Anyone have a knife....

to go with this fork, b/c I think we're done.....
Long Story short, told Bull (who i haven't seen in 12 years) I was coming to visit had a male friend rooming with me(my other friends couldn't make the trip last minute and I booked everything for myself already). Bull didnt like that idea and started asking questions about my male friend (roomie) who is like a big brother to me. He obviously got jealous. I told him not to worry and that me and my roomie were just friends. I don't think he bought it.

SO, i fly in, told him I was there but we missed each other. Friday, he calls and asks me about my plans Friday night. I told him none, but possibly dinner. He asks if my friend was there. I told him not yet. He tells me that he's uncomfortable w/ the 3 of us being there together. I tell him not to worry and roomie has plans whout me so he and I are okay to hang out. He never shows. Saturday night- no call no show. By now, I am upset and leave a vm saying "you once told me that time is the most important thing you can offer a person. Spending time with them. I wish I didn't travel 1200 miles to find out how important I am to you."

Sunday morning, Im at the airport and he sends me a txt asking where I was. i told him going home. He said he thought I wasn't going back until Monday. I told him I never said that. I told him that I had a special time planned for us to just chill out and talk and have some fun (dinner & dancing) like we discussed before. He apolologized saying he was so sorry but said that he really didn't like the fact that I had a guy there with me that he didn't know. I told him that he still could have called but he didn't and now I must move on.

What do you all think? My mom says that I should have been a little more sensitive to his insecurity about me and that he was jealous because of my friend. she says that I already know he has trust issues and that probably just added to it since I brought my friend with me at the last minute. She also suggested that I switch shoes w/ him and think about how I would feel. She is advising that I write a heartfelt letter and be completely honest w/ him as I haven't always been nor has he been (emotionally) to rebuild trust.

THOUGHTS— Thanks everyone!

didnt mean to sound immature, to bring up the mom thing... but she's the most knowledgable in my world..LOL

Your life is not on hold for anyone. Life go on and we all share the same 24 hours. Apologize to yourself for questioning your integrity. You did nothing inappropriate, considering your boundaries and roommate space was obviously well thought out. The "Salt" in this bowl of soup was already seasoned before the "Bull" sat down to eat and then he threw more "salt" in the game to make you doubt yourself. No apologies, or regrets for being good to yourself. There's a reason why it' been 12 yrs I'm sure since you've hooked up. So don't fret, all should be good after the "Bull" cools off!

LLFU