Will my Scorpio ever forgive me? Please help!

Hi, I am a Virgo and I've been with a Scorpio nearly a year (will be a year next month). We have had our ups and downs but it seems it has smoothed out in the last 6 months. I have met his mom and dad and his friends and he has met my mother and my friends.

Well, yesterday, I had a REALLY bad day. Yelled at at work, then my mom was having a money issue and was talking to me for 2 hours about it, then my parttime job called and said they needed me to start early. So I get home and am exhausted. I get a text from him that says "Miss u, want me to come over and make u scream?" I had texted him earlier in the day about the problems I had at work. I was really ticked off that he was talking sex so I sent back "Look, u know I love when u come over but why does it always have to be abt. sex with u?" I got no response. Then I felt bad for being snappish and called him and he says "You don't want me to come over." I said I did just that I wished he'd been more romantic in his text and not just "Let me make u scream." He was quiet. I said I wanted him to come over. He said okay. AND HE NEVER CAME.

I was so frantic. I called his cell a half-dozen times sure he'd been beat up or jumped (I don't live in a great naeiborhood). He never answered. I texted "If u decided to stay home, that's ok, just let me know." Nothing. I went to sleep around 1 a.m. so scared he was hurting or dead or something. Today I see him on MSN and send him "OMG, you're OK, I was so worried! What happened last nite?" And he ignores me then signs off! I haven't heard from him.

I know Scorpios are sensitive and I have a Scorpio friend I called up in tears to ask what to do and he said "He is making u feel the pain because he felt u did not want him to come and he also was angry because he wanted to spend time with you and you made him feel bad because of his choice of words." But was it worth standing me up and making me worry sick? I am angry but I am hurt. He's never done this in a whole year of dating, always courteous and considerate and so sweet. I called him so much last night and with the blowoff on MSN I'm afraid to contact him anymore. I don't know what to do or what I did that was so wrong. If people can help, thank you. I just want things to be okay again. Just the day before we were holding each other talking about really personal things and I felt so close to him. Can't believe in 24 hours it's turned to this. 😢 I'm so sad, help me please ...

My opinion is that he's being immature by refusing to communicate but he'll forgive you, don't be afraid to talk to him, you just hurt his lil feelings and like your friend said he's trying to make u feel the hurt/embarrassment he felt.

He is just acting spoiled a little..Scorpios like that and he found an opportunity..
so don't worry, send him a message tomorrow or 2 days later and he will respond i am sure.

And yes, we Scorpios are sensetive and don't like to be answered like this even if we know you are mad or having a bad day.

Someonespecial, should I wait? I don't want to look like a stalker, I called him so much last nite and then tried to contact him today. But I am hurting and I want to reach out to him.

But Hypno, standing me up? I admit I was a little harsh but I was so worried! I really was afraid he'd been bashed in the head and left outside. He's never said he'd come over and just not showed, no call, no text or anything. Was what I said really worth him making me worry so much about whether he was alive or dead?

Elena90, pompous in what way? And no, I will not call him, I feel so stupid calling him so many times after it was clear he stood me up. But I really was worried. I live in a kind of bad neighborhood and some older guy was stabbed last week and people get mugged off the train all the time. So I had all these visions of him bleeding and helpless dancing in my head.

Are you a Scorpio? I guess more than his reaction I am perplexed as to why he got SO ANGRY at what I said.

"Was what I said really worth him making me worry so much about whether he was alive or dead?"

yes, he thinks you deserve that.

Tell me, what would you do? I wanted to march over to his apt. and curse him out for making me worry so much but my Scorpio friend said "NO, if you do that, not only will you turn him off, he will feel that you do not GET what you did to make him angry. To him, what he did was justified and if you scream at him over it, he will just assume you do not GET your part in why this happened."

But I am very angry now that I know he wasn't mugged or jumped and I feel disrespected.

But hypno, why? This is the man who 36 hours ago was telling me I was so beautiful and he was so lucky to have me! I make one comment and he thinks I deserve to be crying and staring out my apartment window looking for sirens? Does he not love me at all then? I really don't even understand what I did!

Not calling him or texting him for one last time tomorrow or after would make the problem bigger and the gap wider..if you want that then don't call him..cuz i am sure he won't comeback to you unless you call one last time.
It would seem like it's rediculous and immaturity, but if you wanna save whatever between you, then do the right thing.

Yes he overreacted by standing you up, that's not cool, we are definitely spoiled brats and need to work on not giving people we care about the silent treatment when they piss us off ... that's messed up, he's being vindictive cause u hurt his ego. I don't think it matters if you wait or not, if you tell him how u feel you won't seem like a stalker (u've been with him for a year) but whether u wait or not I think that he'll have to cool off in his own sweet time.....hopefully he'll feel bad for "torturing" u and improve his behavior...as long as he knows u still love him/want him he'll be back...if you can do something like make him laugh and lighten up a little bit he may stop sulking sooner, that works on me....again, it's just my opinion...good luck!

lol..i won't be surpsied if that guy is on Sag cusp 🙂

Listen to what someonespecial said..it's very true.

"But hypno, why? This is the man who 36 hours ago was telling me I was so beautiful and he was so lucky to have me! I make one comment and he thinks I deserve to be crying and staring out my apartment window looking for sirens? Does he not love me at all then? I really don't even understand what I did!"

He does love you..you need to know more about Scorpio's nature, one year with him and you haven't figured out him and how he thinks but it's ok, with time you will.
Like SomeoneSpecial said..just text him with something funny or say you love him..and he will respond i am sure.

Elena, yes, I tend to try to analyze everything but here I can except that I hurt him without fully understanding why or how I hurt him - but I'm afraid not having that understanding will hurt us in the long run relationship wise. But I can let that go for now.

Hypno, I am torn. On one hand I want to call him, but on the other hand, I see Elena's point. I was near hysterics last night, though I only left one message. He knows I was worried sick and not mad and he knows that today, too, from when I messaged him on MSN. It's not about not wanting to be humble, I just don't want to look like a nutcase. It seems clear he does NOT want to talk to me right now and I feel awkward forcing conversation.

Someonespecial, thank you for all that. I do understand that. I am trying though to walk the line between understanding and pushover. I have been told before that I am too easygoing. I feel like he more than overreacted - he broke a promise and disrespected me. He knew I was waiting for him and deliberately did not show/call/text. I feel like if I send him some funny message or email it will be like saying he can treat me however he wants. I can understand my fault in this but I feel that what he did was very disrespectful. 😢

"I can understand my fault in this but I feel that what he did was very disrespectful"

He overreacted yes, but nobody is perfect..
After you both make up, just sit with him and tell him quitely that you made a mistake but he disrespected you too..so in future he will avoid doing such things.

"I feel awkward forcing conversation. "

Don't start a conversation, text him instead, and assure him you like him or love him..and leave the rest to him.

VirGenny, what's his birthday?

It is Nov 13.

He is back on MSN. I am invisible. I want so badly to reach out to him, it is hard. As a Virgo, this is a mindbender. Hypno, what did you mean when you said that after a year I still don't understand him? I thought I was doing okay until now.

You're right, it was disrespectful, immature and unnecessarily cruel. You two should talk it out once he cools off.

Yes it was, someonespecial. That is why I really am afraid he will never talk to me again! Who does that to someone they love? He knows I was in a bad mood and didn't mean anything strange by what I said.

He'll talk to u again don't worry about that! If he knew u had a bad day maybe "making you scream" was his way of trying to comfort you...lol...He loves u which is why he's so hurt but I think he really overreacted...once u two have made up u need to let him know that his reaction wasn't cool cause u were worried....I hope it works out for the best....

To OP

Now may be the time to seriously consider whether you want to invest anymore time on someone who you are going to be "walking on eggshells" around.

For one thing, this was a texting exchange right? When you text you can't really inflect emotion. Its not like you called him and screamed to high hell about him only thinking about sex, right? If that was the case, then I could understand his anger. But the childish behavior of giving you the silent treatment is ridiculous no matter what.

Try to get him to see the humor in it maybe? Please don't be a pushover, as that will just be an invite for you to have to watch your words to him constantly. Who wants that? It is a very stressful way to live.

**I was really ticked off that he was talking sex so I sent back "Look, u know I love when u come over but why does it always have to be abt. sex with u?" I got no response.**

His first response should have been, "what's wrong? Did you have a bad day?" instead of just ignoring you. Scorps are supposed to be "investigative" right? So why didn't he make the effort to find out why you were so snappish that day (the yelling at the office, your mom's money matters, etc)?

I think he's being childish. He knows that you want him and now he's using that to take his petty revenge on you.

Just apologize for that snappy message, explain that you had a bad day that day and then leave the matter alone. Occupy yourself with other matters.

sagiGoat, we have a famous saying here in Syria says "you wanna take the grapes or fight the guard?" or to make it more clear "do you wanna escape the prison or fight the guards?"..
If she loves him and want him in her life then she should do what it takes to save that, yelling at him and showing him that she is angry would make it worse, she would satisfy her pride and ego but she probably would lose him, i hate to yell at anyone ..even when i scream at someone i hate i juts regret it and feel sorry inside me after a while..
We all agree that he must grow up and stop acting this way, but would this happen in one day just by yelling at him? the idea here is to sit together and talk calmly and tell him that she is sorry for the harsh response but also how angry she was and scared at the same time for not showing up and not answering her..and make him promise not to do that again..all this should be done peacefully..he will understand, esp cuz he doesn't wanna lose you.

Not calling him or texting him again, would make it worse like i said before..now he is calm and know what he did because you told him how worried you were..but he needs to save his face now, he is just waiting for a warm message from you that doesn't contain yelling,complaining or anything such..just warm one..and he will find it as opportunity to comeback with dignity..
love is about compromises, try to change each other but slowly and gently..if you just give up from first obstacle, then no love relationship in the whole world would continue.

I don't know SG, i just think it's not right at all, maybe if he does it again then that is another case..but now i would assume he is not stupid to do it again if he has been told "quietly" not to do so.

I agree with Hypno, my Scorp guy has done this to me to. He's not going anywhere you just hurt his feelings. It's not hard to do....count yourself lucky that you've been with him for a year & this is the 1st time you've gotten a reaction like this.

"HYPO...you surprise me every passing day"

You know me for 2 days only now, and you are surprised..so it turned to be i am not that beast you thought i am.

Your Scorpio (in some weird way) was trying to make you feel better by the text he sent you that day. Scorpio men (and most men in general) identify and show their love with sex. He is hurt because he feels like he was reaching out to you to make you feel better by coming over and holding you and "making you scream" because that is what would have made him feel better if he was in the same situation. You just need to tell him that you are sorry that you overreacted, then when he forgives you then you can communicate to him that next time he wants to comfort you just to tell you that he wants to come over and hold you and make it all better. You just need to explain to him that you are different than him.