Bulls and Conflict?

It seems pretty common for Taurus people to play everything close to the vest, but if there's a problem or something you're not comfortable with, do you tend to not talk about it and hope it goes away? If you have a problem with a SO, would you want them to bring up the problem on their own?

Reason I ask is the same Taurean girl I've been seeing for some time until we hit a rocky patch (from my other post in Taurus forums). We hadn't talked much, and seen one another in a month until I had to see her for an appointment. She was busy, so we didn't speak a lot, but I did manage to tell her that I miss spending time with her, and that I do still think about her. She said, "If you say so..." with a shy and flirty smile. The next day she texts me saying she hopes I have a great day, and that she was going out to the beach to do some "soul searching". I told her that I hope she finds what she's looking for, and that I'll leave her be. I then offered myself as an ear to her pain if she needed it, and she thanked me.

Silence followed, and I'm trying to at least move on by talking to other women, not going around sleeping around. She knows I still like her, and want to see her, so I'm just letting her come to terms with everything. Lo and behold, two days after her soul search, she randomly texts me that she hopes I have a great day.

If she doesn't want to be with me, why the heck does she keep sending me random well wishes? It's as though she can't let me go, but she can't commit either (this I know from discussion). Also, I'm really bad at any conflict, so I try not to bring up anything that may or may not be there...Pisces, hah!

@ShadowAbsorber Thank you 🙂.

I tend to agree with you, but I know many people say that it can make you look clingy to constantly be around someone who isn't reciprocating as much. She's definitely gored me with those horns of hers, but I'm not going to let her buck me off unless she really needs to. I'll keep on the rodeo, not because I want her in my life, but because I know that it's better when she is, even if that means we're just friends.

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@ShadowAbsorber Thank you 🙂.

I tend to agree with you, but I know many people say that it can make you look clingy to constantly be around someone who isn't reciprocating as much. She's definitely gored me with those horns of hers, but I'm not going to let her buck me off unless she really needs to. I'll keep on the rodeo, not because I want her in my life, but because I know that it's better when she is, even if that means we're just friends.

@adwand2k....What a great way to look at it!! @ShadowAbsorber is dead on..She's a Taurus, so she knows. I've dated Taurus's in the past and they were great once you break through the shell. Once they let you into their heart, you're there forever unless you mess it up..lol.And trust me, when they like you, you will know. The fact that you've decided to back off and let her do her, is great. If she's really into you, and sounds like she is, she will come back.

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Posted by adwand2k
@ShadowAbsorber Thank you 🙂.

I tend to agree with you, but I know many people say that it can make you look clingy to constantly be around someone who isn't reciprocating as much. She's definitely gored me with those horns of hers, but I'm not going to let her buck me off unless she really needs to. I'll keep on the rodeo, not because I want her in my life, but because I know that it's better when she is, even if that means we're just friends.

@adwand2k....What a great way to look at it!! @ShadowAbsorber is dead on..She's a Taurus, so she knows. I've dated Taurus's in the past and they were great once you break through the shell. Once they let you into their heart, you're there forever unless you mess it up..lol.And trust me, when they like you, you will know. The fact that you've decided to back off and let her do her, is great. If she's really into you, and sounds like she is, she will come back.

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Yeah, as I said in the original message, I've posted about her a couples weeks ago. Our relationship definitely started at a wrong time for her, and she rebounded on me big time. Something devastating happened to her and she turtled (coupled with her bouts of depression, made things even harder). I know she likes me and I'm in her heart, but I don't know where I stand anymore because of everything. Our mutual friends tell me so and to not stop fighting for her, but communication is important, and we don't, you know? But again, thank you. I'm trying to be there for her, and let her know I still care.

She wants to get through her personal issues without letting it affect you. She messages you to let you know she's still thinking of you so you don't think she's rejecting you. I've done the same. I don't like to feel like I'm a burden to someone. We Taurus women like to project strength. Just give her the space she needs and be sure to message her from time to time to let her know you're thinking of her as well. It will win her over completely if you do this because you are showing her you are stable, committed and able to see through her tough exterior.

I myself have carried many heavy burdens in private. Most other signs whine or complain at every little obstacle or inconvenience, but not Tauruses. It means a lot when someone acknowledges that they can see how much we deal with and offers support. We rarely ask for help, but the gesture is still appreciated.

Honest question here, because I know how Taurus can test people (though I'm not saying her life struggles are a test, but I might have failed somewhere down the line and not known).

I was thinking about writing her a letter and leaving it on her car at work, and I want to know if you think I should do this?

In this message, I would essentially say the following:

"Name,

I know we haven't talked much lately, but I was thinking about you and wanted to get something off my chest. It feels like you've been having a really stressful period lately, and that you're dealing with a great deal right now, so it makes sense to need some space to deal with it how you need to, without stress either good or bad from me. I don't want things to be misinterpreted, just want you to know I don't want to pressure you into anything that you're not ready for. You're an amazing friend, and I wouldn't trade the last few months for anything. If you'll let me, you'll always have a friend there for you, not because of how I feel about you, but because you're a genuinely great person. If I've ever wronged you in anyway, I'm eternally sorry, and will do whatever it takes to make it right if possible. That night from a couple months ago was a red flag for you, and I've honestly felt terrible about it ever since. You are a special person, and you deserve whatever it is that you want in life. I can't ask for your trust, only earn it, and that desire has never changed. I've told you before that all I want is for you to have what you want, and that too hasn't changed. You've got an amazing future ahead of you, and you're going to accomplish your dreams, because you're determined and strong.

Yours,
Name"

Regardless if I should or not, writing this has been exceedingly cathartic. I miss her immensely, but I honestly can't wait forever for her despite my incredibly deep feelings. If I knew now that there was a future between us, I would wait an eternity, but I don't...sorry, emotions riding high for her right now.