Am i kidding myself

Long story short. First off, I ended a situation with a Scorp guy in early November. Last week,I was having a conversation with my best friend and her husband when the Scorp guy came up. My friend's husband mentioned that the Scorp wanted to call but didn't and how he still talks about me and would probably like to see me again. Since then I couldn't get the Scorp off my mind and was in a dream, a nice one. Well, last night I decided to text him (it was driving me crazy)and he responded. We did a little catch up and that ended that...

The only expectation I have is friendship; can I rekindle that—

You know what? He knew you would find out what he said. In fact, he planned it that way. He probably even told your friend's husband to mention all that to you.

Yes, you can even rekindle more than friendship, if you want. If this was a painful break-up for you, though, I would give it a lot of thought, because chances are good it will end the same way the 2nd time around. Especially if it's only been since Nov. that you called it quits.

Don't know the whole story but...IMO...I am friends with most all my exes, I even talk to my ex hubby about his on dates and give him pointers! ...open the lines of communication....but it all depends on how it ended, how the relationship was. Obviously the realtionship did not explode at the end or else it would have taken a llloonngg time for a scorp to recover and be able to respond easily.

Don't fall back into anything you are not comfy with. You love him? Whom broke up with whom?

SS~ I totally agree with the fact he planned it to get back to her...thats a given!
We are crafty like that...

"The only expectation I have is friendship; can I rekindle that—"

Come on now, you couldn't get him off your mind, he drove you crazy until you got to speak to him. Now I like my friends but not that much.

Well, I ended it with him, we did not end on a bad note. I got tired after months of hot and cold. The "relationship" was one of we both wanted different things. I wanted more and he wasn't ready. It's funny that ya'll said he planned it, cause I had that feeling. So, I guess, I will have to see if we can reconnect on the friendship level, again!!

LMAO!!!! Okay, Okay!!!! You got me Ray....just a tad...

I say if you can't have exactly what you want from him, you should stay far away from him. Scorpios are good when they are working with you/for you. In any other setting, they'll break you. Guaranteed!

Agree with Ray.

You may be different, flirtyC, but I could never remain friends with any of my ex scorpios. We always fell back into old patterns (that didn't work the first time) and I was just too damned attracted to them to not always want it to go to the next level. And another thing, you'll find - Scorpio is a fixed sign, and they seldom change. If who he is did not work for you the first time, it won't this time either. Just my .02. 😉

Ray, good food for thought. I really have no expectations. I do miss the friend quality that we had. I know that I am not goig to get what want from him and I am not looking for that from him. I just miss him in my life...

I totally agree that he may be manipulating you, you will end up intimate again, circle goes round and round... ending up same pattern. Will it ever be different? No. Things will pick up where you left off...not enough time has passed.

BUT yes...Scorps can be friends with an ex...with lots of healing in between once the heartache is over.

I have a feeling he has a motive (sex, ego, control) for planting this one back in your head via friends. Obviously you are open to his "motive" (dreamt about him, text him) or else there would be no contact...c'mon now...friends only you want to be?

Scorps don't change much...be careful of that stinger once again!

Okay. ya'll are right! This time around I am going to listen to the opinons I asked for. Boredom is a hell of a drug, it makes you do things that aren't good! I guess, I am going to do one of my disappering acts...Thanks good people!!

So you ended it with him? and now he just comes back. yes, it is his plan to come back. he doesn't want to look like the loser in this.
was he upset by the breakup? if so, watch out he doesn't have plans to hurt you. but yes I know thats a negative.

You are familiar with each other, so most likely you will have sex, unless you set up limits with him. if you can't resist him maybe it is good to stay away from him.

and if you were to get back with him, you would be asking, has anything Changed with him?

LT, you bring up some valid points and questions. I ended it with him but he stung me a couple of times during the conversation. I kept telling him I cared but had to do what was best for me and he said that he understood. I am not comletely sure what i want, I just had an itch that I had to scratch. Im not ready to be intamite with him, that something that will take some time. We haven't even spoke on the phone so who knows what will come of the situation. But like another post stated, Scorps dont change. I would think if he hated me he wouldn't have responded to me so quickly. Who knows, Im not going to force anything, Im going to let the universe take over....

"do you mean that if they are in it for their own agenda?"

I really meant if their nature and destination is in agreement with yours. I think everyone is driven by something of their own. I think everyone gets in a relationship driven by a need of their own, which is why people complain and take actions when something doesn't work their way. It's just that when both your nature and destination are in agreement with each other, everything that each individual do for self is beneficial to the other and the relationship (since you're both in it). You want to make sure that your Scorpio loves/Like you a lot and his destination is the same as yours. You'll get his full blown support. Maybe more then you ever needed. If not he'll simply manipulate you in order to get what he needs from and leave you when he got these specific things he wanted from you. An evolved one simply won't entertain you if he sees that your nature and destination are not alike. He'll let you go even if you were completely vulnerable to him and he could have easily taken advantage of you.

So QUESTION— Would he have contacted her or at this stage does he think that she has to contact him to reconnect, because she ended it? Thought they wanted to be the dominant ones in a relationship—

"would the unevolved scorpios be as intuitive and knowing as the evolved ones, but use it to their own advantage instead?"

I say yes, being an evolved individual to me as more to do with the type of heart that you hold and not so with intuition. There are very intuitive people, that are plain evil and very efficient in their evilness too and holds enough knowledge to manipulate. By the way, not much knowledge is needed to manipulate people. We can be "That" vulnerable. So even with very little knowledge, one can manipulate someone a great deal. I think an evolved human being, understands the greater purpose better. Evil always stem from ignorance and an evolved individual, knows better therefore does better. He becomes a better individual simply by doing better and going through better experiences.

Good question sweethearts, I hope someone can anwser that for the both of us.....

IL,

Yes there are lots of women in the situation you described. See in reality to get into someone's heart, you just have to appeal to that person's receiving end, that's all. No matter how much knowledge one may have, loving relationships will always be more about love. Your heart is the one telling you who to love and not your brain. So one's brain knowledge has very little to do with who she/he will fall in love with, while your heart's knowledge has all to do with it.

What people fail to understand, if you ask me, is that most work to be done is in our own hearts. We keep wanting to change people but are very reluctant to change ourselves. If you work towards getting yourself a better type of heart, the type of men/women that will be appealing to your heart's receiving end will be better. If you keep an ugly heart, what will be appealing to that heart's receiving end, will be the same. It really doesn't matter how educated and successful you are in the world with such a heart, a thug will always have an opportunity to come and thieve you out of those achievements and you won't be able to explain it.

PS.
I'm actually on vacation, so sorry for the delay on my replies!

Thanks IL ... I'm just trying my best. My beliefs are not too popular as most don't want to hear it but to me if you keep on falling for bad people, if the same type of people walks into your heart. The type of heart that you hold is the problem not these people. People will be who they are but why are they appealing to your heart? Is what you should be asking yourself. See that's what makes me appreciate people that walked into my life. Is the fact that their nature to an extent reveals my own heart and whether they still share my life or not, I appreciate them all equally for allowing me to see my own heart. So I can now work on being the change I would like to see in others.

"raysheart...i do love your perspective and insight on things ....you seem like such a good person to me"

I agree 100 % , and that's why I love him 🙂