A need for understanding

First I'm a pisces. He is a taurus. We met and quickly knew we were right for eachother. He knows I'm insecure from all I've been through. But I am strong, and confident in myself and my abilities. Love at first site. He told me first. We both felt how natural and a perfect fit we were for eachother. Like we have known eachother for ever. He is my soulmate.

My son went away a few weeks later for the summer. We had time to ourselves for once. But before that we found ways to have that time together. Now that my son has come back he thinks there isn't any way to be like before. As far as at my house. His home is off limits because he is caring for his elderly father.

He became distant after my son came home. I get he is working alot. And taking care of his dad. I am a worry wart. So after about 5 days of his silence. And me just saying good morning and goodnight and just telling him about what's going on. I went over to his house. To see if he was alright. Now I didn't realize at this time his home wss off limits completely. I now know I over stepped my bounds. I have apologized for it. And told him I understand I disrespected him. Before I could though this is what happened

Saturday morning I get this message from him,

"What in the he'll where you thinking!!! My father was very upset by you sending that woman over to the house!! There is no excuse for doing that!! There could be no more selfish of an act than that!! Don't contact me!! I will contact you when I am ready!!"

The thing is I didn't send anyone. It was me who went over. Like I said I admitted to what I did, and that it was out of concern for both of them. But yet, I still hear nothing. He gave me no choice but to reply. Because of the fact I didn't do what was said.

I'm waiting as patiently as I can. Is there still love? Is there still the intense wanting and needing for me he has had? I'm truly scared.

Personally I would like to hear from a taurus man about what they may think.

I understand his father possibly thought I sent someone over to "check" on him (the father) and not my bf. But it was just me.

Tonight I sent a picture of what I was wearing that day and asked him to ask his father if that was the woman. Showing that I wouldn't do that to him. I wouldn't send someone else. That is cowardly and very selfish. I was just concerned. And yes I worried the worst had happened. And that he needed me there to help him through it all. I was being who I was. And now I feel I'm being punished for caring and worrying about the man I love with all of my being. And now I'm just sitting here dying inside. This waiting is literally tearing me apart!

Posted by dixdanielle
First I'm a pisces. He is a taurus. We met and quickly knew we were right for eachother. He knows I'm insecure from all I've been through. But I am strong, and confident in myself and my abilities. Love at first site. He told me first. We both felt how natural and a perfect fit we were for eachother. Like we have known eachother for ever. He is my soulmate.

My son went away a few weeks later for the summer. We had time to ourselves for once. But before that we found ways to have that time together. Now that my son has come back he thinks there isn't any way to be like before. As far as at my house. His home is off limits because he is caring for his elderly father.

He became distant after my son came home. I get he is working alot. And taking care of his dad. I am a worry wart. So after about 5 days of his silence. And me just saying good morning and goodnight and just telling him about what's going on. I went over to his house. To see if he was alright. Now I didn't realize at this time his home wss off limits completely. I now know I over stepped my bounds. I have apologized for it. And told him I understand I disrespected him. Before I could though this is what happened

Saturday morning I get this message from him,

"What in the he'll where you thinking!!! My father was very upset by you sending that woman over to the house!! There is no excuse for doing that!! There could be no more selfish of an act than that!! Don't contact me!! I will contact you when I am ready!!"

The thing is I didn't send anyone. It was me who went over. Like I said I admitted to what I did, and that it was out of concern for both of them. But yet, I still hear nothing. He gave me no choice but to reply. Because of the fact I didn't do what was said.

I'm waiting as patiently as I can. Is there still love? Is there still the intense wanting and needing for me he has had? I'm truly scared.

Girl, I am PISCEAN too. Yeah, "What the hell were you thinking?" How can you be INSECURE and "confident" (so you say?). As Pisceans we EMPATHIZE and SYMPATHIZE! Have YOU ever had to care for a loved on at home? I remember growing up we took care of my maternal grandfather (he had leukemia). Girl! My dad had to change the bedpan (he was a medic in the Army); and knew how to give my grandfather morphine shots and my grandfather's room had that "smell" of such scents when one is at home being taken care of, etc! Girl, you need to bring about these scenarios in your head (when he tells you SOMETHING; as to "why" he cannot see you) and yeah, empathize and sympathize! I forgot to inform you I am currently seeing (solid!) a Taurean, his name is John.

MY example so you can see it from my eyes: John has a 16 yr old from a previous marriage; I have an 11 year old (going on 21) from a previous marriage. My son (NOT normal visitation weekend) is going to see his dad this weekend with my "permission" and John has HIS son this weekend. Am I going to bombard John with messages of, "I want to see you", "Bring your son to my house", or "The three of us can do things together this weekend" etc. Will I JEOPARDIZE my "early" relationship by informing John I am going to the club tonight? NOPE & Hell no! I empathize and sympathize because this is John's weekend with his son. Not my BUSINESS to "butt in" by asking him the above questions via text today (weekend).

You did a no, no, as okay, call me old fashioned, but I FEEL you're close if not about my age (give or take 10 years). My mom NEVER liked the fact of having her children's girlfriend/boyfriend come over uninvited; that's what you did. You knocked on the door "uninvited" and didn't respect his ailing father's wish not to have anyone come over to the house to see his father in that condition.

He mentioned to you, "I will contact you when I'm ready". Dang, girl...that tells you the balls on HIS court. You GOTTA keep a picture of Taurus. When they get MAD they blow smoke outta their nostrils, turn red, and charge! (OH! and by the way, my 11 yr old {going on 21} is also Taurus). He's fuming. It takes time for him to calm down. I don't wanna do something to hurt/upset MY Taurean, John. Learn from your mistakes girl. All I can say is, "Good luck" and yeah, I know you'll come back and ask me (as if all my words went in one ear and out the other), "Should I call him and apologize?" Nope; just let him be. Work on your "insecurities" and don't tell yourself you're confident, because, sorry, you're not. Sorry, I tried three times to add a jpg and the best I could do was this one (as it proves how Taureans are when MAD).



🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

At the time I didn't completely know that coming over because of being worried was a no no. I was trying to be supportive to his situation at that time. Everything was wonderful right before he went quiet. I had no idea why he even went quiet. So I started to worry something bad had happened to his father and wanted to show him I was there for him. I didnt ask him to come over or bug him. Just a good morning and goodnight and tell him about my days. And this is before i went over and he got mad. I did my normal thing I always did. He always told me before he got mad at me that I never bugged him sending messages. That he looked forward to my messages. He knows I worry alot and had told me that it showed I cared very much. Had told me that never to quit being me.

Yes I know I overstepped now. And I have already apologized. That day. I get I have to wait for him. But to be accused of doing something I didn't do. (Sending someone else over) and him asking me what I was thinking and in the same breath telling me not to contact him. So yes I did comtacy him right then. But also I can't stand being told that I did something I didn't do.

I do know if I had ignored him without any warning as to what was going on, he would have been over at my house in a heartbeat to check on me. To make sure I was ok.especially if I had not responded or read any of his messages. And given no reason for my silence.

Only recently after he got mad do I now know they go silent for anything. Because of reading up on what tauruses do. I didn't know that before all of this happened. So i am learning. And i am listening.

Thank you Eva for responding.

i know you only want taurus men to respond but i will say this.

you knew that he felt protective about his privacy at home

Posted by dixdanielle
His home is off limits because he is caring for his elderly father.

come on. you went because you didn't like being ignored so you felt you could push the issue. it backfired.

No I didn't go over there because of that. It was because I had seriously thought his dad passed. I would never go over because of just being ignored. I was and still am genuinely worried about both of them.

Posted by dixdanielle
No I didn't go over there because of that. It was because I had seriously thought his dad passed. I would never go over because of just being ignored. I was and still am genuinely worried about both of them.

you thought his dad had passed and you wanted to pay your respects to his dead body because you were close?

if his dad had passed, then it was still his choice to call you. he didn't.

it ends at the same outcome, you wanted to push your presence. it wasn't about him, it was about you. maybe you thought he would crash into your arms and you could be there to save the day. oh how he would be so thankful to you and all that you have done. you could be there in his time of grief to wipe away his tears. what a hero you would appear to him.

you wanted to control what was happening. doing stupid things in the name of "worrying" about our partners is about relieving our anxiety. it's not about them.

A hero!? No. It was about being there for him in, what I had thought, a time of need. That's it.

Jeane, maybe you are right. But I just know my purest of intentions was for them both. I never thought of it in that sense. And now sitting here reading back to what you said it's possible. But that was not what I was thinking. I had thought to have thwit best interest at heart.

I know this is not an excuse. But this is one reason I always ask my guy for his guidance. Eva you were talking about how your mom never allowed to have others show up uninvited. I never grew up that way. Everyone was always welcomed. But then again I grew up in a home that was nothing but drugs and abuse. The reason why all were welcomed was because of the fact my parents friends were drug users as well. Or big time drinkers. I was a loner. Spend most of my time in school. Band and orchestra mostly for after school. Guidance was not something I got. So I truly don't know. All I know is not to do what my parents did. Don't be mean, don't abuse, don't use drugs and alcohol. I do my best to be the best I can. And yes I make mistakes. I do learn from them. And continue to grow even to this day. I don't want to mess up. I am a perfectionist. And it hurts when I do mess up. That is why I try so hard to fix things. Unfortunately without guidance sometime I mess things up worse because I try to hard. And I do to want to do this with him. I want to learn and understand from his point of view. That is why I came here asking. Because I truly did not understand why this was happening. Why I asked for help with understanding.

Thank you ladies

I'm not understanding why his house is off limits??

How long have you been dating? Have you talked commitment, bf/gf tittle?

Aside from his word do you have any concrete confirmation that his father is indeed ill?

Posted by dixdanielle
Jeane, maybe you are right. But I just know my purest of intentions was for them both. I never thought of it in that sense. And now sitting here reading back to what you said it's possible. But that was not what I was thinking. I had thought to have thwit best interest at heart.

I know this is not an excuse. But this is one reason I always ask my guy for his guidance. Eva you were talking about how your mom never allowed to have others show up uninvited. I never grew up that way. Everyone was always welcomed. But then again I grew up in a home that was nothing but drugs and abuse. The reason why all were welcomed was because of the fact my parents friends were drug users as well. Or big time drinkers. I was a loner. Spend most of my time in school. Band and orchestra mostly for after school. Guidance was not something I got. So I truly don't know. All I know is not to do what my parents did. Don't be mean, don't abuse, don't use drugs and alcohol. I do my best to be the best I can. And yes I make mistakes. I do learn from them. And continue to grow even to this day. I don't want to mess up. I am a perfectionist. And it hurts when I do mess up. That is why I try so hard to fix things. Unfortunately without guidance sometime I mess things up worse because I try to hard. And I do to want to do this with him. I want to learn and understand from his point of view. That is why I came here asking. Because I truly did not understand why this was happening. Why I asked for help with understanding.

Thank you ladies

That's cool. I think it's important to recognise Taurus need for privacy. Now for the shady ones, this privacy can be a great cover for shady shit. For others, they need their privacy to sort things out. They don't want to appear weak so that leads to secrets.

I think taurus are almost as secretive as scorps. At the start of a relationship, I know too well that you're feeling a bit insecure, a bit panicky. After all, here is this great guy and you don't want to lose him (for whatever reason).

I get it. You world might be open, their's isn't. I have spent months (years?!) trying to get my partner to open up. We've fought over it. Many times. It's torture at the start because insecurity (or as you call it, worrying) is going to be at its peak.

You've both professed your love for one another but you have to wait it out for him to feel completely at peace with you. If he is anything like my fella, it's going to take time.

We have been together for 3 months now. Yes we are bf/gf. He has told me countless time he loves wants and needs me. By his side for the rest of his life. And accidently told me one night before going home, "I love you wife". Yes there is a commitment.

Yes his father is ill. When I went over to see if my guy was ok. His father is the one who answered. And yes he is frail. There are reasons why I worry about all of this. My guy has shared alot with me on it all. I just cannot go into detail about it. At least not publically.

Thank you Jeane. There are alot of reasons I worry. I never knew alot of what most grew up with. I can be childish at times. Because I really don't know. And I do learn to not do those things again.

Besides me loving him with everything I am and he completes me. The reasons I don't want to lose him is because he grounds me. When my head is so far up a clouds butt he brings me back to reality. And I'm not worried or daydreaming anymore. He helps me to figure out what I need to do in order to be a better me. He teaches me and guides me. I guess this is one reason I kind of freaked when he went silent. I got used to his constant presence and guidance. But also he is just the most amazing man I have ever known. He shows me and tells me all the time that I am a wonderful woman. (Last relationship ended with my ex moving another woman into my home and kicking me out. Yes I was replaced.) That I am nothing but sweet kind and compassionate. Loving and caring. I know I am all of that. It's because of what I've been through. I don't want to hurt him or disrespect him. I want to do all I can that makes him happy. I want to be his best friend, lover, woman. Someone he can count on. And I am learning, unfortunately through my mistakes, with him. And he knows all about my past and fears.

Posted by dixdanielle
We have been together for 3 months now. Yes we are bf/gf. He has told me countless time he loves wants and needs me. By his side for the rest of his life. And accidently told me one night before going home, "I love you wife". Yes there is a commitment.

Yes his father is ill. When I went over to see if my guy was ok. His father is the one who answered. And yes he is frail. There are reasons why I worry about all of this. My guy has shared alot with me on it all. I just cannot go into detail about it. At least not publically.

Or maybe he is actually married which is why he doesn't want you over. He's just using his father as an excuse.

I know that he isn't married. It's not that I don't trust him. I just do my checks and balances before I commit to anyone. Just to make sure. That's one thing I would avoid. Especially since I have my son here at home.

Op you went over there because you were getting ignored and you are insecure. Stop lying to us and stop lying to yourself. You went WAY too far.

Do you know the type of care it takes to take care of an elderly? It's very time consuming and it's draining. You should understand that it's not all about you. Wow very very selfish.

Something is 'fishy' about this Taurus.

I will admit, Bulls are fiercely private people, and we can be quite protective of our loved ones.

However, this is only applicable to individuals we're not close to, or we're in the process of getting to know.

The OP has passed the stage. There is no assessment. They are in a solidified relationship.

So why this unwarranted negativity from the Taurus?

Question?

Why hasn't she met his father?

A Bulls motto: We never burn bridges to people who are loyal to us.

If the Bull continues his unnecssary bantering, the fish will swim away.

....And she will take her loyalty with her. No one wants to date an asshole, and certainly not a Pisces.

They can be dreamers, but they DO have a low tolerance for apathy.



If my man went missing for 5 days, damn real I'm coming over and checking his ass, and I wish he would tell me to go home...like hell!

I haven't met his father yet because of him being sick. Until I came over to see if they were ok. I've been to his home once briefly. 4th of July. And yes in it. Got yo meet his son for a minute. That's it.

In three months, you were in his home, one time only?

Why?

Other than his dad is sick. I don't know.

Posted by dixdanielle


Saturday morning I get this message from him,

"What in the he'll where you thinking!!! My father was very upset by you sending that woman over to the house!! There is no excuse for doing that!! There could be no more selfish of an act than that!! Don't contact me!! I will contact you when I am ready!!"

The father never met you. He doesn't know what you look like. But for some reason, he believes that you sent someone else.

The logical question to ask if a young woman enters the house is "Are you the woman my son is seeing?"

Unless you're the nurse or the neighbor, who else would you be?

Question,

Did you introduce yourself when you entered the home?

I didn't see his father when I went into the home on the 4th. It was brief because my guy had to get his sons friend to move their car so he could take me home. His father was asleep at that time.

When I went over I to see if they were ok I stood outside. Yes I did say who I was. Unfortunately he took me as someone else provably because I said if you could please tell him Danielle asked if he could call her. That could have been the confusion. Poor choice of words on my part

Honestly,

It doesn't feel as if you're in a relationship with this Taurus man.

He's leading you on.

Your actions are too cautious, very similar to the movements of a 'sidepiece' that is supposed to be a 'kept' secret.

You were so nervous being there, you 'trumped' your words by using your name in a third person.

Words are sweet, but actions are more solid.

As an Earth sign, himself, he should know better.

His movements with you are on his terms-ONLY.

This is what it's looking like.

You only met the son when he needed the son's friend to move the car?

When a Bull is truly in love with you, we will show you before we tell you.

We're Earth Signs.

He's running the mouth, and nothing to back it up.

"He will call you when he is good and ready?"

Don't wait by the phone.

I seriously have not given that any thought. One because he has taken me out to places where he can be seen with me out in public near his home. And when we are together out in those places there is tons of pda. *blushes* Heck we met right down the street from his house put in public for all to see.

Then again who knows. I'm an uber driver so I'm all over this county and where he lives is a major hotspot. So I'm always over there driving and picking people up. And have been right near his house a time or two to either pick up or drop off. I've never seen anything that would red flag while driving by. Im also not looking for that either.

Who knows what may be going on. But one thing for sure. I did at the beginning of the relationship ask him that if he ever need space to let me know. So that I could give him that space. All men need space from time to time. I know this. But to shut me out without notice. I worried because of the things going on with his father. You are right. It is by what he is telling me only. Not me seeing other than the day I went over to see if they are ok. I don't know for now. But it will be brought up if he ever does talk to me again.

The part that is off for me is how quickly this relationship has moved. 3 months in and saying I love you already?

You can't know each other in three months and we all know how tight lipped bulls can be when it comes to matters of the heart.

Calling her wife and then hiding his father away is incongruous. One of these things is not true.

As a Taurus male going out w a Pisces female, all I can say is you should be able to read your Taurus counter part like a book cause Pisces are pretty smart in figuring stuff out, it's like being sensitive is in your goddamn DNA.

But yeah your Taurus is a lil bit off I think , yeah I get it it's really stressful worrying about too many things at once but his home being off limits to you is kinda shady as hell.

On the other hand, your Taurus might not fully trust you, cause it takes a lot for me at least to build trust , so I suggest find that out or build that trust up.

Also, if he really meant what he say and loves you, which rarely a Taurus say, he'll come around.

Also again, I'm really really sorry I can't finish this advice phone is dying

Im sorry but.. Why was he upset? Why wouldn't he be happy you cared?? That type of anger is odd and sounds very fishy to me.. And here's the deal.. If he IS your soulmate it will all work out he will forgive you for whatever bs he thought was wrong and you'll live happily ever after. If hes not your soulmate most likely it won't last. Love at first sight doesn't exist.. Unless he said that to con you.. Good luck!

This is why I'm on here. Trying to figure things out. Trying to understand if I really did overstep and was wrong. I have never had any I'll feelings about what he has told me or the way he has acted towards me or around me. In private or public. He has always been respectful, loving, caring. This is why it struck me odd in the first place he just stopped. There was nothing to indicate anything was wrong with us. So I began to worry about his father. And nothing but silence. Then yes I go over to make sure they were alright. The next day was that message to me. First I heard from him in 5 days. And it was devastating to me as I got accused of doing something I didn't. And I told him what I did. And now a week later still nothing. It didn't make sense to me.

Wish I knew how to upload on here so I can show what was said. From his own words. On phone.

Atleast you didn't wait 16 years to try and make a life with him. My Taurus guy has retreated for now, and all I can do is pray that he realizes that I love him and that I will do everything I can to prove it. Unfortunately right now you'll have to just leave him be. He will come back when he figures out whatever it is he's struggling with. If he doesn't then you dodged a bullet. I know it's hard, but it will be totally worth it in the end. Send flowers or just live your life while you wait. I know all too welll what you're going through. If he really loves you... he will come around. Hugs

He sounds shady as hell. My guess is that he has other women who he DOES invite over and you being there, especially uninvited would blow that entire situation up.

He says all these great things but his father doesn't even know WHO you are or what you look like.

You all may be right. I guess I will have to start really looking into it. I just took it that his father being sick just wasn't the right time. I never really pressed the issue either. It's just not the way I am. I just truly hope I am not that darned gullable to not see it. It's saddening to even think about it. Especially since what happened in my last relationship.

@DixDanielle,

The 'go with the flow' attitude is fine. But ALWAYS establish boundaries.

Posted by jeane
The part that is off for me is how quickly this relationship has moved. 3 months in and saying I love you already?

You can't know each other in three months and we all know how tight lipped bulls can be when it comes to matters of the heart.

Calling her wife and then hiding his father away is incongruous. One of these things is not true.

When you're given a 'title'....be sure the respect goes with it.

Everyone thank you for your opinions and advice. Hopefully soon this issue will be resolved and I will know for sure what is really going on. I am going to have a very long convo with him. As soon as he contacts me again. We will see. In the meantime if I happen to drop off or pick up anyone close I will look harder now. Yeah things are starting to rub me the wrong way. Certain aspects.

One thing I am wondering. What do I do when and if he comes back? I don't want to sound like a babbling idiot. But I also want to make it known that he needs to give me a heads up when he goes incognito and I don't worry myself to death. As well as how confused I am with everything at the moment. I do love him with all that I am. I want to work on this. And move past. Yes I now have suspicions. But I still don't get a feeling of cheating. Just he is dealing with tons of stuff at the moment.

Thank you Scorpio. I will. But I will also listen to to him to understand his point of view.

Before he went quiet, he said he was totally in love with me and that he would always be there for me and take care of all my wants and needs. That he loved, wanted, and needed me. I never felt any untrue feelings from him. The way he always looked at me was of pure adoration and love. Definitely made my heart skip a beat. So from what everyone has said. If he truly does love me the way he said, then I will wait.

I won't do anything to pester him. Just keep on working and taking care of my son. Last year of high school. Never know he may just be waiting for my son to move on so he can have me all to himself permanently. I do know he says that I am his for life. So I'm just hoping. And will continue to send understanding, belonging, forgiveness, and unconditional love to him the best I know how. Telepathically. And keep thinking positive thoughts of the way things were.

I'm not sure if this has any meaning but last night when I did my sending of love yo him. I usually envision him sitting in from of me. This time when I offered the love my vision was of him taking my hands from his third eye to his heart and accepted my gift. I never push it. I always ask for his acceptance. I do believe in this.

I do believe in what I can offer. It's not much. Just being the best I can be and there for him when he needs me. And if it comes to a time we are living together I would definitely be the best house wife I can be. And yes I do want that. I always try my best with everything I do.

My son will always come first. That could have been one reason why he went quiet. I wanted to take my son out the weekend he got back. Do things with him. Because I hadn't seen him all summer. But my boy was exhausted. He was walking around Boston all summer. Well one of the town's 30 away from it. So I let him sleep it off. We did things that week after. No biggie. i'm only guess that because I didnt spend fun times with my son he got.peeved and went quiet. But my boy slept all day. I worked all night. Not much I can do. He is almost 18. 2 months. I don't want him to think I chose him over my son. I didn't. I let my son sleep as he had a busy summer with his friends and dad. Now that he was hime with mom he got to relax. And that's ok with me. It's been a year since he saw his dad last. He sees mom everyday.

Even my son wanted to see my guy. He missed him too. He thought highly of him. Was greatly appreciative that he took care of his mom during the summer while he was gone. Can a taurus guy get jealous of his girls son? Weird for me to think of. Just sat here thinking that as I wrote it.

Alot if my insecurities have to do with childhood abuse, parents drug use and alcoholism, and the abuse of boy friends and cheating. But I always try to get over those. Some I have. Others are still fresh in my mind.

Posted by dixdanielle
I do believe in what I can offer. It's not much. Just being the best I can be and there for him when he needs me. And if it comes to a time we are living together I would definitely be the best house wife I can be. And yes I do want that. I always try my best with everything I do.

My son will always come first. That could have been one reason why he went quiet. I wanted to take my son out the weekend he got back. Do things with him. Because I hadn't seen him all summer. But my boy was exhausted. He was walking around Boston all summer. Well one of the town's 30 away from it. So I let him sleep it off. We did things that week after. No biggie. i'm only guess that because I didnt spend fun times with my son he got.peeved and went quiet. But my boy slept all day. I worked all night. Not much I can do. He is almost 18. 2 months. I don't want him to think I chose him over my son. I didn't. I let my son sleep as he had a busy summer with his friends and dad. Now that he was hime with mom he got to relax. And that's ok with me. It's been a year since he saw his dad last. He sees mom everyday.

Even my son wanted to see my guy. He missed him too. He thought highly of him. Was greatly appreciative that he took care of his mom during the summer while he was gone. Can a taurus guy get jealous of his girls son? Weird for me to think of. Just sat here thinking that as I wrote it.

Alot if my insecurities have to do with childhood abuse, parents drug use and alcoholism, and the abuse of boy friends and cheating. But I always try to get over those. Some I have. Others are still fresh in my mind.

I think you are over thinking things.

You met 3 months ago. He is keeping things from you. You certainly shouldn't be thinking about being his housewife yet. There are so many hurdles to cross before you even get to that stage.

And if you are still dealing with issues from previous relationships then even more reason to pace yourself.

Best relationships are formed when each person enters it with clean hands.

Probably. I just want clarification on where things stand. And if it's over then closure. This is literally eating away at me. But I still pour out my love. Because that's who I am.

the only thing I can think of is he may be ashamed about a not clean house.... I mean, if 3 man live (the sick father, him and his son, If I understood it correctly) together, it can be untidy...

but other than that, I would be very disappointed in his harsh reaction, and would not overapologize...

but, I would never go to his house either (like in circumstances like this, uninvited)

And, Danielle, if you go somewhere to ask about somebody, just tell your name, thats a first thing, you introduce yourself, you tell your full name and who are you, like: hi, my name is Danielle Lawrence, I am friend of Taurus, is he at home? Father: no, he is not. You: Can you please tell him I was there and if he can call me? or May I leave him a message? Can you lend me a pen and paper please?

or something like that 🙂

you two behave very strangely, both of you.... but maybe you both are a bit "awkward" 🙂

I was nervous going over there. Yes poor choice of words on my part. I'm not contacting him anymore. Just waiting. And hoping he will finally come back. I just don't know How long. I said before I grew up where everyone was welcomed. No matter. As long as we knew them. Granted it's not an excuse. But I was very worried about them. Especially since he went quiet for no apparent reason. Other than his father. I should have just waited.

I will always put my son first. What I meant is when my son decides to move up with his dad and goes to college up there. It's where he wants to be. That is why I say move on. Because it's what my son wants. I don't want to be up there. It's too expensive for me. Down here is manageable.

As far as anything moving past this. Yes he has to answer for all this. I'm still waiting. But I'm dealing with my life. Being as strong as I can for myself and my son. Working long hours and sleeping when I can. Getting my son to and from school. That is my life. Always has been. And will be until my boy goes up north.

Posted by dixdanielle
I do believe in what I can offer. It's not much. Just being the best I can be and there for him when he needs me. And if it comes to a time we are living together I would definitely be the best house wife I can be. And yes I do want that. I always try my best with everything I do.

My son will always come first. That could have been one reason why he went quiet. I wanted to take my son out the weekend he got back. Do things with him. Because I hadn't seen him all summer. But my boy was exhausted. He was walking around Boston all summer. Well one of the town's 30 away from it. So I let him sleep it off. We did things that week after. No biggie. i'm only guess that because I didnt spend fun times with my son he got.peeved and went quiet. But my boy slept all day. I worked all night. Not much I can do. He is almost 18. 2 months. I don't want him to think I chose him over my son. I didn't. I let my son sleep as he had a busy summer with his friends and dad. Now that he was hime with mom he got to relax. And that's ok with me. It's been a year since he saw his dad last. He sees mom everyday.

Even my son wanted to see my guy. He missed him too. He thought highly of him. Was greatly appreciative that he took care of his mom during the summer while he was gone. Can a taurus guy get jealous of his girls son? Weird for me to think of. Just sat here thinking that as I wrote it.

Alot if my insecurities have to do with childhood abuse, parents drug use and alcoholism, and the abuse of boy friends and cheating. But I always try to get over those. Some I have. Others are still fresh in my mind.

The first paragraph is rather concerning. It's been three months. That's still very early. Dating stage or exclusive dating stage. Not 'pin all your hopes and dreams on some guy you've barely known for five minutes who frankly sounds a bit sociopathic by promising you with words and failing with his actions' stage.

But... this is what you want. So be it.

Oh and all that third eye crap, how's that working out for you with him?