feelings such as anger, depression and anxiety
Adherence to routines and schedules, and stress if expected routine is disrupted
Inability to manage appropriate social conduct
Specialised fields of interest or hobbies.

The emotions of other people

A person with Asperger syndrome may have trouble understanding the emotions of other people, and the subtle messages that are sent by facial expression, eye contact and body language are often missed. Because of this, a person with Asperger syndrome might be seen as egotistical, selfish or uncaring. These are unfair labels, because the affected person is neurologically unable to understand other people's emotional states. They are usually shocked, upset and remorseful when told their actions were hurtful or inappropriate.

Sexual codes of conduct

Research into the sexual understanding of people with Asperger syndrome is in its infancy. Studies suggest that affected people are as interested in sex as anyone else, but many don't have the social or empathetic skills to successfully manage adult relationships.

Delayed understanding is common; for example, a person with Asperger syndrome aged in their 20s typically has the sexual codes of conduct befitting a teenager. Even affected people who are high achieving and academically or vocationally successful have trouble negotiating the 'hidden rules' of courtship. Inappropriate sexual behaviour can result.

gslove, yes, I know the list and I was not saying that the guy has Asperger's without knowing the symptoms. He is very highly intelligent and has difficulty with empathy. He also has problems with controlling feelings. I don't know where the flightiness comes in, but he wants to be informed when people arrive prior to their arrival. And the sexual problems have already been mentioned.

It sounds like you will never be able to figure this guy out so why don't you just blatantly ask him what you want to know about him. Ask him if he has Aspergers. Ask him if he likes you. Ask him why he cums when he is sitting with you? LOL! The more you ask him and don't freak out by the answers he gives you the more he will start to trust you and if you still want him after knowing the truth he will come closer once he sees you are accepting of his behaviors.

"jesus, and i thought i was stuck with a weirdo...now he doesn't seem so bad..."

LOL Dxp has a way of putting things in perspective, doesn't it? 🙂

My advice to you is to go get a decent haircut, make up and a good stiff drink to figure out what it is about you that makes you think being with a fruit loop is the only choice you have. I'm serious.

This is not Scorpio behavior. This is deranged. The intense staring is almost crimminal. The oozing in his pants, honey, is not only not normal it signals a major warning to you about sexual deviancy. It does not mean that you have super powers of sexuality that are more than an average man can handle.

This man is obviously so anti social that others have denounced his company. Listen carefully to me, please...

YOU CANNOT SAVE THIS MAN!!

You do not get a gold star for even thinking about it. I'm guessing that you have a huge heart that would be put to better use by leading this guy to professional help and then yourself out the door before you get hurt.

I'm serious. This is NOT an astrology knowledge can fix him sort of thing. You don't need to understand him. You need to get the hell away from him.