LDM90
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Bulls...Why do you stalk your exes on social media?
Posted by tiziani
Just post inflammatory stuff until they give up trying to piece all the contradictions together.
Lmao
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Just checking if you got fat yet.
I donât get why people are bothered about it though. If youâre concerned check your privacy settings.
This happened with my ex from years ago. I saw this post and it made me think of him when he used to that. It's not going on now.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Just checking if you got fat yet.
I donât get why people are bothered about it though. If youâre concerned check your privacy settings.
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Posted by Impulsv
Possessive
They donât want you but donât want others to have you either
Interesting. I saw a post on here the other day and everyone swore up and down OP still wanted his ex because he was stalking his social media constantly, like borderline if not obsessively, after he told her to 'move on'
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/keep-looking-at-my-ex-s-insta-story-is-that-weird--10957712/
...guess they were wrong? just a case I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you either?
Only dated one bull so I won't generalize but my ex did this. Created a fake account on FB named after his EX WIFE and followed me. Didn't add me, but followed lmao.
I was truly done with him so I didn't care. My account is private anyway, only thing he'll see are my profile pics and cover photos.
No need to figure out why someone does shit like this. Moving on and being happy is the most important thing.
I was truly done with him so I didn't care. My account is private anyway, only thing he'll see are my profile pics and cover photos.
No need to figure out why someone does shit like this. Moving on and being happy is the most important thing.
I think people just have a habit of flattering themselves a little by feeling 'stalked' for likes, reads, followers etc. on social media....
not sure any of this behavior is astro-related though I have noticed a tendency for Leos to do the above....
OP - what is your sign?
not sure any of this behavior is astro-related though I have noticed a tendency for Leos to do the above....
OP - what is your sign?
I stalk my exes in person not on social media
Posted by Impulsv
Possessive
They donât want you but donât want others to have you either
My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.
I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....
Posted by Metatron
I think people just have a habit of flattering themselves a little by feeling 'stalked' for likes, reads, followers etc. on social media....
not sure any of this behavior is astro-related though I have noticed a tendency for Leos to do the above....
OP - what is your sign?
Well the reason I said my ex âstalkedâ me way back when is because I pissed him off (I think) and he responded with âIâm happy and Iâve moved onâ. Days later he started looking at every last snap I posted on Snapchat. He would look multiple times a day since I posted multiple times. He would never look at my friendâs posts so he would purposely go out of his way to only look at my things. He did this everyday for a long time and he hadnât done that before, so yea thatâs why I said stalked.
Iâm a Leo.
Posted by MetatronPosted by Impulsv
Possessive
They donât want you but donât want others to have you either
My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.
I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....
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Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.
Yea, Iâve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once youâd determined the relationship wasnât right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.
So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didnât still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/
Posted by LDM90Posted by MetatronPosted by Impulsv
Possessive
They donât want you but donât want others to have you either
My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.
I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....
Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.
Yea, Iâve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once youâd determined the relationship wasnât right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.
So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didnât still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/
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That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.
Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.
I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs đ
Posted by MetatronPosted by LDM90Posted by MetatronPosted by Impulsv
Possessive
They donât want you but donât want others to have you either
My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.
I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....
Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.
Yea, Iâve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once youâd determined the relationship wasnât right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.
So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didnât still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/
That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.
Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.
I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs đ
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Oh no, I'm not inquiring because of my ex per se. I saw the post and thought it was funny and thought maybe there was some truth to it since my ex did it and then this other bull posted his story not too long ago.
Yea I can see how you became a little obsessive because you still craved her sexually, but I think obsessing over an ex that you wanted to marry is different. Lingering feelings would mean checking in once in a while looking multiple times a day every day, as you said is obsessive and I think that's more than residual feelings for someone you wanted to marry. Especially one you were trying to reconcile with...she said one that made him snap. I bet a million and one dollars if his ex-apologized for whatever she said and showed that she was sorry he'd consider being with her. I usually take obsessive behavior like the bull dannmann1992, as a form of regret. Why obsess over something that you don't want anymore? I don't know you bulls are weird lol.
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by LDM90Posted by MetatronPosted by LDM90Posted by MetatronPosted by Impulsv
Possessive
They donât want you but donât want others to have you either
My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.
I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....
Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.
Yea, Iâve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once youâd determined the relationship wasnât right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.
So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didnât still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/
That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.
Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.
I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs đ
Oh no, I'm not inquiring because of my ex per se. I saw the post and thought it was funny and thought maybe there was some truth to it since my ex did it and then this other bull posted his story not too long ago.
Yea I can see how you became a little obsessive because you still craved her sexually, but I think obsessing over an ex that you wanted to marry is different. Especially one you were trying to reconcile with...she said one that made him snap. I bet a million and one dollars if his ex-apologized for whatever she said and showed that she was sorry he'd consider being with her. I usually take obsessive behavior like the bull dannmann1992, as a form of regret. Why obsess over something that you don't want anymore? I don't know you bulls are weird lol.
I guess one said boredom
I wonder if they understand they are being caught n how it could be perceived by the ex as him still wanting something
Like u said one trying to reconcile
Like false hope
is it clueless behavior ? Or masochisticclick to expand
I think it's a combo. Like the one bull that I mentioned in the thread who posted him obsessing over his ex is masochism and regret. Like come on lol you KNOW the person knows you're looking...it's kind of like they want you to reach out to them and say something.
I'll look at my ex's stuff every once in a while. May be a few times a year because I'm bored but that's about it. Doing it daily? Heck, even weekly? That's when I would have to be honest with myself about how I truly felt.
Posted by LDM90Posted by MetatronPosted by LDM90Posted by MetatronPosted by Impulsv
Possessive
They donât want you but donât want others to have you either
My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.
I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....
Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.
Yea, Iâve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once youâd determined the relationship wasnât right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.
So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didnât still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/
That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.
Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.
I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs đ
Oh no, I'm not inquiring because of my ex per se. I saw the post and thought it was funny and thought maybe there was some truth to it since my ex did it and then this other bull posted his story not too long ago.
Yea I can see how you became a little obsessive because you still craved her sexually, but I think obsessing over an ex that you wanted to marry is different. Especially one you were trying to reconcile with...she said one that made him snap. I bet a million and one dollars if his ex-apologized for whatever she said and showed that she was sorry he'd consider being with her. I usually take obsessive behavior like the bull dannmann1992, as a form of regret. Why obsess over something that you don't want anymore? I don't know you bulls are weird lol.click to expand
pretty much how it works on this site though - whether the behavior is ghosting, stalking, whatever.....someone creates a thread about a sign behaving a certain way, and anyone with a similar experience out of however many 100s or 1000s of people post here, chimes in....I do it too....2-4 similar stories and it looks like we have grounds for a generalization, but really its just a behavior equally common to any sign...
obsessing over something that you don't want anymore is actually very common....that's exactly what was happening with me...I had no actual desire to be with her sexually yet experienced intrusive thoughts/fantasies around it constantly....even in people with actual obsessive disorders, much of the repetitive thoughts and rituals are completely unwanted....
agree on the weird part....
Posted by MetatronPosted by LDM90Posted by MetatronPosted by Impulsv
Possessive
They donât want you but donât want others to have you either
My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.
I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....
Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.
Yea, Iâve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once youâd determined the relationship wasnât right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.
So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didnât still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/
That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.
Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.
I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs đ
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Why do you think he doesn't want to be with her in any way? Because he told her to move on and hasn't said anything to her? Did you see another poster pulled up his old thread where she broke up with him, she tried to reconcile and they were talking, she said something he didn't like so he called it off before and then obviously posted another woman to make her jealous? Same stupid behavior his exhibiting, yet he entertained them getting back together after that then told her to move on because he doesn't want her *rolls eyes. Now it's she said something that pissed him off, he told her to move on, then went straight into stalking her on social media. It's the same cycle for him.
Posted by missmissyPosted by MetatronPosted by LDM90Posted by MetatronPosted by Impulsv
Possessive
They donât want you but donât want others to have you either
My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.
I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....
Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.
Yea, Iâve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once youâd determined the relationship wasnât right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.
So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didnât still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/
That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.
Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.
I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs đ
Why do you think he doesn't want to be with her in any way? Because he told her to move on and hasn't said anything to her? Did you see another poster pulled up his old thread where she broke up with him, she tried to reconcile and they were talking, she said something he didn't like so he called it off before and then obviously posted another woman to make her jealous? Same stupid behavior his exhibiting, yet he entertained them getting back together after that then told her to move on because he doesn't want her *rolls eyes. Now it's she said something that pissed him off, he told her to move on, then went straight into stalking her on social media. It's the same cycle for him.click to expand
Yes, saw the old thread....I mean maybe, but it just doesn't really sound like behavior working towards that end. The latest sounds more like he's trying to understand and rationalize his own obsessive behavior. Either way, I wouldn't call it possessiveness....
Posted by MetatronPosted by missmissyPosted by MetatronPosted by LDM90Posted by MetatronPosted by Impulsv
Possessive
They donât want you but donât want others to have you either
My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.
I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....
Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.
Yea, Iâve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once youâd determined the relationship wasnât right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.
So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didnât still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/
That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.
Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.
I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs đ
Why do you think he doesn't want to be with her in any way? Because he told her to move on and hasn't said anything to her? Did you see another poster pulled up his old thread where she broke up with him, she tried to reconcile and they were talking, she said something he didn't like so he called it off before and then obviously posted another woman to make her jealous? Same stupid behavior his exhibiting, yet he entertained them getting back together after that then told her to move on because he doesn't want her *rolls eyes. Now it's she said something that pissed him off, he told her to move on, then went straight into stalking her on social media. It's the same cycle for him.
Yes, saw the old thread....I mean maybe, but it just doesn't really sound like behavior working towards that end. The latest sounds more like he's trying to understand and rationalize his own obsessive behavior. Either way, I wouldn't call it possessiveness....
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Hmm interesting. I guess I thought this bull still wanted to be with her because they were reconciling for two months, then she said one thing and then it was move on, but let me obessess over you. Sounds more like a reactionary decision out of anger followed by the obesseive behavior because of regret.
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Possessive
They donât want you but donât want others to have you either
My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.
I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....
Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.
Yea, Iâve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once youâd determined the relationship wasnât right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.
So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didnât still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/
That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.
Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.
I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs đ
Why do you think he doesn't want to be with her in any way? Because he told her to move on and hasn't said anything to her? Did you see another poster pulled up his old thread where she broke up with him, she tried to reconcile and they were talking, she said something he didn't like so he called it off before and then obviously posted another woman to make her jealous? Same stupid behavior his exhibiting, yet he entertained them getting back together after that then told her to move on because he doesn't want her *rolls eyes. Now it's she said something that pissed him off, he told her to move on, then went straight into stalking her on social media. It's the same cycle for him.
Yes, saw the old thread....I mean maybe, but it just doesn't really sound like behavior working towards that end. The latest sounds more like he's trying to understand and rationalize his own obsessive behavior. Either way, I wouldn't call it possessiveness....
Hmm interesting. I guess I thought this bull still wanted to be with her because they were reconciling for two months, then she said one thing and then it was move on, but let me obessess over you. Sounds more like a reactionary decision out of anger followed by the obesseive behavior because of regret.click to expand
Could be true, but reactionary decisions out of anger can often actually create finality in a relationship. I've done it myself. I can tolerate a lot, but I just can't deal with people who push certain buttons. I know how bad my anger can be and I have no interest in a dynamic that keeps me in that state too often - doesn't matter how much I like the person. Push those buttons enough times, and I'll end things, *without regret*, and I'll go through the withdrawal, wait that lingering obsession out, etc. Its best for all involved IMO. You can make a rational or practical decision to avoid what you see as a negative trend or pattern, even though there's still a residue of irrational emotions and behaviors that take time to dissipate....I think that's common place to a degree when you decide to end any relationship....trying to actually be with someone, especially "own" them in some sense, looks very different though IMO...
Posted by MetatronPosted by missmissyPosted by MetatronPosted by missmissyPosted by MetatronPosted by LDM90Posted by MetatronPosted by Impulsv
Possessive
They donât want you but donât want others to have you either
My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.
I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....
Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.
Yea, Iâve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once youâd determined the relationship wasnât right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.
So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didnât still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/
That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.
Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.
I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs đ
Why do you think he doesn't want to be with her in any way? Because he told her to move on and hasn't said anything to her? Did you see another poster pulled up his old thread where she broke up with him, she tried to reconcile and they were talking, she said something he didn't like so he called it off before and then obviously posted another woman to make her jealous? Same stupid behavior his exhibiting, yet he entertained them getting back together after that then told her to move on because he doesn't want her *rolls eyes. Now it's she said something that pissed him off, he told her to move on, then went straight into stalking her on social media. It's the same cycle for him.
Yes, saw the old thread....I mean maybe, but it just doesn't really sound like behavior working towards that end. The latest sounds more like he's trying to understand and rationalize his own obsessive behavior. Either way, I wouldn't call it possessiveness....
Hmm interesting. I guess I thought this bull still wanted to be with her because they were reconciling for two months, then she said one thing and then it was move on, but let me obessess over you. Sounds more like a reactionary decision out of anger followed by the obesseive behavior because of regret.
Could be true, but reactionary decisions out of anger can often actually create finality in a relationship. I've done it myself. I can tolerate a lot, but I just can't deal with people who push certain buttons. Push them enough times, and I'll end things, *without regret*, and I'll go through the withdrawal, wait that lingering obsession out, etc. You can make a rational or practical decision to avoid what you see as a negative trend or pattern, even though there's still a residue of irrational emotions and behaviors that take time to dissipate....I think that's common place to a degree when you decide to end any relationship....trying to actually be with someone, especially "own" them in some sense, looks very different though IMO....click to expand
I agree. That you can make a final decision from a reactionary one-I've done it. I was pushed and pushed and pushed. It took years to get there and once I made that choice I didn't really look back. I definitely didn't obsess over it.
What do you mean, "wait that lingering obsession out"? You were obsessive and acted on it? Or you were still obsessed, recognized it, and try to keep it under control?
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Possessive
They donât want you but donât want others to have you either
My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.
I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....
Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.
Yea, Iâve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once youâd determined the relationship wasnât right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.
So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didnât still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/
That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.
Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.
I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs đ
Why do you think he doesn't want to be with her in any way? Because he told her to move on and hasn't said anything to her? Did you see another poster pulled up his old thread where she broke up with him, she tried to reconcile and they were talking, she said something he didn't like so he called it off before and then obviously posted another woman to make her jealous? Same stupid behavior his exhibiting, yet he entertained them getting back together after that then told her to move on because he doesn't want her *rolls eyes. Now it's she said something that pissed him off, he told her to move on, then went straight into stalking her on social media. It's the same cycle for him.
Yes, saw the old thread....I mean maybe, but it just doesn't really sound like behavior working towards that end. The latest sounds more like he's trying to understand and rationalize his own obsessive behavior. Either way, I wouldn't call it possessiveness....
Hmm interesting. I guess I thought this bull still wanted to be with her because they were reconciling for two months, then she said one thing and then it was move on, but let me obessess over you. Sounds more like a reactionary decision out of anger followed by the obesseive behavior because of regret.
Could be true, but reactionary decisions out of anger can often actually create finality in a relationship. I've done it myself. I can tolerate a lot, but I just can't deal with people who push certain buttons. Push them enough times, and I'll end things, *without regret*, and I'll go through the withdrawal, wait that lingering obsession out, etc. You can make a rational or practical decision to avoid what you see as a negative trend or pattern, even though there's still a residue of irrational emotions and behaviors that take time to dissipate....I think that's common place to a degree when you decide to end any relationship....trying to actually be with someone, especially "own" them in some sense, looks very different though IMO....
I agree. That you can make a final decision from a reactionary one-I've done it. I was pushed and pushed and pushed. It took years to get there and once I made that choice I didn't really look back. I definitely didn't obsess over it.
What do you mean, "wait that lingering obsession out"? You were obsessive and acted on it? Or you were still obsessed, recognized it, and try to keep it under control?click to expand
After I've decided that I ultimately don't want to be with someone, I can still often have all sorts of intrusive thoughts around them - sexual or otherwise, dreams about them, see things that constantly remind me of them, even romantic fantasies...I'm a creature of habit, and I just know it'll take time for all that to fade w/some relationships....
Posted by MetatronPosted by missmissyPosted by MetatronPosted by missmissyPosted by MetatronPosted by LDM90Posted by MetatronPosted by Impulsv
Possessive
They donât want you but donât want others to have you either
My possessiveness stops once I feel I am not the one for them. Since I genuinely care about my exes and want the best for them, and now feel I know that 'best' is not me, I can easily be happy for them in their new relationship, with their new family, whatever....And I can absolutely see myself being a bit voyeuristic and checking their pics out the 2 to 3 times per yr I feel bored enough to check social media. Its actually more dangerous and bothersome for me if it looks like they arent doing well.
I loved my exes enough to share my life with them, still love them as friends very deeply, and its hard for me to understand anything other than this. Have often given exes relationship advice for new dudes, pulled charts for them etc., would definitely even set them up with someone if I felt it was a good fit.....
Checking a few times a year I think is definitely normal for anyone.
Yea, Iâve never gotten the vibe you guys were still possessive once youâd determined the relationship wasnât right for you. Now, my Gemini boyfriend definitely would still be possessive after the fact if we were to break up.
So in this post what would you say about this bull? Still possessive even though he said he didnât still want his or he still wants her or none of the above?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/i-male-taurus-told-my-ex-to-move-on-i-keep-looking-at-her-leo-instagram--11062874/
That's not being possessive, but obsessive. Not to say that bull isn't in denial about lingering feelings, but he certainly isn't trying to own her or be with her in any way. Now if you're running into the dude in public places and he's cock blocking when he sees you with other men, etc. (something a friend was recently saying her ex-bull was doing), that's possessiveness.
Can't vouch for other bulls, but I'm extremely obsessive in most aspects of my life. I have definitely had lingering obsessions, even after I'm completely done with a relationship, and actually also with a Leo. The physical/sexual chemistry was extremely strong, have never had a woman be so aggressive or overt sexually towards me, but I felt she was really unstable and I wanted nothing to do with her relationship-wise. After I made that decision, it would literally turn my stomach to see her name/number pop up on my phone. At the same time, I just couldn't get her out of my head in terms of fantasizing; it took maybe 6 mos. to a year after losing contact for that to stop and I wasn't sure it ever would. Maybe if there was a snapchat then, and she was posting regularly, I would've creeped it...I have no idea. Really though, at that point it was just about working the whole thing out of my system, and nothing to do with the reality of her.
I think, particularly in this era of social media, people can even become obsessed with others being obsessed with them, for ego reasons alone. Attention is flattering and addictive, particularly from people you're attracted to. Might even be seen as a tad obsessive that you're still inquiring about this bull's behavior from so long ago, even though you're in a new relationship....ijs đ
Why do you think he doesn't want to be with her in any way? Because he told her to move on and hasn't said anything to her? Did you see another poster pulled up his old thread where she broke up with him, she tried to reconcile and they were talking, she said something he didn't like so he called it off before and then obviously posted another woman to make her jealous? Same stupid behavior his exhibiting, yet he entertained them getting back together after that then told her to move on because he doesn't want her *rolls eyes. Now it's she said something that pissed him off, he told her to move on, then went straight into stalking her on social media. It's the same cycle for him.
Yes, saw the old thread....I mean maybe, but it just doesn't really sound like behavior working towards that end. The latest sounds more like he's trying to understand and rationalize his own obsessive behavior. Either way, I wouldn't call it possessiveness....
Hmm interesting. I guess I thought this bull still wanted to be with her because they were reconciling for two months, then she said one thing and then it was move on, but let me obessess over you. Sounds more like a reactionary decision out of anger followed by the obesseive behavior because of regret.
Could be true, but reactionary decisions out of anger can often actually create finality in a relationship. I've done it myself. I can tolerate a lot, but I just can't deal with people who push certain buttons. I know how bad my anger can be and I have no interest in a dynamic that keeps me in that state too often - doesn't matter how much I like the person. Push those buttons enough times, and I'll end things, *without regret*, and I'll go through the withdrawal, wait that lingering obsession out, etc. Its best for all involved IMO. You can make a rational or practical decision to avoid what you see as a negative trend or pattern, even though there's still a residue of irrational emotions and behaviors that take time to dissipate....I think that's common place to a degree when you decide to end any relationship....trying to actually be with someone, especially "own" them in some sense, looks very different though IMO...
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OP of the other thread y'all are referring to.
Here's our pattern. She broke up with me, tried to reconcile, she pissed me off, told her that same day I had moved on. She said okay and walked out. I then sent her about 8 or 9 long messages over those next 24 hrs. A week later I told her it was hard for me. She said it was hard for her too. A few weeks after that I admit I tried to hurt her feelings by posting another woman. Fast forward to April. She reaches out and we talk for 2 hours about us. I told her a few days later I couldn't move forward. She then made me reconsider and we agree to meet up. We then meet and talk for another few hours and I didn't like what I heard. I thought about things and changed my mind about us. Again, she said something that made consider getting back together with her. Then she said something that pissed me off and I told her to move on. A few days after that I started looking at her posts a few times a day ever since I told her to move on. I haven't heard from her this time.
So yea that's how things went down with us...
Posted by Apis
This isn't a sign thing. It's a people thing.
Your condescending tone towards the "stalking thread" is actually more sign fitting for Leo than stalking is for bulls. Stalking is universal. The poster who made a the "stalking thread" has obviously done some introspection and noticed his behavior is "off", hence the need to post in the manner he did. That's part of the healing process IME. Some return to their exes over and over knowing it will never work, some jump on the first piece of ass they see in hopes of getting over an ex - rebounds are fleeting, and some mentally torture themselves, all are coping mechanisms. Some people are just more willing to admit it than others.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/metro.co.uk/2017/10/29/how-normal-is-your-social-media-stalking-7036400/amp/
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/feb/13/social-media-spying-stalking
https://techcrunch.com/gallery/9-reasons-social-media-stalking-feels-so-right/
I made the thread not because I was being introspective. I personally didn't think it was weird to continue to look at my ex's posts daily, my best friend, on the other hand, thought it was which prompted me to create the thread to prove he was wrong. I don't think OP was being condescending. I took no offense. She thought it was funny and I can kind of see why.
Posted by Waterbearerwearer
Leoâs need attention. Itâs your modus operandi.
Without it you simply wither and die.
If a Taurus loves you he ainât doing it subtly. Your ex is/was curious.
He wouldnât let you go if it was a case of stalking/missing you. Bulls are material so they need more than online bs.
Yea but what can this bull really do? Curiosity is looking every once in a while. Obsessing and checking multiple times a day, every day, knowing that the ex can see you looking is way beyond curiosity.
He could say something, but he really can't say anything though. He'll look like a dumba $ $ . He took it way too far-pretty much to the point of no return. If I had to guess he didnât really think his ex-was going to actually move on and he realized he put his foot so deep in it that itâs hard to come back from telling someone to move on. All in all OP knows he screwed up and is regretting it which explains his almost obsessive behavior with checking her posts multiple times a day almost every day.
Posted by Waterbearerwearer
Leoâs need attention. Itâs your modus operandi.
Without it you simply wither and die.
If a Taurus loves you he ainât doing it subtly. Your ex is/was curious.
He wouldnât let you go if it was a case of stalking/missing you. Bulls are material so they need more than online bs.
Its a bingo.
Posted by MetatronPosted by Waterbearerwearer
Leoâs need attention. Itâs your modus operandi.
Without it you simply wither and die.
If a Taurus loves you he ainât doing it subtly. Your ex is/was curious.
He wouldnât let you go if it was a case of stalking/missing you. Bulls are material so they need more than online bs.
Its a bingo.click to expand
Not quite a bingo. My ex broke up with me and was all on my social media obsessively, then he eventually stopped. After a long period of time, he eventually reached out and said he had missed me and tried to get me back but I had moved on by then. He told me that even though he broke up with me he wanted me to say something to him (wth?) but I didn't so he figured I was okay with the breakup (which I wasn't). According to him, he had never loved anyone as much as me and he was stalking me and missing me but didn't say anything.
Posted by LDM90Posted by MetatronPosted by Waterbearerwearer
Leoâs need attention. Itâs your modus operandi.
Without it you simply wither and die.
If a Taurus loves you he ainât doing it subtly. Your ex is/was curious.
He wouldnât let you go if it was a case of stalking/missing you. Bulls are material so they need more than online bs.
Its a bingo.
Not quite a bingo. He broke up with me and was all on my social media, then he eventually stopped. After a long period of time, he eventually reached out and said he had missed me and tried to get me back but I had moved on by then. He told me that even though he broke up with me he wanted me to say something to him (wth?) but I didn't so he figured I was okay with the breakup (which I wasn't). According to him, he had never loved anyone as much as me and he was stalking me and missing me but didn't say anything.click to expand
I meant really the comment about being material, online not cutting it.....If we're not in your physical presence, the hold on us really is probably not as strong as you think.....just in general...
but in your situation, I can't call it...I'll take your word, but it still seems like you're augmenting the other breakup story to align with how you tell your own...
Posted by ApisPosted by dannmann1992Posted by Apis
This isn't a sign thing. It's a people thing.
Your condescending tone towards the "stalking thread" is actually more sign fitting for Leo than stalking is for bulls. Stalking is universal. The poster who made a the "stalking thread" has obviously done some introspection and noticed his behavior is "off", hence the need to post in the manner he did. That's part of the healing process IME. Some return to their exes over and over knowing it will never work, some jump on the first piece of ass they see in hopes of getting over an ex - rebounds are fleeting, and some mentally torture themselves, all are coping mechanisms. Some people are just more willing to admit it than others.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/metro.co.uk/2017/10/29/how-normal-is-your-social-media-stalking-7036400/amp/
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/feb/13/social-media-spying-stalking
https://techcrunch.com/gallery/9-reasons-social-media-stalking-feels-so-right/
I made the thread not because I was being introspective. I personally didn't think it was weird to continue to look at my ex's posts daily, my best friend, on the other hand, thought it was which prompted me to create the thread to prove he was wrong. I don't think OP was being condescending. I took no offense. She thought it was funny and I can kind of see why.
What moon do you have?
I was not referring to the OP being condescending towards you, just in general towards this topic. People have different ways of dealing with issues.click to expand
My moon is Taurus as well.
Posted by LDM90
Just saw this post on Instagram (peep the link below) and started cracking up. My ex of years ago broke up with me and then started stalking my social media so I figured it was just his character, but may be it's not? So, bulls...when you no longer want your ex why do you still stalk them? Or maybe the post is just dead wrong haha.
https://imgur.com/a/RKn33DT
**edit**
This happened with my ex years ago. I'm not asking for myself. I thought the post was funny and was curious about the validity of it.
because we can
Posted by WaterbearerwearerPosted by LDM90Posted by MetatronPosted by Waterbearerwearer
Leoâs need attention. Itâs your modus operandi.
Without it you simply wither and die.
If a Taurus loves you he ainât doing it subtly. Your ex is/was curious.
He wouldnât let you go if it was a case of stalking/missing you. Bulls are material so they need more than online bs.
Its a bingo.
Not quite a bingo. My ex broke up with me and was all on my social media obsessively, then he eventually stopped. After a long period of time, he eventually reached out and said he had missed me and tried to get me back but I had moved on by then. He told me that even though he broke up with me he wanted me to say something to him (wth?) but I didn't so he figured I was okay with the breakup (which I wasn't). According to him, he had never loved anyone as much as me and he was stalking me and missing me but didn't say anything.
Again if he was serious he would have reached out sooner but with the advent of social media things get convoluted and stupid very quick.
Emotional honesty is out the window.
You werenât ok with the break up and I know Leoâs who employ social media tactics like they are on a 6 figure payroll.
Your posting habits would have changed. Everyone loves the Rumi quotes and âIâm so happy in my lifeâ projections.
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But my point is your ex was just doing what most men and women do during a breakup. Processing.
He reached out which is very earthy and you by omission had moved on.
So why ask?
I agree that you may enjoy the mind fkry of it all like most Leo. The ego is so strong.click to expand
I disagree. Just because someone takes a long time to come back doesn't mean they weren't serious. My parents were broken up for a year and half and they've been married for 40 years. My dad ghosted my mom, so the worst way you can break up with someone and he was clearly serious about her. OP's ex took 6 months to return and she clearly serious about her. I don't think feelings are cut and dry like that.
social media is driving folks mad. so what if he looked? so do all your other followers. they look too. it's not a big deal. you're overthinking it. just do you.
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social media is driving folks mad. so what if he looked? so do all your other followers. they look too. it's not a big deal. you're overthinking it. just do you.
OP has mentioned a handful of times that she saw this post on instagram and thought it was funny and she's pretty much asking if it's true or not.
Itâs funny, I knew a Taurus girl who would take every single person who wronged her off every single piece of social media she had. Me? I keep exes, ex friends, etc. I want to see how miserable you are without me and if you arenât, I know youâll end up self destructing at one point. And Iâm gonna be there to watch it all unfold even if it takes some time, with my chocolate in one hand and wine in the other!
The Taurus Man I was seeing did the exact same thing to me. Iâm a Leo. He would tell me to move on but be watching my social media to peek what I had going on. Until now I rejected to try to make things work because I was tired of the inconsistency and lies. I didnât know what to believe with him. He told me he loved me then when I asked him was it true he said he didnât know honestly. Like no one has time for them type of games. He told me to move on so I did and he was concerned bout the other guy but I think it was he didnât want me but no one else to have me. He said I was selfish when I told him how I felt. Like I donât need that negativity in my life.
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