Will a Scorpio man spite himself to test somebody?

Ok so from the last time I posted (thank you all the advice was fantastic!) Things got better, my Scorpio guy started to open up to me, be sweet and back to his old moody (but likable) self.

All of a sudden things are good and he throws me for a loop. He starts to tell me that I'm not the only girl he is seeing, that it's not normal for a man to be with only one female, If I think he would ever fall in love with me I'm crazy, that I am trying to get him to tell me that he loves me and that it's not a big deal if we don't see each other anymore in fact it may be a good idea.

I respond by telling him to go away and leave me alone.

He respnds back by asking WTF is my problem I need a good shagging. (what's up with that response he just pushed me away)

I ask him if he is messing with my head, he says no, this goes round and round until finally I can't take it and full of tears and hurt feelings I text that obviously I like him much more than he likes me and to please leave me alone. He responded that he's not in the mood for me.

After 10 hours I text again saying I don't appreciate the insults and I don't want to be humiliated anymore I'm done.

So my question is 1. if things were good and I could swear he cares deeply for me (even if he said something else) then why would he say things to push me away?

2. I miss him so much should I call or leave him alone and see what happens?

Oh FYI if it matters he is a Scorpio sun and Scorpio moon I'm a Cancer sun Pices moon.

2. LEAVE HIM ALONE!!! You told him you were done. Don't go back on your word because he will see you as weak and bring you down.

1.I think his choice of words were not very direct but they were his way of telling you that he didn't want a relationship with you anymore. Sorry to be so blunt, but the way I see it, he sounds like a total JA!!

It sounds like you have deep feelings for him, but I think you will be better off without him!!

I know. It's just hard.

And it just drives me up a wall because everybody said if I change he will get worse. I thought you all might be wrong because he became so sweet but the truth is that he did just exactly that-- got worse.

Now he sees me as somebody with low self esteem and sombody he dosn't really have to invest his feelings into. Two things Scorpio men hate.


Do you all think the best way to fix this this will be to keep to my word and stay away from him and to get my self esteem back-- without him. He was attracted to the strong person I used to be. Somewhere I lost "it". When I get "it" back and he sees me as the person I used to be-- without him-- then I bet the chase will start.

I think then and only then will I be able to dictate to him the terms of good behavior if he wants to be in a relationship with me. Until then my goose is and will remain cooked.

Dose this sound about right? Am I in the right direction?

I don't know if there really is another girl. That's what I meant about Scorpio guys saying fucked up things.

I know it sounds very old but I just don't like to jump from guy to guy. I don't know why? I've not been beaten with the ugly stick -lol- I do meet guys. I just have a thing with my feelings.

That's part of the problem too I think. I think he takes for granted the fact that I am so reserved.

You got him twisted. Your best bet is to leave him alone for awhile. I you do get him you will have to prove you are worthy. It could take awhile

You know what is so funny? Everybody knows right from wrong. We all know what we should and shouldn't do but it's alomst like if we want to do something bad or "wrong" (like calling the JA) we need to be justified. Like because another person said you should go and do it-- so we say to ourselves "wow it must be ok, this person thinks it's ok too"

Where as like me right now I know the right thing is to stay away, pick myself up and dust myself off-- but a little reassurance when your so low is nice.

I read these posts alot and I have to say that sometimes the proof is in the pudding.

twisted?

You don't know him. You on this board looking for nice. Good luck

They are very strange, each scorpion has his or her own code of justice...very specific ....

Meet him in person to gauge the truth from his body language, which always betrays them...though they are never that verbal when it comes to their feelings. Some even lie to you, just for keeping the 'upper hand'.....

But once face to face, no way can a scorpio man hide his strong ...Oh so very strong emotions from his love....they are so helpless there, in my personal experience....

I think your right. He may have said all that because he want's the upper hand. He will never show one drop of emotion and the very minute he does catches himeslf and will always do one of two things either 1. he dissapears or 2. he says mean things to me
I always think it's so I wont get attached to him.

But I also think he has pushed me down on his priorty scale. I haven't spoken to him in 2 days and I am not giving in. What he said was very painful. I feel like that girl in the movie "He's just not that into you" when she thinks the guy is thinking one thing but he is really thinking another.

Scorpio or not... you always know when I guy cares. Even if he tries to hide his feelings.

I think it's fair to say that when a guy says and does fucked up shit to you he does it because he feels he can get away with it. No man will ever treat the girl of his dreams consistantly like crap because he knows if he does he will lose the girl of his dreams.

Really?
Enough is enough. He's still controlling you and you are allowing it. Tell him to Fuck off once and for all. Quit all the contact and when he contacts you, just ignore.
He obviously doesn't care that much for you or he wouldn't be fucking with you like this.
Don't let him keep doing this to you. You deserve more.
I really just want to kick his ass...I'm available if you need me!! 😉

I know it's hard, but you must let go of this guy. He's not worth it!

Exactly! We are pros...my words sting way more then my wimpy fists 😢 I can tear you in two!

Thanks sweet deem...

Hey my lady...hope all is well in your warmer world 🙂

I have had no contact with him nor has he made any attempt to contact me.

I think candlz was right. If I contact him I'll look weak.

I have to get up dust off and do my own thing. I really believe if I get back to the girl I use to be I'll not only get him interested BUT get him to treat me like a lady. I do believe that would mean I deserve to be treated like one. He'll never treat me properly if I don't change the playing field. If I can't have him the right way then I don't want him the wrong way.

Good grief guys can really affect your mood sometimes.


Men. Can't live with them and can't live without them.

"I really believe if I get back to the girl I use to be I'll not only get him interested BUT get him to treat me like a lady."

I'm sorry, but you are fooling yourself (opt #2 hypno) if you are thinking this will work. Why would you want to be with an asshole like this? He should be treating you like a lady all along. Quit blaming yourself...grow a set and tell him to kiss it!

He's treated you like utter crap....and you think by changing yourself he is going to change— This is what you are saying... we are saying it doesnt work that way!

He has told you straight up the way he feels about you...listen, men talk straight if they have something to say, you dont even have to try and guess here, it really is black and white!!!

Now the best thing you should do is to re-gain your confidence back and find someone new and that loves you for exactly who you are. Put this guy behind you and not for any reason take him back. Tell yourself you can and will find better.

Yes it's hard and for some crazy reason all you will remember about the guy will be the positives, even if there are few...your mind will try to trick you into believing he is the one but CLEARLY he is not and you need to forget him completely!!

Ladies, Gentelman and Fellow Posters it would seem I have found the answer to all my questions!


MY SCORPIO GUY IS MARRIED! CONFIRMED, SIGN SEALED AND DELIVERED!!!!!

It would seem I do have an Aries BFF after all she is an april 11 girl. (is that an Aries -lol- I don't even know! ahhh I gotta laugh-- yes, I am an idiot!)

My world has just became as clear as glass. Asked him what the deal was--- his response? NONE OF MY BUSINESS!

I do believe this Lovelymoon girl will be leaving the building! And remember No Autographs Please!

Just called and yes, she is indeed an Aries!

Posted by lovelymoongirl
Ladies, Gentelman and Fellow Posters it would seem I have found the answer to all my questions!


MY SCORPIO GUY IS MARRIED! CONFIRMED, SIGN SEALED AND DELIVERED!!!!!

It would seem I do have an Aries BFF after all she is an april 11 girl. (is that an Aries -lol- I don't even know! ahhh I gotta laugh-- yes, I am an idiot!)

My world has just became as clear as glass. Asked him what the deal was--- his response? NONE OF MY BUSINESS!

I do believe this Lovelymoon girl will be leaving the building! And remember No Autographs Please!

WHAT?? Holy shit...

Ok so I have calmed down a bit. Yes, married. For close to 15 years.

Makes sense. I think he made me feel bad about myself to avoid me leaving and finding a single guy. He couldn't give me a 100% so he tore me down I bet so I wouldnt leave.

WTF. Why stray? just leave. I hate this shit.

Why treat me like shit? Why not just dump me? I don't get it.

What? He told me he had affairs before but never for so long. What kind of shit is this—

Scorpio guys & gals is this your norm with you? I thought you were all the faithful type?

WTF—??

Posted by ariessun

OMG AS!!! I've always been in love with Jake Ryan...he will forever be on the table kissing ME at the end!!! HAHA!!

Since when is Scorpio a sign know for fidelity— LOL!

As I mentioned earlier, I know more Scorp men that stray then stay faithful...NOT saying all do this, but it's been my experience.

Oh, girl...I'm not surprised at all by this outcome. Should have predicted it sooner.

I am very glad that I am amusing you all. ...lol... What can I say live and learn.

I think your right. They cheeeeeeeeeeeeeet alot! I've been doing some homework and asking around.

At least I finally know. But HOT DAMN it sucks!

Posted by DewDrops

Posted by deemnsout4ever
I've never cheated,fwiw.

thats becoz ur a libra.

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Quit making me laugh Dew!! The Libra's I know are not much better in the fidelity department!

Posted by lovelymoongirl
I am very glad that I am amusing you all. ...lol... What can I say live and learn.

I think your right. They cheeeeeeeeeeeeeet alot! I've been doing some homework and asking around.

At least I finally know. But HOT DAMN it sucks!

What happened is more sad then amusing and I'm sorry you are having to go through it.

Y’all I’m a Leo woman and my Scorpio guy and I hit it off great, he said he felt like we’ve known each other for years, he likes me but feel like we should try being friends first than just stop messaging me. It’s been a month since we last talk. Is there an opportunity with him or dead air?